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Shanatink · 10-03-2007, 05:10 PM

Okay Im about to hit my third trimester and I am freaking out about our finacial situation as reality is starting to sink in and having a baby, etc etc. So I need sort of a pep talk and you all need to tell me everything is going to be fine, lol

Im just freaking out because Im trying to maintain paying regular bills getting caught up on debt and also plan for our baby girls arrival in just 3 months and Im trying to start purchasing baby stuff. Being that we didnt plan this pregnancy(although this is the greatest thing to ever happen to me) I really do not feel we are financially ready for a baby as everyone says how expensive they are and now its really starting to hit me and we had no money really saved up for anything like this and this is just huge, so this is why Im startign to go into panic mode. Im trying hard to do everything economically, to save on cost me and my mom have been making all the baby room decor bedding, etc. and Ive been hitting craig's list and ebay to find stuff. And I know we will have 2 different baby showers too so that will help. Question is, how soon do I need to buy everything? If it were up to my husband he'd put it off until the very last week

He thinks since we still have 3 months left that I am nuts for buying a crib last week but it made me feel better having the major furniture purchase already out of the way. I dont know, is this just my hormones freaking me out or is reality sinking in? For those who have had kids what all do I HAVE to have and what can I live without and what all do I need to definetly have when the baby comes? I know I dont need some stuff yet until they are older like highchairs. It just makes me so nervous becasue I really dont klnwo what all I need to save money for to buy until after the baby showers next month and im so nervous waiting until the last minute to purchase everythign else that we still need. This is so nervewracking! Need pep talk. Thanks!

autumn star · 10-03-2007, 05:18 PM

Don't freak out, truth is if we all waited until we were financially fit we would never have kids. There is always something. Its like a vicious cycle. The amazing part is that everything always seems to fall into place and work out just fine. Wait until you have both of your baby showers and see what you get and then go from there. You might find that you get double of things that you can bring back and use the $ for something you really need or want.
When I had my first child 8 yrs ago I was just like you freaking out about $ and all turned out just fine.
Good luck!

tjdmom · 10-03-2007, 05:22 PM

Having been there twice, I can promise you that it will work out. Things will fall into place just perfectly, you'll see. Just try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy. You'll get most of what you need from your shower and there are so many things that you might want but will hardly use at all. For instance, my portable playpen is still like new after 2 kids. I don't think I used it more than a dozen times between the 2 of them. You need a crib, which you have. You'll need diapers and bottles and clothes but you'll get more than enough of those at your shower I'm sure. You absolutely must have a car seat and probably a stroller but really beyond that, I can't think of anything else that you absolutely have to have. So try not to stress and just enjoy thinking about your new little girl growing inside your belly because the time will go by so quickly and things will work out perfectly.

Shanatink · 10-03-2007, 05:41 PM

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Originally Posted by autumn star

Don't freak out, truth is if we all waited until we were financially fit we would never have kids. There is always something. Its like a vicious cycle. The amazing part is that everything always seems to fall into place and work out just fine. Wait until you have both of your baby showers and see what you get and then go from there. You might find that you get double of things that you can bring back and use the $ for something you really need or want.
When I had my first child 8 yrs ago I was just like you freaking out about $ and all turned out just fine.
Good luck!

Yay! Thats what I need to hear and Ive been told this before but I just need to hear it over and over again. I really hope everything does fall into place. Im actually glad Im freaking out though becuase it has really motivated me to get so much done with work, around the house, baby room, etc. Its driven me to have extra energy it seems so that is a good thing to get out of me being in freak out mode, lol.

Did I mention in my first thread that I have never changed a diaper in my whole life? Ive never fed a baby or anything, yikes!!!!! I think Ive only held a baby like twice and thats becasue my friend made me. I have so much to learn and prepare for!!!

