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marcerella02 · 01-14-2009, 06:49 PM

I was cleaning out my drawers in my bed room and found the promise ring (HA) that my ex bf gave me. It is really a beautiful dainty ring and i don't want to throw it out... but i don't want it either... what do i do with it?? I just put it back in the drawer- i wish it didn't make me think of him because i really do like the ring.... any suggsetions?

LuvMySissy · 01-14-2009, 06:55 PM

Howa bout either taking it to a pawn shop, selling it on Ebay, or giving it to someone special to you.....

marcerella02 · 01-14-2009, 07:00 PM

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Originally Posted by LuvMySissy

Howa bout either taking it to a pawn shop, selling it on Ebay, or giving it to someone special to you.....

hmm. how would i know how much to sell it for?

bchgirl · 01-14-2009, 07:05 PM

You could always sell it or you can have it melted down and made into something else. I did that with an engagement ring....actually a couple of times. LOL

twalla · 01-14-2009, 07:21 PM

Personally..... I would not get rid of it. I still have mine.

I think you should hold onto it... what if you have a daughter one day... its something you can pull out and talk about it. Maybe she will want it.

My niece will get mine.

marcerella02 · 01-14-2009, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by twalla

Personally..... I would not get rid of it. I still have mine.

I think you should hold onto it... what if you have a daughter one day... its something you can pull out and talk about it. Maybe she will want it.

My niece will get mine.

isn't it kinda odd to give someone else a ring that represents a broken promise? It's just when i look at that ring- i dont' think of happy things... I wish i didn't because i it is really a beautiful ring and totally a style i would wear... maybe the emotions attached to it still aren't gone... although i thought they were... i guess this tells me otherwise. .. maybe i should just tuck it away until i can look at it and not feel these things.

twalla · 01-14-2009, 07:48 PM

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Originally Posted by marcerella02

isn't it kinda odd to give someone else a ring that represents a broken promise? It's just when i look at that ring- i dont' think of happy things... I wish i didn't because i it is really a beautiful ring and totally a style i would wear... maybe the emotions attached to it still aren't gone... although i thought they were... i guess this tells me otherwise. .. maybe i should just tuck it away until i can look at it and not feel these things.

I dont look at as a broken promise anymore, its been a long time and those feelings are long gone. For me, it is part of who I was and my past. Now when I look at it, it doesnt bring the hurt. It reminds of a time when I was loved and happy times. Sure, it didnt work out but evidently it wasnt meant to be. That doesnt erase all the good times.

I would tuck it away again then maybe in a few years, you would feel differently about it.

emilyann · 01-14-2009, 08:47 PM

I agree with Twalla. Unless, it was a really unhappy time in your life then yeah, I think I'd find somewhere else for it to go. BUT, if it wasn't then I'd def. keep it... it's part of what made you who you are today. One of these days you'll most likely feel differently about it.

mizzwanned · 01-14-2009, 10:31 PM

I say just keep it, put it away somewhere and take it out again a really long time from now to see how you feel. Most likely you will feel different. I actually have a box with pictures, letters, movie tickets(cheesy i know) of an ex bf. We didn't go out for long but i did know him since the 2nd grade and we were each other's first crushes, then we dated officially in 10th grade. Anyway he sent me lots of letters when i was at camp one summer and i kept them and pictures of him. When we broke up i was thinking of throwing it all out but instead i put it away in my closet, now when i take it out i just laugh about it. It doesn't make me sad or anything, but i like to go back and read the letters. And maybe someday i can show my kids, cause they are memories after all and part of my history

Even if he wasn't even a serious bf, hes the only bf that actually wrote me letters, and i think thats cool since we have all this technology now. Anyway if you really dont want it sell it, and take it to a jewelery shop to see how much its worth.

DukesMommy · 01-15-2009, 01:18 AM

I have rings from exes. One of them is pretty, I actually picked it out, I don't wear it because I hate the guy that gave it to me but I still like the ring so I just keep it in my jewelry box. the other two are kinda funky looking but I still keep just for memories sake since there are no bad feelings for the guy they are from.

If it brings up too many emotions when you look at it, maybe you should put it away for awhile, or if you can, get it appraised and try selling it, then go out and buy a different ring or something that you like.

Nikki+2 · 01-15-2009, 06:03 AM

Hold on to it at least until you're ready to make a bigger jewelry purchase. You should be able to get full value as a trade in at a jewelry store if you want to buy yourself something nicer.

chattiesmom · 01-15-2009, 06:20 AM

I guess I'm different than most -- unless the ring was of significant value I would have a "flushing ceremony". I don't like skeletons in my closet and once I'm done, I'm done! That being said, I have been married to the same man for 27 1/2 years - we've been an exclusive couple for almost 33.

nvnvgirl · 01-15-2009, 08:45 AM

If it were me, I'd go to Red Swan....you can check them out here:

Red Swan - Home

They're supposed to be pretty reputable. You send your jewelry to them, they apprasie it and send you a check and if you aren't satisfied with it, you can return the check within 10 days (I think that's the time period) and they'll return your items to you.

amandawash · 01-15-2009, 09:51 AM

I have a promise ring and a BEAUTIFUL diamond pendant that really is gorgeous. The promise ring is super cute and dainty but I have no desire to wear it, I don't think I would get rid of it. The neckless is beautiful and 3/4 carat so I feel really bad about it just sitting there, but I can't wear it either. My hubby is so funny he's like, wear it! But it was such a horrible relationship I just can't!

I think I am going to get that one appraised and sell it. Isn't it funny how these things are?

BamaFan121s · 01-15-2009, 10:12 AM

Have the top cut off and made into a necklace. View cutting it off as a "symbol" of it's own.

