Blood shot eyes - suspicious

[Mona K]

Hi, Im brand new to this site and in desperate need to have my mind put to ease. My little yorkie "Kissie" has been with me for 3 years now, needless to say she is my baby. I have a new boyfriend in my life that made a big mistake of hollering at her when she lost control of her bladder (due to excitement) when he came over. Ever since then she has been completely terrified of him. I mean to the point that she slithers along the wall whenever hes in the same room. She trembles and shakes uncontrollably. He told me the other day (and showed me) where she actually bit his finger when he says he tried to give her a treat, I wasnt home at the time. Ive never witnessed him treating her bad, even when he doesnt know Im watching. Ive never ever had aggression problems with her so Im dumb founded. My question is, each time Ive left her alone with him when I return home, her eyes are completely blood shot. Could stress be doing this??? Yesterday he let her out to go pottie and she some how got off her leash and ran away. Thank GOD we found her down the street. But Im to the point I cant sleep at night...Can anyone offer any advice or suggestions???

[vainchick5]

Hi and welcome to YT!!! I'm not an expert and could totally be wrong but I don't think your b/f is just yelling at her. Poor baby is scared for her life, which is why she slithers, and bites him. He has probably struck her but doesn't want to tell you. We all have raised our voices to our babies before and they bounce back. But if they are being physically abused, they will shake, bite, and stress about it. I wouldn't let him near her again, but that's just me. Her bloodshot eyes are either from stress or if he's smoking around her. Please do what's best for your baby and set him straight about how he can and cannot treat your baby.

[Mona K]

He doesnt smoke, and if I would ever find out hes laid a hand on her, he's HISTORY!! Ive asked him to please just stay away from her, ignore her and dont even look at her because she acts so scared. I know that she is very jealous of him, but just starting to see he might be a little jealous of her too. This makes my heart sad... thought about getting one of those Nanny cams and putting in my house. But isnt that awful to have that kind of feeling about your boyfriend. We've even discussed marriage. Im in my 40's and consider myself a pretty good judge of character, but hate the way Im feeling about this. Thanks for your input.

[rrosenberry]

Wow, I would be very worried, I get worried when NON- dog people are around and don't acknowledge Bailey, let alone be mean to him, that would KILL me. I don't think I would deal with that,,no matter what the reasoning. for some reason she doesn't want to be around him..something happened,, Dogs are a GREAT judge of character! And She has Judged him for some reason.

[vainchick5]

I'm sorry you have to go through this and yes yorkies can be very jealous of your time, but it's sad to say that she wouldn't be so scared of him if she was just jealous. I would set up a nanny cam, if you have the financial means. Or just ask him straight out and observe his facial expression in comparison to his words. Some folks just don't have the patience for animals or kids. My girl gets jealous of me!!!.lol..I can't have my boyfriend hug me unless he's hugging her too. It's just suspiscious that's all. Trust your instinct and don't ignore it even if you want to because you guys sound serious. But even if you have talked marriage, wouldn't you rather know what kind of person he is now? If he is abusing her in any way, he might do that to you or your future kids. I am probably making a bigger deal out of this but I just want you to think about stuff.

[Chelsey]

Well, this aint going to sound so nice, but its just my opinion so dont take this personal. I have an easy saying, its MY way or the HIGHWAY, your baby has been with you for a long time, he either loves YOU BOTH or NOTHING. If ANYONE including MY husband would EVER have the guts to do ANYTHING whatsoever to my girls, i can betcha he's out before he can say "Jacksrabbit"
this is exactly what my husband says, if anyone ever has the nerve to lay a hand on our princesses he WILL end up in jail because he wont just give a "friendly warning"


I dont know why your baby slithers along the wall, but i can discribe it as "fear" and her eyes being bloodshot i wish i could help you, i hope someone here will be able to help you out more!!
Keep your baby safe!!

