Okay I just need to vent ~ Sorry!

[sims822257]

Okay so this may be a surprise for some of you but My hubby and I have been trying to get pregnany since Christmas and so far no luck.

I am finally just going to vent to you guys about it because I am getting so frustrated. I do not want to tell any one here like firends or family because I do not want to hear "ARE YOU PREGNANT YET" a million times.

I am just so fristrated because I am having such irregular or actually basically NO periods so it is kind of hard to determine when I am ovulating when I can not even have a period.

Any way....I am going into the Doctors the first week in August to talk about why my body is not having any periods but I have a feeling they are going to want to put me on fertility medicine because I have always had menstration problems. I just did not think it woud be this hard and now I am starting to get stressed about it because I really thought it would just happen - any who...sorry to spill the beans and vent but I am just bothered by it all.

[TammyJM]

Hello!

Did you know that it takes, on average, 6-12 months for a healthy couple to get pregnant?? Of course it can happen sooner and longer than that, but that is just an average. I am sure it is stressful, but stress is one of the biggest causes of NOT getting pregnant. They actually say if you are at the point where you are so stressed about not getting pregnant, take a trip...have fun, relax, TRY to get your mind off of it and just let nature take its course. I know, easier said than done. I will send you lots and lots of baby dust.....

Tammy

[stephluvsangel6]

you know i culdnt get pregant but not for awhile i was actually just looking to get pregant and the doctor had me take my temp every morning before i did my morning potty with a basil thermometer, i think its a basil and write it down every day and that will help to tell you when you ovulate and then i came to find out they thought i wasnt ovulating and so they put me on clomid prescriptiona dn you take it the first few days of your perios i think but dont quote me and then my period never came so the doctor said we lets blood test you so i went in for my test and i was all ready pregant bam
so that explained the thermometer not showing ovulation and no period but all we did was relax, we quit thinking about is this the time im going to get pregant, is this the time its gonna happen, and we just did to do it you guys sorry if its to ewwwww for ya
and then thats when it happened

so then i went in for my first pap and the doctor said wow youa re measuring 12 and you should be at a 9 so he said we lets ultrasound and see whats in there and then he got quiet and he said oh look you are having twins, i was like what the ......... and i had been mad at my hubby that day and mean to him and all that just went away i was like awwwww

just relax, it takes a while especially if you have been on any birth control

dont think about, my mother in law would say its all in the love

so just have love, and make love, and not think aboutbeing pregannt

but ill keep your wants in my prayers for a bounding bundle of joy

[Bizzymammabee]

Originally Posted by sims822257

Okay so this may be a surprise for some of you but My hubby and I have been trying to get pregnany since Christmas and so far no luck.

I am finally just going to vent to you guys about it because I am getting so frustrated. I do not want to tell any one here like firends or family because I do not want to hear "ARE YOU PREGNANT YET" a million times.

I am just so fristrated because I am having such irregular or actually basically NO periods so it is kind of hard to determine when I am ovulating when I can not even have a period.

Any way....I am going into the Doctors the first week in August to talk about why my body is not having any periods but I have a feeling they are going to want to put me on fertility medicine because I have always had menstration problems. I just did not think it woud be this hard and now I am starting to get stressed about it because I really thought it would just happen - any who...sorry to spill the beans and vent but I am just bothered by it all.

Big hugs to you honey I was there twice. It took four years of trying to get pregnant the first time. The second time too one damn try and the third took two and a half years.

I understand your frustration at the question being asked. It's hard and makes you feel worse when you know you are trying and it's not happening yet.

What helped me was the Dr. put me on BC pills to regulate my cycle. Then as soon as I stopped taking them (3 months) I got pregnant. I have always had irregular cycles (never a specified amount of days but always got it every month) so it made it a bit hard to figure out when I would conceive.

Also remember it might be a combined problem...sometimes them boys are lazy swimmers

Been there and one all of this other than the fertility drugs. So if you need to chat you can pm me and we can talk.

Big hugs. Keep your chin up. I now have 3 kids.

[Nikki+2]

Hugs Caren! I bet the Dr. helps you get you cylce in order and lickety split- your preggers!

[OLIVIA_KARHIS]

oh I know how you feel! I have REALLY bad menstruation problems...I have gone any where from 3 to 6 months with out my "friend".

Well when my hubby and I where dating.... We never really used anything to not get me preg. but maybe the 1st few times we "made love". yeah yeah I know... Bad girl.

