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10-27-2011, 08:12 PM | #1 |
No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Kansas City, MO
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| DH has no sense of money management it seems. I'm really stressing out. We thought we had this all planned and it's all falling apart. I was going to quit my job and stay home literally all the time with my son and not work at all. Mike was going to make about 45K before bonus checks working in the KC area nearby and life would be good. Then one day it all got ripped apart when he got a transfer to a store over an hour away in another town and we found out he doesn't make quite as much as we had thought and realized also that not only does he not make more but add on gas and the fact that he'll take on two people on his insurance and he'll barely make enough to cover the mortgage on one of those paychecks a month. The other monthly paycheck will barely cover the cost of other bills and a few groceries to survive on. Throw in baby expenses and we're going to be barely scraping by. I know it's stupid to complain about money when we are at least able to work and have some, but I hate constantly working paycheck to paycheck and never getting anywhere. Our roof is in desperate need of repair BEFORE it starts to leak, we drive old crappy 99' cars with bad gas mileage and horrible luck with breaking down lots. And though our house is beautiful it's expensive and it's all we can do to pay the bills sometimes. I know when we stop eating out and going out we'll save a bit there, but what we save we loose in insurance premiums for a family. This whole thing is starting to suck and he's starting to pressure into working at least part time outside the home which is putting a strain on my joy over being home with my son not to mention what's the point of working a part time job that literally just barely covers the cost of the babysitter I would have to have because his schedule is so darn all over the place that I can't work set hours because they will always at some point conflict with his hours and we'll need a sitter. I'm in a town where I don't know anyone and don't trust anyone to watch our son, and if I did the cost would be more than the 8 bucks an hour I'd be making. I'm in a nightmare and I can't stop it. Baby is coming nothing we can do about that now, not that we'd want to. We have mouths to feed, diapers to buy, and things to pay for and now guess what DH wants to buy a car!! WTF is he thinking. we cannot afford to add a 200 or more car payment to this already VERY tight budget we're going down to. He's nuts and not thinking he keeps saying it'll save in gas, but the small amount it might save us in gas it'll kill us in car payments. He doesn't THINK about that and he's horrible with budgeting and seeing the whole picture. He doesn't have a clue what kids will cost and how hard they are to raise. This is going to be super horrible and I have a feeling I'll end up with a child raised by daycare workers who don't give a shiz about him and I'll be a miserable working mother trying to make a living just to pay for childcare and missing everything I treasured most about staying home with my son. VENT OVER....just need hugs and love. WHEW |
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10-27-2011, 08:35 PM | #2 |
Yorkie mom of 4 Donating YT Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: LaPlata, Md
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| Sending prayers and lots of hugs.
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10-28-2011, 04:27 AM | #3 |
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| It does sound like a sucky situation. I'm not sure your husband is totally wrong though. Yes, going out and buying a brand new car - and an expensive one at that - probably isn't the right thing to do. However, relying on '99 cars, even after the baby comes, well, is that a good idea? What are the chances that you will HAVE to find a place for it in your budget in a few months anyway... I think it would be great for you to stay home and I know that's what you want, but maybe this isn't the right time? If you can't find a part time job that would pay more than daycare expenses, then maybe it is best to just keep your current job? I mean, babies do cost a lot of money. I'd be very concerned that it already looks so tight. What happens if you have unexpected expenses.. My sister and BIL were in pretty much the same spot. They were very stable financially, then she quit to raise the kiddo and got a part time that he could go to with her. They have savings for 6 months that they could live on in an emergency. They also paid off a new car before all of this. And things are VERY tight for them still.
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10-28-2011, 06:07 AM | #4 |
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| Rachel, you will get through this, so calm down a little and relax. Things always have a way of working out. He may have a car payment, but he will save gas money, and have a warranty so if the engine or tranny blow, you will not pay a penny. When I got maried, I was a new Marine Officer making around $550 a month. Bought a car, had rent off base, and first child was not far off. All of our wordly possessions fit in the trunk of the car. It was though then for sure. Hang in there. If you love your husband, have some faith in him. |
10-28-2011, 06:15 AM | #5 |
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| Sending you hugs If you can get a new car at one of the really great deal prices that are going on right now, you might be able to get a payment less than 200 Factor in the gas savings and no repair bills and you could end up better off Why not just explore the possibility, and then if it's not feasible, put it off until things calm down. This is the time of year to buy a new car, though, and I keep seeing ads on TV for $99/mo payments, etc. If your credit is good, you can get a good deal. Have you considered working at night, so that your hubby would be with the baby, instead of a daycare. My sister had to do it when they lost one car, so that they could share the car, and it's worked out wonderfully for them. She's now an assistant manager at a WalMart and makes really great money. She started out stocking shelves for just above minimum wage and now two years later makes about $20/hour plus benefits. Things WILL work out. Just remember that you're in it together and keep the faith
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10-28-2011, 06:35 AM | #6 |
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| Just a thought, Rachel, maybe it would be beneficial to lease a car for your husband now that he is going to have to travel to his work. You might want to call whoever does your taxes, or an H&R Block if you do yourselves, and ask about leasing a car bc traveling is part of job and writing off mileage on your taxes. Another thought, maybe there is a way to get the word out more about your PupTarts. Ppl are always looking for healthy snacks - pet supply business is supposedly growing. I really do feel bad for this younger generation coming through. I know I've said it before on here, but this economy is not good - and employers know it! I'm sorry they didn't follow through on what they promised your husband. His best way to turn it around is to do really well at this store he really didn't want. Then, hopefully, he will get to transfer closer to home.
