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11-27-2009, 11:32 AM | #1 |
Donating YT 11K Club Member | It's over Me and my bf of almost 4 years broke up last night-on Thanksgiving. We've been having problems for a couple months but I never thought this would actually happen. I feel like my whole world has crumbled. He was my best friend, he was the only one that kept me going. I don't know what i will do with myself. This has been the absolute worst year for me..with Sophie passing away and now this. And it's around the holidays. He is my first love..how am I going to live with myself. I want to eventually move on but i feel unmotivated now..like I don't want to do anything. This hurts..really bad.
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11-27-2009, 12:23 PM | #2 |
YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: London, Ontario, canada
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| I am so sorry, you must be hurting so badly. At least you have such great fur babies to snuggle you. May I suggest some retail therapy and a bottle or two of wine (just STAY AWAY from email if you drink the wine!!)? Maybe a new puppy would be a good thing? I can't recall if you ended up getting another one this year. . . My thoughts are with you! Hang in there. Sadly, heart-breaking break-ups are almost a right of passage and most people have experienced them AND SURVIVED. Hold your puppies tight and try to take things one day at a time! |
11-27-2009, 01:00 PM | #3 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | I am so sorry. Several years ago when my dtr's BF of 3 1/2 years broke up with her she was a wreck, we even cried together. She went through a phase of driving by his house or going by where he worked hoping to see him, it took some time but one day she said I finally can see him and not care. Just give yourself time to grieve the loss and try and get out even if you don't feel like it, and you probably won't feel like it but it helps. Just try and remember things work out how they are supposed to and you will end up with the one you are meant to be with one day. Hugs
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11-27-2009, 01:22 PM | #4 |
Donating YT 100K Club Member & Top YorkieTalk Poster! Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: western KY
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| So sorry for the sad time you are going through but it will get better big hugs
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11-27-2009, 01:34 PM | #5 |
I ♥ my Furheathens Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: VAN ALSTYNE
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| Ugh - Im sorry. Breaking up with your first love is NEVER easy. So maybe for the rest of the weekend, you dont do anything. Who cares!! You are entitled to "mourn", so if you stay in bed, eat some ice cream, and cry till you cant cry anymore, that is perfectly normal. My suggestion would be to call the girls in. Call your best gal pals and have them over, or go to them. I remember when my *love* and I broke up, geesh, I didnt think I was ever going to breathe again but I did. It all takes time and it really does get better. You are going to move when you are ready. Dont let anyone rush you! Hugs!
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11-27-2009, 01:53 PM | #6 |
YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Connecticut
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| Sorry to hear about your break up. Just know that things do get better and you will pull through. I have a 20 year old daughter and we've been through a lot of break-ups over the years . . .in fact, she was engaged earlier this year and ended up giving him the ring back. It was probably the hardest decision she had to make and it does take a toll on all sorts of emotions. But it just wasn't meant to be. Just give yourself time, do something for yourself, have a day of pampering . . .go out with your girlfriends and be crazy . . .smile, it will get better for you!
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11-27-2009, 02:46 PM | #7 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Morristown, TN
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| Oh I am so sorry. Me and my husband split up a couple years ago for 4 months and we were apart through the holidays and it was horrible. Just try to be strong and get your mind on other things. I find focusing on others and maybe volunteering really helps me in the hard times.
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11-27-2009, 03:26 PM | #8 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: upstate ny
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| I'm so sorry. I firmly believe someday you will look back and consider this a blessing! But for now, take some time for you and spoil yourself a bit! |
11-27-2009, 03:37 PM | #9 |
Donating YT 7000 Club Member | Oh I'm so sorry. I've never experienced this but I can't imagine how devestating it must be. I'll be sending you prayers.
__________________ Megan "I have my dreams, I have made plans." - The Pirate Queen All Gave Some; Some Gave All |
11-27-2009, 04:58 PM | #10 |
and Khloe Mae's too! Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Eastern Washington
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| I'm so sorry... Try to focus on other things. Hang out with friends, go shopping, watch movies, exercise... love on your furbabies! I remember when my first love and I broke up... it was hard. But don't worry girl! You will find another and you will be thankful that you were able to move on. I am now married to the greatest man, and could not be happier that I was able to move on and find the "one".
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11-27-2009, 05:25 PM | #11 |
Loved by Layla Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Canada
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| Ugh- do I know that feeling. My first "love" and I were dating 3 years- I thought we were going to get married- and our break up was not mutual. I thought I would never be happy again. i walked around in this fog for a year- not happy. It takes a while- and dont' let people try and tell you to "get over it" it takes a while. I've been single for like 3 years now and I am just now ready to be in a relationship again (well- depends on the day.. lol... guys are a lot of work!). Do what you need to do- hug your furbabies. Layla was the only thing to get me through the darkest days. You'll be ok |
11-27-2009, 05:28 PM | #12 |
YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Franklin, TN
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| it makes me cry to read this. I can truly feel your pain in your message. I am so so sorry. but you will survive...you just have to make the decision to live life. I will keep you in my prayers. I hope for you to stay strong and know you are a beautiful wonderful woman. God has big plans for you...and I will pray that those plans are revealed very soon so you are not in pain long. hugs!!!
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11-27-2009, 11:25 PM | #14 |
YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Long Island, NY USA
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| My first love and I broke up, 2 years later I get married, divorced a year after that, and married my first love after 7 years apart. We've been married 21 years and have 4 wonderful children and 4 babies. What will be will be, don't push it. You never know what the future will bring. Live your life and go with the flow. Believe me I know how hard it is, the pain is unbearable, but this too will pass. Stay strong, you aren't going to die (although you feel like it). I wish you well and I will keep you in my thoughts. Stay strong, you will be okay, you have plenty of people who care about you.
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11-27-2009, 11:35 PM | #15 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Illinois
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| I'm so sorry you are going through this. Heart breaks are so difficult. I wish there was something I could do or say to make it easier and less painful. I will keep you in my prayers.
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