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02-07-2014, 04:14 PM | #1 |
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| job problem Hi all.... I have been at a new job for approx. 6 months. Since I have been there is one guy (small company only about 8 of us) who has been trying to get me to quit. He thinks that I took the job of someone who retired before they really wanted to and because I took the job the retirement had to be done. But really one of the bosses initiated the problem for the other person to retire. But any way....I needed the job and got hired and tried to steer clear of the conversation about bashing the boss (who started the prob with the person who retired) and did my work and had a lot of work that I had to learn and still have a ton more of work that I have to learn. But now the guy who was trying to get me to quit by trying to talk me into leaving is now being very nasty to me. He was pretty cold for a while (since the other person actually left) and it has now escalated to being nasty. I fear that if I do not tell my boss about this guy, and that he is being nasty, that things will only get worse. And when I do tell him I feel that I will have to do what I did not want to do and that is tell him how this guy was bashing him (the boss) like crazy and that I tried to avoid this type of talk and that he is now nasty to me because of this. My boss knows that he is being blamed for this person leaving but he does not know the full story about what this guy is doing to me and how he has bashed him continually to me and others. I just hope the boss believes me and doesn't get mad at me. Kinda scary.....any advise. Thanks in advance. Tina
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02-07-2014, 04:25 PM | #2 |
YT 2000 Club Member | Tough situation! I had a similar problem at one of my jobs and feel for you. Do what you need to do and if it comes to talking to your boss, so be it. I actually walked out of that job because the stress was not worth it! I later went back, by request by my boss, as she knew who was the problem and that person was fired. Best luck!
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02-07-2014, 04:40 PM | #3 | |
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Yes I feel that even if things do come to the worse at least my boss will know what this guy is doing behind his back...and if he does not mind then there is never going to be any thing I will be able to do about this guy except fight him on my own and I would do that only as my last and final resort. Thanks and YEEEAAAHHH!!!!! to you Tina
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02-08-2014, 02:16 AM | #4 |
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| I have a friend who is a therapist,and tell me that being polite and direct and restateing what you view as occurring is like cryptonite to a lot of these folks. Example " excuse me joe, I've noticed you seem to be quite angry. Are you angry at me because I needed this job and was hired by ( boss)? 9 out of ten in my experience back down when done assertively but not aggressively. Unless what you mean by " nasty" is over the top. If he is verbally abusive, belittles you, or menaces IMHO it is time to take action and also document every occurance with a notebook dated and time and details in case thiscguycgets fired and drags you into a wrongfully termination suit. Excuse typos my iPod autocorrects. |
02-08-2014, 06:16 AM | #5 |
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| Is there anyone else at this job who will have your back and possibly be an asset to have in a conversation with the boss? I find that having a witness to conversations is generally a good idea in case things go south. I would also not try having a conversation with the instigator without someone else present. Protect yourself first. You don't want retaliation and a witness can help prevent that or give you a legal "leg to stand on" in case of such. I hate that you are having these issues. A back-stabber is very difficult to ignore. The boss needs to know what this person is saying about him, even if it feels like "tattling", which is why the witness/back up person is important.
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02-08-2014, 06:37 AM | #6 |
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| Start documenting the harassment. When you have a couple of weeks worth of stuff, take it to the boss. If he does nothing, he is fostering a hostile work environment and can get in big trouble. Just be careful to stay objective, stating only the facts and leave emotion out of it. If you can get anyone else on board, that would help tremendously. I'm sure there are others that are sick of his attitude! Good luck
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02-08-2014, 08:21 AM | #7 | |
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I say the boss has got to be told and if he doesn't want to hear it I go to plan B which is leave asap and let this be his problem as far as the work goes also. I don't see any law suite in this as he is the one who is doing the harm to me and his self...and I doubt they will fire him....but maybe he IS next in line and that is why he is so cold and nasty????? Who can say...just gotta look out for me...got no crystal ball. Thanks to all of you for your help Tina
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02-08-2014, 08:31 AM | #8 | |
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Not the boss or this creep. The people who are not being abused don't care they are just glad they are not having any problems. I am on my own.... Tina
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02-08-2014, 10:17 AM | #9 |
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| I'd say don't go into the boss until you can give him your walking papers. This guy wants you to go into the boss and he knows how the boss will react. Start looking for another position and just ignore him like he is not around and don't talk to him unless it is job related. You will never be happy in this position so why put it off. jmo
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02-08-2014, 02:24 PM | #10 | |
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I am a little on the fence about going into the boss ....that is why I asked for advise. In other situations I usually don't let anything get in the way of my goals.....so why now. Guess cause it is full time.. I usually work 3 days at one place and 2 at another. well we will see how things work out. will up date you as we move forward. thanks tina
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02-08-2014, 06:30 PM | #11 | |
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02-09-2014, 06:06 AM | #14 |
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| Oh my gosh he is weird, run for the hills or at least the other office.
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