Very hurt and disappointed

[Yorkie3]

I’m really not quite sure how to put all my feelings into words. Right now all my emotions are so jumbled it’s hard to sort it out. Let me start by saying I have a beautiful little female who we lovingly call Fancy that I purchased from a wonderful breeder/friend. I had told the breeder that someday I might be interested in showing. I purchased Fancy in hopes of maybe showing her, but I purchased her at 12 weeks and we all know, or should know… that is too young to determine show quality. I fell in love with Fancy and bought her anyway…it didn’t really matter to be if she was showable.

Fancy has become quite the sweetheart and so pretty. I thought I would do what I thought everyone should do and have her evaluated. I took her to a show/breeder in a city close to mine. She was very nice and encouraging. Lots of information. Told me that Fancy was nice and had potential, that I needed to work with her and get her out of her shyness and use to other people and surroundings. You see, Fancy’s a mama’s girl.

While I was at this show/breeders home, another show/breeder called. The two must have talked about Fancy and me before as I don’t know what the one on the phone said, but my evaluator was saying,…”no, her ears are not too big and her nose is nice, could use a little longer neck and tail, the pictures just don’t do her justice.” That, to me tells me Fancy was discussed before. That’s okay…I don’t mind, nothing wrong with that at all.

When I got home, there was an email from my breeder apologizing that Fancy wasn’t what I wanted and offered my money back. There was no way I would let Fancy go, she’s one of our babies.

It seems this show/breeder (Not my evaluator) and my breeder were in contact and she told my breeder that she heard Fancy was too big and how could she sell me a show prospect at 12 weeks. I don’t know where this person got her information from, but my breeder never sold her to me as a show prospect. We had discussed that IF she happened to be show quality, I may give it a shot and see what would happen.

I am so disillusioned by all this that has taken place. There is more, but too much to write about. This show/breeder (not my evaluater) had no right to stick her nose into my and my breeder’s business. Why should it matter to her? From what I understand, she was quite rude and tried to humiliate her, made her cry. Why? What was the goal or purpose of this?

I honestly don’t know at this point if I want to show now or not. If it is more backstabbing, cut-throat, lying, deceiving then I want no part of it. I guess about the only thing that I was told that was true was I needed to be thick skinned. I’m going to have to toughen up a lot, considering I’ve already shed some tears and I haven’t even started yet. All I wanted was to get my Fancy evaluated, why did anyone else have to butt in and start crap for no reason.

This person even had the gall to call my breeder, before I even got home from my evaluation to tell her the good news about Fancy. I wanted to do that. Fancy is my baby; I wanted to brag to her breeder, I was so happy with the news and I didn’t even get a chance to tell her myself.

This person knows exactly whom I’m talking about. I feel so badly that this person is so sad and miserable in her life that she has to butt in to others, hurt us, make us cry. I will keep her in my prayers though, that's the kind of Christian I am, I think she needs it more than just about anyone else I’m praying for right now.

Administration, it’s okay if you want to close this thread, but please, please don’t delete it. I want others who might want to join the show circuit to know this kind of thing really happens and they too will have to be thick skinned. I hope they will be stronger than I and go after their dream of showing no matter what. I just don’t know if I will be able to.

[AngieDoogles]

Janet, I am so sorry that this happened to you. You're right. She should not have gotten involved, especially since everyone seemed to be perfectly happy before she said and did those things.

Your Fancy is a gorgeous little girl. Whether you show her or not, she'll still be your gorgeous little baby no matter what. I know how much you love her and I'm sure she does too. You are an amazing person and a terrific owner to all four of your babies.

Hugs to you and the yorkies!

[LIL MIS' MAGIC]

I am so sorry that you have had this happen to you...but please don't let it scare you away from the show world. There will be mean breeders/handlers, as there is any competitive sport, but there are so many more breeders and handlers out there who are willing to mentor and teach and share advice.

If your little girls is show potential then please show her and enjoy the experience that comes along with being part of the show world. I have been showing for almost a year now and have fallen in love with...that thrill of being in the ring, whether you win or lose, it is just fun to show your little one off. I have meet so many wonderful people who have given me advice and experience I wouldn't have gotten otherwise...most people are so encouraging and want to share their experiences with you. But there are also people out there who only want their dogs to win and will try to hurt you in order to obtain that. Please just brush those people aside and know that there are those of us, who are so willing to help you in your show experience!!

