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03-02-2009, 09:04 PM | #1 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker | So frustrated with men!!! So my boyfriend was recently laid off and I've been working 2 jobs and going to school. He's pretty good about helping out with household chores (sometimes), but not very much. I come home and spend hours cooking dinner, and do A TON of dishes as I go along....but after we are done eating, I ask him if he can do the rest of the dishes (I mean, about 2 plates!!), and it's always a HUGE huff!! Like I'm asking him to donate a kidney!! I just went back in the kitchen and noticed the food was still out, and not all the dishes were done, and he said "You never told me to put the food away!" Do I have to tell him EVERYTHING!! Asking him to take the trash out is like pulling teeth!! AHH!! I'm so frustrated!! Thanks for letting me vent!! YT is like my therapy |
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03-02-2009, 09:54 PM | #2 |
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| He's not working and you're working two jobs, plus going to school! I think he should not only do the dishes, but also do the cooking and any other housework! I don't blame you for needing to vent! *HUG*
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03-02-2009, 10:07 PM | #3 |
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| if i were u i wudnt cook for him. n then wen he asks u why, u say "cuz u didn't tell me to" all kiddin aside, ur workin n goin to school while he does nothing. he shud b doing ALL the housework at least until he gets another job or something. it has to be 50/50
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03-02-2009, 10:25 PM | #4 |
Lovin' My LilBug! Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Kentucky
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| Sounds like all men! LOL! Men are soooo lazy. My boyfriend is a blessing to me and helps me out quite a bit but I still get those occasional huffs and puffs whenever I ask him to do something. I just ignore it or tell him that I could be asking for a lot more and he needs to get over it or go to bed. LOL. You just gotta be fierce with them. My boyfriend knows he can either like it or lump it.
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03-02-2009, 10:26 PM | #5 |
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| Lets see... YOU Work job #1 Work job #2 Go to school Cook Do dishes Clean the house HIM He needs to step it up and help !!
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03-02-2009, 10:46 PM | #6 |
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| Tell him if he wants his dinner, he has 2 arms and 2 legs and he knows where the kitchen is and to clean up after himself!! I hate lazy men. I have a lazy brother. My mother is 95 years old and she still cooks him breakfast, lunch and dinner. I think he just expects it. She has to beg him to run the vacuum too. She even had to hire help to do the outside shores and to spade up her garden so she could plant it. She has to tell him what to do everyday. I wish I lived closer to my Mom. I would treat her like royalty.
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03-03-2009, 06:42 AM | #7 |
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| OH BOY DO I UNDERSTAND!!!! THANKFULLY its not my hubby that doesnt do a dang thing... its my bil... HE drives me CRAZY!!!!! Im soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo sick of having to clean up after him and his kids when his kids are here (every other weekend) and if I dont do it..... I have since refused to do it... my hubby will... its sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo dumb I just want to kick my bil in the head!!!! so believe you me I FEEL YOU!!! Im ss your bf is not lifting a finger... its really hard! HUGS whew I feel a little better too!!!
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03-03-2009, 07:01 AM | #8 |
Ben's Mommy Donating Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: New York
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| Oh my girl, do I ever know what you mean! My bf is the EXACT same way. Except yes he does have a job, but so do I, working 8+ hours a day just as he does. I cook dinner at least 4 times a week and the other times I tell him he is on his own, and I am not coming home from work cleaning up the mess you made before you left for work, cooking dinner and then cleaning up after that 7 days a week. About every other week i go on strike and he gets the picture.
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03-03-2009, 08:08 AM | #9 |
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| He needs to step up! My husband is retired-I'm not. The first couple days I came home to find him camped out in his chair. After cooking and cleaning up for a while I had had it. I came home one day and dh asked "what's for dinner?" I told him I ate at work because it was too tiring to come home and cook. So, if he was hungry he could make himself something. Now most nights when I get home he has dinner ready or plans to go somewhere because he's hungry.
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03-03-2009, 08:21 AM | #10 |
♥ Mama's Boy ♥ Donating Member | I know how you feel, I am in school too and I live with my boyfriend. He does cook because if I cooked I would prob. kill both of us. But I do the laundry, clean the house, pick things up, and don't get me started on the dishes in the sink ...etc. We got home sunday night from out of town and it was late so we just our bags and the laundry I took to do at my mom's in the living room and when I got home Monday, I put all the stuff up and his bag is STILL in the living room unpacked!! It drives me NUTS! And when I am on here is starts to pout! And brushing Tobie and giving him a bath does he help? NOOOO...and when I take him to get groomed and get the puppy cut he thinks he looks ugly, well if he helped me then I would not do the puppy cut! Men I swear!! |
03-03-2009, 08:34 AM | #11 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Bronx
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| That is so not fair. You work 2 jobs and go to school and you still come home to cook. He should at least do the cooking and cleaning while your working your 2 jobs and going to school. |
03-03-2009, 09:29 AM | #12 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire
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| I finally ditched a guy like that after 10 years! I swear they don't change if they are always like that. BF now does it all without me asking and does it right! Its like Im on a mini-vacation somedays!
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03-03-2009, 10:00 AM | #13 |
Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Upstate, NY
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| Thankfully he is your boyfriend and not your husband!! I would hope his lack of ambition towards household duties will deter you from marrying him! If he is like that now, he isn't going to change. Relationships are partnerships, and he isn't holding up his end of it!! I thank my lucky stars that my husband does more than 50% of the housework!!
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03-03-2009, 01:06 PM | #14 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker | You guys are SO right!! I definitely need to figure this one out. It's ironic because over the holiday's my mom was talking about leaving my dad because she was so fed up with him not helping around the house! My mom has cancer and has been going through chemo and radiation, and has had 2 hip replacements, and 1 knee replacement, and has HAD IT with my dad not helping out! Luckily, the threat of leaving him, knocked some sense into him, and my dad has been a lot better about it. My mom said to me "If you're with a man who does NOT help around the house, I would tell you to leave him immediately!" The thing about my boyfriend is, he helps when he WANTS to. Sometimes, he'll feel like it, but then seems to expect a "thank you", and some sort of praise for it!! I don't EVER recall a "thank you" for taking out the trash, doing the dishes, making the bed, etc. That's it!! NO MORE THANK YOU'S FROM ME!!! YOU ALL ARE SOOOOOOO RIGHT ABOUT THIS!! Something needs to be done! Otherwise, it will just build up and build up, like it did with my mom, and cause a HUGE resentment. The resentment will only hurt me in the end. (I'm making him out to be a monster, but he's truly a VERY sweet person, and aside from this issue, we do pretty well together. Just thought I would add that little piece ) |
03-04-2009, 01:23 AM | #15 |
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| From a guy, I hear a lot of frustration from just about everyone who has posted so far. He's pretty good about helping out with household chores (sometimes), but not very much. Sounds like a heart to heart talk is in order with some requests/tasking. I work rotating shifts (started 11pm-7am tonight) and I still do my share, plus, around the house (dishes, laundry, trash), yard, pool and take care of the boyz. Last thing I do before leaving for a Sun-Thu night shift is ask "What time do you want me to call you in the morning? "
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