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10-06-2007, 09:54 AM | #1 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: queens
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| Uggggh my mother is driving me crazy!!!!!!!! I dont know what it is - everything I do is wrong to her.....She acts like all I do is sit at home all day and talk on the phone....Meanwhile most of the time she comes home and dinner is cooked - and dishes washed, no messes left. But she always finds SOMETHING to point out that is wrong or bad. The other day I cleaned the ENTIRE house from top to bottom...sweeping, vacuum, dusting, polishing....even bathrooms.... You know what she did? She did it ALL over, she re-cleaned everything like I didnt do anything! And I kept saying to her...but mom I just cleaned that....I dont get it!!! I am 25 yrs old - she acts like im 5 - whenever I go somewhere she askes a million times who im going with where im going and to call her when i get there and when im leaving and she STILL calls me I can understand being concerned - I get that - But shell call me like 10 times... And according to her im not allowed to date either! Its like no matter what I do theres always something bad being sad. If I tell her I got a schlorship and my gpa is 3.8 she tells me "why didnt you get a 4.0" I have had SEVERAL discussions with her about it - and she just starts crying and asking me if I think she likes doing this stuff.....and then she tells me that we dont do anything around the house to help her - completely not true. It just feels like shes always the martyr and im the devil - im at the end of my rope here....Am I completely wrong about feeling this way????? |
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10-06-2007, 10:09 AM | #2 |
Izzy's Momma Too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Stuart, Florida
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| That must hurt The only thing that might stop her is if you move out, unfortunately.
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10-06-2007, 10:13 AM | #3 |
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| You're 25 years old, is there any way you can get a place of your own? As long as you're in her house, you'll have to put up with her ways. Sorry, sometimes that's just the way it is.
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10-06-2007, 10:15 AM | #4 |
No Longer a Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Ontario, Canada
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| I have to agree..its time to move out and be on your own. My mother was and still can be controlling if I LET her...its hard not to let her when you are still living under her roof..why not start looking for your own apartment..its fun!! Dawn |
10-06-2007, 10:18 AM | #5 |
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| Yes - I am starting to look, have been for awhile....it's a little hard right now - I just lost my job and I live in NY so rent is crazy here and most of the places Ive seen so far dont accept pets ....Im crossing my fingers that I get a job ASAP - ive been going on interviews like a mad woman lol It is so frustrating though, I could understand if I really did sit around the house all day and do nothing -but I dont |
10-06-2007, 10:22 AM | #6 | |
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10-06-2007, 10:28 AM | #7 |
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| My mom has been like this for years and I was always able to handle it - but recently it just seems like everything is going wrong so im letting her get to me....there MIGHT be a chance that I can rent an apt with a friend for only $400 a month - which is awesome - but that is a BIG MIGHT... I just keep thinking that things are going to get better - because I doubt they could get worse...I have the option of moving in with my dad - but hes in FL and im not sure I want to do that...I just have to keep focused and take a deep breathe - it feels good to know that other people can understand - my friends think im nuts when I tell them - cause shes sugary sweet to them - my mom isnt a bad person at all, and i love her and am thankful for her, but i do think she is unhappy with her life and taking it out on everyone else... |
10-06-2007, 11:28 AM | #8 |
Piper & Sebastian Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: florida
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| My mom was just like yours and I was in theraphy for years trying to undo what she had done to my self esteem. I'm 53 and still have problems. I'd definetly find a place of your own. If you can't afford an apartment, rent a room, live in a tent. Do anything to get away from her. I can tell you from my experience even when I was gone, and I'd call her and she'd be mean. When I told her I was pregant(married) She said why would you do such a stupid thing. She was just a nut job.
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10-06-2007, 12:19 PM | #9 | |
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10-06-2007, 12:42 PM | #10 | |
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10-06-2007, 12:49 PM | #11 |
Mommy Loves Koda & Kacy! Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Home of the NY Yankees
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| I think at 25 maybe you should be getting a place for your own. Parents mean well but they can be a pain in the ****. I hope you can afford it and save some money and do it!!! I love my family and I am really close to them but they get on my nerves at times, I enjoy having them over for gatherings but I like it this way...Even though it cost me more I rather have the space and peace of mind (no matter what they are always right) According to them. Good Lunck and hope everthing gets better for you
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10-06-2007, 02:14 PM | #12 |
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| Do her actions have to do with any cultural or religious reasons? I hope you are able to find a place that will take pets that doesn't make you pay alot more. |
10-06-2007, 02:37 PM | #13 |
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