LoveMyJake · 10-03-2007, 05:41 PM

I've had three kids, and things will work out just fine so don't worry! I would wait until after the showers to see what you will need to buy. Relax!!

miezzi · 10-03-2007, 05:46 PM

I wouldn't buy a thing until after the showers! And register for everything!!!!!!!!! Including lots of diapers!!!!!!! It will all work out! I don't think anyone is ever truly ready for a baby, but everyone seems to get by just fine! So the best thing you can do, is try to be stress free, and calm down! You have to take care of yourself and that little one inside you!

Have lots of faith!!!!!!!!!!

Patti · 10-03-2007, 05:48 PM

Relax!!! Most of us aren't ready financially. Some how it all works out. Just don't go overboard on baby things as they outgrow everything so fast. If you can get hand me down swings, playpens etc that helps. You will also find you don't spend as much on yourselves once you have kids, you want to spend it on them. My dtr came 5 weeks early and we weren't prepared. The room needed to be painted and the crib put together. So while I was in the hospital my husband and his friend painted the room. WHen it came time to bring her home I told him to bring an outfit for her since I hadn't packed anything yet. So he brings a mickey mouse tshirt my sister got her in Disneyland that was for a 24 month old. SHe weighed 5 lbs!!!lol So try not to stress it all works out and keep your sense of humor!!!

YorkieMom55 · 10-03-2007, 05:51 PM

Shana, the very first thing that you need to do is.....just relax.
The only thing that she will need when she comes home is a place to sleep, to be cuddled and comforted, to be fed, kept clean & kept warm. That's it.
You will have enough $$ to take care of her. Trust me, it'll work out. I know that your baby is blessed to have you as her mommy. All you really need for the first couple of weeks is lots of diapers and wipes, sleepers & milk. An ice bag for you, a quiet place for the 3 of you to sit and cuddle & sleep whenever you can.

Little Bit · 10-03-2007, 05:52 PM

Ditto what they said!! Just relax and enjoy it. Everything will be fine! You will probably get everything you need at your two showers. After that it will just be gradually that you need more things, nothing major. You will be an amazing MOM!!

mistyinca · 10-03-2007, 05:55 PM

You'll be fine, Shana. When they're newborns, they can sleep just about anywhere. WE never actually used our crib for a long time. Plus lots of baby stuff can be got at yard sales and stuff for cheap. You'll probably do well at the shower too!

Don't know if you're planning to bottle or breast feed, but breastfeeding is FREE!

Stella's mom · 10-03-2007, 06:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Shanatink

Yay! Thats what I need to hear and Ive been told this before but I just need to hear it over and over again. I really hope everything does fall into place. Im actually glad Im freaking out though becuase it has really motivated me to get so much done with work, around the house, baby room, etc. Its driven me to have extra energy it seems so that is a good thing to get out of me being in freak out mode, lol.

Did I mention in my first thread that I have never changed a diaper in my whole life? Ive never fed a baby or anything, yikes!!!!! I think Ive only held a baby like twice and thats becasue my friend made me. I have so much to learn and prepare for!!!

Just relax, I had never fed or changed diapers either and remember vividly the nurse bringing her to my room and me looking at her and saying "Lord, I've got her now what do I do". We went home and everything was fine diapers, bottles etc. That little one is now 33 and I've heard the same fears from her, but I know she will be fine also.

SugarMama · 10-03-2007, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Shanatink

Yay! Thats what I need to hear and Ive been told this before but I just need to hear it over and over again. I really hope everything does fall into place. Im actually glad Im freaking out though becuase it has really motivated me to get so much done with work, around the house, baby room, etc. Its driven me to have extra energy it seems so that is a good thing to get out of me being in freak out mode, lol.

Did I mention in my first thread that I have never changed a diaper in my whole life? Ive never fed a baby or anything, yikes!!!!! I think Ive only held a baby like twice and thats becasue my friend made me. I have so much to learn and prepare for!!!

