Mother in law rant

[chachi]

My Mother in law is constantly buying things for our house and not asking us first then expecting us to pay her for it. Llike this week she was going to buy a loft bed for My Daughters room she even had it disasembled and tried to get it in her car and it wouldnt fit so she called My Husband and asked if she could use his van to get it. Anyway thats when the news got to me. I blew up and because #1 we didnt have $200 to spend on a bed right now. #2 I was not asked or even considered in this decision and it has happened many times before, #3 a loft bed isnt practical in my daughters room right now. Her and her friends like to sit on her bed also her bed she has in her room she has had less than a year. I was really hot at my Husband and he ended up telling her we didnt want the bed.

Now I foundx out the Mother and her 3 sons are going to go and completely change My neices room and they are going to do it while her Mom My sister in law is at work and they arent going to tell her they are doing it. I told My Husband I think it is very dirty what they are doing, Im going out of town the day they are doing it so I am glad but I have alot of animosity towards My Husband, My Mother in law and his brothers for the dirty ways they treat sister in laws in this family. I have to get together with them on Friday and Saturday and its going to be every thing I can do to hold it in and not say anything. There is probably nothing anyone can say to help my situation this is just a rant to get it off my chest

[shodanusmc]

Why hold it in? Tell her, tell all of them! You will thank me later!

[Taryn0405]

Oh in laws....Sigh. The worst part of marriage.

[NewYorksBrandy]

OMG...that so sucks what's her problem... I think you should say something to your sister in law and tell her don't say anything and take off the day...lol and suprise them in the act..tee hee that's what I would do because I'm sneaky when it comes to wrong doing in our house hold... I'm considered the bully because know one can bully me and if they do they have something coming to them..lol if you need back up let me know..lol good luck

[chachi]

Originally Posted by NewYorksBrandy

OMG...that so sucks what's her problem... I think you should say something to your sister in law and tell her don't say anything and take off the day...lol and suprise them in the act..tee hee that's what I would do because I'm sneaky when it comes to wrong doing in our house hold... I'm considered the bully because know one can bully me and if they do they have something coming to them..lol if you need back up let me know..lol good luck

I dont think I can the Sister In law has her own problems and I havent been close to her. Plus I feel there is a trust between My Husband and I that he even told me and I dont want to break that trust. The sister in law is very controlling and she is going to blow a top when this happens. This is all being initated by her Husband because he wants his daughter to have a nice room and the mom hasnt done anything in her room. It is also because the Mother in law did my daughters room but I also knew about it and was involved. I told my Husband what they are doing is dirty because they know its wrong but they are going along anyway

[NewYorksBrandy]

Originally Posted by chachi

I dont think I can the Sister In law has her own problems and I havent been close to her. Plus I feel there is a trust between My Husband and I that he even told me and I dont want to break that trust. The sister in law is very controlling and she is going to blow a top when this happens. This is all being initated by her Husband because he wants his daughter to have a nice room and the mom hasnt done anything in her room. It is also because the Mother in law did my daughters room but I also knew about it and was involved. I told my Husband what they are doing is dirty because they know its wrong but they are going along anyway

I get you.. but it still sucks...no one in their own home should feel left out.. shame on her husband.. my Guy would never do that...even if my boys room needs an upgrade.. good luck with it.. run far from it then..

[chachi]

Originally Posted by NewYorksBrandy

I get you.. but it still sucks...no one in their own home should feel left out.. shame on her husband.. my Guy would never do that...even if my boys room needs an upgrade.. good luck with it.. run far from it then..

Im going to Dayton Ohio to visit my Aunt that had Open Heart surgery thankfully!

[Shelby&Seymour]

Definitely a "rude" way of doing things..... maybe the monster in law needs to be told that "remodeling" another womans house is very disrespectful. Sounds like she needs a new hobby.

[RachelandSadie]

oh mother in laws. and darling husbands who still let them control and walk all over them and their wives and kids....how i sympathize with you there. mine's a mean drunk/druggie and i think has only a few good bones in her but mostly mean ones.

my FIL and MIL both do lots and lots of things and they never consider me or my feelings or opinions. just the other day i had dh ask them to please not bring my gifts into their smoke infested house from my SIL who mailed it to them. the FIL says ok and then guess what my presents were on their table inside when i went to collect them....thank God they somehow stayed smoke free from the wrapping paper protecting them, but still!!! they expect me to like all the useless CRAP they give me and it's almost always cheap thrift store crap. my SIL for her first child got a pack n play that i had my other SIL and MIL go in with me on. What did i get from my MIL for gifts?? a cross stitched plaque that looked 100 years old all about how great grandparents are and a couple smoke infested books. thanks a lot. she wasn't even going to come because she all of a sudden doesn't believe in baby showers

anyways sorry to make this about me. just letting you know i feel ya on MIL problems. i have a fair share of them and know how awful it gets. i finally have had to put my foot down harder and if DH won't say something I WILL. esp with my little bear cub to protect from her now. i'll be a lot more vocal and less timid when it comes to my baby. she may be grandma but she's nothing to me when she's drunk or strung out and she won't be around my kids when she can't control herself.

