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11-10-2010, 05:16 AM | #1 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Missouri
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| I'm so distraught!!!! Please help!!!! To those of you that followed my last thread which has been several months ago, my little girl finally gave up the fight on 11/03/10. Sadly, I have another little on, my oldest yorkie, ( she is 15), who is also giving up the fight and will probably be put to sleep today. The vet wanted to put her to sleep 2 days ago and I just couldn't let her go yet. I had just lost my Ciera and I couldn't bring myself to let her go too that soon after losing her. Guys, I beg of you all not to think horribly of me for saying no then. I asked several times if she was in ANY pain and she told me that she wasn't. She said she didn't feel well, but there's no pain. I just needed a couple more days with her. You have to realize that 15 years is a longggg time. She grew up with my children! They have both seen us through so much in our lives and have been the only 'constant' that we've all had. All of this has just ripped my soul apart!!! I have done nothing but cry for days! I'm eating only enough to keep me surviving, (I've lost 7lbs since the 3rd). I'm not sleeping! All I do is hover over my little baby trying to get her to eat, holding her water bowl for her when she wants water, sitting her up to help her when she coughs. I am just devastated!! I honestly am not sure how I will be able to let her go!!! Don't get me wrong, I am devastated over losing Ciera too. I still cry and mourn for her. But in the end, she gave up and the parting, tho extremely difficult, was somewhat easier. Little Meg tho, for whatever reason, wont give up!! Not to mention, she's always been wherever I am, slept with me every night (except for a few nights when she wasn't feeling well and had the 'poops' or was throwing up. Otherwise, she has been stuck to me for 15 years!!! Seriously! I feel like I'm going to lose my mind here at just the thought of her leaving me and I'm turning to you all to give me whatever advice you can.....something!! After her, I have nothing left!!!!!!!! It's going to be like closing a chapter that I've kept open for so many years!! Am I wrong for wanting her here with me??? Do I HAVE to have her put to sleep?????????? Is is wrong of me for not giving her that???? She's not eating and hasn't since day before yesterday. She drinks water and has been getting sub q fluids ( 150cc twice a day) The vet said all of her bun, creatine, phosphorus, etc levels have more than doubled since the 30th of Oct. so she's fading. She's still able to get up and go outside to potty but I have to walk with her to keep her from falling. For the most part, she stays inside on her pallet beside me all covered up. I don't feel she owes me anything, for sure not any pain. It's letting go I'm having issues with. I don't know what I'm going to do without her too!!! Two of my beloved babies gone almost a week apart!!!! Anyone.....someone! Help me!!! |
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11-10-2010, 06:41 AM | #2 |
Luv my 7 Furkids Donating Member | Im very sorry for your loss. I cant imagine the hurt you feel. |
11-10-2010, 06:52 AM | #3 |
BANNED! Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Illinois
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| I wish there was something I can do to help you. I know, it's very hard, especially when you have just lost one. They are family. I am going thru this myself with a Large Breed. Hard for sure. Make sure you try to stay healthy, but easier said than done. Best of luck. |
11-10-2010, 06:55 AM | #4 |
YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Deer Park New York
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| God I'm so sorry. I have tears rolling down my face and I know the pain you must be going through. I went through that with my cats a few years back. I lost two of them within 2 weeks. No your not selfish for wanting to keep her with you as long as she's not in pain. You have to think of her though. It's a heartbreaking situation I've lost many pets and I can tell you although it doesn't seem that way now, it does get easier in time. You'll always have them in your heart but the pain gets less and less. Some people will adopt another pet some don't. I feel like when I adopt another that my pet in heaven sent it to me. This is up to you though. That's the only advice I can think of to give you. |
11-10-2010, 06:59 AM | #5 |
YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Longwood, FL
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| I am so sorry that you are having to go through this.
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11-10-2010, 07:00 AM | #6 |
YT 2000 Club Donating Member | I'm so sorry that you have so much pain in your life right now. Losing one beloved pet, and knowing you are losing Meg, must seem almost unbearable. I'm not sure that I have the words that will help you through this. Know that your voice, your pain has been heard. I truly believe that soon you will find that place in your heart, that you will know, now is the time to let her go. You two have a bond, and I trust that with every particle of your being you could only do what is right for your beloved Meg. You have loved, been loved, and are still loving so well. (((Hugs to you and Meg))))
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11-10-2010, 07:01 AM | #7 |
YT 1000 Club Member | I have no words for you .... tears are streaming down my face. I can't imagine what it is like to lose your babies. I don't blame you for wanting her to stay around but as lexi43 said you have to think of her. She may not be giving up because of you....not wanting you to grieve but that you will have to do. I will have you in my prayers...
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11-10-2010, 07:03 AM | #8 |
Resident Yorkie Nut Donating YT 20K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Texas
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| I am so sorry. I don't think there are words that will make this better. I went through this in September 09 when my sweet Cody passed from renal failure. All I can tell you is that I went through the same emotions that you are. One day I woke up and I knew it was time.....they do let us know. When it is time, your sweet Meg will let you know. Sadly, these are things that we must experience in life. It is all a grieving process. I can tell you that it never goes away, but it does get easier. In time, the fond memories carry us through. Again, I am just SO sorry.