Honey, it's perfectly NORMAL to feel this way. You're going through huge changes physically & emotionally and your life is getting ready to go through a major change, but it's all SO worth it. I don't think I know anyone who has kids who didn't worry at some point that they were not going to be prepared or that they were going to do something wrong. It's in our nature and I think it just shows that you want to be the best mommy possible. Also, your practicing "worrying" about the baby...you'll be doing a lot of that for the rest of your life! lol There's always something to worry about when you're a Mom but it's only because you love them so much. I agree w/ the others, register for the necessities for your showers, lots of diapers, onsies, pjs, wipes, diaper bag, car seat, stroller, etc. Even if you think it's too expensive, put it on the list. At my showers I ended up getting gifts from people who pooled their money to be able to get a larger gift than they could afford individually. After your showers take stock and see what still need. You're right though, you can't put it all off until the last second because sometimes those little cuties like to make an early appearance. You don't need a ton of "fancy" clothes for the first few months because they do a lot of poopin' & pukin' on their clothes. Keep her in comfy clothes at home & spend your money on other things...like diapers! lol I'm sure you'll get cute clothes at your showers & after the baby is born. Also, I did a lot of bargain shopping. I would shop the clearance racks at the end of the season and just calculate out how old the girls would be when they would need those clothes the next year (sometimes I had clothes for 2 or 3 years put away because I got them so cheap). It seems confusing at first but it's really pretty easy to figure out what size they should be in next year. Also, garage sales are a great way to find baby things. I just sold all of my baby things last summer... crib, car seats, stroller, sheets, pjs, clothes...everything I'd saved for 4 years just in case I was going to have another baby...and I sold it all dirt cheap because I knew I didn't need it and I remember how expensive everything is when you're trying to buy everything for a new baby. If you know anyone w/ a young child ask them if they have anything you could borrow or buy from them. Good luck, try to get plenty of rest, relax, and PM me if you need to talk or have any q's. Mom's are a great resource & most love to share their advice. Then you just have to sort through all of the advice you get and figure out what will work for you & your baby.

char7 · 10-03-2007, 06:26 PM

Relax......enjoy your pregnancy. Everything will work out just fine. I've done it 5 times and things always seem to fall in place. You got alot of good advice on the main things you'll need and also about waiting until after your showers to see if there's anything that you absolutely need. Most will be given to you at your showers and then you will just have to add things slowly.

Once you master changing a diaper, which won't take long, you'll be able to do it with your eyes closed

Jenn218 · 10-03-2007, 06:27 PM

I agree with everyone!!

Also, there should be plenty of baby consignment stores that sell furniture really reasonable.....shoot, they are only used what a few months??

You will be okay, it will all be okay.....everything will fall into place! Don't worry at all!

Never changed a diaper huh? I think that just comes naturally once that baby is there....like so much other stuff.

I think there use to be classes you could take - not just lamaze, but a prep class on just about everything, including CPR...that might be something to check into in your area.

chloeandj · 10-03-2007, 06:30 PM

As everyone else said, you will be fine! You will be amazed at the things you get at your baby showers will keep you stocked through their 1st and maybe even 2nd birthdays.

But just remember this.
Babies only NEED two things...food and diapers
Hopefully you can provide the food free of charge. And for the diapers...I had a themed baby shower for my second son, where we asked people to bring baby care items, such as diapers/wipes/and other such things. I was stocked for a loooong time.

I hope you're feeling well!