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10-28-2011, 10:20 AM | #7 |
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| ^^If Walgreens has a Flex plan, those pre-tax dollars can be used for gas/commuting expenses. If you end up looking for a different job, part-time work, many hospital jobs offer flexible schedules, pretty decent pay, great benefits (sometimes child care), and bonus opportunities. When I was in school, I clerked in different units, and we were paid $25 bonuses for covering shifts on short notice, time and half for working holidays, and so on.
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10-28-2011, 11:07 AM | #8 |
YT 2000 Club Donating Member | I want to say don't panic. You two can do this! A new car is Not a bad idea, what are you paying on maintenance for your old clunker? And that clunker can break down at any time. You would want a good gas mileage car, etc. Get an extended warranty if not too costly. Also another idea, once your hubby settles in have you two consider ride/share? Maybe other folks are travelling from your area to where hubby works, and they can take turns driving each other. This wouldleave the car at home a few times a wk for you and the baby. Shift work - night work is an option. And yes if you get this - it will be exhausting as likely you will be up in the early am with baby..... But you won't need babysitting etc. Another idea is jobshare with another woman in your boat. You look after her kids when she is working, and she looks after yours, when you are working. Of course that means a part time job for both of you, but no babysitting costs! How about a home based business? Any good at grooming the toy breeds? Ears nails etc? That can be quite lucrative and with small breeds a small capital investment (which you probably have already made with your crew). Dog walking? Dog training? Doggy sitting day care? But I have to say thinking about supporting a family at $45K a year just can't be done where I live. I'm envious with that income you two can do it. Budgetting on a penny can be done. Do you make menu plans for the week and only shop to those plans? I saved the down payment on my first house by doing this. And saved that in two years too. Do you have a programmable thermostat for the house? ONce I put one of those into our house we saved about $40 per month on our heating bills. Temp went automatically down at night, went up for waking hours, down for the hours we were out of the house, and up again when we got home. One of the things about saving on gas costs for your car is to make sure the tires are balanced, and properly inflated, that can make a huge difference in resistance to the road and resultant cost savings. Also a well tuned car. frequent oil changes etc. And yes I was a professional accountant at one time. I'm here if you need in setting up a family budget.
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10-28-2011, 11:34 AM | #9 | |
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Unfortunately even keeping this job is not an option i work 2-10pm and there are no daycares around here that offer this type of time frame and babysitters are not an option when you don't know anyone and your town keeps having babysitter's killed the kid stories. | |
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10-28-2011, 11:56 AM | #11 | |
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It's all going to work out, you'll see. You'll both find a way to make it work, and you'll love being able to be with your little one full time. Maybe as he gets a little older, you can find part time work somewhere that would fit into your lives. Things have a way of coming together.
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10-28-2011, 11:56 AM | #12 | |
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Thanks those were some helpful tips. I will keep looking at it. I'm worried a bit, but I know God does have a plan and will work it all out with time. for now i'm just working here until baby comes and then taking a couple months with him and then we'll find something i'm sure. just got DH to understand that while it's about 200 a month in gas, it's not 270 a month plus wiping out our small nest egg on a downpayment plus another 100 or more still in gas a month...we will look but it's not time to buy yet. | |
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10-28-2011, 03:22 PM | #14 |
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| Some how it's going to work out. I know I have to work after the baby comes, but just in the last couple months, I've learned that my job is extremely unstable and it is likely that I will either get laid off or transferred to a location much farther away. We absolutely cannot make it off of just DH's income. Like someone else said, I wish 45K could last in our area even living paycheck to paycheck. I am worried about my potential job loss, but I'm trying not to think about it and take it day by day. Stressing too much is not good for the baby, so I'm just trusting God.
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