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04-03-2012, 10:15 AM | #1 |
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| Mother-in-Law Issues I'm at a loss on what to do with this situation, DH tells me to not let it get to me and to not even speak to his mother anymore . . About a week ago, DH and I were discussing his parents upcoming 50th Wedding Anniversary. Knowing they are not party type people and hate surprises and really don't have any friends, we thought it would be nice if we just had a small gathering (immediate family only) which is only her sister and her family and her other son and his family. Total people would of been 17 adults, 4 small children. We thought it would be great to take everyone to brunch at a restaurant near my in-laws house so they didn't have to travel far. I called my MIL extremely excited about it and she basically freaked out and said NO, WE AREN'T HAVING ANYTHING, WE DON'T WANT IT, NO! and hung up on me . . . Seriously?? DH asked "did she just hang up on you?" and I said YEP! I then called her back because I was extremely annoyed at being hung up on. She let the phone go to voice mail. I left a message "hi, it's me, you hung up on me, that wasn't really nice call me back" About an hour later, she calls me, by now I'm not only pissed, I'm crying because I really felt hurt. She says in a very cold tone "I appreciate the offer, but we aren't doing anything, we don't want anything, we aren't going to be here that weekend, and we don't want it ANY other weekend either" Then again, hung up. Needless to say, I haven't called her since. It's way too awkward for me. I didn't even do anything for her to be that rude and obnoxious to me. DH and I will be married 25 years in October and we've been together for 30 years, my MIL NEVER was this obnoxious towards me . . . It seems kind of silly to not speak anymore. DH says just let it be . . .I dunno what to do?
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04-03-2012, 10:18 AM | #2 |
Thor's Human Donating Member | You say this is new behavior? I wonder if they maybe are having marital problems, or something else is going on.
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04-03-2012, 10:25 AM | #3 | |
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Well, new behavior towards me . . .it's hard to explain but his parents are a bit quirky. She hasn't spoken to his sister since 2000 because she was getting a divorce for the 2nd time and they decided to side with the husband on that one . . .Sooo basically, they disowned their own child. \ My husband is the middle child and I kind of "stepped up" as the daughter, if you know what I mean. So I do all the calling, the planning, etc . . . Maybe she is starting to lose it a bit or something . . .it was really a horrible experience to be spoken to like that.
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04-03-2012, 10:26 AM | #4 |
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| It does sound like something is going on. Are you aware of anything? I hate to be hung up on. It gets me really upset. She was rude to you. Since she hasn't been this way in the past it really makes me think that there is something going on in her life.
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04-03-2012, 10:29 AM | #5 |
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| We aren't aware of anything . . .we were just over there for St. Patrick's Day lunch and she seemed fine? She was a little weird at the end though, I don't know if it's because we were all leaving or if she was mad at DH's brother for making a funny statement, or what, but I had spoken with her after that on our weekly calls and she has been normal.
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04-03-2012, 10:33 AM | #6 | |
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04-03-2012, 10:37 AM | #7 |
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| She will be turning 70 this year . . .no health issues that we are aware of
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04-03-2012, 10:41 AM | #8 |
YT 1000 Club Member | Sorry to hear you were treated rudely. Please do not let your MIL's rude behaviour get to you (easier said than done). Give them both some space and hopefully, whatever is going on with her will improve and she will treat you respectfully again.
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04-03-2012, 10:43 AM | #9 |
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| Thank you. Only time will tell . . .
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04-03-2012, 10:49 AM | #10 |
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| Why isn't your husband doing anything about this??? It's his parents. I certainly would not have call her back AT ALL!!!! Don't worry just let them do what they want. People like that are going to be very lonely old people when they piis everyone they know off with that attitude. Just move on honey...let it go.
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04-03-2012, 11:06 AM | #11 | |
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Funny, I was just going to do a MIL thread.
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04-03-2012, 11:58 AM | #12 | |
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04-03-2012, 12:35 PM | #13 |
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| Thanks everyone! Yeah, I'm not going to sweat it anymore . . .going to take DH and everyone's advice not to dwell on it or worry about it or think about it anymore . . . I was doing a nice thing and got shat upon . . .it is what it is . . .
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04-03-2012, 02:57 PM | #14 | |
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04-03-2012, 03:17 PM | #15 |
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| I had an aunt that used to do that all the time too....and then she would make stuff up, to "fill in the blanks or the questionable parts", then tell it to the rest of the family as the truth!!!! We all knew she was walking a real fine line and we treated it as a joke among the rest of us....and today, as I am getting older, when I cant think of a section of something that has happened, I will say, "now this may be an Aunt Bert moment, but......" and everyone knows EXACTLY what is happening and we all laugh!!! |
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