10-03-2007, 05:10 PM	#1
Shanatink Mommy to 3 Princesses Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: DFW Texas Posts: 11,030	Baby stuff- starting to freak out! Okay Im about to hit my third trimester and I am freaking out about our finacial situation as reality is starting to sink in and having a baby, etc etc. So I need sort of a pep talk and you all need to tell me everything is going to be fine, lol Im just freaking out because Im trying to maintain paying regular bills getting caught up on debt and also plan for our baby girls arrival in just 3 months and Im trying to start purchasing baby stuff. Being that we didnt plan this pregnancy(although this is the greatest thing to ever happen to me) I really do not feel we are financially ready for a baby as everyone says how expensive they are and now its really starting to hit me and we had no money really saved up for anything like this and this is just huge, so this is why Im startign to go into panic mode. Im trying hard to do everything economically, to save on cost me and my mom have been making all the baby room decor bedding, etc. and Ive been hitting craig's list and ebay to find stuff. And I know we will have 2 different baby showers too so that will help. Question is, how soon do I need to buy everything? If it were up to my husband he'd put it off until the very last week He thinks since we still have 3 months left that I am nuts for buying a crib last week but it made me feel better having the major furniture purchase already out of the way. I dont know, is this just my hormones freaking me out or is reality sinking in? For those who have had kids what all do I HAVE to have and what can I live without and what all do I need to definetly have when the baby comes? I know I dont need some stuff yet until they are older like highchairs. It just makes me so nervous becasue I really dont klnwo what all I need to save money for to buy until after the baby showers next month and im so nervous waiting until the last minute to purchase everythign else that we still need. This is so nervewracking! Need pep talk. Thanks! __________________ Custom Dog Clothing Boutique www.TinkerbellsCloset.com Last edited by Shanatink; 10-03-2007 at 05:13 PM.

10-03-2007, 05:41 PM	#5
LoveMyJake I love Jackson too! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,905	I've had three kids, and things will work out just fine so don't worry! I would wait until after the showers to see what you will need to buy. Relax!! __________________ Selina, mommy to Jake and Jackson. RIP baby Lily Coming soon: Gracie

10-03-2007, 05:46 PM	#6
miezzi I Love My 3 Lovebugs! Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: north east ohio Posts: 4,776	I wouldn't buy a thing until after the showers! And register for everything!!!!!!!!! Including lots of diapers!!!!!!! It will all work out! I don't think anyone is ever truly ready for a baby, but everyone seems to get by just fine! So the best thing you can do, is try to be stress free, and calm down! You have to take care of yourself and that little one inside you! Have lots of faith!!!!!!!!!! __________________ ~Mandy~Proud Mommie to Luigi, Brasco & Livi

10-03-2007, 05:48 PM	#7
Patti Donating YT 30K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 35,509 Blog Entries: 6	Relax!!! Most of us aren't ready financially. Some how it all works out. Just don't go overboard on baby things as they outgrow everything so fast. If you can get hand me down swings, playpens etc that helps. You will also find you don't spend as much on yourselves once you have kids, you want to spend it on them. My dtr came 5 weeks early and we weren't prepared. The room needed to be painted and the crib put together. So while I was in the hospital my husband and his friend painted the room. WHen it came time to bring her home I told him to bring an outfit for her since I hadn't packed anything yet. So he brings a mickey mouse tshirt my sister got her in Disneyland that was for a 24 month old. SHe weighed 5 lbs!!!lol So try not to stress it all works out and keep your sense of humor!!! __________________ Cali Pixie Roxie : RIP Nikki; RIP Maya;RIP my sweet Dixie girl 1/17/08 http://callipuppyscastle.bravehost.com/index.html Last edited by Patti; 10-03-2007 at 05:49 PM.

10-03-2007, 05:51 PM	#8
YorkieMom55 All Dogs Go To Heaven Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: By The Lake Posts: 2,727	Shana, the very first thing that you need to do is.....just relax. The only thing that she will need when she comes home is a place to sleep, to be cuddled and comforted, to be fed, kept clean & kept warm. That's it. You will have enough $$ to take care of her. Trust me, it'll work out. I know that your baby is blessed to have you as her mommy. All you really need for the first couple of weeks is lots of diapers and wipes, sleepers & milk. An ice bag for you, a quiet place for the 3 of you to sit and cuddle & sleep whenever you can. __________________ Jeanie I am @ the Lake Jackson, Maggie, Sunshine, Bailey, Rocky, Emmie & Jack Last edited by YorkieMom55; 10-03-2007 at 05:54 PM.

