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02-26-2007, 10:33 AM | #1 |
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| VENT: Am I right to be upset? A little background. Xander is our German Shepherd mix, that is totally gently and adorable with our yorkie. Here is a picture for reference http://xec.xanga.com/eb083644700b810.../b75374184.jpg Okay on to the vent: A friend had us over for BBQ this weekend, we were out all day so phoned and asked if we could bring Xander with us. They said no problem, but their dog doesn't really like male dogs, so if something happened Xander would have to go home. I have met their dog on several occasions. It's a Jack Russel and just a totally obnoxious dog. They scream at it all the time because it barks and howls whenever it's outside. The wife has told me several time she has a very hard time with the dog and their child. The dog apparently growls at the child all the time and has snipped at it once or twice. And the dog gets put in time out at day care all the time. Well we figured its not a huge deal, Xander is a big baby, he's around out neighbors kids all the time and has never had a problem with any other dog. An actually at daycare he stays right next to the person who's in playing with the dogs. Well we were outside for a while and their dog was pretty nasty, but it didn't faze Xander, he just was his happy go lucky self. The husband kept screaming at their dog and Xander even ran back to us with his tail in between his legs. Their son (almost 2) was pulling on Xanders tail and giving him hugs, no problem there. Well the mom came out with a tray full of meat to throw on the grill and Xander walked up, she put her hand down for him to smell and he kind of nipped at it and barked at her. I was shocked and apologized, he has never done that before ever. Well a few minutes later the Wife came over and said "No hard feelings, but can you bring Xander home. We know he didn't mean to bite me, but we don't want such an aggresive dog around our son. You will understand someday when you have kids." I was so mad, I almost cried. I don't want Xander to be labeled as an aggressive dog in our circle of friends. Chris pointed out that maybe Xander did that because her hand smelled like meat or food. But still.....I'm livid. I hate when people say "you'll understand when...." Yeah I understand that if I had a dog like yours I wouldn't let it around my kids, but I also understand dogs can be dogs.
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02-26-2007, 10:58 AM | #2 |
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| That's an odd double standard. They maintain a dog that snaps and is obviously in desperate need of training but put your dog off because he was trying to taste some remnants of food. I am assuming your dog was not growling or barking in anyway and was simply mouthing.........but I think that was odd on their part. |
02-26-2007, 11:03 AM | #3 |
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| I totally understand how this probably hurt your feelings. You know your dog is not aggressive. He was probably assuming she was offering him a snack. However, it they were to give their little two year old a piece of meat or whatever to eat and the little one offered it to your dog (as little toddlers will do) and your dog had the same reaction as he did to the mother, they would probably get very upset at your dog. Even though your dog was just reacting to a food offering and not biting the child. Parents are very protective of their children and their dogs. Better to avoid the situation. Especially since you are friends.
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02-26-2007, 11:07 AM | #4 |
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| Is this lady an idiot? (Sorry I don't mean to offend anyone) WHy would you touch meat, not wash your hands, and then let a dog smell your hand Does she also try to pet dogs when their eating?
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02-26-2007, 11:11 AM | #5 |
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| I'm sorry that your outing was ruined. Did Xander actually break the skin on her hand? |
02-26-2007, 11:12 AM | #6 |
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| It's probably like when people have kids and their kids are complete monsters but they'll talk about someone elses kid being like that right? So on the one hand, it is their house and they have a right to ask you to take Xander home, especially if he was acting aggressive towards her (even if he doesn't normally), but on the other it's weird that their dog is aggressive and in need of training yet, it's ok for him to be around their son Sadly as sweet as Xander may be, he still acted aggressively, and that will need to be addressed, regardless of whether it was the meat he smelled or if he just didn't like this lady. I can understand you being upset but I would consider the opposite situation where if they brought their dog over, you would probably ask them to take him home. I would be upset too, but don't worry no one will consider him the aggressive dog on the block, cause they will all see how sweet he is for themselves. That is a the sweetest picture ever!
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02-26-2007, 11:20 AM | #7 |
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| No he didn't even bite her, just nipped and then barked. Also the kids next door feed him treats all the time (with our permission), even small things such as raspberries and he practically licks them out of their hands. Actually Addie, our yorkie, bites more when you give her a treat than he does.
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02-26-2007, 11:24 AM | #8 | |
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See Xander was trained with us and a dog whisperer type trainer and is very well behaved, we have even taken him on several benefit type walks and no problem there. I know they took their dog to one petsmart class, because when we got Xander we asked for a recommendation and neither my husband nor I agreed with the simplicity of petsmarts program. But how do you address this issue if it has never come up before? We told him no and imedetialy corrected it, but i don't think this is an aggression issue. He didn't bite her, or show his teeth or anything.
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02-26-2007, 12:08 PM | #9 | |
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I don't know it's tough. Sounds like you addressed it appropriately. Maybe they are in denial that their dog is aggressive so they are making you feel like yours is instead. I wouldn't think about it too much, and Xander is an absolute doll face. Don't let this ruin your friendship, but if she ever says anything about it, definitely stick up for your baby. But I think they are just in denial about their own dog, maybe jealous? Who knows, people are weird. Just try to move on, and if your friend continues to droan on and on about it, set her straight. Don't worry you did the right thing.
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