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06-03-2015, 11:48 AM | #1 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Alabama
Posts: 50
| When is it time to say goodbye? Hi Everyone, Well it's me again. I feel the cloud of death is following me lately. My mother in law died a few weeks ago as many of you know. Yesterday morning my niece (60 yr old) passed away. This week I took my Hanna in for a check up and sure enough her heart murmur has advanced to stage three. She has lost more weight and each time I pick her up I feel the bones poking out, although she is eating. Seems she likes can food better so today I am gonna just let her have that. But I have been reading on congestive heart failure and of course I am not happy with what I read. Yes there are meds out there she can help some symptoms. Such as meds for removing fluid. Well her last visit show a very low thyroid count. I have been noticing her drinking more water than she had ever in the last six months. I though diabetes, but the vet said no. Well this last visit showed the thryroid problem. So she is on medicine for that twice a day. The last couple of days I have noticed a cough has just begun. So that is what got me to reading and seeing what is happening and what can be done. All of a sudden it dawned on me, wait a minute. If she is thirsty all the time and needs thyroid medicine, when the time comes for her to be on a diuretic wouldn't that be counter productive? But if I don't give that to her, she will be suffering and trying to breath and such. Right now she is just starting with the cough and I want to make this decision before I am caught up and very emotional. So how and when did you decide enough was enough? That is really my question. I do know I will not see her suffer because I want to keep her near, I love her dearly but can't do that. Lately I have been seeing way to much suffering. |
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06-03-2015, 01:44 PM | #2 |
YT Addict Join Date: Mar 2015 Location: NJ USA
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| Oh dear, I wish I could give you a big hug. I truly believe that the kindest most selfless act of love you can do for your beloved baby, is when you know in your gut that its time to let go..you get brave inside and do the merciful thing. Let her enjoy all her favorite forbidden treats now, and just savor the time you still have..then take it day by day. Its what I'm doing with my Shih Tzu...each day I decide if this is the day or not...it still hasnt been. Sending prayers to you and your little angel. |
06-03-2015, 07:34 PM | #3 |
aka ♥SquishyFace♥ Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: n/a
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| I'm so sorry that you're going through so much and all at once. From an outsider point of view, I would ask the vet if they consider Hanna to be in pain and what they recommend for treatment and consider the prognosis to be following all of your questions below... Hopefully then you can remove the passing of your MIL and your niece from the equation so that you know you are doing the right thing for Hanna.. I'm so sorry and I wish I could do something for you to ease your pain but please know that you are in my thoughts xox |
06-03-2015, 09:04 PM | #4 |
♥ Love My Tibbe! ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: D/FW, Texas
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| You poor thing and your poor, sweet little Hanna - so thin you can feel her little bones, not healthy flesh and muscle. Oh no. I wish I could fix her for you right now, put her in your arms hale and hardy. Losing a dear, dear friend is one of the most stressful, gut-wrenching, lonely, painful times in any doglovers life. It's the ONLY downside of loving a dog - they have to leave us so soon. But if you can choose when to let her go, it should be far more emotionally easier for her. If you &/or your vet feel your dog is no longer getting to enjoy a normal dog's life of running, playing, chasing squirrels, balls and living with only the joy dogs and babies/children seem to be able to achieve, or if she is living even partly in pain that can't be cured, lives in fear of daily pilling/injections, treatments/vets or has ongoing fatigue, struggling just to breathe or get thru a day, then, to me, it's the kinder, more loving thing to let her go, as painlessly and peacefully as possible, at an hour and place of your choosing, with her favorite blankie and toys and you there with her. To have to euthanize a poor dog in the middle of the night after a fear-filled, stressful rush to the ER when emotions are raging, your stress level is at 1000% and the very sick dog senses every bit of our emotional state, is an added awful burden for a critically ill dog to have to bear on top of its present life-threatening condition. To me, a dog suffering needlessly just to hang on to a few more weeks/months of a miserable life is beyond horrible when that poor baby's suffering could be ended in a much more peaceful time and place and before that awful middle of the night rush to the ER ever comes around. I'll be praying for both little Hanna and you, dear one.
__________________ Jeanie and Tibbe One must do the best one can. You may get some marks for a very imperfect answer: you will certainly get none for leaving the question alone. C. S. Lewis |
06-03-2015, 09:54 PM | #5 |
Banning Thread Dictator Donating Member | My heart aches for you. All I can say is what people have told me here over the years: You'll know when the time comes, and no one can tell you when that is. In the meantime, just love that pooch every chance you get. There will be plenty of time to mourn her passing when she's gone. For now, celebrate what life she has left.
__________________ Mike ~ Doting Dad to Jillie, Harper, Molly, Cooper, Eddie (RIP), Lucy (RIP), Rusty (RIP) and Jack (RIP). Check us out on YouTube |
06-04-2015, 04:55 AM | #6 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Alabama
Posts: 50
| I want to thank everyone for your replies, it is all more or less what I was thinking. She doesn't play anymore at all as her days are spent sleeping or when she is awake following me. Yesterday I said to heak with that "premium" dry food and gave her a good helping of canned food. She gobbled it right down, she still does like to eat and today she had the best bowel movement I have seen in a long time. She is not in pain now so that is not an issue. But when that happens or she is struggling to breath than I will know. Her dementia comes and goes but that has not changed her lifestyle as she is just in the beginning of that. Yes you are right I will know, because I won't let her suffer one day for me. Thanks for all your kind thoughts. |
06-04-2015, 03:09 PM | #7 |
♥ Love My Tibbe! ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: D/FW, Texas
Posts: 22,140
| Thank you for the update. I'm so glad Hanna seems to be holding her own. Hang in there and make the very most of these bittersweet times with your little lovebug. You and sweet Hanna are in my daily prayers.
__________________ Jeanie and Tibbe One must do the best one can. You may get some marks for a very imperfect answer: you will certainly get none for leaving the question alone. C. S. Lewis |
06-04-2015, 05:48 PM | #8 |
YT Addict Join Date: May 2005 Location: Hemet, Ca
Posts: 359
| My prayers are offered for you both. I am so sorry that this is all happening so quickly and hope she will hang on a little while longer for you.
__________________ Mommy of Dudley( RIP), Mickey, and poodle Mitchell http://www.dogster.com/dogs/1326033 |
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