[YorkieRose]

Showing is not about people..it is about the dog...you do not need any people to show, you do need a dog. I have done it with help and no help, so it is possible. It would icing on the cake for showing to be a sport as it is suppose to be, but get used to what happened to you...it was a walk in the park. I am not minimizing your experince, just pointing out it was a "skinned knee" compared to the removal of major body parts/organs that can happen in the dog world...so go into it for the love of the breed, trust no one 100%, except God, He has been my best friend and helper all these years..no one can get one over on Him...He will always even things out in your favor...

Slowly, you will have people come into your life who will not cut your heart out to get ahead..but these people are few and far between, so do it for the dog, have fun and say or do nothing you would not want to see on the 11Pm News or Good Morning America...best wishes..

[yorkiekist]

Sorry this happened to you. My first experiences with show people were horrible as well. It does get better and you will meet very nice exhibitors. But, there will always be those ugly people!!! They never go away. Keep your chin up!!!!

[cutiepieyorkies]

[mistyinca]

Janet,

I'm so sorry that happened to you and to Fancy's breeder , (who I know is a really good and kind person too).

That is just awful that both of you were faced with such coldness.

[KiKiPie]

A really good friend once told me that People will always let you know. The Lord is the only one you can trust 100%. Im sorry you got hurt. Keep your head up!

[Sugar's Mom]

janet, everyone is right. there are some nice and some not so people everywhere. i recently went to my first show handling my girl. Everyone I meet was super nice and when I told them it was my first time, they bent over backwards to help. Sometimes you have to fly by the seat of your pants. I was scared to death but I listened carefully and did everything the judges asked me to do. i have had no one to help me or to even talk to about it. i just went and did it and we did pretty good. so if you want to show, don't be discouraged by a few jealous people that try to rain on your parade.

[PrestigeousYT]

I was told back when I started to never let another breeder in my breed evaluate my dogs? Well I use to wonder why that was said. But it didn't take long to understand where that came from.
But just like in all other aspects of life, some people just like to start trouble.
There are many many wonderful show people out there. Just because one person was not very nice don't let that stop you or make a judgement against ALL show people!
I have a handler that evaluates my dogs, he knows the breed but is not a Yorkie breeder. No conflict. Works wonderful for me!
I would not let one person ruine my dream. I wouldn't let a group of people ruine it for me too. If it is something you truly want to do, why let anyone ruine it for you.



Deana
Prestigeous

[stedmansmommy]

Originally Posted by KiKiPie

A really good friend once told me that People will always let you know. The Lord is the only one you can trust 100%. Im sorry you got hurt. Keep your head up!

That is SO TRUE Kristi. Good post

[stedmansmommy]

I am so sorry that you had to go through this. I totally understand how upset you must be - both mad AND angry. I too have had someone call my babies breeder before (it had nothing to do with showing or anything like that) - but it made me soooo ANGRY that someone went and did this. I cannot stand it when people stick their nose in where it doesn't belong, and say things that are absolutely 100% NOT true. Some people are just SO incredibly NOSEY, always out fishing for information and it is just so annoying. People seriously do need to learn to mind their OWN BUSINESS!

[bdbmamaw]

I bought my male, Gizmo, from a show/breeder. She told me that she gets flak all the time from others, but she just lets it go in one ear and out the other. She told me that she just wants to have fun and her dogs are making points, so she could care less what others might think. She said there are those who will support you and those who won't. And she was smiling the whole time she was telling me. What great advice! And what a great attitude. So do it for you and your sweet baby and ignore the trouble-makers!

Note: You don't see Gizmo on my avatar as he lives with my son and his wife. They've always wanted a yorkie, so I made them joint owners and it works out great for all of us. He's not fixed and I don't want him near my females till I'm ready to stud him. I really need to add him though.

Here's his pic.... (Mind you, he's only 6 mos in this pic and he's been running like crazy, playing with my others.)

[chattiesmom]

Bottom line, nothing these hard hearted mean spirited people said about your Fancy is going to change her. Showing is just that -- it is showing the world what you have to offer -- and then having one or two trained individuals compare all the dogs in the class to the standard and selecting the dogs that most closely match the Club Standard.

Keep your chin up, be proud of your little Fancy and have fun. If it is in your heart to show her, then go for it and don't let hateful bitter people interfere with your fun.

sending hugs to you and Fancy

[mstplumeria]

Oh Janet, I am so sorry that you are going through this. I hope you continue to follow your heart and do what YOU want to do with Fancy... Don't let this person get you down, sounds like they are similar to a schoolyard bully... not worth your time or emotions!!