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Old 07-23-2008, 07:19 AM   #1
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I'm getting so stressed out by the day. I have NO money to do anything really bc I have 3 weddings this fall to go to and one Im in. I also had bought some concert tix earlier in the year and those concerts are coming up. Im soo excited to go to them! One being Kenny Chesney this saturday! Lately I feel like everyone is RICH! How do they do it?? One of the girls wants to rent a limo for the concert this saturday. Just mentioned it TODAY! Then the wedding Im in the brides mom send out an email about a limo for the bach party. I just cannot afford these things. So what do I do? Im going with 7 people to the Kenny concert. If they want a limo and can afford it and I can't... what do I do? How do I say no? do I drive down alone? its an hour and a half ride! Im sooo irritated! This supposed to be a fun day and now its stressing me out.

I already had to custom order a tank top to 'fit in' with the other girls Im going with and that was almost $50 for a TANK TOP I'll probably never wear again!! $20 for a hat, $115 for the ticket, $15 for gas, $100 for food & drinks to tailgate and inside the place since we'll be in there for about 11 hours! Now a limo??? UUUGGHHH!!! I need to win the lottery!

Most of the time I feel good about where I am in life. But I am only ONE person with ONE income who has a mortgage and a car payment and school bills and everything else by myself. It seems that thats not ever taken into consideration! Except when someone is crying to me about money! They say "I don't know how you do it" Yeah me either, lets rent a limo!!! ggeezzz
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Old 07-23-2008, 07:41 AM   #2
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Wow...thank goodness I never "fit in"!! LOL! You seem to be doing well by yourself with a home and other things. Do your friends own their own homes?If not, maybe that's why they can spend their money more frivolously. The best thing you could do is to limit the costly entertainment, I guess! BUT...have fun this time!!!!!!!
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Old 07-23-2008, 07:46 AM   #3
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LOL ... I hear ya .... money gets spend faster then the way it comes in ....

Just tell them you don't have a 'money- pooping donkey' in your house and can't do it ....
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It sounds like to me nothing is good enough for them and they have to have the best of the best. They should ASK all people involved in the trip BEFORE planning anything else, that's just common courtesy.
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Girl just tell them that you don't have the money for the limo but if they wanna get one you'll ride along for free. There is no way that all 7 of the other people just have money sitting around in a limo fund waiting to be used. Maybe they just need someone to be the voice of reason and let them know that this concert has taken on a life of its own. LOL!
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Hey,

I'd just tell them you don't have the money for the limo but if they want you to go along you will. Maybe tell them you need more time advance notice to budget for extra stuff like that.

If I could afford to do something like that and my friend couldn't I wouldn't mind paying extra, we've done stuff like that before. It's not about the money but about having fun with your friends for us.

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Thanks girls!!
I just get so frustrated. Yes most of my friends have their own homes now, but again most of them are married and there are 2 incomes going into the bills... not one! I hear from most of these people that money is "SOOOO tight!" so I don't get the sudden limo idea.
I do keep my entertainment costs to a minimum but I gotta do SOME things. I bought some concert tickets for the summer, months ago. I can afford the concerts, and the hat and even the tank top. I can afford some spending money at the concert.. but I cannot afford is a LIMO 3 days before the concert! I don't have an extra $100+ lying around! If I did I would use to towards the weddings I have to go to.
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I've been struggling with this too, because we *should* make enough money, but we still struggle. I used to wonder how people do it when they buy those big, expensive houses. Maybe they didn't have school loans. Maybe they didn't make the mistake of buying a car they couldn't afford. Maybe they didn't buy their house at the top of the market, or maybe they got a windfall off their last place and cashed out. Just as likely is that they didn't choose to PAY OFF all of their debt like we did and they are just spending all of their money as it comes in. Or more likely is that they are living off of credit and spending money on things they think they "deserve" but not that they can really afford it. My neighbors all have houses twice the size of mine (who needs 6 bedrooms, seriously? and 2 living rooms and a dining room, eat in kitchen and a full basement? but that's all they build here...) and they all drive BMW's. They are NOT doctors, not lawyers... they are leased and mortgaged to the max and can't leave work an hour early when the school calls and their kid is sick (seriously, I'm the one that gets to wait with the kid until they pick him up, sick, an hour after school lets out because we won't send sick kids on the bus, so sorry I ruined your day...) because they can barely afford everything they have financed. These parents complain about buying school supplies and paying $20 for a yearbook and then I see them toting their groceries out to their $48,000 SUV... )

