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DENISE517 · 02-01-2007, 08:07 AM

Ok...First let me say my first child Lauryn was potty trained 1 week after her 2 year old birthday. Lexi my second child is a completely different story...oh my gosh...where do I start.. She is soo frigin cute but sooo dang head strong. She is her own little person. (lol)

I started potty training her right after her 2nd birthday. Used panties instead of pull ups. She went in them for weeks daily and never in the potty. She got to the point where she was holding it and it gave her an urinary track infection. She held her poo so long that we ended up taking her to the doctor and she had to have meds to go. Well doctor told us just to hold off and that she wasnt ready and to try again after Christmas. (remind you she will be 3 in July) Well I started on Sat. She did great!!!! Sunday screamed and cried and would not use the potty. Mon. did great!!! Tues, Wed, Thurs. Wont potty screams and cries when I have her sit on it. I know they say to never force it so I don't. But now what do I do..

We try to make it fun for her. When she is sitting on the potty I read books, play with playdough, do puzzles, etc. If she tries she gets a sticker and gets to put it on her board I have up in the bathroom. If she potties, she gets a big dora sticker (which she loves ) and a quarter to put in her piggy bank. (she is obsessed with her bank and loves putting money in it) plus I do the this crazy pee pee dance and act silly when she goes and tell her how proud of her we are. When she goes in her pants I don't punish her, I just say....Lexi, You are to pee pee in the potty like a big girls. Its stinky when you pee pee in your panties. She just says.."Sorry Momma" and does it again and again. I don't understand. She was doing so good. I'm at my whits end.. Any suggestions for a very head strong child...lol

Brutus'mama · 02-01-2007, 08:17 AM

A friend of mine used these methods and told me they worked.
http://www.adoptmed.org/topics/toile...ng-guides.html

My son was 3 1/2 when he was finally trained. My daughter was 26 months. I hated potty training!

Good luck!

Daisy23 · 02-01-2007, 08:30 AM

My cousin used special toys when he went. he was pottytrained by 2 1/2. She would by little things, like books, cars, and he would have the potty basket. If he went he got to take something out of the basket. I had to get a basket at my house and he would ask to come to my house and go potty because I had the good prizes. She never gave him candy and sometimes he would get some m&m's or somethng like that. it worked for her.

Good Luck!

LunasMomma · 02-01-2007, 08:31 AM

Ugh, it's so frustrating! She'll do it when she's ready and sometimes the more you keep trying, the more stubborn they become. My nephew was almost FOUR and wasn't trained, but he kept begging to go to "school" like his little friend down the street. WELL, my sis told him that only big boys can go to school, and to be a big boy, he'd have to use the potty and not his pants. It was only a matter of days before he was "trained"

You'll hit on what works, and will probably be by accident

In the meantime, don't be so hard on yourself and just let her wear her pull ups. But when she wants to do something that big girls get to do, she'll have to miss out cuz she's not a "big girl" yet

RRC · 02-01-2007, 08:50 AM

No one puts "Potty trained at age 18 months" on a resume! It isn't a reflection on how good a mother is for a child to potty train early. She'll do it in time.

MissLola · 02-01-2007, 09:20 AM

My daughter, Ava, sounds a lot like yours in the potty training area. She is about the same age (she'll be 3 at the end of June). We tried everything you have - using panties instead of pull-ups (she goes in pull-ups just like diapers), using stickers, doing fun things while she's on her potty, etc. What finally seems to be working, and a lot of people may not agree with this, is a little treat every time she goes. She calls it "potty candy".

We keep a little dish of candy corns or those little conversation hearts on the bathroom counter, and when she successfully goes potty she gets one, and we also make a big deal out of it by clapping and jumping around and telling her she did a good job. Sometimes she gets so caught up in the after-potty excitement that she forgets about the candy.

