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tonyismybabyboy · 03-07-2007, 11:38 AM

Dan and I have been together 3 yrs, we have an apt together, 2 puppies, and 2 kitties. He broke up with me almost 2 weeks ago and I am tired of jumping through hoops for him. My parents are coming out tonight with my bed. OMG I am so scared that I have done the wrong thing.

About a year ago I found out that he cheated on me a couple of times and found out that when I was on vacation, he brought the girl he cheated on me with to our new apartment to help move the furniture in. This I had to find out from her.
It is just so hard because we are still on the lease together until July 31st. I have no girlfriends out here to fall back on and am driving myself nuts without a thing to do.

LuvMySissy · 03-07-2007, 11:42 AM

I am sorry for your break-up, but it sounds as if you've been selling yourself very short being with him.

Not to make light of your situation/feelings, but just spend more time on YT and get that post count up!! There are lots of folks here who will support you and listen to what you have to say....

Morkie4 · 03-07-2007, 11:57 AM

Well, if he's cheated once, their would without a doubt be more times;

so it is good that he is no longer a part of your life!!!

Lonely? Come visit here; there is always someone here to talk with.

bornnygurl · 03-07-2007, 12:06 PM

Sorry, I know you don't know me but I just wanted to say that: he looks better gone. Cheating is a very, very hard habit to break and there is no guarantee that he didn't cheat on you again or would've cheated on you again in the future. He also should have met you half way. You should never feel as if your jumping through hoops just to maintain a relationship.

marcerella02 · 03-07-2007, 12:08 PM

sending a hug.. been there... last june my ex bf broke up with me for no reason.. we too had been together for 3 years... and by september he had a new gf... while he never cheated on me.. the pain was still there... i feel for you!! pm me if you need to talk

LunasMomma · 03-07-2007, 12:12 PM

I'm sorry, I know you're hurting right now

BUT----You deserve better and it's HIS loss

So he can go inflict his games and hurt on someone else, and you're moving on and UP

Potter · 03-07-2007, 12:19 PM

Sending a *hug* to you. I hope you will feel better soon. He is better gone.

lolabella · 03-07-2007, 12:56 PM

I am sorry you are going through this. Nobody deserves to be cheated on, and I know from experience that it is one of the most difficult things to deal with.
But, you know what, he is clearly not worth any of your trouble. When the right guy comes along, and he will, you will not have to jump through any hoops for him. Maybe you'll jump through hoops with him to work on your relationship, but not for him.
If you feel like talking feel free to PM me. It sucks not to have someone to eat ice cream with and spill all your pain after a break up.
Hugs.

lisatodd · 03-07-2007, 01:15 PM

what do you mean...you are scared you are doing the wrong thing?...you are doing nothing wrong.
i am so sorry. i know it hurts so much. believe me, this pain will heal. for now you just have to think about yourself. you are a free woman. get dressed up and go out.
i remember my last break up that hurt so much i lost 20 lbs. i was a skinny booger. but as time goes on, you will meet someone else.
good luck to you.
we love you

yorkiepip · 03-07-2007, 01:29 PM

You are definately better off without someone like that in your life! You are a pretty girl and there is someone out there to treat you right..you are worth more than than this prat and dont you forget it xx

dobiedude · 03-07-2007, 01:58 PM

Well I am a super hero and we can always talk you know! Who knows I may get in my jet and fly over and kick his big bahookie!

tonyismybabyboy · 03-07-2007, 02:02 PM

Thanks for being so supportive. I am really hoping that things will be ok. I totally lost myself in this relationship. I broke it off with my ex the same day I started dating Dan. I brought all of the bad stuff from my last one into this one, took it all out on him, and screwed myself.
I shouldn't have taken him back after I found out he cheated on me.

Hindsight 20/20
We have Spring Break next week and I am going shopping in the city with one of my girlfriends. It'll be good to get out.

