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01-02-2007, 01:15 PM | #1 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: wasco/bakersfield
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| Lifes Woes And Trails hi everyone, i am just writing to vent. tommorrow will be one year since i lost my son at 3 weeks old, and really dont know how to act? i feel normal but i think that maybe im not grieving yet, or maybe somethings wrong with me, i just dont know. and to top it all off i was going to have a little memorial for my family and close friends and have a dinner and a littel cake and i sent off my house payment twice which in one way its ok im ahead and anther way its not it left me overdrawn in my bank, which i have never done before and i freaked out, so now i cannot even go to the grocery store to buy food, i tell myself i can make it since im nto a fan of eating out, i can cook, but then yesterday my kids are like milk and look and im out of milk, i cant even go and buy milk, i guess it happens to us all and for me saying i cant realte cause it never happened i now can, and i can keep going, i got a bill in just this past thurday owing 3200 dollars for my son being airlifted from bakersfield to childrens hospital madera, and they want payment in full since its delinquent but i called and asked how is it delnquent when i just go it in? she said any accounts over 120 days are delinquent which i do know though from being a medical assitant years back as long as you are paying what you have on bills they cannot turn you in, but i dont know, its kinda a killer, i just got out of the hoispital in november from having my last surgery (supposed to be my last) and i know that bills coming to, but its not as bad as it seems its just hard when you cant use your bank and you cant write a check since you dont get paid till next wednesday, and you dont want to be overdrawn anymore, but thanks for reading my novel, i just had to get it out.
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01-02-2007, 01:51 PM | #2 |
YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Michigan
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| Sorry you are going through all this! Have you thought about putting a stop pmt on the extra check that you issued? Although it would cost (most banks charge around $30.00), it would free up some cash. You would just need to let the mortgage company know, so they don't charge you a return check charge. They are usually pretty understanding, and some banks (if asked nicely) will even stop pmt for no charge if you give them a nice, sob story. Good luck! |
01-02-2007, 01:59 PM | #3 |
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| i had allready sent it out a couple weeks ago and forgot i sent it so before it had cleared my bank i thought i had forgotten so i wrote out another one and sent it in, so the first one cleared and i thought well good it got there before the first and then my husband called and said his cank card wouldnt work and he had to get gas right now, mind you it was four o clock int he morning so i took him some money and then went home and got oinline to look at my online back statement and what do ya know i was cleared again the second check so at first i thought the mortgage did it, since they take the paper check but when it clears your bank it says echeck, but i called the bank and it was 2 different checks, i just was in such a rush that i didnt write it in the ledger and i didnt take the time to recall, but its ok it just breaks my heart to be like well wait till next week and well get groceries, wait till next week to get some soap hoiney, use my body wash, yep it happened last night, and im like uhhhhh but oh well i just wish i could have a small night out for my sons memorial, but he knows i love him, and miss him and wish he was still here.
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01-02-2007, 05:14 PM | #4 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | Can you call the mortgage company and ask them to reverse the payment?
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01-02-2007, 09:56 PM | #5 |
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| they dont do it, but my husband is a professinal tattoo arist and he works in a shop and at home on his days off, (he has a full timd job also working 4 days 12 hour towers and then four days off)and luckily he got 3 tattoos today and one was a 50 $ one, a 40 $ one and at the last minute he got a call as he was shutting it down to do a 1/4 sleeve which is a half way to from the wrist to the elbow and the guy liked it so much he went up his arm so he did a half sleeve and that costs about 400 so thanks god he had this guy asking about a tattoo atthe right time and knew we needed money. so 500 in one day isnt bad, and hes booked tommorrow also so thank god, i was surprised, he usually does maybe a couple 50$ ones a day but that barely covers supplies sometimes.
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01-02-2007, 10:11 PM | #6 |
Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Alabama
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| I am so very sorry you are having these trials and tribulations. It sounds like with your husband's tattoo business that perhaps things will get a little easier. I think most of us have been in situations where $$ was a bit tight. Sending hugs.... |
01-03-2007, 04:32 AM | #7 |
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| I am so sorry you are going through this. It does sound like you are grieving though, little slip ups can happen as a result. I would still do something special for your son's memorial - even if it is just you and the hubby and kids. Maybe light a special candle, read a poem or prayer outloud and each take a turn saying what he meant to you. It doesn't have to be big to be special. Sending you a
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01-03-2007, 05:42 AM | #8 | |
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To Stephluvsangel -- Saying a prayer for you and your family. Sounds like a little devine intervention already happening with the extra tattoo business. Amazing how things come through like that! So sorry for your loss -- people grieve in different ways -- don't worry. Your mind is probably trying to stay strong for your family. Take care!
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01-03-2007, 12:24 PM | #9 |
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| Sorry for your struggles, but glad for you that hubby's tats are working... you could make cards for your son, and save them in a special place.... that would be personal and very inexpensive for you as I do agree, you should do something special....
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01-03-2007, 12:31 PM | #10 |
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| I'm so sorry about this. And also on the loss of your son. I hope things get better. Sending you a big hug!
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01-03-2007, 12:34 PM | #11 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: wasco/bakersfield
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| thanks you all for your kind words, yes i was so surprised and the same guy is coming back again tonight to do more work and i thought wow whats this guy doing? but hey my husband is booked this week and im like wow what happened but alot of it was he did some japaneese anime on a guys leg that everyone liked so it just kinda went from there. and hes doing a back piece on me that alot of people like but not to many see, but my husband is branchig out and staring to do portraits soon so that brings in alot those are very time consuming and very very patient seeking tattoos, but thanks everyone so much. i feel better i got to buy milk and bread and some soap
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