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05-07-2009, 08:20 AM | #1 |
lovin my girls Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Nottinghamshire, UK
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| Is Amelia Just A Brat Or Can Terrible Two's Come Early? Mum's Advise PLEASE! O. M. G. Brat is an understatement. She's so naughty lately. If I tell her No she either laughs at me or shakes her head to tell me no... if I really tell her off she will cry uncontrollably for anything from a couple of minutes to 30minutes. Sometimes she will throw herself on the floor and other times she will just stand and scream and scream and scream! I'm literally at my wits end with her now... she climbs things she shouldn't, bangs stuff on the tv, bites, pinches and no matter how I try to tell her not to I get the same screaming, crying response. She's up till 4-5am every single night because her back teeth coming in threw her soooo far off her routine. She's not overtired because she is sleeping most of the morning, as am I because I physically can not get up in the morning after so little sleep for the past few months. So now I don't know the best method to approach this with. I don't want her to be one of those kids that cries to get their own way so I don't want to be trying to comfort her when she's crying... after she was told off so I would be going back on it if I then hugged her. What's the best method for dealing with this behaviour? I know there are plenty of mum's on here and I would appreciate hearing different methods etc.
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05-07-2009, 10:27 AM | #2 |
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| I don't remember how old Amelia is, but it has been my experience that the terrible twos start at about 18 months old. Hang in there, Mom. She is precious and this too will pass.
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05-07-2009, 10:40 AM | #3 |
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| Vicky, Amelia sounds like my granddaughter Isabella to a T. My daughter calls them Melt Downs! Isabella is 2 1/2 and is going threw the same thing. She's so very sweet but when she get's her feather's up there's no talking to her. Her newest thing is running away from her mother in stores and hiding. She was missing in Lord N Taylor's last week for 10 mins my daughter said. Four people and a security guard were looking for her! One second she was there and the next gone! My daughter found her in a dressing room hiding behind a door and then went into a melt down when she was found. I don't know what to tell you because I don't know what to tell my daughter. Hopefully they will get out of this time as fast as they got into it. Finger's crossed for you. |
05-07-2009, 10:51 AM | #4 |
Donating YT 10K Club Member | Amelia is coming into her independence. She's learning...she does not have to do as she is told. I don't mean you aren't teaching her what you expect...I mean she's just testing to see if she can have things her way. Be firm and consistent. Not doing so is what teaches them ....throw a big enough fit...she'll win. I'll tell you what worked very well when mine threw tantrums. I walked out of the room. There were times...I'd leave the room with the screaming kid....suddenly there would be dead silence...until she'd follow me to the next room and "perform" again. Complete with throwing herself back down on the floor. It was almost comical. She quit throwing fits though...fits are not very effective if there isn't an audience.
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05-07-2009, 10:52 AM | #5 | ||
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05-07-2009, 10:55 AM | #6 |
Donating YT 10K Club Member | Mine never knew walking in any store was an option.
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05-07-2009, 10:58 AM | #7 | |
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05-07-2009, 11:00 AM | #8 |
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| I think it's safer for sooo many reasons. When she's older she can walk but not till I know she can be completely trusted.
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05-07-2009, 11:14 AM | #9 | |
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I think mine might've thought...WTH???? the first time I did it. LOL. I bribed mine in stores to avoid that scene you mention above. At the time there were the rides located outside of stores...IF she was good...she got to ride one when we left. Of course...she was a bit older than Amelia's age at the time.
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05-07-2009, 11:20 AM | #10 |
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| Oh dear, our sweet Amelia Grace has started with the TT a bit early and is searching for her level of independence and buttons on her mummy!!! I feel for you as it is a tuff time to go through for both YOU and HER. Suggestions is to be patient, consistant, calm and patient, consistant and calm. This too shall pass! (((((((HUGS TO VICKY/MUM))))))))))
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05-07-2009, 11:26 AM | #11 |
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| I totally agree with you on that! I have seen her in action and she WILL NOT sit in the stroller if she dosen't want too. My poor daughter has to get things done so she allows her out to help mommy find this or that to keep her from going into a meltdown. Her sister never got out of the stroller, ever and this one won't stay in! I know what I would do but that's another story. |
05-07-2009, 11:29 AM | #12 | |
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05-07-2009, 11:39 AM | #13 | |
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I don't have kids, but I have read that the TTs come partly because this is the first time they have wants that their parents cannot completely fulfill. You can't let her jump off a balcony, for instance. At this point, they lack the language and emotional skills to deal with frustration. I think leaving her to her tantrum is a good idea. I actually remember having tantrums when I was a baby, rolling on the floor, hitting the ground with my feet and fists, the whole nine yards. And I would be FURIOUS when my mom left me in my room. But eventually, I did get tired. ==================== ETA: Saying "no" is also an important stage of development, where the child starts to understand that she is a separate person, who doesn't necessarily want what her parents what. So as maddening as it is, it is helping her grow.
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05-07-2009, 11:54 AM | #14 | ||
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05-07-2009, 12:01 PM | #15 | |
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I always tell her "no" it's the response that comes afterwards that is the hard part because I couldn't find the best tactic in dealing with it, (hence looking towards YT advice, which has been GREAT with any issues I've had in the past). I'm going to go with Deb's advice though and just walk out the room next time and see how that goes down with her.
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