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Old 02-02-2012, 06:21 PM   #1
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For the last several months I have been dealing with anxiety. It is getting to an unbearable point. I am by no means unhappy, just constantly worrying about every little thing. Does that make sense? I can't shake the feeling of being nervous about something. I am way busy, I own my own business with my fiance, am planning a wedding, doing an internship, and am the president of two college organizations. I think the stress is getting to me, but its weird because I feel like its all under control, but still have a knot in my stomach that I can't pinpoint what it is...I have an appt Wednesday to see a doctor to discuss this, but was wondering if in the meantime anyone had experience with this?
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That is a lot to juggle. I certainly for one can not manage that. Kudos to you as long as you're happy. Maybe you just need some rest or had too much caffeine, lets hope the good doc doesn't have to prescribe any medication.
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oh yes! too familiar! I even had panic too while in college. Could not even function and was shaking. I really thought i was crazy. I went to a shrink, that was a friend of a friend. Got me in at 8am and i said" im fearing fear!!!" turns out that i was looking at ALL the stuff I had going on in my life as one BIG mess with LOTS to do and not enough time to do it. I had to retrain my thoughts and seperate all the THINGS and it really is not too bad. Years later i still suffer from anxiety but I deal with things much more lightly. I had to go on meds for a while so i could function till i learned how not to worry soooo much. Stop trying to please everyone and worry about YOU! Try to say NO too because as you get older you will realize how selfish everyone is and sometimes we need to just think of ourselves too. hope this helps. Pm me if you like too.
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oh yes! too familiar! I even had panic too while in college. Could not even function and was shaking. I really thought i was crazy. I went to a shrink, that was a friend of a friend. Got me in at 8am and i said" im fearing fear!!!" turns out that i was looking at ALL the stuff I had going on in my life as one BIG mess with LOTS to do and not enough time to do it. I had to retrain my thoughts and seperate all the THINGS and it really is not too bad. Years later i still suffer from anxiety but I deal with things much more lightly. I had to go on meds for a while so i could function till i learned how not to worry soooo much. Stop trying to please everyone and worry about YOU! Try to say NO too because as you get older you will realize how selfish everyone is and sometimes we need to just think of ourselves too. hope this helps. Pm me if you like too.
thanks, this does help to have someone that understands...i just want this feeling to go away...
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You have a lot on your plate right now. I feel like that all the time - full time job, single parent to a teen-ager; 90 year old father moving in with us; never a moment to mysef.

I find that exercise helps; as does finding some quiet time if I can.

If the doctor does prescribe meds - I see nothing wrong with taking them.
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Thats how I am If i have too much going on too. I think you need a break from it all if even just a week of R and R .
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I am a very anxious person, and I found that it really helped to talk to someone. I started seeing a counsellor and my Dr. prescribed some medication. I caution you on the medication part, I know there are a lot of benefits to being on those meds, but if you accidentally miss one or are trying to come off of them, they can really play with your mind. I had really vivid nightmares while I was on them, but during the day they helped my anxiety level. I also got sleeping pills which I still occasionally use today, which I take when I know I NEED sleep, but my brain wont turn off.

Honestly I got the most out of talking to someone. They help you realized what bugs you and what your triggers are. For me it's the "What - if's" I start to panic and get overwhelmed with what-ifs and it would snowball out of control. I'm not perfect and stress about a lot, but I can control it now...

Also wanted to extend to you, feel free to PM me if you wanna chat, I too have ran a family business, dealt with school and a zillion other things, so if you need a friend to rant to, I'm here.
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You certainly have a lot on your plate right now. I get anxious when I have alot going on because I always feel like I am going to forget to do something. I find lists really help me. Also, if you can find some time in the day to clear your head that might help. Exercise helps to relax me and it is my time away from everything. Yoga is great for the mind and body too

Planning a wedding is difficult in itself. I am planning my wedding now too. I feel like there is so many things to do/remember. I put together a masterfile with my budget and when everything is due. I also put together a file fax with a tab for everything...venue, church, band, photographer, etc. It seriously helps! Because if I ever have a question about anything I look to my folder!
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For the last several months I have been dealing with anxiety. It is getting to an unbearable point. I am by no means unhappy, just constantly worrying about every little thing. Does that make sense? I can't shake the feeling of being nervous about something. I am way busy, I own my own business with my fiance, am planning a wedding, doing an internship, and am the president of two college organizations. I think the stress is getting to me, but its weird because I feel like its all under control, but still have a knot in my stomach that I can't pinpoint what it is...I have an appt Wednesday to see a doctor to discuss this, but was wondering if in the meantime anyone had experience with this?
I can relate completely. I believe it's just that when you're under that kind of stress, something has to give.

I'm going through this right now, too. Just saw a doctor yesterday and I have to fill out a questionnaire about anxiety and depression and bring it back in to discuss the results. I really feel it's just too much going on at once. Just bought a house with by b/f, who is now my fiance, and we're also planning a wedding. I'm an accountant and tax season is here so I'm working a lot. I'm also taking university courses part time, but am on a time crunch because my boss wants to retire and he's waiting for me to get my designation. On top of that, there's a co-worker who my boss has suggested might get to take over if he finishes school first. Add to that the blended family issues, because my fiance has no kids but I have a teenaged daughter, and differences in how to handle money... and... *pop*.... stress and anxiety levels are through the roof. I also don't have any friends - heck, where would I find the time??? So, I can't really talk to anyone about anything. I'm finding it hard to stay focused and some days it's hard to just get out of bed because I feel so hopeless.