We are selling our tiny townhouse, taking a huge loss on it , and moving to WI where we can afford to buy a small starter house (they don't build those here) on a decent sized lot. It seems a more practical life than here, where people judge you by the size of your car payment.

OK that's my rant. My point is, their priorities are very different than yours...

Although, you'd probably spend as much on gas as on the limo if you all split it. (Not that I know how much limos are..) Just tell them you can only spend $15 on the limo (or whatever) and maybe they will cover the rest since it WAS their idea!!! I bet they just want the limo so they can drink. Can you offer to be the designated driver?
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I used to think everyone else had SO much money and I could never understand how. The truth is, for many people that seem like they have money they are in HUGE debt. You would probably be surprised at how much debt some people have.

I feel like I'm drowning in debt (mostly school loans), so I joined a Dave Ramsey board. Some people on there are like 50,000+ in debt which doesn't even include school loans and house. All because they wanted to live friviously.

Have fun at the concert! Limo or no limo I'm sure it will be a blast!
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There are 7 of us and none of us drive a vehicle big enough to fit us all. Thats one reason why they want a limo. Another I think is because they are sooooe excited to go that they want to 'do it up'. Getting away from work or kids or grouchy hubbys, etc... for me that is not an issue. I do not have a hubby, kids or work on weekends. Getting out to me is an everyday occurrance. Yes Im lucky in that regard, but maybe not since I don't have the pleasure of raising kids or coming home to a hubby. I dunno... Im sure there are those who feel both sides of that.

Oh I have my own debt too... Im a single income homeowner going to school. But I also realize you can do MORE if you don't put sooo much into ONE thing. A limo for this day would be around $1000. Gas would be $50! Seems to me that they could have a night out or buy something they want or pay off a bill without that unnecessary extravagance. Thats how I get to do things that I want to do, by going simple and stressfree, enjoying myself when I do indulge like the ticket for this concert.
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If they are good friends they will totally understand if you tell them that everything else wiped out your extracurricular activity funds and it'll be no big of a deal. If it is, then just meet them there I suppose. Don't let it harsh your buzz though. Have a great time!!!!
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I must get my violin out and dust it off! (;
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I must get my violin out and dust it off! (;
please do! LOL I don't feel bad for me... I just get annoyed that some think I'm made of money! It has come up a lot lately with extravagant ideas of well intentioned people. But it stresses me out to NO end! Especially now in the middle of all these weddings!

Ok I didn't mean to moan & groan people! Im sorry... I was just aggravated and needed to vent! In no way did I also mean to offend anyone. Everyone has their burdens to bear and my life is great really. I just wish I could win the lottery or get a job that pays DOUBLE what I make now! LOL
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I just wish I could win the lottery or get a job that pays DOUBLE what I make now! LOL
I think we all wish this.
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Are you close with these women is there one that you are closer to, then the others? You should call her and be honest about the situation. Tell her how bad you feel that you do not have the money to do this. That you completely understand that they want to make a great night of it and get a limo. Offer to drive yourself and meet them their. If they are true friends, they will invite you to come anyway and not worry about it! If it was me I would offer to cover your share too.

You need to be up front and honest about it right away...so they don't plan on your money to be added for the limo. I truely think they will all understand!! Everyone has been there!! If they don't understand...they might not be true friends.

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