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Old 02-13-2012, 09:35 PM   #1
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Dh told me tonight he thinks I dont trust him with Pnut...? It all started when our fence fell down, he told me Tuesday he is going to have one of his old co workers come fix it- he said he would need to use the garage and possibly would give him access to the house- well i dont mind him being in the house for for potty breaks- Dh has known this guy for a long time and I know wouldnt steal anything, but I told Dh that I would take Pnut to Camp so I wont have to worry about Pnut getting out or Pnut being scared.

Well Dh got sensitve on me- he said I wouldnt have to take him, Pnut will be fine and he trust his co worker enough to leave him here- he said he doesnt like the fact that I dont trust him enough- he said I should know him enough to know he wouodnt let him over if he didnt trust him or if he thought Pnut wouldnt be safe- then he said to think of it you are always checkin on me when Pnut is alone with him and you always have to say be careful with this, or dont do that, or watch the hawks... Etc, etc.

I told Dh I trust him with Pnut, I just love him too much and Im a very protective Momma. When it comes to Pnut I am ocd and a worry wart- I cant help it-

So I dont know, I trust Dh but I just think its better safe than sorry- I will just take him to daycare LoL.... Is that bad?? Am I crazy?

Sorry for typos im on my phone =)
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I would follow your motherly instincts. Only you know best for your Pnut.
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Old 02-14-2012, 03:31 AM   #3
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I would be the same way It only takes a second for something to happen and if your DH friend isn't used to small dogs and isn't watchful, Pnut could run out the door or anything.
I am ocd with my two so I know exactly how you feel
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Old 02-14-2012, 07:16 AM   #4
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I will admit, I have a trust issue with everyone else when it comes to my animals, including immediate family. Not because I don't "trust" them, but because my experiences around animals have shown me how easily accidents can happen that they don't understand like I do. My family has told me for years I over react when it comes to my animals. I have it arranged, that when the dog sitter comes over, there are 3 doors she comes in and goes out. That's 3 chances to make sure my dogs can't get out under her feet and get away from her. I say trust your instincts and do what you are comfortable with.
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i agree follow your instinct and its not about trust its about whats best for the furr babies.....just try and explain to him the best you can so he understands its a momma thing and doesnt resent you for not trusting him.
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Old 02-14-2012, 07:54 AM   #6
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I don't blame you at all.

One of mine will bolt if given the chance, and once she does, it is very difficult to catch her. She takes off and her feet barely touch the ground, she runs and leaps and runs .... And while I know both of mine would not be afraid and get along well with whomever came to the house, they would bug the person to death.

Long story short, if I were in your shoes, I would make sure the guy was only responsible for fixing my fence, and not make him responsible for the welfare of my dogs as well. Let him do his job without having to make sure my dogs don't get loose, or deal with my dogs trying to play with him. I would confine them somehow, or take them to the daycare.
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Old 02-14-2012, 08:11 AM   #7
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I knew you guys would understand!!

jadabug- Only a second!! I am not willing to risk it!

Cha Cha- I am glad I am not the only one! I am comfortable with taking Pnut to daycare That's where he is as we speak!

rubymoon2072- I did try to explain the Momma thing. I just dont think he understands.

OwnedByJezebel- Peanut isnt really a "runner" However I am not sure how he is with a stranger in his house-

It really doesn't have to do with Trust, it has to do with what I am comfortable with!! I am sorry I have those Momma instincts!!! Gessssh!

However Pnut would have been locked in his pack n play and I think that is was stumped Dh, He said I will tell Oscar not to pick him up or touch him, he said he has kids and little dogs he knows how to handle them. I said all it takes is one second, what if he picked up Peanut and set him down and Pnut bolted out of the door or the back door... Dh said its not going to happen I trust Oscar. I said well I dont know him. I am Pnuts Mom and I have to keep him safe from those "what if's" Yes the chances are slim that something would happen, but there is always a what if and I cant take that chance over something so easy as dropping Pnut off at daycare!

I honestly think DH doesn't understand- Then he went and said " I know you think you love Peanut more than I do" I told him Yes, I know I love Peanut more than you- I am not saying you dont, I know you love him, but not as much as I do. I would do ANYTHING for that dog- I always make sure he is safe, I go out of my way to make sure he is safe, We have a special bond that no one can understand ( I know you YT guys can )

So that's where it was at- I think my Aunt Flo is coming so I have been a little sensitive and crazy LoL. Everything DH has been doing has been annoying me LoL- I think I am going to my Mom this weekend for some alone time!