YorkieRose · 03-07-2007, 02:07 PM

Lucky you...I bet this relationship has taught you so many things about what you want in life..now you are free to find it. Be excited about the future, I am sure wonderful things are waiting for you, go find your happiness...
Best wishes

Yorkiedaze · 03-07-2007, 02:11 PM

The first few hours and days of any breakup always poses questions like did I do everything I could to hold things together, where did I go wrong, what am I going to do now and so forth. The question anyone needs to ask themselves before or even after a commitment is this.........Can I live the rest of my life like this and with this person. If the answer is no, then get out of it. I know how your feeling. Been there. Sounds like you have a great support system in your parents. Your lucky. Maybe you could take some night classes and pick up a part time job during the day. It's a way of meeting people, making extra money and getting ahead. Good luck with whatever you do.

AngelWorks · 03-07-2007, 02:15 PM

I had 20 years invested. I didn't find out he was cheating until after he left.

Very long story short...

I wouldn't trade a step of the pain and confusion of the early aftermath. I learned so much about myself and how I had completely lost myself in that relationship.

I put in some serious me time and on the other side, found a man who appreciates me as much as I do him.

If I had to go through that mess to get here---I'd do it again.

Learn how to be good to you and you will attract people who will do the same.

Good luck and stay strong.

03-07-2007, 11:38 AM	#1
tonyismybabyboy BANNED! Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: DeKalb, IL Posts: 173	It's finally over. Dan and I have been together 3 yrs, we have an apt together, 2 puppies, and 2 kitties. He broke up with me almost 2 weeks ago and I am tired of jumping through hoops for him. My parents are coming out tonight with my bed. OMG I am so scared that I have done the wrong thing. About a year ago I found out that he cheated on me a couple of times and found out that when I was on vacation, he brought the girl he cheated on me with to our new apartment to help move the furniture in. This I had to find out from her. It is just so hard because we are still on the lease together until July 31st. I have no girlfriends out here to fall back on and am driving myself nuts without a thing to do.

03-07-2007, 11:42 AM	#2
LuvMySissy Luv my Angel, too! Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: USA Posts: 9,333	I am sorry for your break-up, but it sounds as if you've been selling yourself very short being with him. Not to make light of your situation/feelings, but just spend more time on YT and get that post count up!! There are lots of folks here who will support you and listen to what you have to say.... __________________ Sissy & Angel

03-07-2007, 11:57 AM	#3
Morkie4 Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Florida Posts: 4,549	Well, if he's cheated once, their would without a doubt be more times; so it is good that he is no longer a part of your life!!! Lonely? Come visit here; there is always someone here to talk with. __________________ CAROL ~ Krissie ~ Toby ~ Brandy ~ Buffy Proud member of Maltesetalk and Yorkietalk

03-07-2007, 12:08 PM	#5
marcerella02 Loved by Layla Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 11,257	sending a hug.. been there... last june my ex bf broke up with me for no reason.. we too had been together for 3 years... and by september he had a new gf... while he never cheated on me.. the pain was still there... i feel for you!! pm me if you need to talk __________________ http://misscanam.blogspot.com/ Layla 's Simon

03-07-2007, 12:12 PM	#6
LunasMomma Izzy's Momma Too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Stuart, Florida Posts: 8,799	I'm sorry, I know you're hurting right now BUT----You deserve better and it's HIS loss So he can go inflict his games and hurt on someone else, and you're moving on and UP __________________ Tracy, Mom to Izzy and Luna

03-07-2007, 12:06 PM	#4
bornnygurl No Longer a Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 1,470	Sorry, I know you don't know me but I just wanted to say that: he looks better gone. Cheating is a very, very hard habit to break and there is no guarantee that he didn't cheat on you again or would've cheated on you again in the future. He also should have met you half way. You should never feel as if your jumping through hoops just to maintain a relationship.

