I have a stalker.....help! (seriously)

[Passionfruition]

Ok, those of you who know me even a little bit know I'm an honest person - please know that I am telling the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

Tonight I called the cops. Finally. After over 4 months of harassment, I've had enough. I have a phone stalker. He started calling me mid-January - the first time as a "wrong number". But once he heard the sound of my voice, it's like he couldn't get enough.

For the past 4 months now, "Ricky" has been calling me nonstop. 3 in the morning, 7 in the morning, 11 at night, 2 in the afternoon, you name it..........and breathing into the phone. (And when I don't answer......10 minute breathing voicemail messages!! It's creepy!)

I called Sprint (my service provider for my mobile and only phone) - and Sprint said that they can only block business phone numbers related to telemarking type calls. My only choices were to 1) change my number (and I just did that when I moved here 6mo. ago, and I'm not willing to do it again.) or to 2) "Answer" the phone calls by opening my phone for 1 second, and then ending the call. - This would register his number in my received calls list that will be visible by the cops if and when I call them and they subpoena my phone records.

HOWEVER, the cop who filed the report tonight told me that he can't press charges yet b/c "Ricky" has made no threats of harm to me - in fact, he's said nothing at all. Just perverted breathing. Every time. But, the cop DID tell me he was going to call and tell the stalker to stop calling me. The OFFICIAL "warning" that if he continues his behavior, further actions will be taken against him.

I'm hoping this scares him off!!! The cop also told me to keep a "journal" type record of every time he calls from this day forward. It is "harassment" but a weak case since the guy isn't actually saying anything.

My husband used HIS phone and called the stalker's number back when the harassment first started, and told him to STOP CALLING HIS WIFE. He sternly told him never to call me again. But, the phone calls only stopped for about a week before getting worse than ever. (My husband said "Who is this?" and the guy answered in a horribly deep southern drawl "Ricky" that sounded more like "Reeeck-eeeyyyy.") But that's all we know of him.

ARUGH I'm so frustrated. I'm scared, too, I mean if this idiot doesn't stop after 4 months of not even having the pleasure of hearing me say "hello?".....I'm afraid he'll further try to contact me in other ways, etc. I have to push it out of my mind b/c every time he calls, it upsets me to the point of tears. But I've let him hear me cry once (in the beginning) and I know it just "feeds" his want to keep calling me so I stopped even saying Hello. My friends don't even call as much as this guy does. It's SO dumb. And scary.

Thanks for letting me vent.

[Tiggerwit]

Very creepy and I'm sorry you have to endure such sickness. But in my honest opinion, although you don't want to, I think you need to change your number. I know it seems unfair that because of some sicko you have to do this again, but considering the alternative, it seems a small price to pay for your sanity and security. Good luck.

You could trying getting an anti harrassment order.

[txshopper73]

OMG! VAL!!! That is so scary!!!!!!!!!!! I'm sorry that this person is stalking you! ARe you sure there isn't anything you can do??????

[StewiesMom]

What an a$$hole!!! I freaking hate hearing about this BS. This happened to my best friend and FINALLY after the cops did nothing, a bunch of her friends and family drove around and finally caught him - he would call from local pay phones and threaten to kill her/rape her/etc. It was awful. I hope that the cops start taking stuff like this seriously because it is traumatizing to everyone involved.

[Passionfruition]

Originally Posted by txshopper73

OMG! VAL!!! That is so scary!!!!!!!!!!! I'm sorry that this person is stalking you! ARe you sure there isn't anything you can do??????

Outside of my husband calling him and telling him not to call me (which didn't work) and now calling the cops, who will call him and tell him to leave me alone....we'll see if this works. I sure hope so!

I can't imagine the guy being that stupid to keep calling me after a police officer calls him, ya know? But who knows.

If it continues I'll press charges and as a last resort, might change my # - but only as a last resort. I hate losing touch with ppl b/c of number changes!

[DianaB]

Maybe you should do like they do in the movies, blow a fog horn or a whistle into the phone. It's scary that someone can invade your personal life and there's not much that you can do about it. You would think that the police could see all the phone calls that he's made to you and put a stop to it. You may need to go ahead and change your phone number.