She now will wear her panties all day and rarely has pee accidents. Poop is a different story, but she's finally getting the hang of that, too. She'll actually tell me now when she has to go, even if she's already started, instead of waiting till she makes a huge mess in her panties. She wears diapers only at night now and when we are running errands. Good luck! I know it's frustrating.

chloeandj · 02-01-2007, 11:14 AM

I firmly believe when they are not ready they are not ready and it just causes so much more work and frustration for the both of you. If it were me I would give her 6 months then try again. 6 months can add so much more to their maturity level. Each one will be different. Just because the first did so quickly does not mean that this one is ready at the same age. You can not compare the two or it will drive you nuts

DENISE517 · 02-01-2007, 11:29 AM

Thanks guys so much...I was feeling like a terrible mother and was feeling like it was my fault. I guess I was one of those people who use to say stuff when people didn't have there kids potty trained early.... Now it came back to smack me in the face....lol lol lol Live & Learn...lol

Lovin3Yorkies · 02-01-2007, 11:32 AM

Hi,

My daughter will be 3 tomorrow and some days she does good, some days I think she just gets lazy & messes on herself all day long, so I know how you are feeling now. My son, who will be 5 soon wasn't trained fully until he was almost 3 1/2 . The way I got him to go all the time was to promise him a "potty party" once he could prove to me he could & would go to the potty each time. Of course he still had the occasional accident, but a few weeks later we were able to have our party. He got to go pick out the invitations, decorations, and his cake. We had a small potty party here at my house for him. We had the grandparents over & a few friends and that was enough for him. He was so excited about getting a special party just for his accomplishment. Everyone also gave him a small present & he was thrilled.

Now I have told my daughter that when she gets 3 we will have to work harder at going potty so she can have her own potty party too.

Please don't laugh at the potty party idea. For my son it did work, hopefully I'll be planning one for my daughter soon too!

Good luck!

Pam

LunasMomma · 02-01-2007, 11:35 AM

Pam, that sounds like a FAB idea!!!!!

Awesome

DENISE517 · 02-01-2007, 11:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lovin3Yorkies

Hi,

My daughter will be 3 tomorrow and some days she does good, some days I think she just gets lazy & messes on herself all day long, so I know how you are feeling now. My son, who will be 5 soon wasn't trained fully until he was almost 3 1/2 . The way I got him to go all the time was to promise him a "potty party" once he could prove to me he could & would go to the potty each time. Of course he still had the occasional accident, but a few weeks later we were able to have our party. He got to go pick out the invitations, decorations, and his cake. We had a small potty party here at my house for him. We had the grandparents over & a few friends and that was enough for him. He was so excited about getting a special party just for his accomplishment. Everyone also gave him a small present & he was thrilled.

Now I have told my daughter that when she gets 3 we will have to work harder at going potty so she can have her own potty party too.

Please don't laugh at the potty party idea. For my son it did work, hopefully I'll be planning one for my daughter soon too!

Good luck!

Pam

I'm not laughing...I'd try anything...You should see our potty dance me, my hubby, and my 13 yr old do...Its tooo funny!!!

Lovin3Yorkies · 02-01-2007, 11:38 AM

You should have heard the responses I got when I invited people to a "potty party" The family thought I was crazy, but hey we have to do what works & bribe the kids somehow!

Pam

TatumsMom · 02-01-2007, 11:41 AM

Keep in mind that my girls are now 12 and 10 years old BUT I have to say I hated potty training more than anything I had to deal with. My first was 2 years and a month old when my second was born. You should have seen me and my big pregnant self sitting on the bathroom floor reading book after book after book while that kid just sat on the toilet! Her pediatrician finally told me to just wait until after the baby was born because more than likely, if she did get trained, she would probably regress after the birth. So, we forgot all about it. Then when she turned three, her dayschool teacher just out of the blue one evening told me to send her in panties the next day and to pack several changes of clothes. I was skeptical. Sure enough, that day she went through every one of those sets of clothes but the next day when she told me she didn't want to wear panties, I didn't give in. I don't remember her having a single accident after that day. I think she was more than ready (as did her teacher), she just didn't want to try. Turns out she didn't like being wet. Which is funny now because she's true tomboy who loves being dirty and wet!