I feel that medication is not an answer, but it can help get you through the toughest times so you can start to sort things out. Personally, I'm going to start seeing a counsellor. Maybe they can make suggestions to help me deal with the stress.

I hope you feel better. Maybe once the wedding is over things will calm down enough so you can deal with the "regular" things. Just know that there are definitely others out there who understand. You're not alone.
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I never had depression but i do hear that if you dont take care of anxiety it can turn into depression. Great move to talk to your dr sending hugs your way
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and one more suggestion...DELEGATE!!!! ... have a friend help you with the wedding(or mother) push some responsiblity at the school groups onto others. This will help you as you get older with Management skills . Practice now and you will be VERY successful and more relaxed too. i remember going to the printer for my wedding invites and there were 100 books of invites. I walked out and said to my mom"Please come here on your day off and pick your top 5 out"! so she did and it made a world of difference. Dont be afraid to ask for favors. Ask and you will receive. Exercise daily!!!! too. it will help with endorphines (SP)? in your brain that causes anxiety...greatest med ever!
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and one more suggestion...DELEGATE!!!! ... have a friend help you with the wedding(or mother) push some responsiblity at the school groups onto others. This will help you as you get older with Management skills . Practice now and you will be VERY successful and more relaxed too. i remember going to the printer for my wedding invites and there were 100 books of invites. I walked out and said to my mom"Please come here on your day off and pick your top 5 out"! so she did and it made a world of difference. Dont be afraid to ask for favors. Ask and you will receive. Exercise daily!!!! too. it will help with endorphines (SP)? in your brain that causes anxiety...greatest med ever!
I agree with both of these things. Learning to let go of some control can be liberating.
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Ive had 2 anxiety attacks that I can remember in my life. Both were at the same restaurant and both came out of nowhere. I was sitting there eating with my fiance, and after we were done I started feeling weird.... then out of nowhere, I just had to GET OUT OF THERE RIGHT NOW!!!! That's the only thought in my head. My heart beat was rapid, my breathing was heavy and I had to leave at that moment. It was the weirdest feeling. The last time it happened was 2 years ago.

I really try hard to keep my stress to a minimum and let go of the little things more, like cleaning the floors the night before the kids come to stay for the weekend, since that was such a waste of my time and really not that big of a deal for 2 more days. I have also learned to say no when I have to. Sometimes I just can't do it all and I used to try to. I guess with age, comes wisdom. I know what I can and can't handle and when my plate is already full. I also have learned to shy away from people who are negative, or who feel sorry for themselves, or try to make me feel bad about myself. That has helped immensely. Of course this means I have fewer friends, but the ones I have now are the ones that make me feel good and I make them feel good. We are on even playing field so the friendship is true & real, not tinged with jealousy, envy or guilt.

Anxiety is not fun! good luck with the talk with your doctor, hopefully he/she has some suggestions to help you cope before meds.
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A couple other tips for dealing with stress/anxiety that work for me.

- Cut back on caffeine
- Make lists for EVERYTHING. Food store lists, daily to do lists, lists on what you want to do if you have time, lists on what you'll ask others to do. This keeps you organized and you don't pressure yourself to remember every little detail. Write it all down. This has helped me sooooo much, you have no idea!
- Take a few extra mins before doing something and see if you can combine things on your to do list or set yourself up for a another thing by completing something else.
- Take a few mins, a few times a day... do nothing. I mean nothing. Don't talk, don't read, don't write, maybe pet your pup while sitting quietly. Let your mind wander. When I take time to do this I realize some of the answers on how to make things easier just click into place, its a matter of letting your mind put things together on it's own.
- Lastly.... don't make a mountain out of a molehill. In other words, don't make something bigger than it should be just to stress yourself out or let others know how much is going on in your life. I hope that makes sense.

Right now, my grandmother is very very ill. I can choose to believe she has cancer (doctors are testing for lymphoma) or I can choose to sit back and wait until the test results come in. There is nothing I can do and thinking her illness is cancer is (right now) making a mountain out of a mole hill. I have time to think about, process and come up with a game plan for IF she does and how I can help. Not time to panic and cry and make it something huge until I know for sure!

I hope that helps!

PS - I own a business (and it's struggling), I work a full time job, contract for my old company on the side also. I am planning a rather large wedding for March (50 days from today), have 2 dogs, 2 part time step kids. My mother is becoming a house guest for 2 months, and my grandmother is ill.

My game plan.. stay rational and have plenty of wine on hand! Oh and don't sweat the small stuff!

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I too suffer from anxiety. Mine started many years ago and when the attacks first hit I really thought that I was having a heart attack. Then there was the all the time fear that really started to affect my daily life. It was at that point that I went to see my doctor. I am now on meds for depression that actually are helpful with the anxiety. For me the anxiety was a symptom of the depression. I am glad that you are going to see your doctor. Trust me you really dont want to try to handle this alone. I wish you well and hope that you feel better soon
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