Thank you guys for understanding!! I knew you guys would!!
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I agree! Follow those Mom instincts. I am the same way with Katie Scarlett. I have a hard time leaving her with just my husband or his parents. I love them dearly, but I know they do not keep a sharp eye on her like I do. When I leave Brandon with KS, he says he will play with her and keep her busy. Well I come home and he has not moved from the spot on the couch since I left! He has mentioned one time that I should have more faith in him, and I do try, but it's so hard!
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I agree! Follow those Mom instincts. I am the same way with Katie Scarlett. I have a hard time leaving her with just my husband or his parents. I love them dearly, but I know they do not keep a sharp eye on her like I do. When I leave Brandon with KS, he says he will play with her and keep her busy. Well I come home and he has not moved from the spot on the couch since I left! He has mentioned one time that I should have more faith in him, and I do try, but it's so hard!
I think Yorkie Moms are a breed of their own!!
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I'm the same way. I hope Peanut has fun at camp.

Just explain to hubby that this is a maternal thing.lol
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Follow your instincts! I would do the SAME thing. I live with my mom, stepdad and young sister. I know they all love Jackson and mean well but NOBODY watches Jax like I do. I don't trust leaving him there for long periods of time if I am NOT there and they are. Like, most of the time, I'd prefer him to be there by himself and none of us be there, LOL... or if we are all going out, and my mom gets a sitter for my little sister, I do not like leaving Jackson there because I don't trust the people that will be there. I don't trust that I could lock him in my bedroom even, because I know my little sister would probably open it and let him out, then he'd be out, with god knows what food laying around, etc, etc. Yeah I'm pretty OCD when it comes to him but I don't care!
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I did the same thing a few months ago. We were having new windows installed in my apt. My mom promised to watch Kaji and assured me he'd be safe. Well... Kaji ended up at day care. I would do it again.
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Follow your instincts! I would do the SAME thing. I live with my mom, stepdad and young sister. I know they all love Jackson and mean well but NOBODY watches Jax like I do. I don't trust leaving him there for long periods of time if I am NOT there and they are. Like, most of the time, I'd prefer him to be there by himself and none of us be there, LOL... or if we are all going out, and my mom gets a sitter for my little sister, I do not like leaving Jackson there because I don't trust the people that will be there. I don't trust that I could lock him in my bedroom even, because I know my little sister would probably open it and let him out, then he'd be out, with god knows what food laying around, etc, etc. Yeah I'm pretty OCD when it comes to him but I don't care!
There is only one Jackson, and one Peanut so we have to be protective over them!!
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I was just starting to trust the bf, when I went out over Christmas to a dinner party with the agility crew... so I was with dog ppl. I turned my phone off. Well by the end of the night I turned my phone on to call the bf for a ride and I had 15 missed calls. I thought it was my mother (who does this often) and when I saw it was the bf I freaked.

Well I called him, and he said the crisis was over now.. and I was like WTH????

Apparently Harley got into his closet in the bedroom, and at first Matt thought he got out cause he couldn't find him, but then he heard him, and he had gotten in the closet and everything fell on him. So when he couldn't get a hold of me he called the vet and rushed him to the vet (luckily he new we switched vets and found the right one) and had just gotten home with a clean bill of health, when I called.

Last time I leave him alone and don't check in or constantly leave my phone on! I love the bf and I trust him, but I just know he's not as ocd as I am... Luckily the bf acted in a reasonable manner and took him straight to the vet, he also called the restuarant but the server wouldn't come look for me.

Long story short, I don't think you're being over protective.
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I've thought a few times about writing this. but what the heck I will. It sounds like your husband is loving, caring, and a responsible pet owner.

I don't know what pack n play is, but if it is something like a crate, your peanut could be put in this and in a bedroom whilst you are out.

There is protective and then there is over protective. My husband doesn't treat the doggies the same as I do; but I do trust him to keep them safe!. I also trust him, that if I say keep the dogs in the crate when we have workers over, he will.

How-ever you know your husband best, and if you don't trust him to leave Peanut in his crate, well then I guess doggy day care is the best solution. But I feel sad that you don't trust your husband enough.
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