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MindieRose · 08-19-2008, 06:49 PM

My son's friend April died in a car accident on Sunday night. She was 10. She had just been picked up by her dad for his last weekend with her before school starts. There was a drunk driver that crossed over and hit them head on. Her dad is seriously injured and she died on impact. This has affected all of us. She was in Gavin's (my son) class, but its a small school, so all of my kids knew her. I am taking Gavin to the visitation tomorrow. I don't know how I will hold up around her family. I tear up just thinking about it. I am really struggling with not having a lot of rage right now. I come from a lot of alcoholics, and Jason's (dh) mother is drinking again (supposedly quit for a couple of years after a bad drunk driving accident) now his sister is an alcoholic, well both of them I think now, and his brother in law. They all drive drunk daily. I think that anyone who drives drunk (or "buzzed") needs to be locked up for a long time, I dont care if its their first time or not. Or perhaps we need to bring caning to this country. I am soooo sick of selfish people right now. My stomach is just so sick over this.

PANAMA69 · 08-19-2008, 06:50 PM

So sorry to heard that

prayers of comfort for them

Tae1107 · 08-19-2008, 06:52 PM

So sorry to hear about the loss of your son's friend.... my thoughts are with you and your son....

Rudys Mom · 08-19-2008, 07:05 PM

That is so....sad.

There are highway signs here in PA that say: DUI, you can't afford it. That is so....true in so many ways.

Take Care......

amandawash · 08-19-2008, 07:06 PM

I am so sorry. How is your son taking it? That has to be a horrible thing to go through at such a young age, and for you as a parent.

The local horse community here just suffered the huge loss of a local horseman- he was heading in to work at the saddle shop on his motorcycle when a man swerved over four lanes of traffic and hit him head on. Enough said.

It is the hardest thing to understand- how these innocent people can loose their lives because someone else was so careless. So sad.

Nikki+2 · 08-19-2008, 07:09 PM

How absolutely heartbreaking.

I don't even know what to say- I really feel for your children, it is such a shame that they have to deal with something so hard and what that child's mother is going through... well no parent wants to even think about it. My thoughts are with y'all.

mypreciouspups · 08-19-2008, 07:17 PM

How tragic can this be... omg.. my heart goes out to you and your family.. and also for this child's father and mother.. I will keep you all in my prayers..
I lost a 5 year old nephew when I was 14 years old.. I know how devastating this is.. anne

Lily5 · 08-19-2008, 07:19 PM

So Sorry to hear about your son's friend that is so awful

I just went through a death with my bf his father was killed in a car accident 2 months ago because another driver was in a hurry and not being cautious about other drivers...sending prayers to you your son and the family that this happend to...also if you need anyone to talk to.. please feel free to send me a message.

izzierj · 08-19-2008, 07:22 PM

How sad for all involved...My prayers are being said for all ... So many people are affected by such a tragedy, even the person's family who caused the accident...Prayers are for them also....Everyone will carry this event with them for the rest of their lives....How tragic !
Hug your little guy extra long !

MindieRose · 08-19-2008, 07:23 PM

Thank you all for your kindness. Gavin is rather numb right now. We read the news article yesterday morning, but didn't know it was her until this evening. I think he is in shock. He watched the video clip on the news a few times, and says he is "just trying to act normal" right now. He is like me and hates to show sadness for some reason. I don't deal very well with death, not that anyone does, but I have a very hard time grieving, and unfortunately he is like me that way. I keep encouraging him to talk about it,but I dont want to hound him either. I just don't want it to eat at him like it has me when I have lost people close to me.

Nikki+2 · 08-19-2008, 07:28 PM

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Originally Posted by MindieRose

Thank you all for your kindness. Gavin is rather numb right now. We read the news article yesterday morning, but didn't know it was her until this evening. I think he is in shock. He watched the video clip on the news a few times, and says he is "just trying to act normal" right now. He is like me and hates to show sadness for some reason. I don't deal very well with death, not that anyone does, but I have a very hard time grieving, and unfortunately he is like me that way. I keep encouraging him to talk about it,but I dont want to hound him either. I just don't want it to eat at him like it has me when I have lost people close to me.

He's lucky to have someone who understands his thought process so well. I bet you will be such a help getting him through this. I know you don't need to be told this but just trust yourself. Sending hugs.

Tiggerwit · 08-19-2008, 09:46 PM

Oh how horrifying. I am sooo sorry. Your son is in my thoughts.

Julie1760 · 08-19-2008, 10:06 PM

My daughter was killed by a drunk driver..it will be 10 years in Sept...and still feels like it was yesterday....You are all in my prayers, everyone involved will have a hard time dealing with this, trying to understand. Just know that it will easier for your son than it is for you even. Kids have a way of dealing much better than us adults.

Hugs to all of you.

mizzwanned · 08-19-2008, 10:44 PM

I'm so sorry, that is really sad

And she was soo so young

sammiz · 08-19-2008, 10:53 PM

I am so sorry that he has to come to terms with such tragedy and loss at such a young age.

God bless you all.

08-19-2008, 06:49 PM	#1
MindieRose YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Michigan Posts: 648	My son's friend died My son's friend April died in a car accident on Sunday night. She was 10. She had just been picked up by her dad for his last weekend with her before school starts. There was a drunk driver that crossed over and hit them head on. Her dad is seriously injured and she died on impact. This has affected all of us. She was in Gavin's (my son) class, but its a small school, so all of my kids knew her. I am taking Gavin to the visitation tomorrow. I don't know how I will hold up around her family. I tear up just thinking about it. I am really struggling with not having a lot of rage right now. I come from a lot of alcoholics, and Jason's (dh) mother is drinking again (supposedly quit for a couple of years after a bad drunk driving accident) now his sister is an alcoholic, well both of them I think now, and his brother in law. They all drive drunk daily. I think that anyone who drives drunk (or "buzzed") needs to be locked up for a long time, I dont care if its their first time or not. Or perhaps we need to bring caning to this country. I am soooo sick of selfish people right now. My stomach is just so sick over this. __________________ Proud Mommy of Gavin, Ethan, Morgan, Nia, Olivia, and Kiana. Also Mommy to Cleo(Maltipoo), Joe and Lola(Shih-Tzus), Lilly Appletini and Diesel(Yorkies).

