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08-18-2008, 06:09 AM | #1 |
BANNED! Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Marathon Key, FL USA
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| Cheating Husband... Hey Yall I have a friend and I KNOW some things that his spouse should know. Is this anything yall would care to hear about? Help me with? INFIDELITY |
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08-18-2008, 06:18 AM | #2 |
I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana
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| Im here to listen. I dont know how much I can help but Im a good listener
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08-18-2008, 06:20 AM | #3 |
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| It's good to vent !
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08-18-2008, 06:24 AM | #4 |
Donating YT 14K Club Member | Infidelity is not something to be taken lightly. Two things can possibly happen if you tell... 1) The marriage can break up and surprisingly, one or both will blame you 2) They can reconcile and you'd loose the friendship of both Do you get involved or not...the decision is entirely up to you. You have to ask yourself...if your spouse/boyfriend was cheating on you, would you want to know? How will your friend take it once she finds out it was you that spilled the beans? Will she tell her hubby that you have made it all up...since no one would want to think their spouse were cheating on them, the spouse may choose to believe the cheater. I would not want to be in your shoes because you're stuck between a rock and a hard place.
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08-18-2008, 07:12 AM | #6 |
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| years ago my best friend's fiance was cheating and I told her only because her brother found out was threatening to kill him. Well, she believed her fiance even though the girl he was cheating with had pictures and was willing to tell her. We were best friends for 13 years and that night it changed. I haven't spoken to her in 16 years. She eventually found him cheating again and divorced him but it never was the same. I've realized though that she wasn't true to our friendship as I was. If you tell just be ready to let the friendship go. I think back on that night and I wouldn't have changed anything. I wouldn't be able to forgive myself if I hadn't said anything.
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08-18-2008, 07:17 AM | #7 |
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| She needs to know, so maybe it can be done anonymously? Definitely be careful. Sorry you're dealing with this
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08-18-2008, 07:20 AM | #8 | |
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08-18-2008, 07:22 AM | #9 |
Mommy's Little Boo Boo Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Virgina
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| People knew my x was cheating was me and yet didn't tell, I wished I would have known. However my cousin saw him with a chic in his car while having a preggers craving for a coke. She called me and told then. I had suspected but now I had proof. Once we seperated all my other family that knew came forward. I was in a situation where my friend was cheating on her husband. I wanted to tell him but I choose not too and warned my friend to stop and fix her marriage. She did but we havn't spoken much since Good luck it's a tough choice and being cheated on is the worst hurt i'm here to listen if you need me
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08-18-2008, 07:29 AM | #10 |
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| Thanks so much - Im now reading all of the posts and taking it all in. I actually do have images - Im a photographer by trade so the first thing I thought was: shoot them! But while I was doing that - I thought I was shooting him and his WIFE. I approached them thinking the same thing. Im so naive sometimes. Then I looked into her face and saw it was ANOTHER WOMAN! She is on vacation - he dad has a beach house here. DOES THIS BEING A 'FLING' (shes on vacation) should that change anything? Gosh - I thought I was capturing my friends in a romantic moment and they would relish in the images I was bringing them to view on my camera. Im in pure shock. Sick feeling. If my husband did this to me - I would kill him. I would simply kill him. He knows the trouble I have seen! If he added THAT ON TOP - dead. And Im NOT joking at all. |
08-18-2008, 07:29 AM | #11 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Mankato, MN, US
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| Aright. Upon heavy debating with myself I have decided to throw a wrentch in and really make the decision harder. I was in the place of the person being cheated on. I will tell you my story. I had this friend (whom I no longer talk to). We hung out ALL the time. Well one night she had invited some guys from a college (an hour away) to come and hang out with us and by the way we were in high school yet. Well I didn't get a whole lot of sleep because there were so many people there. Fast forwarding....... my boyfriend just suddenly broke up with me about a month after that night. I never knew why and no one would tell me. Come Monday when I went back to school, I had found out from some aquaintence that he had cheated on me with his best friend (the only girl I really ever trusted him with). Well I just found out about 3 months ago (which it has been about 6 years since the breakup), that this friend of mine told him that I had cheated on him that night (which I never did). But I stopped talking to her long before this was ever brought back up but had I still talked to her I would have given her a piece of my mind for lying. Before that boyfriend, I was dating a different guy. I refused to believe that he was cheating on me because I really like him. But keep in mind that no one specifically told me he was cheating..... it was just a feeling I got. I think I dated him for something like 8 months and he broke up with me. I never found out why but then someone finally spilled the beans that he had been sleeping with some girl at least 2 years younger than me. I was so furious that no one had said anything me. Especially the people who I thought were suppose to be my friends. Thankfully I found the guy who was right for me and we are happily married now. But I remember thinking that it was more betrayal of my "friends" to not say anything than to let it continue to happen.
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08-18-2008, 08:51 AM | #12 |
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| I've never been, or do I ever want to be in a situation where I have friends that one is cheating and I know about it. I'm still thinking about what I may do. I don't like to be in the middle of anything, so I'm afraid I would probably distance myself from them.
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08-18-2008, 08:59 AM | #13 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: VA
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| i would have to say something but i would rather do it annoymously my husband hates to get in other people business like that..he tells me to stay out of it..but if i knew for a fact i would set up an email account at yahoo.com and send the pics..but never tell her you sent them..unless you feel comfortable abou it |
08-18-2008, 09:11 AM | #14 |
No Longer a Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Maryland
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| Well... since the cheating part is your friend I think it would be best if you talked to him about the whole thing. That's what friends do. Let him know that you feel bad about that and that you are in a difficult situation. Show him the pictures so he sees that he can't deny it. Let everything go from there. IMO it's never a good idea to come between two fires and it is also not up to you to decide how serious this thing is and I, personally, would keep out of it, except of the talk with my friend. |
08-18-2008, 11:11 AM | #15 |
I love my lil wolf! ;) Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Washington
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| im sorry but if you "lose" your friend because you tell them their SPOUSE IS CHEATING then they never were your friend in the first place.. how could you not want to know? everyone should be grateful if a friend told them about their cheating spouse .. i know i would be and i would thank my friend and get rid of my spouse fast. |
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