I'm a firm believer in "changing the scenery" when doing something new. That's also how we got her to give up the bottle..... she went to my mom's for the weekend and no bottles were sent. They weren't there for her to beg for at bedtime so she didn't even bother. She came home completely bottle-broke! Are you a stay-at-home mom? If so, that could part of it. I don't know anything about being a stay-at-home but I'm sure the tactics are a bit different. Just having my daughter's teacher do the deed worked for us. Hope you find something that works soon. I'll tell you what everyone told me that always ticked me off but now I understand..... Chances of your kid going to kindergarten in a diaper are super slim! She'll get the hang of it soon. Sorry, I know I hated to hear that but it's true. It's just hard to be patient with it.

Oh, one thing I do feel strongly about is this "timeline" that other people think kids need to reach milestones by. Back when we were babies, those disposable diapers were fairly new and were nowhere near as absorbent as they are now. The babies back then could feel the wetness and didn't like it. I personally think that's why "back then" babies potty trained so early. The way they make disposable diapers now, why should the kid not want to wear them?? Think about it that way. I never used panties and those plastic panty covers but maybe that's worth a try. It surely couldn't feel as good as a nice absorbent diaper. Good luck!

DENISE517 · 02-01-2007, 12:05 PM

I'm not a stay -at - home mom. Was with my first child. Who is now 13. I work for a heating and cooling company and Lexi comes to work with me everyday. She runs the place...lol Its wonderful. She has tons of toys, her barbie jeep, big step2 play set and all kinds of toys here. So when I'm here I have to use pull ups because you just can't clean up the mess like you do at home, but then panties at home.

TatumsMom · 02-01-2007, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by DENISE517

I'm not a stay -at - home mom. Was with my first child. Who is now 13. I work for a heating and cooling company and Lexi comes to work with me everyday. She runs the place...lol Its wonderful. She has tons of toys, her barbie jeep, big step2 play set and all kinds of toys here. So when I'm here I have to use pull ups because you just can't clean up the mess like you do at home, but then panties at home.

That's great that she can be at work with you all day! I was just thinking that if she was going to a daycare or dayschool, most times the "peer pressure" situation with all the other kids going potty will be a big motivation. And like with mine, she knew that teacher wasn't going to give in but figured mommy would. Sounds like you're using all the incentives and prizes so hope it works out soon for you!

02-01-2007, 08:07 AM	#1
DENISE517 No Longer a Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 4,449	Need Potty Training Ideas For A 2 Yr Old...please Ok...First let me say my first child Lauryn was potty trained 1 week after her 2 year old birthday. Lexi my second child is a completely different story...oh my gosh...where do I start.. She is soo frigin cute but sooo dang head strong. She is her own little person. (lol) I started potty training her right after her 2nd birthday. Used panties instead of pull ups. She went in them for weeks daily and never in the potty. She got to the point where she was holding it and it gave her an urinary track infection. She held her poo so long that we ended up taking her to the doctor and she had to have meds to go. Well doctor told us just to hold off and that she wasnt ready and to try again after Christmas. (remind you she will be 3 in July) Well I started on Sat. She did great!!!! Sunday screamed and cried and would not use the potty. Mon. did great!!! Tues, Wed, Thurs. Wont potty screams and cries when I have her sit on it. I know they say to never force it so I don't. But now what do I do.. We try to make it fun for her. When she is sitting on the potty I read books, play with playdough, do puzzles, etc. If she tries she gets a sticker and gets to put it on her board I have up in the bathroom. If she potties, she gets a big dora sticker (which she loves ) and a quarter to put in her piggy bank. (she is obsessed with her bank and loves putting money in it) plus I do the this crazy pee pee dance and act silly when she goes and tell her how proud of her we are. When she goes in her pants I don't punish her, I just say....Lexi, You are to pee pee in the potty like a big girls. Its stinky when you pee pee in your panties. She just says.."Sorry Momma" and does it again and again. I don't understand. She was doing so good. I'm at my whits end.. Any suggestions for a very head strong child...lol