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11-10-2010, 07:15 AM | #9 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Where the deer and the antelope play
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| I am soo sorry for your losses. I can't even begin to imagine the pain you are feeling right now. My only advice as you go through this tough time is that she is not leaving you. I can tell in your post that you have 15 wonderful years of fond happy memories with her. That is what you hold on to.
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11-10-2010, 07:17 AM | #10 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker | If your vet assures you that your little one is not suffering, then I don't think you're a monster for not being able to let her go. I had to face the same decision with my Bungee a few months ago. Even though she was not showing any signs of pain, she was not happy -- not wagging her tail, not wanting to be touched, not eating or drinking. I knew in my heart that she was ready to go and I had to help her. I've had to make that decision for many pets and it never gets any easier. When I was younger and very upset when my dad had his cat put to sleep while I thought she could live for a few more days or even weeks, he told me that a duty of a pet owner is to put the pet's interest ahead of his own. Once the vet told him that the cat could not recover, he had to decide if he was keeping the cat alive for the cat's sake or for his own. If it was for his own sake, it was time to say goodbye. I'm not saying this to be unkind -- in fact I'm sitting here sobbing while I type because I know how awful this is for you. All I can suggest is that you search your own heart and you will find the right answer. I wish I could ease some of your pain, but you know that only time will do that. |
11-10-2010, 07:20 AM | #11 |
YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Up North
Posts: 808
| There are no words that will take the pain away. Time heals all wounds. And Meg will tell you when it is time. 2 years ago I went through this exact thing with my girl of 14 years. She was slowly fading and I could not put her to sleep, I felt guilty, but my kind vet told me that I would know when the time was right. I did and I do not regret those extra 6 days I had with Taffy. Hold her and love her. I miss my girl every single day, but as the days went by the pain lessened to a dull ache. Hugs to you and to Meg.
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11-10-2010, 07:21 AM | #12 |
Donating YT 4000 Club Member | I wish I could hug you and ease your pain, I am so sorry.. you will know when is time your heart will tell you.. I will say a prayer for you and your little one.. hugs, Carmen in nj |
11-10-2010, 07:23 AM | #13 |
YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: SoCA
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| This is so hard. I cried yesterday thinking about my darling Gina who passed in Feb of this year. My husband didn't want to put her to sleep but she was very, very ill and had a stroke and wasn't aware of anything. I think you will know when she wants to be released. It tears us apart because we love them so. You might call your local humane society and ask about attending a greiving group. That can help. So sorry for your pain. Cherie
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11-10-2010, 07:32 AM | #14 |
Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: New York
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| You are not wrong to want to keep her with you as long as possible. She is not in pain and I think you will know when the time is right. My heart is aching while I'm reading your post and I wish I could do something or say something to give you some comfort. I'm sorry you are going thru this. Sending good thoughts, hugs and prayers your way. |
11-10-2010, 08:07 AM | #15 |
Love my Boys Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: w/ my boys
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| I’m so sorry your having to make some difficult decisions….. Most of us at some point will have to travel this road, mostly alone with our pets, despite all the wonderful help, medical treatment, and advice that we get from our vets, family, friends, and boards such as this one. Each in their own way is valuable and important. But, the final decisions will come down to us and us alone. If any emotion rules supreme when a pet passes, it is guilt. No matter what the circumstances of our loss, guilt is there; it haunts our days, ruins our sleep, and tarnishes our memories. Our decisions and the guilt and grief that follows can be a pretty lonely place to be……We all will worry if we did enough…….. When is it appropriate for us to say - enough? When does quality of life, not quantity, become the most important question to ask? We all must make those decisions based on our own pets, not on what anyone else did, is doing, or would do. Our individual choices are ultimately the right ones. We must remember as well that not everything is in our control. We might like to think it is, hope that it is, but there are times it simply isn't. It takes courage to assume this last duty and it is our last responsibility to a pet which has given us love and companionship. A far more dangerous form of selfishness is to prolong a pet's suffering simply to postpone your own. …..…….. Which choice will bring you the least cause for regret after the pet is gone?..... Unfortunately, "no regret" is often not an option. When you love that deeply, you would do anything in your power to protect and care for a loved one, whether animal or human. Part of the love is being able to let go, not for us, but for them. These gifts of ours are not meant to suffer. While the thought of losing them, or the actual loss can be horrific, it is *them* we must think of. It’s totally normal to wonder if we did the right things, made the right choices, fought hard enough or long enough. You gave your best and your best is truly enough. You loved hard and no one can question or judge that, not even yourself. You will make the ultimate sacrifice - for them. That takes courage, strength, and love....... Sending you prayers to help guide you in your decisions…….(((hugs))))
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