10-03-2007, 05:18 PM	#2
autumn star Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Long Island Posts: 6,095	Don't freak out, truth is if we all waited until we were financially fit we would never have kids. There is always something. Its like a vicious cycle. The amazing part is that everything always seems to fall into place and work out just fine. Wait until you have both of your baby showers and see what you get and then go from there. You might find that you get double of things that you can bring back and use the $ for something you really need or want. When I had my first child 8 yrs ago I was just like you freaking out about $ and all turned out just fine. Good luck!

10-03-2007, 05:22 PM	#3
tjdmom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: upstate ny Posts: 5,847	Having been there twice, I can promise you that it will work out. Things will fall into place just perfectly, you'll see. Just try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy. You'll get most of what you need from your shower and there are so many things that you might want but will hardly use at all. For instance, my portable playpen is still like new after 2 kids. I don't think I used it more than a dozen times between the 2 of them. You need a crib, which you have. You'll need diapers and bottles and clothes but you'll get more than enough of those at your shower I'm sure. You absolutely must have a car seat and probably a stroller but really beyond that, I can't think of anything else that you absolutely have to have. So try not to stress and just enjoy thinking about your new little girl growing inside your belly because the time will go by so quickly and things will work out perfectly.

10-03-2007, 05:52 PM	#9
Little Bit Tiny Dog Big Heart Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Texas Posts: 6,205	Ditto what they said!! Just relax and enjoy it. Everything will be fine! You will probably get everything you need at your two showers. After that it will just be gradually that you need more things, nothing major. You will be an amazing MOM!! __________________ Little Bit

10-03-2007, 05:55 PM	#10
mistyinca No Longer a Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: USA Posts: 4,143 Blog Entries: 2	You'll be fine, Shana. When they're newborns, they can sleep just about anywhere. WE never actually used our crib for a long time. Plus lots of baby stuff can be got at yard sales and stuff for cheap. You'll probably do well at the shower too! Don't know if you're planning to bottle or breast feed, but breastfeeding is FREE!

10-03-2007, 06:26 PM	#13
char7 Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 778	Relax......enjoy your pregnancy. Everything will work out just fine. I've done it 5 times and things always seem to fall in place. You got alot of good advice on the main things you'll need and also about waiting until after your showers to see if there's anything that you absolutely need. Most will be given to you at your showers and then you will just have to add things slowly. Once you master changing a diaper, which won't take long, you'll be able to do it with your eyes closed

10-03-2007, 06:27 PM	#14
Jenn218 Mojo, LilyGrace & Me Donating Member Moderator Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: cuddling with my babies<3 Posts: 17,329	I agree with everyone!! Also, there should be plenty of baby consignment stores that sell furniture really reasonable.....shoot, they are only used what a few months?? You will be okay, it will all be okay.....everything will fall into place! Don't worry at all! Never changed a diaper huh? I think that just comes naturally once that baby is there....like so much other stuff. I think there use to be classes you could take - not just lamaze, but a prep class on just about everything, including CPR...that might be something to check into in your area. __________________ Hi I'm Jenn Mom to..... Mojo,LilyGrace & DD Kate RIP Mojo FOREVER in our hearts!

10-03-2007, 06:30 PM	#15
chloeandj Tinkerbell, My Little Flutterpup Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Beautiful California! Posts: 6,112	As everyone else said, you will be fine! You will be amazed at the things you get at your baby showers will keep you stocked through their 1st and maybe even 2nd birthdays. But just remember this. Babies only NEED two things...food and diapers Hopefully you can provide the food free of charge. And for the diapers...I had a themed baby shower for my second son, where we asked people to bring baby care items, such as diapers/wipes/and other such things. I was stocked for a loooong time. I hope you're feeling well! Last edited by chloeandj; 10-03-2007 at 06:33 PM.