Need a little help getting in the Christmas spirit..

[Gizmo's Mom]

Just as it was with all of the other "first" holidays since I lost my Andy. I have my grandchildren Nate and ony I need to be decorating and baking cookies for. I'm off today and could be putting up the tree but that would just mean we would have that much longer to sit and stare at it. My Chistmas wish is just to get thru it. Trying to be strong for my family because I know they are watching and worrying about me. This was my boy's favorite time of year, he did what he could to make it special for us. This year I will strive to do the same for my family..for him. This year as you gather around the tree, say some extra "I love you's" and hug a little longer. You will be glad you did

[Mom to Hot Rod]

I am so very sorry you are feeling so down. Holidays can be hard without a loss of a loved one, so having to deal with a loss can be more debilitating. Take your time in your healing, there is no set rule about the amount of time you need to grieve.

Can you take a little time each day and only "spend it with Andy" and then tend to what the days brings? This can be your special time.

Sending you a

[linda44]

Im sorry you feel hurt during the holidays too, but I tell ya from experience, your on the right track focusing on family, grandkids. When I lost my son, it was 5 days before Christmas, that was his fav holiday. Its never quite been the same but God has given me four beautiful grandsons, and when you see a little kid's face glow in all the wonder of Christmas it sure helps to heal a broken heart. Hang in there.

[Micah my love]

I am so sorry that you are so down, but now there is only one way to go
UP !! so go make them cookies & candies for them grandbabies you will also be making sweet memories, some of my best were being at my grandmothers and now i love it when my grandkids say Nana do you remember when & tell their stories

Andy would want you to be happy

[Gizmo's Mom]

Thank you so much my friends, for caring enough to post with your kind words.

[red98vett]

Hi Denise !! I totally understand where you're coming from - losing a child is the worst thing anyone can ever go thru. I can only say - do what you can. Try not to stress or force yourself to do things you arent comfortable with. You could keep it simple and still have a very nice holiday time for your family and you still have Amy to keep your spirits up right ?

Remember Andy with smiles and know he is with you in spirit. He'd want you to be happy not sad. I know this is so much easier said than done. I couldn't even decorate since my husband died. I did manage a tree this year but it has no lights and is looking pretty sad....I'm going to force myself to light it if only for my son who moved in with me 8 months ago but I DO know how you feel.

hugs friend - call me anytime you need to talk ok ?
V

[Britster]

I'm so very sorry. I can relate a bit because I lost my almost 6 year old brother in 2006. My mom has never been the same since but she has had another child and it's helped a ton. Just surrounding ourselves with our closest friends and family really helped us thru the entire grieving process but holiday's will never ever be the same. The first 2 years, I was really depressed and could've cared less. I've tried last year and this to listen to a lot of Christmas music and be thankful for what I do have. I still miss him every single day.

[tjdmom]

Oh Denise, I'm so sorry. This must be really tough for you. Maybe it can be a tribute to your son if we can all remember to count our blessings this year and not worry about what we want and instead be grateful for what we have. I'm sending you hugs and hope it brings you some small little piece of comfort.

[saphire]

Denise, my heart goes out to you. I will be remembering you, Amy and Andy at Christmas when I say my extra I love you's. Thank you for the reminder.

Keeping you close in my thoughts, always dear friend.

[Yorkiekids]

I'm so sorry for what your going through. If you ever want you can pm me, and I'd be glad to talk with you. I've been going through a very bad depression, and something that makes me smile is getting a Christmas card from a YT member. I put each of them on my wall for everyone to see.

[LuvMySissy]

Denise - you and your family continue to be in my prayers. I can only imagine how difficult this Christmas will be for you. Sometimes, you just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other until you don't have to think about it anymore. Sending my hugs.....