[cheryl000]

Is there no way to block just his number on a cell phone? I know you can do it with a regular one.
One of my friends was also stalked. She used a check to pay for a delivery pizza once and the delivery man kept flirting with her. She wasn't interested, she only appeared alone because her husband was underway. Anyways, he wrote down all of her information from the check and started calling her and even showed up at her front door with pizza out of the blue! I guess he thought it was a kind gesture. She told him that she's married and if he talks to her again she would call the police. It is highly illegal for a biasness to use customer information for their own gain.
I really hope something like this isn't what happened to you. Unfortunately most stalkers are people we have met. I wish your husband could find that guy and give him a big punch in the face! I hate it when men enjoy making women feel this way. I am home alone many nights because of my husband's work and I would be terrified to be going through what you are. I really hope the cops stop that jerk.

[yorkiemom1970]

I hate to hear that Val. Its frustrating and scary to say the least. People who prank call are really immmature with no lives obviously. I hope this perv leaves you alone. You do not deserve to be harrassed and do not hesitate to keep the officials involved.

[SnowWa]

I can't understand why you don't want to change your phone number????
(and, of course, get an unlisted number). Why, given these circumstances, are you "not willing" to change your number. I'd change mine in a jack minute.

I'll lay you ten to one, this guy has several women he calls constantly. And, as long as he can reach you and upset you -- you're on his list!

At least - change your number.....


Carol Jean

[Rhapsody]

Very creepy. I hope the call from the cop scares him. Keep us posted on what happens.

[Jaspermom]

Get a whistle, air horn, trumpet, some kind of really loud noise maker, and blow his freekin ears out!!! Go for it!!! Hope he gets a migraine!!

Love ya, girlie, and I am so sorry this is happening to you. I got stalked via phone once, and it does indeed suck. It didn't last long, just a couple weeks, and one time he called and I said my phone was tapped by the police and he never called back. lolol dummy.

GOOD LUCK, sweetie! Let us know how this all turns out, OK? Stay safe!!

[Annadoodle]

Oh Val...that is very frustrating and un-nerving. Is this a local call from your area?

I know here at the house we have caller ID and we only answer calls that are identifiable. Sometimes numbers just don't come up on folks that we need to give a call back when our message machine picks up.

I would of thought the police would suggest to change your number...I know this guy deserves something for the constant harassment...but you also need to take control and protect yourself from it.

I'd change my number...and then let all your friends and business contacts know. We are a military family...change our number every 2-3 years..and still haven't lost contact of friends and folks.
That may stop the problem in its tracks...and then if it doesn't..you know this person knows more about you than a phone number...and that is serious.

Keep documenting....If you change your number...document when etc...and if it happens to a new number...something more is up.
You would think someone would tire of it after awhile...gosh...
and...lastly. Screen your calls...and it sounds like you are...open and close the phone...get them tracked.
Its those night calls that you need to keep track of ...ugg...

Thats why you should just plung and change the number first before going through all that....then if it continues...we have a serious problem of a sicko...and stalker...

Hugs to you....we do care about you....don't put up with this stuff.

[LuvMySissy]

This is very unnerving even if he never says anything. Short of changing your phone #, the next best alternative is to blast something very loud into the phone very time he calls and then hang up. If the cop telling him to stop doesn't work, try the noise - I can't imagine anyone continuing to call if met with that every time.

Good luck.

[red98vett]

Oh Val - that's horrible ! Not only does it interrupt your life you don't know if he's watching you or not.

I agree with everyone - start being tough - maybe you can simulate some clicking noises like your phone is being traced ? What a jerk that loser is but I'm still scared for you - I would def change your number - I have an unlisted number and it's not so bad and we never had problems with obscene callers anymore -

GOOD LUCK !

[lisatodd]

since you published his phone number....maybe we should all call him and let him know...."we know what you are doing" and if he sees he is getting calls from a bunch of different area codes, this may stop him.
what do you think????