08-19-2008, 06:52 PM	#3
Tae1107 YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: MA Posts: 259	So sorry to hear about the loss of your son's friend.... my thoughts are with you and your son.... __________________ Kerrianne

08-19-2008, 07:05 PM	#4
Rudys Mom Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Lancaster, PA Posts: 3,825	That is so....sad. There are highway signs here in PA that say: DUI, you can't afford it. That is so....true in so many ways. Take Care...... __________________ Rudy, Lucky & Gracie's mom (Dawn) Dogster:http://www.dogster.com/dogs/382659 & http://www.dogster.com/dogs/497315

08-19-2008, 07:06 PM	#5
amandawash Lovin' my R & R Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Middleton, Idaho Posts: 818	I am so sorry. How is your son taking it? That has to be a horrible thing to go through at such a young age, and for you as a parent. The local horse community here just suffered the huge loss of a local horseman- he was heading in to work at the saddle shop on his motorcycle when a man swerved over four lanes of traffic and hit him head on. Enough said. It is the hardest thing to understand- how these innocent people can loose their lives because someone else was so careless. So sad. __________________ Amanda 's Ranger & Ryder

08-19-2008, 07:09 PM	#6
Nikki+2 I heart Sugar Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Florida Posts: 6,244	How absolutely heartbreaking. I don't even know what to say- I really feel for your children, it is such a shame that they have to deal with something so hard and what that child's mother is going through... well no parent wants to even think about it. My thoughts are with y'all. __________________ The worst sin towards our fellow creatures is not to hate them, but to be indifferent to them, that’s the essence of inhumanity. George Bernard Shaw

08-19-2008, 06:50 PM	#2
PANAMA69 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Beautiful California Posts: 5,938	So sorry to heard that prayers of comfort for them

08-19-2008, 07:17 PM	#7
mypreciouspups Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Florida/Canada Posts: 3,848	How tragic can this be... omg.. my heart goes out to you and your family.. and also for this child's father and mother.. I will keep you all in my prayers.. I lost a 5 year old nephew when I was 14 years old.. I know how devastating this is.. anne __________________ Kacee, Kandie, Princess Grace, and Maravilhosa anne/pooh's mum my yorkies are my life

08-19-2008, 07:19 PM	#8
Lily5 Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Liverpool, NY, USA Posts: 179	So Sorry to hear about your son's friend that is so awful I just went through a death with my bf his father was killed in a car accident 2 months ago because another driver was in a hurry and not being cautious about other drivers...sending prayers to you your son and the family that this happend to...also if you need anyone to talk to.. please feel free to send me a message. __________________ Megan & Lily

08-19-2008, 07:22 PM	#9
izzierj YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Arizona Posts: 585	How sad for all involved...My prayers are being said for all ... So many people are affected by such a tragedy, even the person's family who caused the accident...Prayers are for them also....Everyone will carry this event with them for the rest of their lives....How tragic ! Hug your little guy extra long ! __________________ Michelle ~ and the girls ~ Harlee and Izzie ~ and our boy ~ Cole

08-19-2008, 07:23 PM	#10
MindieRose YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Michigan Posts: 648	Thank you all for your kindness. Gavin is rather numb right now. We read the news article yesterday morning, but didn't know it was her until this evening. I think he is in shock. He watched the video clip on the news a few times, and says he is "just trying to act normal" right now. He is like me and hates to show sadness for some reason. I don't deal very well with death, not that anyone does, but I have a very hard time grieving, and unfortunately he is like me that way. I keep encouraging him to talk about it,but I dont want to hound him either. I just don't want it to eat at him like it has me when I have lost people close to me. __________________ Proud Mommy of Gavin, Ethan, Morgan, Nia, Olivia, and Kiana. Also Mommy to Cleo(Maltipoo), Joe and Lola(Shih-Tzus), Lilly Appletini and Diesel(Yorkies).

08-19-2008, 09:46 PM	#12
Tiggerwit Just me 'n my boys Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Washington Posts: 4,405	Oh how horrifying. I am sooo sorry. Your son is in my thoughts. __________________ "Be kinder than necessary, for everyone is fighting some kind of battle." Alphy 's Roxy

08-19-2008, 10:06 PM	#13
Julie1760 Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Packer Country!!! Posts: 395	My daughter was killed by a drunk driver..it will be 10 years in Sept...and still feels like it was yesterday....You are all in my prayers, everyone involved will have a hard time dealing with this, trying to understand. Just know that it will easier for your son than it is for you even. Kids have a way of dealing much better than us adults. Hugs to all of you. __________________ •·.·´¯`·.·•Julie •·.·´¯`·.·• Chloé & Myah Myspace - Dogster page

08-19-2008, 10:44 PM	#14
mizzwanned Donating YT 11K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: new york Posts: 12,138 Blog Entries: 2	I'm so sorry, that is really sad And she was soo so young __________________ Teddy, London & Sophia Loren too! London likes Kikko

08-19-2008, 10:53 PM	#15
sammiz No Longer a Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: PORTERVILLE, CA Posts: 1,574	I am so sorry that he has to come to terms with such tragedy and loss at such a young age. God bless you all.