It really is up to him to say something to his mother. Does he have a brother who is married? If so, maybe his wife could give you some advice on how to handle her.
If it comes down to it, sit her down and let her know you are not going anywhere so she will have to deal. If you plan on staying with this guy, I can pretty much guarentee it will only get worse when you have kids if not nipped in the bud now.
My ex-husbands mother was like this with me. I caught her "white-gloving " my baseboards one day. I couldn't do anything right in her eyes. it got worse when we had kids. Nothing I did for my children was right. In her eyes, I was breastfeeding solely to keep her from feeding the baby and liked to tell anyone who would listen! She thought they were going to die because I wasn't shoveling cereal in their mouths at 1 month old.
If nothing is said now, you will only end up avoiding her which causes tension. That could be the outcome anyway but at least you will know YOU tried!
Good Luck!! |