03-07-2007, 12:19 PM	#7
Potter YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 2,583	Sending a hug to you. I hope you will feel better soon. He is better gone. __________________ http://www.dogster.com/pet_page.php?j=t&i=410379 "No matter how little money and how few possesions you own, having a dog makes you rich."

03-07-2007, 12:56 PM	#8
lolabella Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: . Posts: 493	I am sorry you are going through this. Nobody deserves to be cheated on, and I know from experience that it is one of the most difficult things to deal with. But, you know what, he is clearly not worth any of your trouble. When the right guy comes along, and he will, you will not have to jump through any hoops for him. Maybe you'll jump through hoops with him to work on your relationship, but not for him. If you feel like talking feel free to PM me. It sucks not to have someone to eat ice cream with and spill all your pain after a break up. Hugs. __________________

03-07-2007, 01:15 PM	#9
lisatodd Little Boogers Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: virginia beach, va Posts: 4,460	what do you mean...you are scared you are doing the wrong thing?...you are doing nothing wrong. i am so sorry. i know it hurts so much. believe me, this pain will heal. for now you just have to think about yourself. you are a free woman. get dressed up and go out. i remember my last break up that hurt so much i lost 20 lbs. i was a skinny booger. but as time goes on, you will meet someone else. good luck to you. we love you __________________ lisa lisa and the cult jam yorkies

03-07-2007, 01:29 PM	#10
yorkiepip Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Brittany France Posts: 2,420	You are definately better off without someone like that in your life! You are a pretty girl and there is someone out there to treat you right..you are worth more than than this prat and dont you forget it xx __________________ Anne, Pippa, Jake Woody

03-07-2007, 01:58 PM	#11
dobiedude Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Magnolia Posts: 843	Well I am a super hero and we can always talk you know! Who knows I may get in my jet and fly over and kick his big bahookie! __________________ and that is MR. PRETENTIOUS TO YOU !!!! Self Proclaimed Super Hero of YorkieTalk Avatar & signature created by Gypsy & Me

03-07-2007, 02:02 PM	#12
tonyismybabyboy BANNED! Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: DeKalb, IL Posts: 173	Thanks for being so supportive. I am really hoping that things will be ok. I totally lost myself in this relationship. I broke it off with my ex the same day I started dating Dan. I brought all of the bad stuff from my last one into this one, took it all out on him, and screwed myself. I shouldn't have taken him back after I found out he cheated on me. Hindsight 20/20 We have Spring Break next week and I am going shopping in the city with one of my girlfriends. It'll be good to get out.

03-07-2007, 02:07 PM	#13
YorkieRose No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: South Florida Posts: 8,577	Lucky you...I bet this relationship has taught you so many things about what you want in life..now you are free to find it. Be excited about the future, I am sure wonderful things are waiting for you, go find your happiness... Best wishes

03-07-2007, 02:11 PM	#14
Yorkiedaze My hairy-legged girls Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: lompoc, ca. Posts: 12,228	The first few hours and days of any breakup always poses questions like did I do everything I could to hold things together, where did I go wrong, what am I going to do now and so forth. The question anyone needs to ask themselves before or even after a commitment is this.........Can I live the rest of my life like this and with this person. If the answer is no, then get out of it. I know how your feeling. Been there. Sounds like you have a great support system in your parents. Your lucky. Maybe you could take some night classes and pick up a part time job during the day. It's a way of meeting people, making extra money and getting ahead. Good luck with whatever you do.

03-07-2007, 02:15 PM	#15
AngelWorks Donating YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: NY Posts: 1,752	I had 20 years invested. I didn't find out he was cheating until after he left. Very long story short... I wouldn't trade a step of the pain and confusion of the early aftermath. I learned so much about myself and how I had completely lost myself in that relationship. I put in some serious me time and on the other side, found a man who appreciates me as much as I do him. If I had to go through that mess to get here---I'd do it again. Learn how to be good to you and you will attract people who will do the same. Good luck and stay strong.