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10-14-2007, 04:42 PM | #1 |
No Longer a Member | Ever had just the worst stinkin' week of your life? Ugh... Thank God tomorrow's Monday! I know most people don't say that, but dang, this past week has been horrible! A little background... Many of you probably don't know...I have 2 kids 13 and 15. My oldest son has Aspergers syndrome. It is on the autistic spectrum, but it really isn't the same thing. He's actually a genius, and is in all of the honors and AP classes in his high school. The problem is, he has ADD-type symptoms and has trouble staying on task in class. After several years of fighting the school district, we just last year got him an IEP (Individual Education Plan). This is a federally protected plan that gives him extra time to turn in his homework, and the school has to provide other services for him. So this past week, I had trouble with one of his teachers who would not comply with the plan. She was saying she had to wait for confirmation from his case carrier, when she already has had to review the plan. Basically, she's stalling, and this makes us lose valuable time to get him caught up in the class. So it just seemed like every time I turned around, she'd give us another excuse, and in the meantime, my son is failing his classes because she would not send home his past homework. So this went back and forth all week long. We had just had a recent IEP meeting, where we sit with his case carrier, the administrators, and such, to make sure things are going as planned. Basically, the schools know that the average parent does not know all the rights their students are entitled to, so they try to blow us off. We had already had to spend a couple of thousand dollars on an advocate to get help getting this plan into action. AFter that, we tried to do these meetings on our own, and I swear, they turn into jerks when it's just you and them. So now we have to re-schedule, hire our advocate to accompany us (several hundred dollars each time) and come back next week to get the exact same things they refused when it was us alone! ARrrgggh!!! So this whole past week, I was a nervous-wreck. I swear I could not sleep because of worrying about my son's homework getting done. Do you ever have that dream that you're back in high school, and it is the end of the quarter and you realize you haven't done any work all quarter long, and there is more backed up than you can make up? Well, it's like he's living my nightmare! Then, my back went out on me. I have two bulged discs in my back that have caused chronic pain. I'm on Celebrex for it, which takes care of it for the most part, but once in a while it goes out, and it hurts to walk, sit, or lie down! I have pain medicine for the acute pain, but I have to wait until I'm done driving the kids to and from school all day before I can take it because I won't be able to drive, and if I take it in the evening, I won't be able to get up at 5:30 am to get my son out to zero period. (He's in the band, and has to be at school earlier than first period.) So, I was really looking forward to our yorkie meetup this past Saturday. I just wanted to go somewhere where I could just forget about all the BS I had to deal with this past week. Plus, Chloe got spayed 3 weeks ago, and she has been on limited activity, and this was going to be her first chance to get out and play. I baked cookies for everyone just a few hours before the meetup. That got cancelled at the last minute. I don't really want to rehash that all here (you can read about it in the California forum if you want.) I know I sound all petty and whiney about the whole thing. I can admit that, but it is just so frustrating to have something planned, and then have one person (who you thought was your friend--someone you've done a lot of nice things for) basically tell you "I don't trust your judgment" and unilaterally changing things. I thought we were doing this together . Then, I got my very first YT flame. I guess I should be flattered. Does that mean I have officially arrived at YT? LOL What is amazing is that I went this long without getting one. Oh well, I hope next week is better. Thanks for letting me vent here. I feel like a huge load has been lifted. |
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10-14-2007, 04:59 PM | #2 |
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| Misty, I feel your pain. I have been there. Fighting for your children's rights can be like beating your head against the wall. Thank goodness all that is past for me since they are all grown. Since I worked in the school system I had a little advantage. Sometimes it's who you know. I am so sorry that you are going thru this 'cause after all it's the law and you shouldn't have to fight with that teacher. Won't your counselor help you out. In my school district, they really back up those IEP's 'cause they have been sued on more than one occasion. Bless your heart with your back pain too. I will keep you in my prayers. Patty |
10-14-2007, 05:18 PM | #4 |
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10-14-2007, 05:40 PM | #5 | |
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It has been a long and frustrating battle. I feel better to have gotten it all out. | |
10-14-2007, 05:53 PM | #6 |
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| I'm sorry I read part of the thread and I'm sorry they didn't trust your judgement. I know what it's like to look forward to something like that so much and then it get cancelled or no one shows up...it can be quite annoying. Chloe sure did look so adorable in her Go.Fetch London dress! Hope this next week is a lot better for you
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10-14-2007, 06:47 PM | #7 |
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| If your son has an IEP, then get a lawyer and sue the school system. I worked in an elementary school for over 13 years and understand that there are fantastic great wonderful teachers and administrators and then the other kind that shouldn't be trusted with a pack of wild pigs. Get a lawyer and sue the system and the teacher. That will get their attention and the help that your son needs. Don't waste precious time waiting for them to do something chances are they are too busy covering for each other. A good teacher and system would recognize that your son needed special help and would go out of thier way to see that he got it. I was off a lot of last week -- you got flamed????? details please LOL -- you can pm me if you would rather, but I need something juicy to get my mind off my own troubles. I hope that your back gets to feeling better soon! |
10-14-2007, 07:04 PM | #8 |
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| Oh I am so sorry to hear about your son and the turmoil you must be going through to get this resolved. I agree with chattiesmom. My daughter is a teacher and she even agrees it takes the threat of a law-suit to get their butts in gear at times. I know I would want to try everything before going that route but I would let them know that if it isn't resolved quickly that is your intention. Too bad about the pm, don't take it to heart. Next week has to be better for you I'm sure. Hugs, Joan
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10-14-2007, 07:05 PM | #10 |
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| Both of my sons have an IEP and have since about grade 4 and it is a constant struggle..my eldest son has a severe learning disabililty and my youngest son has a mild learning disability and its a constant struggle and worry for Mom..both have trouble with staying on task and I have always been the kind of person who would NEVER let my kids take meds for their problems..well two years when my youngest son was failing all his subject my pediatrician asked me just to try a certain drug called concerta for a couple weeks..if I didnt like it I could take them off...well let me tell ya..I cried like a baby..because I didnt do it SOONER!! My kids marks went up..they stayed focused without a problem and THEY felt sooo much better...I kicked myself for being so stubborn..I know this is a bit off topic but I understand your worries and concerns... Dawn |
10-14-2007, 07:08 PM | #11 |
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| I'm sorry to hear about the stinky week... I know how you feel,, not exactly,, but I have an idea. Sometimes when it seems like your week cant get any worst, it somehow manages to.. Like where are the breaks in life? Keep your chin up, let's pray for a better week.
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10-14-2007, 08:21 PM | #12 | |
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I'm so glad you've found something that works for you. That must feel good to have them doing so much better! We actually have him on a couple of medicines now that help him with anxiety and such. I, too, resisted for a long time. He is doing better with that, but the add part is still a problem. | |
10-15-2007, 03:27 AM | #13 |
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| Aw Misty - sorry life has been so rough. I think there is a lot of that going around lately. Keep your chin up and let's hope this week is better all the way around!!
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10-15-2007, 03:43 AM | #14 |
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| If you just got flamed your doing good. Ive been flamed more times than I can count. I am sorry for all your going through with your Son and your back
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10-15-2007, 04:27 AM | #15 |
No Longer a Member | I am so sorry for the week you've had. My grandson was diagnosed with Aspergers, he is six. The genius part is very true we are learning. I do hope things get better with the education system by the time he is your son's age. We are still learning about it, the good folks at Texas Children's Hospital have been great. I'm sure you have had a time with it. I do pray things get better for him and you. |
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