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04-24-2006, 05:39 PM | #1 |
YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: North wilkesboro, NC
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| I couldn't believe this You guys may or may not remember, I posted about this a few weeks ago. I will just refresh everyone on the post quickly. Ethan my son is 9 years old and high functioning autistic. He has since around Thanksgiving had sensory issues on his face. He has burnt hisself 4 or 5 times from November through March. I took him to see his dr. and he was of no help. I met with his teacher and a lady that works for the county who just happens to be a social worker. I also took him back to the rehab facility for he was getting Speech and OT to be evaluated again for sensory intergration. We are in the process of doing some exercises to help him with his sensory issues and if this doesn't work then I will be calling a psychologists to see about possible therapy. Anyway, I got a call on the 10th or 11th of this month from the locals DCFS and a report had been filed about Ethan's face. She didn't come to the house until the 17th and then I was told that the person that reported it said they weren't concerned about abuse but, were concerned that possibly Ethan wasn't being watched as closely as he should be. Needless to say I almost hit the floor. This woman that was sitting across my kitchen table from me in my house couldn't have been more the 24 or 25 years old with no children. I didn't say what I was thinking. She proceeded to ask me if their was any domestic abuse, history of abuse in my family, history of mental illness in my family, if I ever left Ethan alone, how I disciplined him, if I was here to see him off to school and to meet him when he got home, if we had any beer in the house(my husband may drink a 6 pack in a week) , if I let him cook by himself. Of course the answer to all of the above was NO!!!! I still couldn't believe that I was going through this. It was really quite humilitating. But, like I told my husband we hadn't done anything wrong so I wasn't worried about it. She told us that she was going to tell her supervisor that she thought that there was nothing to worry about and that it may just be a phase that Ethan is going through. She said that in 30 days we would receive a letter from her telling us whether it was closed or not. She was going to recommend that it be closed at the end of the 30 days. She had already spoken with Ethan the morning she called me, with his teacher present. His teacher told me that he told her the same things that he had told us. He first burnt his face on a lava lamp that was in his room and I immediately threw it away. Then about 4 - 6 weeks later he burnt his cheekbone right under his eye on our heater, then a few days later he was popping popcorn and when he got it out of the microwave(this is the only cooking he does on his own) he touched it to his mouth, then a few weeks after that he touched his mouth to out toaster oven. This being the last one. After some paperwork and a quick look in the fridge, pantry and Ethan's bedroom she had to make sure we had plenty of food and that he had a bed. I still can't believe that someone reported us for this but, I can understand why. I will just be glad when the 30 days are over with. Anyway, sorry this is so long. I just wanted to update everyone. This is one reason why I haven't been on much in the last few weeks.
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04-24-2006, 06:09 PM | #2 |
Donating YT 14K Club Member | Oh, man. I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. I'd like to think that whoever reported you wasn't doing it maliciously but out of concern. God be with you and your family and this thing will be closed.
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04-24-2006, 06:16 PM | #3 |
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04-25-2006, 03:29 AM | #4 | |
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I think, I hope it was out of concern for Ethan. Thank you. Hopefully it will be over soon. I'm also posting a few pictures of Ethan last week at their Special Olympics Gymnastics meet.
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04-25-2006, 03:32 AM | #5 |
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04-25-2006, 05:35 AM | #6 |
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| My best friend's 3 yr old son has recently been diagnosed as mildly autistic. It's been a roller coaster ride for them because they also have 3 other children - 2 older and 1 younger. The stories she tells me about being out in public are awful. She asks "how in the world do you make other parents/people understand why he's acting the way he is??". Of course I have no answer for her. He hits her, hollers, doesn't understand why he can't do or have what he wants. She says you have to be so careful in public how you discipline him for fear of someone reporting you but on the other hand these people just can't understand why you can't "do" something with that kid acting so bad. It's rough. My 5 year old nephew was just diagnosed with SPD (Sensory Processing Disorder) and he's quite a handful too. I've done a lot of reading up on this and know that's she's got a long road ahead of her also in dealing with this. Both of these kids are in OT and the first one in Speech Therapy also. I really do feel for the parents of these special kids. It's really hard for them when there are so many people out there that judge you without knowing the facts. I hope everything turns out in a positive way for you with the authorities. I can only hope that whoever turned you in had your/his best interests in their heart. I would hate to be in a position where I thought there was abuse going on and I couldn't decide if it was a valid case or not. If you don't tell someone, you could be jeopardizing the child's health and life but false claims can turn out in such a horrible way too. I'll be thinking of you and hoping it all turns out okay.
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04-25-2006, 05:48 AM | #7 | |
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I'm so sorry. It does get easier. Ethan has improved so much in the last 7 years. The hard thing about being in public when they do have their meltdowns is that by looking at our kids you can't tell that anything is wrong like you can with Downs or kids that have a physical handicap. I honestly think that whoever filed the report was not concern about abuse but about Ethan. I'm really not to concern about it because nothing is going on. It has been over 6 weeks since Ethan has burnt himself. Thanks for the encouragement. Hang in their and tell your friend to also. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.
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04-25-2006, 05:56 AM | #8 | |
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You're right in that what makes it harder in public is that there's no physical signs that he has any problems. People just think he's being a brat. I've told her she really needs to find a support group and possibly a therapist specifically for her to teach her how to handle these outbursts. What works for your average child discipline-wise is not always going to cut it with an autistic child. I hope she finds that help soon.
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04-25-2006, 06:00 AM | #9 | |
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I agree she really does need to find a support group, we have a really great one here. I would also check in to a behavior therapist and whatever other therapies he needs. We were lucky we never really had a huge problem with Ethan having tantrums, the only thing he would really have a complete and total meltdown over was video games. I'm so proud of my little man he has made such progress over the last few years. He is talking up a storm and doing well in school. This is really the first problem that we have had in a few years and I really hope that it's just a phase that he is going through and that it will be over soon. I'm just really scared that he is going to hurt himself bad enough to where he will have to go to a plastic surgeon.
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