Good luck

[Mona K]

I have been sick over this. I cant even imagine he would be mean to her. I have totally asked him, straight out and he got pretty upset that I would even ask him, so if he was lying I couldnt tell. When I took her to the vet, he indicated it could be because my daughter (19yrs old) and I have spoiled her and she is a sensitive dog. And she is not used to men being in the house and when he raised his voice it scared her and she will not forget. She just acts so timid around her. I would definitely want to know if my boyfriend is that kind of person before I continue any kind of relationship with him. Makes me sick to my stomach to even think about it. I saw her walk by him the other day, he was just sitting on the couch watching TV and it looked like when she realized he was sitting there, she rolled on her back with her legs in the air and just laid there, looked like she was playing dead. We both just looked at each other and couldnt believe it. I called her over to me and she acted fine. It was crazy....

[livingdustmops]

Mona, He has done something to your dog, plain and simple. A Yorkie only acts like this if it is being terroized or remembers from when it was. I have rescued many Yorkies with this type of fear and something happened.

I wonder how he reacted when the dog bite him and you were not around? Why is the dog so frightened it worked its way out of the harness to get away from him?

If your boyfriend didn't do it then someone else did something if this just started.

[JCarlson2004]

Originally Posted by rrosenberry

Wow, I would be very worried, I get worried when NON- dog people are around and don't acknowledge Bailey, let alone be mean to him, that would KILL me. I don't think I would deal with that,,no matter what the reasoning. for some reason she doesn't want to be around him..something happened,, Dogs are a GREAT judge of character! And She has Judged him for some reason.

[Mona K]

I totally agree. And thats why Im posting these emails. In hopes to get some kind of answer. If I find out hes done anything he's gone, history!! No second chances... Please understand at this point I dont know that he has, and to be honest I feel terrible even questioning it...

[vainchick5]

Don't feel terrible Mona. Let me share a personal short story with you that might make you feel better about questioning. A little off topic but none the less has a lot to do with trust.
-My sister married my BIL 6 years ago and they had been together a total of 11 years. He was the nicest guys around. He was like a brother to me. Never had any reason to mistrust. They became rich very fast, and when we questioned him he gave us good answers and became upset that we would question his movites..Guess where he is right now? In jail for money laundering, leaving his wife and son along with my parents to pick up the pieces.
Trust me, you have the right to ask for not only the safety of your baby, but this could be you and your daughters safety as well.

[Mona K]

Oh my, that makes me wanna cry. To think anyone has hurt my baby...she is such a good dog, and brought so much joy to me and my daughter.

So you honestly think its more than just raising his voice at her that one time?? He said he didnt yell or anything when she bite him. I asked him WHY did he even try to giver her a treat?? and to please just leave her alone... I honestly think he just keeps trying to get her to like him because he know how much I love her.

[Mona K]

Yes, I definitely wouldnt want to be around a man that would hurt my dog or any animal as far as that goes... I just need proof. She is my heart and I dont want anything bad to happen to her. He is a big man, 6'2 200lbs and my daughter and I are both short and small. I was so hoping she was just scared of him being a man and so big. But I will NOT ignore the signs...

[livingdustmops]

Mona, how has your little girl reacted to other men in her life? What happens? When your little girl rolls over she is going into the submission role. Maybe I jumped to soon because I assumed (bad word I know) that your dog has been around other men and has been fine. If you answer she was fine and very open to them and did not display any of what you descriped she has done around your boyfriend then I am sticking with my original answer. But if she has not been around men much and he scared the living pee out of her then maybe yes, he did not harm her BUT now you both have a long road ahead of you of desensitizing her to accept him. She is scared out of her mind (literally) and will continue to bite him.

P.S. Your vet is not a behavorist and that is a crap answer (sorry) could be a good vet but to blame you and your daughter for spoiling your little girl and that is why she is fearful is wrong. Either your boyfriend has done something or she just hasn't been around enough men to trust them.

[YorkieRose]

Listen to me...my husband of 41 years does not yell at my Yorkies. Oh, don't get me wrong, he has been mighty upset when he steps in poop in his socking feet, and he is free to holler all he wants, but he has to go in his closet to do it.

Get rid of the boyfriend, he sounds like big time trouble brewing..you can not replace your Yorkie, but you can get a boyfriend who doesn't yell at your Yorkie. In fact if you want a great companion in a man, watch how he treats his mother and animals..that is the way he will treat you. Good Luck