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J_is_my_initial · 09-12-2007, 08:16 AM

My son in law. My dtr has been married since Dec 2005. She was 19 when she got married. Last week her hubby announced he wanted a divorce. Admits he has been cheating on her. This comes right after they signed for a new used car mostly using her credit. Said she never let him spend his money like he wanted to that her paycheck should have gone for the household accts not his. THis is the way his mom and step dad handles theirs apparently. In fact when they went shopping for their car, his mom went with them so she could supply the down payment (which wasnice of her) and sd that since he would be main driver then he should pick what he wanted not what she wanted. He wanted a sporty model, she wanted a family car cause they were talking kids.

He had us all fooled into thinking he was a great guy. I want to have a "talk" with him and his mom but no one will let me.
Sorry so long needed to vent.

J_is_my_initial · 09-12-2007, 08:17 AM

Just found out too that he took money out of their acct and over drew on it. She worked hard to build her credit up and now this. ARGH!

zoeybear · 09-12-2007, 08:29 AM

I feel for her, and for you. You must be so frustrated. Thankfully she is still young and doesn't have any children with him. He sounds like he is still attached to the umbilical cord.

Yorkie3 · 09-12-2007, 08:32 AM

Thank goodness she found out all this about him BEFORE they had kids. As bad as you want to, you've got to stay out of it. Heaven forbid something happens that they get back together. Every negative thing you would/will say will get back to him, then you'd really have a mess.

genie · 09-12-2007, 08:36 AM

I know that she is probably hurt right now, but I think that this is the best thing that could have happened to her. If he had not come foward with this then she would still be living in a marriage with a man who cheats and allows his family to run the marriage. I was in her shoes once but it finally took me 12 years to wise up and get out, if my husband at that time had "done it for me", it would have saved me years of unhappiness and what I feel sometimes to have been what should have been some of the best years of my life wasted.

Yorkiekids · 09-12-2007, 08:39 AM

It's a mom's right to talk to whoever she choses. My daughter gets really upset with me when I talk to her boyfriend, but I do whenever I think he needs a talking too. She get's over her madness and life goes on. Nobody hurts my baby and gets away with it.

labrown · 09-12-2007, 08:42 AM

Girl needs to get a lawyer!

J_is_my_initial · 09-12-2007, 08:45 AM

I am trying to stay out of it though I really want to kick his behind. She is my only child and to have someone hurt her that way is killing me.

We have told her to ck out a lawyer even though they are being civil. My take on the situation is make him pay! He dad made sure he was there when he came by last night.

By the way I said make sure she keeps the dogs. A doxie and a yorkie. When he cam by to get the rest of his stuff last night she would not even let him see Gremlin (the yorkie).

daisy mae06 · 09-12-2007, 08:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Yorkie3

Thank goodness she found out all this about him BEFORE they had kids. As bad as you want to, you've got to stay out of it. Heaven forbid something happens that they get back together. Every negative thing you would/will say will get back to him, then you'd really have a mess.

Great post

so sorry you and her have to though all this but as said be happy no kids are involved.

Stella's mom · 09-12-2007, 08:47 AM

I know this is tough, sometimes we don't see the clear picture until it's too late. My daughter was married 18 months, not sure he cheated but from day one but I do think he cheated emotionally. After the honeymoon it was money, you pay this, get a better paying job etc. I thank the good Lord daily they divorced before bringing children into the mess. By the way, he remarried shortly after and had a child (family had money) they had a terrible relationship and I'm almost sure he signed over custody of his child for a downpayment on a house.

My husband brought this home one day and it has a permanent place on my frig. "It's better to want what you don't have than have what you don't won't" Good luck to your daughter, just be supportive but don't bash him because sometimes it has an opposite effect.

Betty'sMom · 09-12-2007, 08:47 AM

I'm sorry all that happened, but better now than later. She can get rid of him before he does worse damage. I know you feel like scratching his eyes out and that's pretty normal at a time like this. I hope when it's over and done and time passes that you will both be glad it's over and think "Good Riddance".

Momof7 · 09-12-2007, 09:06 AM

Wow!!!! What a jerk. Hope they don't get back together. Tell your daughter this..."When someone shows you who they are...BELIEVE THEM!"

IluvLucy · 09-12-2007, 09:15 AM

It's so hard to stay out of the situation when your daughter is in pain, but it's the right thing to do. I'd help her and make sure she's taken care of, but I think I'd stay away from him.

But if he ever raises his hand to her...............all bets would be OFF!

txshopper73 · 09-12-2007, 09:23 AM

So sorry that this is happening to your family. Karma can be a bit** and I'm a firm believer that he'll get his in the end.

Lexi Rae · 09-12-2007, 09:25 AM

ive been through it and to me , it was just like a death.. its a horrible feeling.
just stand by her and comfort her because she is going to need you more
than ever... thank god i had my family when i was
going through it.. its devestating.... make sure your on top of her everyday,
its very important.. she will be hurting now, but in a few months, she will
be just fine and she will have the best life

09-12-2007, 08:16 AM	#1
J_is_my_initial YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Knoxville,Tennessee Posts: 3,073	Want to kill someone.... My son in law. My dtr has been married since Dec 2005. She was 19 when she got married. Last week her hubby announced he wanted a divorce. Admits he has been cheating on her. This comes right after they signed for a new used car mostly using her credit. Said she never let him spend his money like he wanted to that her paycheck should have gone for the household accts not his. THis is the way his mom and step dad handles theirs apparently. In fact when they went shopping for their car, his mom went with them so she could supply the down payment (which wasnice of her) and sd that since he would be main driver then he should pick what he wanted not what she wanted. He wanted a sporty model, she wanted a family car cause they were talking kids. He had us all fooled into thinking he was a great guy. I want to have a "talk" with him and his mom but no one will let me. Sorry so long needed to vent. __________________ PAWPRINTS AND DOG HAIR ENHANCE MY PERSONAL STYLE.

