You have every right to be sad about your Trixie. We always seem to put so much pressure on ourselves to "get over it" - sometimes I think we do our loved ones a disservice by not acknowledging how much grief we feel or giving ourselves time to work out those feelings.
Everybody deals with grief in his or her own way - there is no one right way for everyone to handle this kind of thing. My way is to get very busy - I usually go into a housecleaning frenzy and sleep a lot. My sister goes into hiding. Another goes shopping. It took me a couple of family tragedies to understand that it's their survival mechanism just as cleaning is mine. Goodness knows housework is not one of my "normal" behaviours!
So my best suggestion is to do whatever works for you. Have a memorial service, make a scrapbook about her, clean out that messy closet, go for long walks... |