01-14-2009, 06:49 PM	#1
marcerella02 Loved by Layla Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 11,257	What do i do with it? I was cleaning out my drawers in my bed room and found the promise ring (HA) that my ex bf gave me. It is really a beautiful dainty ring and i don't want to throw it out... but i don't want it either... what do i do with it?? I just put it back in the drawer- i wish it didn't make me think of him because i really do like the ring.... any suggsetions? __________________ http://misscanam.blogspot.com/ Layla 's Simon

01-14-2009, 06:55 PM	#2
LuvMySissy Luv my Angel, too! Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: USA Posts: 9,333	Howa bout either taking it to a pawn shop, selling it on Ebay, or giving it to someone special to you..... __________________ Sissy & Angel

01-14-2009, 07:05 PM	#4
bchgirl Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: at da beach Posts: 15,444 Blog Entries: 2	You could always sell it or you can have it melted down and made into something else. I did that with an engagement ring....actually a couple of times. LOL __________________ Deb, Reese, Reggie, Frazier, Libby, Sidney, & Bodie Trace & Ramsey who watch over us www.biewersbythebay.com

01-14-2009, 07:21 PM	#5
twalla I ♥ my Furheathens Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: VAN ALSTYNE Posts: 8,226	Personally..... I would not get rid of it. I still have mine. I think you should hold onto it... what if you have a daughter one day... its something you can pull out and talk about it. Maybe she will want it. My niece will get mine. __________________ Twalla & The Furheathens

01-14-2009, 08:47 PM	#8
emilyann Lovin' My LilBug! Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Kentucky Posts: 2,513	I agree with Twalla. Unless, it was a really unhappy time in your life then yeah, I think I'd find somewhere else for it to go. BUT, if it wasn't then I'd def. keep it... it's part of what made you who you are today. One of these days you'll most likely feel differently about it. __________________ love my lillybug! rags and ribbons!

01-14-2009, 10:31 PM	#9
mizzwanned Donating YT 11K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: new york Posts: 14,007 Blog Entries: 2	I say just keep it, put it away somewhere and take it out again a really long time from now to see how you feel. Most likely you will feel different. I actually have a box with pictures, letters, movie tickets(cheesy i know) of an ex bf. We didn't go out for long but i did know him since the 2nd grade and we were each other's first crushes, then we dated officially in 10th grade. Anyway he sent me lots of letters when i was at camp one summer and i kept them and pictures of him. When we broke up i was thinking of throwing it all out but instead i put it away in my closet, now when i take it out i just laugh about it. It doesn't make me sad or anything, but i like to go back and read the letters. And maybe someday i can show my kids, cause they are memories after all and part of my history Even if he wasn't even a serious bf, hes the only bf that actually wrote me letters, and i think thats cool since we have all this technology now. Anyway if you really dont want it sell it, and take it to a jewelery shop to see how much its worth. __________________ Primrose, Teddy..RIP, Livie..RIP, And can never forget my duo Sophie and London, Run in Peace <3

01-15-2009, 01:18 AM	#10
DukesMommy YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: CA Posts: 682	I have rings from exes. One of them is pretty, I actually picked it out, I don't wear it because I hate the guy that gave it to me but I still like the ring so I just keep it in my jewelry box. the other two are kinda funky looking but I still keep just for memories sake since there are no bad feelings for the guy they are from. If it brings up too many emotions when you look at it, maybe you should put it away for awhile, or if you can, get it appraised and try selling it, then go out and buy a different ring or something that you like. __________________ Kati,Duke,and Lucie

01-15-2009, 06:03 AM	#11
Nikki+2 I heart Sugar Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Florida Posts: 7,373	Hold on to it at least until you're ready to make a bigger jewelry purchase. You should be able to get full value as a trade in at a jewelry store if you want to buy yourself something nicer. __________________ "If you have men who will exclude any of God’s creatures from the shelter of compassion and pity, you will have men who will deal likewise with their fellow men." — St. Francis of Assisi, 1181-1226

01-15-2009, 06:20 AM	#12
chattiesmom Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Alabama Posts: 17,674	I guess I'm different than most -- unless the ring was of significant value I would have a "flushing ceremony". I don't like skeletons in my closet and once I'm done, I'm done! That being said, I have been married to the same man for 27 1/2 years - we've been an exclusive couple for almost 33. __________________ Silk Step-In Harnesses www.foxypups.etsy.com

01-15-2009, 08:45 AM	#13
nvnvgirl Lovin' to the MAX!! Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Yorkieville Posts: 2,774	If it were me, I'd go to Red Swan....you can check them out here: Red Swan - Home They're supposed to be pretty reputable. You send your jewelry to them, they apprasie it and send you a check and if you aren't satisfied with it, you can return the check within 10 days (I think that's the time period) and they'll return your items to you. __________________ Seana and Max and Madison too! Come visit me at: celebritydogwatcher.com

01-15-2009, 09:51 AM	#14
amandawash Lovin' my R & R Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Middleton, Idaho Posts: 2,152	I have a promise ring and a BEAUTIFUL diamond pendant that really is gorgeous. The promise ring is super cute and dainty but I have no desire to wear it, I don't think I would get rid of it. The neckless is beautiful and 3/4 carat so I feel really bad about it just sitting there, but I can't wear it either. My hubby is so funny he's like, wear it! But it was such a horrible relationship I just can't! I think I am going to get that one appraised and sell it. Isn't it funny how these things are? __________________ Amanda 's Ranger & Ryder

01-15-2009, 10:12 AM	#15
BamaFan121s Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Alabama Posts: 11,432	Have the top cut off and made into a necklace. View cutting it off as a "symbol" of it's own.