02-01-2007, 08:17 AM	#2
Brutus'mama YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: NJ Posts: 1,767	A friend of mine used these methods and told me they worked. http://www.adoptmed.org/topics/toile...ng-guides.html My son was 3 1/2 when he was finally trained. My daughter was 26 months. I hated potty training! Good luck! __________________ ~Carolyn~ Brutus' Video Montage

02-01-2007, 08:30 AM	#3
Daisy23 Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: LaLa Land Posts: 967	My cousin used special toys when he went. he was pottytrained by 2 1/2. She would by little things, like books, cars, and he would have the potty basket. If he went he got to take something out of the basket. I had to get a basket at my house and he would ask to come to my house and go potty because I had the good prizes. She never gave him candy and sometimes he would get some m&m's or somethng like that. it worked for her. Good Luck! __________________ Dana, Daisy & Jersey

02-01-2007, 08:31 AM	#4
LunasMomma Izzy's Momma Too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Stuart, Florida Posts: 8,799	Ugh, it's so frustrating! She'll do it when she's ready and sometimes the more you keep trying, the more stubborn they become. My nephew was almost FOUR and wasn't trained, but he kept begging to go to "school" like his little friend down the street. WELL, my sis told him that only big boys can go to school, and to be a big boy, he'd have to use the potty and not his pants. It was only a matter of days before he was "trained" You'll hit on what works, and will probably be by accident In the meantime, don't be so hard on yourself and just let her wear her pull ups. But when she wants to do something that big girls get to do, she'll have to miss out cuz she's not a "big girl" yet __________________ Tracy, Mom to Izzy and Luna

02-01-2007, 08:50 AM	#5
RRC Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: South Posts: 196	No one puts "Potty trained at age 18 months" on a resume! It isn't a reflection on how good a mother is for a child to potty train early. She'll do it in time. __________________ Please visit us on Dogster Jazz:www.dogster.com/dogs/463165 Mo: www.dogster.com/dogs/467592 JoyBelle: www.dogster.com/dogs/912621

02-01-2007, 09:20 AM	#6
MissLola Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: South Dakota Posts: 340	My daughter, Ava, sounds a lot like yours in the potty training area. She is about the same age (she'll be 3 at the end of June). We tried everything you have - using panties instead of pull-ups (she goes in pull-ups just like diapers), using stickers, doing fun things while she's on her potty, etc. What finally seems to be working, and a lot of people may not agree with this, is a little treat every time she goes. She calls it "potty candy". We keep a little dish of candy corns or those little conversation hearts on the bathroom counter, and when she successfully goes potty she gets one, and we also make a big deal out of it by clapping and jumping around and telling her she did a good job. Sometimes she gets so caught up in the after-potty excitement that she forgets about the candy. She now will wear her panties all day and rarely has pee accidents. Poop is a different story, but she's finally getting the hang of that, too. She'll actually tell me now when she has to go, even if she's already started, instead of waiting till she makes a huge mess in her panties. She wears diapers only at night now and when we are running errands. Good luck! I know it's frustrating.

02-01-2007, 11:14 AM	#7
chloeandj Tinkerbell, My Little Flutterpup Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Beautiful California! Posts: 6,112	I firmly believe when they are not ready they are not ready and it just causes so much more work and frustration for the both of you. If it were me I would give her 6 months then try again. 6 months can add so much more to their maturity level. Each one will be different. Just because the first did so quickly does not mean that this one is ready at the same age. You can not compare the two or it will drive you nuts

02-01-2007, 11:29 AM	#8
DENISE517 No Longer a Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 4,449	Thanks guys so much...I was feeling like a terrible mother and was feeling like it was my fault. I guess I was one of those people who use to say stuff when people didn't have there kids potty trained early.... Now it came back to smack me in the face....lol lol lol Live & Learn...lol

