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Originally Posted by Elle  So you don't use correct terminology regarding the canine gender. You wouldn't find offense in it if you spent more time understanding their behavior. If you really want to be the good guy and your gf won't allow you to rehome her, you need class. I don't think you have a choice about keeping her or not. if you could get rid of her, you would have long ago. But she's not going for it, is she? |
I rarely use words that are considered offensive, even if they are a double word like the b-word. In my earlier postings, on a forum about dogs even, I refrained from using it as I am right now. I'm don't often cus, and like I said, it's just a personal preference of mine to not use the word even though it is suitable. I just don't want to associate it with her. I hear that word used in a derogatory setting far more often then it's real purpose of definition...sorry, it's just the way I feel.
Again, I'm not trying to fight here...but some of you think you have me pegged and are quite sure of your feelings about me. I hate to burst the bubble here, but you couldn't be more wrong.
I have said from the start that I don't hate this dog. I don't want her gone or put down. I don't want anything even remotely close to that idea. I don't think about her age and think "ok, only this many more years to go..." I have had quite a bit of discouraging scenarios with this pup, but that's part of the situation as it unfolded. What's important, and I can't stress enough here, is that I'm in the right place (not only physically, but mentally too) to help.
Please don't sit there and chastise me for placing blame - I'm not. I will say that I have been met with resistance from a dog owner that loves this dog to death, who treats it with such unconditional love, but has become complacent with the situation of messing her crate at least once a week if not almost every night at times. She has done nothing to avert the behavior besides a scold when she gets her out when she comes home - of which I have found is not the way to handle it either and I promptly passed it along to her it isn't a good idea and try to stop doing it. I am here doing the research because I have stepped up to the challenge and I'm leading the way here because she has not done so - and if she isn't, somebody does or the dog will not get better.
I don't see how all this makes me the "Bad Guy" in all of this besides the fact I did something wrong and am making amends for it.
I have faith in the suggestions made on the boards here, and a professional might offer some alternative advice at times, but the true professional is the ones that have the most experience and I feel that the members of a forum called Yorkie Talk in the Training section would fit that bill rather nice.
I'm going to work on the plans and ideas that were made available to me by the good members here and run with the idea while keeping you all posted. If nothing works, and all resources exhausted and ideas down the tube - then I think it's time for a trainer.
The good people here have spelled it out (literally) on their experiences and suggestions...what better way to understand then by the people who are experienced specifically on this particular breed? Where could a person find a better source of much needed information?
And to answer your question - I haven't asked her to remove the dog or get rid of it. I'm not "working" that avenue. I'm telling anyone reading - the dog isn't going anywhere, even if my fiance suggested it or looked into rehoming her. She's here to stay - bottom line.
One more day and I get to go back to see my girls. I'll let you know how it goes.