Now I have marriage questions!

[celstu1]

So Ive been married a whole 11 days now. Before the wedding we had lived together for almost 2 years, so every day now I wake up and realize that really nothing in our day to day lives changed at all. I am in process of changing my name now and we do need to put each other on our assets (we both own property) and we need to open a joint bank account, but other than that, we are who we are still. Sometimes I still refer to him as my boyfriend/fiance and others correct me, kind of funny!

I almost feel like I am supposed to feel different! haha like suddenly a big boom or a white light was to go off that signifies we are married! I guess I always thought being married would FEEL different, but it does not. I'm so happy we are married, my husband is the best, I guess I just had some unrealistic expectations of what marriage feels like!

Did anyone else notice a big change once married, I mean for those who already lived together?

[sbgooljar]

I have no comments as I have never been married but I did want to extend my CONGRATS to both you and your husband. Best wishes for a long married life filled with good times and wonderful memories.

[rubymoon2072]

i think the living together first part is what makes that not so feeling change. my husband i did live together before and i felt the same after .....only changing names and adding to things were the difference. lol

[Taryn0405]

I didn't live together with my husband until we got married. Well, actually about two weeks before we got married. We just bought a house and I had the flu. So even my parents (who are beyond religious) wanted Curry to be with me in case in the middle of the night I stopped breathing (I'm an asthmatic).

I honestly didn't feel any different either. I was expecting this like overly giddyness, but it didn't happen. Don't get me wrong, I was so happy to get married. But I think the movie Bridesmaids described it best at the end, alot of things change quickly, and yet you still feel like you're drifting. Some things change, some things don't. And despite living together for awhile, or not, it's still change which can be a different experience for us all.

[dawn27]

No cant say that I did... mine came years earlier in our relationship.

DH and I were together for 6 yrs before we got married. Lived together for 5 of those yrs. We didn't have a elaborate wedding or even a honeymoon. Didn't have the money for it. The important thing was we were finally Mr and Mrs. Miller. It was the happiest day of my life. I didn't get the romantic proposal, the wedding or the honeymoon that I had always dreamed about. I didn't get a 4 ct. diamond ring nor was my father there to walk me down the isle. But I did get my knight in shinning armor. There were no bells and whistles to speak of just a "promise". He's my best friend and my soul mate and that is better than any feeling in the world.

A funny story about us is I was 19 at the time, we met on his 20th b'day and Four months into our relationship he says to me "If your lucky. I'll marry you some day".... I was speechless which doesn't happy very often. It was dark out and I just sat there with the biggest grin on my face with a tear rolling down my cheek. I thought to myself... this is it, he's the one I've been searching for all these years. We've been together ever since! Almost 27 yrs... we've grown up together and we've grown closer as each year passes.

Just give it some time you'll find your big moment. Sometimes it is the little things in life that will be a defining moment in any relationship. Maybe rekindle your romantic side, a wedding can be draining for a couple. Date night is what works for us !

[Taryn0405]

Originally Posted by dawn27

DH and I were together for 6 yrs before we got married. Lived together for 5 of those yrs. We didn't have a elaborate wedding or even a honeymoon. Didn't have the money for it. The important thing was we were finally Mr and Mrs. Miller. It was the happiest day of my life. I didn't get the romantic proposal, the wedding or the honeymoon that I had always dreamed about. I didn't get a 4 ct. diamond ring nor was my father there to walk me down the isle. But I did get my knight in shinning armor. There were no bells and whistles to speak of just a "promise". He's my best friend and my soul mate and that is better than any feeling in the world.

A funny story about us is I was 19 at the time, we met on his 20th b'day and Four months into our relationship he says to me "If your lucky. I'll marry you some day".... I was speechless which doesn't happy very often. It was dark out and I just sat there with the biggest grin on my face with a tear rolling down my cheek. I thought to myself... this is it, he's the one I've been searching for all these years. We've been together ever since! Almost 27 yrs... we've grown up together and we've grown closer as each year passes.

I hear ya on the honeymoon part and the big wedding. I think we had 75 people at ours. My in-laws refused to pay for anything so it all came out of my husband's and my pocket as well as my parents. While my brother and cousins when they got married went on elaborate honeymoons, my husband and I were trying to fix up or house and pay for a sick puppy...

Made us closer though...And I wouldn't have traded those hard years for anything.

[celstu1]

hahaha Dawn! If it were me I would have said "If you're lucky, I might say yes" LOL

Thats so sweet though seriously! 27 years and still each other's best friend! I am so happy for you!

[celstu1]

My husband & I did not take a honeymoon. We paid for our own wedding, for about 92 people completely on our own, so a honeymoon immediately after was just too much. And now 12 days into our marriage, we are closing our business under duress. It's been a battle with the company that owns the building so it's time. It has been a challenging first 2 weeks of marriage with that happening... but I have no doubts that him & I can get through anything together. We just click. He's rational when I'm insane, I'm rational when he's insane. We really do pull each other through our downs.