[Taryn0405]

Originally Posted by RachelandSadie

my FIL and MIL both do lots and lots of things and they never consider me or my feelings or opinions. just the other day i had dh ask them to please not bring my gifts into their smoke infested house from my SIL who mailed it to them. the FIL says ok and then guess what my presents were on their table inside when i went to collect them....thank God they somehow stayed smoke free from the wrapping paper protecting them, but still!!! they expect me to like all the useless CRAP they give me and it's almost always cheap thrift store crap. my SIL for her first child got a pack n play that i had my other SIL and MIL go in with me on. What did i get from my MIL for gifts?? a cross stitched plaque that looked 100 years old all about how great grandparents are and a couple smoke infested books. thanks a lot. she wasn't even going to come because she all of a sudden doesn't believe in baby showers

anyways sorry to make this about me. just letting you know i feel ya on MIL problems. i have a fair share of them and know how awful it gets. i finally have had to put my foot down harder and if DH won't say something I WILL. esp with my little bear cub to protect from her now. i'll be a lot more vocal and less timid when it comes to my baby. she may be grandma but she's nothing to me when she's drunk or strung out and she won't be around my kids when she can't control herself.

Uh, I'm pretty sure you and I have the same mother-in-law...Sounds very, very familiar.

[RachelandSadie]

Originally Posted by Taryn0405

Uh, I'm pretty sure you and I have the same mother-in-law...Sounds very, very familiar.

really. i thought there was only one monster as bad as her.

[Taryn0405]

Originally Posted by RachelandSadie

really. i thought there was only one monster as bad as her.

No ma'm just getting a little bit started, mine didn't buy my husband and I a wedding or shower gift. Refused to pay or anything at the wedding, until she admitted herself in the hospital (which she did 3 days before my wedding in order to make it all about her) and I made my husband corner her right in front of her mother to demand she give us the money that she promised (only gave us half the rest my husband and my family had to make up).

Then during my shower on his side, the whole time I'm trying to announce that my husband and I bought a house, she starts bawling her eyes out saying how she has to put her 16 year old beagle down (who I rescued when he was just left for 5 days in a house when she split with my FIL) due to kidney failure. So, on my shower day I got to take the dog to the vet to be put down....

Oh I have some good stories, and I'm sure many can relate. Sheer evil

[Perrella]

No way...never! Ok, I'm here to tell you...I would have no problem being very direct and up front about it. Look, don't buy not one other item for my house and it you do..and...I choose to accept it, I will not pay you one dime for it, I will consider it a gift. However, if and only if, I ask you to pick something up for me...then and ONLY then will you be reimbursed. And that would be said right in front of the entire lot of them!!! And to make myself very clear....I would ask "are there any questions) good, then were are done!

Geez...ticks me off and it's not even me, LOL. Good Luck!

[celstu1]

Originally Posted by chachi

My Mother in law is constantly buying things for our house and not asking us first then expecting us to pay her for it. Llike this week she was going to buy a loft bed for My Daughters room she even had it disasembled and tried to get it in her car and it wouldnt fit so she called My Husband and asked if she could use his van to get it. Anyway thats when the news got to me. I blew up and because #1 we didnt have $200 to spend on a bed right now. #2 I was not asked or even considered in this decision and it has happened many times before, #3 a loft bed isnt practical in my daughters room right now. Her and her friends like to sit on her bed also her bed she has in her room she has had less than a year. I was really hot at my Husband and he ended up telling her we didnt want the bed.

Now I foundx out the Mother and her 3 sons are going to go and completely change My neices room and they are going to do it while her Mom My sister in law is at work and they arent going to tell her they are doing it. I told My Husband I think it is very dirty what they are doing, Im going out of town the day they are doing it so I am glad but I have alot of animosity towards My Husband, My Mother in law and his brothers for the dirty ways they treat sister in laws in this family. I have to get together with them on Friday and Saturday and its going to be every thing I can do to hold it in and not say anything. There is probably nothing anyone can say to help my situation this is just a rant to get it off my chest

Why do they think they have the right to come into someone else's home and change their rooms? So you are saying your mother in law and her 3 sons are just going to bust into your sister-in-laws house during the day and change up her daughter's room w/o the consent of her or your sister-in-law? Ooooohhh that would NOT fly with me AT ALL! I can't even imagine someone thinking they have the right to do that! Crazy! Some people are sooo clueless and rude!

[CrimsonLuvsLola]

Wow. I'm glad I live over 2000 miles from my MIL. Shes a nice person, but shes annoying as hell and does stick her nose in other peoples business. But not nearly as bad as these people you're talking about. I feel bad for my hubby, cause he has my dad as a FIL. My dad......yeah hes pretty mean to anyone but me.