09-12-2007, 08:17 AM	#2
J_is_my_initial YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Knoxville,Tennessee Posts: 3,073	Just found out too that he took money out of their acct and over drew on it. She worked hard to build her credit up and now this. ARGH! __________________ PAWPRINTS AND DOG HAIR ENHANCE MY PERSONAL STYLE.

09-12-2007, 08:29 AM	#3
zoeybear Misssing Baby Chloe Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: California Posts: 4,186	I feel for her, and for you. You must be so frustrated. Thankfully she is still young and doesn't have any children with him. He sounds like he is still attached to the umbilical cord. __________________ We give dogs time we can spare, space we can spare and love we can spare. And in return, dogs give us their all. It's the best deal man has ever made. -M. Acklam

09-12-2007, 08:32 AM	#4
Yorkie3 Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 4,685	Thank goodness she found out all this about him BEFORE they had kids. As bad as you want to, you've got to stay out of it. Heaven forbid something happens that they get back together. Every negative thing you would/will say will get back to him, then you'd really have a mess. __________________ Janet

09-12-2007, 08:39 AM	#6
Yorkiekids Piper & Sebastian Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: florida Posts: 14,495	It's a mom's right to talk to whoever she choses. My daughter gets really upset with me when I talk to her boyfriend, but I do whenever I think he needs a talking too. She get's over her madness and life goes on. Nobody hurts my baby and gets away with it. __________________ Susan, Piper ,Harley & Suiki

09-12-2007, 08:36 AM	#5
genie Loves Hannah & Gracie Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: washington Posts: 1,752	I know that she is probably hurt right now, but I think that this is the best thing that could have happened to her. If he had not come foward with this then she would still be living in a marriage with a man who cheats and allows his family to run the marriage. I was in her shoes once but it finally took me 12 years to wise up and get out, if my husband at that time had "done it for me", it would have saved me years of unhappiness and what I feel sometimes to have been what should have been some of the best years of my life wasted.

09-12-2007, 08:42 AM	#7
labrown T&T-DYNOMITE! Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 2,111	Girl needs to get a lawyer! __________________ TBone Tina & Lauren

09-12-2007, 08:45 AM	#8
J_is_my_initial YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Knoxville,Tennessee Posts: 3,073	I am trying to stay out of it though I really want to kick his behind. She is my only child and to have someone hurt her that way is killing me. We have told her to ck out a lawyer even though they are being civil. My take on the situation is make him pay! He dad made sure he was there when he came by last night. By the way I said make sure she keeps the dogs. A doxie and a yorkie. When he cam by to get the rest of his stuff last night she would not even let him see Gremlin (the yorkie). __________________ PAWPRINTS AND DOG HAIR ENHANCE MY PERSONAL STYLE.

09-12-2007, 08:47 AM	#10
Stella's mom YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: North Carolina Posts: 1,090	I know this is tough, sometimes we don't see the clear picture until it's too late. My daughter was married 18 months, not sure he cheated but from day one but I do think he cheated emotionally. After the honeymoon it was money, you pay this, get a better paying job etc. I thank the good Lord daily they divorced before bringing children into the mess. By the way, he remarried shortly after and had a child (family had money) they had a terrible relationship and I'm almost sure he signed over custody of his child for a downpayment on a house. My husband brought this home one day and it has a permanent place on my frig. "It's better to want what you don't have than have what you don't won't" Good luck to your daughter, just be supportive but don't bash him because sometimes it has an opposite effect.

09-12-2007, 08:47 AM	#11
Betty'sMom Donating YT Addict Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 6,234	I'm sorry all that happened, but better now than later. She can get rid of him before he does worse damage. I know you feel like scratching his eyes out and that's pretty normal at a time like this. I hope when it's over and done and time passes that you will both be glad it's over and think "Good Riddance". __________________ Jeanne: Mom to Betty & Juju Bean

09-12-2007, 09:06 AM	#12
Momof7 YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: USA Posts: 8	Wow!!!! What a jerk. Hope they don't get back together. Tell your daughter this..."When someone shows you who they are...BELIEVE THEM!"

09-12-2007, 09:15 AM	#13
IluvLucy Lovin' Lucy & Rebel Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Georgia Posts: 4,438	It's so hard to stay out of the situation when your daughter is in pain, but it's the right thing to do. I'd help her and make sure she's taken care of, but I think I'd stay away from him. But if he ever raises his hand to her...............all bets would be OFF! __________________ Kim , Rebel ,and baby Dixie RIP my sweet Lucy

09-12-2007, 09:23 AM	#14
txshopper73 Donating YT 14K Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 14,226 Blog Entries: 1	So sorry that this is happening to your family. Karma can be a bit and I'm a firm believer that he'll get his in the end. __________________ As always...JMO (Just My Opinion) Kimberley**

09-12-2007, 09:25 AM	#15
Lexi Rae Gina, (Lexi's Mommy) Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: LONG ISLAND,NY Posts: 10,455	ive been through it and to me , it was just like a death.. its a horrible feeling. just stand by her and comfort her because she is going to need you more than ever... thank god i had my family when i was going through it.. its devestating.... make sure your on top of her everyday, its very important.. she will be hurting now, but in a few months, she will be just fine and she will have the best life __________________ Gina & Lexi CLICK HERE for our Photo Album ...