[Lil Sis]

Originally Posted by dawn27

No cant say that I did... mine came years earlier in our relationship.

DH and I were together for 6 yrs before we got married. Lived together for 5 of those yrs. We didn't have a elaborate wedding or even a honeymoon. Didn't have the money for it. The important thing was we were finally Mr and Mrs. Miller. It was the happiest day of my life. I didn't get the romantic proposal, the wedding or the honeymoon that I had always dreamed about. I didn't get a 4 ct. diamond ring nor was my father there to walk me down the isle. But I did get my knight in shinning armor. There were no bells and whistles to speak of just a "promise". He's my best friend and my soul mate and that is better than any feeling in the world.

A funny story about us is I was 19 at the time, we met on his 20th b'day and Four months into our relationship he says to me "If your lucky. I'll marry you some day".... I was speechless which doesn't happy very often. It was dark out and I just sat there with the biggest grin on my face with a tear rolling down my cheek. I thought to myself... this is it, he's the one I've been searching for all these years. We've been together ever since! Almost 27 yrs... we've grown up together and we've grown closer as each year passes.

Just give it some time you'll find your big moment. Sometimes it is the little things in life that will be a defining moment in any relationship. Maybe rekindle your romantic side, a wedding can be draining for a couple. Date night is what works for us !

omg... that is so sweet!

My dh said to me a few months into dating that he wanted to marry me but could afford to feed me lol.... I was very thin but I could EAT !!!!! He then told me after we were married he would divorce me if I ever weight more than him. I was still very very thin, but that changed I have not admitted to my weight to him for at least 15 years ... I got fatter he got thinner I honestly think he never though I would weigh more than him.. ooooppsss

[Jeepmom]

Congratulations and best of luck! We were high school sweethearts and moved in together on graduation night. Over a year later we were married during a small ceremony, no more than 15 people. We have been married 17 years and together over 21 years. My big moment came the day my son was born and we became a family.

[dawn27]

Originally Posted by celstu1

My husband & I did not take a honeymoon. We paid for our own wedding, for about 92 people completely on our own, so a honeymoon immediately after was just too much. And now 12 days into our marriage, we are closing our business under duress. It's been a battle with the company that owns the building so it's time. It has been a challenging first 2 weeks of marriage with that happening... but I have no doubts that him & I can get through anything together. We just click. He's rational when I'm insane, I'm rational when he's insane. We really do pull each other through our downs.

hahaha Dawn! If it were me I would have said "If you're lucky, I might say yes" LOL

Thats so sweet though seriously! 27 years and still each other's best friend! I am so happy for you! Thanks

Wow, not such a great start to the rest of your lives as man and wife, so sorry. This could be why you haven't had that wow I'm married moment. Life doesn't stop for you, you need to keep up with life and make it what you want it to be. It's tough, If it's not one thing it's another. I'm sure that once you settle thing with your business that things will start looking better.

[celstu1]

Originally Posted by dawn27

hahaha Dawn! If it were me I would have said "If you're lucky, I might say yes" LOL

Thats so sweet though seriously! 27 years and still each other's best friend! I am so happy for you! Thanks

Wow, not such a great start to the rest of your lives as man and wife, so sorry. This could be why you haven't had that wow I'm married moment. Life doesn't stop for you, you need to keep up with life and make it what you want it to be. It's tough, If it's not one thing it's another. I'm sure that once you settle thing with your business that things will start looking better.

Him & I are so on the same page with things though, we are working this through together so far, a few minor hiccups but overall we are getting through it ok! I knew we would... I couldn't wait to marry him and be his wife! He's the greatest guy int he world for me!

[dawn27]

Originally Posted by celstu1

Him & I are so on the same page with things though, we are working this through together so far, a few minor hiccups but overall we are getting through it ok! I knew we would... I couldn't wait to marry him and be his wife! He's the greatest guy int he world for me!

Aww very sweet !!

[DBlain]

We lived together for about a year, he moved into the house I owned, I had a roommate and she even stayed on for a little while after the wedding, she was happy because I reduced her rent. We had combined most of our finances before hand and I waited 6 years to change my last name, so I guess I did not feel different. However I felt a big let down because I had spent the whole year prior planning every aspect of the wedding weekend festivities. We did it up with all the bells and whistles and with lots of activities to keep the out of town guests (lots of my family) entertained. I made the centerpieces, homemade chocolates for favors, gift bags for the guests that stayed in hotels and I even had a weekend events newsletter printed. I cooked the food and hosted the rehearsal dinner where we kept our boat, had a woman's brunch at my home the morning of the wedding, and organized a barbeque boat party for the day after. Everyone thought I was crazy but I enjoyed all the planning. We did not go on a honeymoon for 6 months so with no wedding to work on I felt a little blue.

[Millies mamma]

My husband and I lived together also a long time before we were married, we also had our son before we were married. So once we got married it was same ol same ol. But I think thats good.