Well we where married for almost two yrs (We where together 4 or 5 yrs total) before I found out a I was preg. I found out about 2 or 3 weeks before my APT to my OBGYN BC we where kind of trying but everything we did on are own, failed...SO we just didnt really think about it for a while or TRY(we still did you know what...but where not I guess thinking about me getting preg.)...and I made a APT with a OBGYN at the end of Nov last year and didnt think anything else about it... so on thanksgiving we went to my hubbies boss house for dinner and one of his little girls made a comment to me about being preg. Oh ofcorse I was like no and kind of blew it off...well when I got home.. I took a test. Yeah the little brat was right! (You know kids are always RIGHT about these things!!) I was preg!

I was soo Excited and Kind of caught off guard lol

So, Just relax and dont stress out about it... and it will happen. I know it sounds easier then to do but the more you stress about it...the more its just not going to happen.

Also you dont want to get sick of having "you know what" and make it a chore. Then it really wont be any fun trying.

Keep your chin up and it will happen when you least expect it... It Always dose

[patty58]

My dil was having the same problems you are. When the dr. finally got her periods restarted and put her on clomid of something it worked. We have a little boy due in Sept. I know it's easy to say relax but try it anyway. Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers for a positive test soon. patty

[MissSophie]

You are not alone. I have worked with hundreds of couples in the same situation. There is so much pain. I work in Nebraska for an adoption agency, and I see so many couples who deal with infertility. Some have an explanation, and others do not. I hope that you find peace in whatever happens. People who do not understand infertility say some very hurtful things, and often it is your family and friends who really only want to see you happy. Don't be afraid to share with them that you are hurting. Best of luck to you.

[IluvLucy]

Originally Posted by MissSophie

You are not alone. I have worked with hundreds of couples in the same situation. There is so much pain. I work in Nebraska for an adoption agency, and I see so many couples who deal with infertility. Some have an explanation, and others do not. I hope that you find peace in whatever happens. People who do not understand infertility say some very hurtful things, and often it is your family and friends who really only want to see you happy. Don't be afraid to share with them that you are hurting. Best of luck to you.

What a thoughtful post!

My son and DIL have been trying for 10 years. (They started from the day they got married) They are about to make an appt with a fertility specialist.
We know my DIL has poly cystic ovaries and endometriosis. She's had surgery for the endometriosis twice in the past.

I know how much they hurt from not being able to conceive and posts like yours make me feel so much better for them.

I keep my mouth shut about their situation, but her family gives them grief constantly. I told them do what they feel they need to do and if they need $$ to help out with the fertility specialist to let me know and I'll do all I can.

[judyeve]

There was a similar situation on Dr. Phil yesterday. The doctor told the couple who were having the same problem exactly what as lot of the girls here said. The stress alone can be poreventing it.

She suggested that they only have "lets make a baby" hanky panky when she was ovulating. All the rest of the time, have just good, passionate, "for the fun of it" sex.

You can go onto DrPhil.com to find out what else she said.

Good luck. You'll get pregnant. It took my daughter about 1 year of trying, running to doctors, etc. for the second one. She gave birth to him and 6 weeks later, got (accidentally) pregnant with the 3rd!

[tjdmom]

I understand how you feel because I have also been there. I got pregnant the 1st time right away but tried for almost 5 years before getting pregnant with my second child. (my boys are 9 years apart and we started trying when my oldest was 4) I too used clomid but I know how painful it can be especially when you see someone get pregnant who probably shouldn't be a parent at all or worse yet, doesn't want to be a parent at all. I hope things work out for you - I think some day you will look back on this and things will have worked out exactly how they are supposed to and you will have a beautiful perfect child to love. Theresa

[TootiesMom]

Bless you in this tough time.... may things get easier for you....
good luck!
sorry I have no advice but just wish you luck!
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[RLC12345678]

Hey Caren! I thought FOR SURE your vacation would do the trick! I hate to read this post and read that you are sad. I really don't know what to say since I haven't been there. Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking about you and keeping you and Chris in my prayers! XOXO

[paulapoo]

I just wanted to share this with you. My sister always had irregular periods, she tried for 9 months to get pregnant. She went to the doc, was diagnosed with polycystic ovaries, they put her on Clomid. I have a beautiful nephew who's almost 8 and a gorgeous 5 year old neice. I'm not suggesting this is your situation, just wanted to share a success story to boost your spirits. Good luck to you.

[sims822257]

OH my gosh ... you are all so lovely and wonderful.....this is exactly why i love this forum and all of you.

Thank you for listening to me whine and being the voice of compasion and reason. You are all so kind and I love how everyone is there to pick me up when i am blue.