02-01-2007, 11:32 AM	#9
Lovin3Yorkies Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: VA Posts: 163	Potty training Hi, My daughter will be 3 tomorrow and some days she does good, some days I think she just gets lazy & messes on herself all day long, so I know how you are feeling now. My son, who will be 5 soon wasn't trained fully until he was almost 3 1/2 . The way I got him to go all the time was to promise him a "potty party" once he could prove to me he could & would go to the potty each time. Of course he still had the occasional accident, but a few weeks later we were able to have our party. He got to go pick out the invitations, decorations, and his cake. We had a small potty party here at my house for him. We had the grandparents over & a few friends and that was enough for him. He was so excited about getting a special party just for his accomplishment. Everyone also gave him a small present & he was thrilled. Now I have told my daughter that when she gets 3 we will have to work harder at going potty so she can have her own potty party too. Please don't laugh at the potty party idea. For my son it did work, hopefully I'll be planning one for my daughter soon too! Good luck! Pam

02-01-2007, 11:35 AM	#10
LunasMomma Izzy's Momma Too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Stuart, Florida Posts: 8,799	Pam, that sounds like a FAB idea!!!!! Awesome __________________ Tracy, Mom to Izzy and Luna

02-01-2007, 11:38 AM	#12
Lovin3Yorkies Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: VA Posts: 163	Haha You should have heard the responses I got when I invited people to a "potty party" The family thought I was crazy, but hey we have to do what works & bribe the kids somehow! Pam

02-01-2007, 11:41 AM	#13
TatumsMom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: TX Posts: 2,799	Keep in mind that my girls are now 12 and 10 years old BUT I have to say I hated potty training more than anything I had to deal with. My first was 2 years and a month old when my second was born. You should have seen me and my big pregnant self sitting on the bathroom floor reading book after book after book while that kid just sat on the toilet! Her pediatrician finally told me to just wait until after the baby was born because more than likely, if she did get trained, she would probably regress after the birth. So, we forgot all about it. Then when she turned three, her dayschool teacher just out of the blue one evening told me to send her in panties the next day and to pack several changes of clothes. I was skeptical. Sure enough, that day she went through every one of those sets of clothes but the next day when she told me she didn't want to wear panties, I didn't give in. I don't remember her having a single accident after that day. I think she was more than ready (as did her teacher), she just didn't want to try. Turns out she didn't like being wet. Which is funny now because she's true tomboy who loves being dirty and wet! I'm a firm believer in "changing the scenery" when doing something new. That's also how we got her to give up the bottle..... she went to my mom's for the weekend and no bottles were sent. They weren't there for her to beg for at bedtime so she didn't even bother. She came home completely bottle-broke! Are you a stay-at-home mom? If so, that could part of it. I don't know anything about being a stay-at-home but I'm sure the tactics are a bit different. Just having my daughter's teacher do the deed worked for us. Hope you find something that works soon. I'll tell you what everyone told me that always ticked me off but now I understand..... Chances of your kid going to kindergarten in a diaper are super slim! She'll get the hang of it soon. Sorry, I know I hated to hear that but it's true. It's just hard to be patient with it. Oh, one thing I do feel strongly about is this "timeline" that other people think kids need to reach milestones by. Back when we were babies, those disposable diapers were fairly new and were nowhere near as absorbent as they are now. The babies back then could feel the wetness and didn't like it. I personally think that's why "back then" babies potty trained so early. The way they make disposable diapers now, why should the kid not want to wear them?? Think about it that way. I never used panties and those plastic panty covers but maybe that's worth a try. It surely couldn't feel as good as a nice absorbent diaper. Good luck! __________________ ~ Angie

02-01-2007, 12:05 PM	#14
DENISE517 No Longer a Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 4,449	I'm not a stay -at - home mom. Was with my first child. Who is now 13. I work for a heating and cooling company and Lexi comes to work with me everyday. She runs the place...lol Its wonderful. She has tons of toys, her barbie jeep, big step2 play set and all kinds of toys here. So when I'm here I have to use pull ups because you just can't clean up the mess like you do at home, but then panties at home.