Omgoodness melt down with the Hospital! - YorkieTalk.com Forums

Angela · 07-21-2008, 10:11 AM

I just got a call b/c the baby DR. told me to register online at the hospital, etc... Well, they called to let me know they got the papers and I need to sign them and at first she was saying I needed to bring 750.00 for our deductable and then we would have to pay the rest our Bluecross is 80/20. I was in tears....I am already scared I won't have enough time to get everything done just for baby basics let alone have money like that. I haven't been working, I have been in school and will go back to school as soon as possible so we can have extra money in cases like this. Anyway, I don't know if any of you remember in 2005 I really thought I was preg. had all of the symptoms. I mean all of them, but I was not and in going to the doctor for that they found out I had grade 4 bad cells and did a surgery at this hospital. I didn't know I owed 1800.00 for a while I was getting letters and at the top it would say THIS IS NOT A BILL and go on to say what they charged my ins. Now, I believe and trust them that I do owe it, I had two teeneagers at home in 2005 I didn't get a lot of my mail or phone calls between them. Anyway, I am freaking out and telling her I don't have anything saved toward this that I just found out and my due date is August 12th or I would have known about the outstanding bill sooner and worked on payments toward that, etc... In the END she FINALLY says you can have your baby here, but tomorrow go apply for medicade it takes about 30 days for an answer.....I tell her again I don't have 30 days left, she says I know, but I am putting it in the computer to refer to medicade and you won't have to bring any money with you when you arrive. That is good, I may still owe but, I can work on that....main thing I wanted to know was that wouldn't keep my baby b/c I owe them.....she just laughed and said no I was welcomed thre.....at first she was being kinda mean, but was very nice later in the conversatin. Man, I haven't been on medicade since I was 15 its kinda weird going back to that office after all these years. Shane works so hard everyday and always provides for us and puts us first. I hate telling him I have to go apply for medicade, but seems like there is no other choice right now and time to figure it out. I am still trying to get diapers and bottles, crib sheets....jsut basic stuff not dream stiff like a stoller I fell in love with....lol I just know its going to sale out b/c they clearenced them to 140.00 for the whole travel system. However, I am VERY blessed. I was able to borrow a stroller in case I can't get that one in time, I was given a BEAUTIFUL cherry wood bed that coverts into 3 types, and I got A LOT of help cleaning the house and Shane finished painting Maya's room and will move her in tonight so there are SO many blessing being poured on me, this just really scared me b/c the lady was talking like I couldn't come to the hospital if I didn't have the min. of 750.00

Sorry for the long post....I am so worried about thing right now, I had to post this out

Hugs,
Angie

Yorkiedaze · 07-21-2008, 10:18 AM

You and hubby need to be on the same wave length. Keep the communition open at all times with each other and work together.
Have you ever considered having the baby at home with a mid-wife? I believe it would save you thousands of dollars.
Maybe someone could get a list from you on everything you need for baby, and give you a big baby shower.
Good luck with everything.

Yorkiedaze · 07-21-2008, 10:19 AM

I meant communication. Sorry about that.

JeanieK · 07-21-2008, 10:20 AM

Don't be too proud to ask for help. that's what it's there for. also, medical facilities have financial need forms that you can fill out, just in case you don't qualify for medicade.

They won't turn you away and they won't keep your baby. LOL Just do what you need to do.

Good Luck.

Tnyorkiemom · 07-21-2008, 10:22 AM

sweet heart everything will work out....God didnt send you this sweet bundle of joy to cause you more problems.....he has a plan.....just let him do what he wants....everything else is like icing on the cake......a bed and a carseat is all you really need....and maybe a baby swing if she ends up with colic...but other than that this time of year ....diapers....and onesies....and a cute dress or 2....then just get other things one at a time.....hugs

Cindy

brunosmom · 07-21-2008, 10:23 AM

I can only imagine how stressed out you are right now. Just have faith. Im sure everything will work out for the best. Just remember the stress isn't good for you or the baby.
you and your family are in my prayers!!

Angela · 07-21-2008, 10:52 AM

Thanks ya'll......I do believe everything will work out, it always does. It was just very scary when it sounded likr the hospitalwas an option. I LOVE my doctor and I wouldn't want to try this at home.....espically since I haven't ever looked into that type of thing. Alos, going right at 9 months before I knew I was preg. I want the baby at the hospital just to make SURE she is fine. Everything looks good on the ultra sound, but I need to make sure she has the best start I can give her, even if it's a late start on my part. Oh, I do have a swing....My friend had a little girl 5 months ago and got two swings, she brought me one yesterday......I LOVE it! I can see blessings all around me.....starting with my YT family who were here while I was trying to see what was wrong. I am just use to working also and being able to buy all the cool baby stuff for my friends or shopping all day with Maya....it's just feels strange to have to seek help I guess, but I know staying in school is the right thing....even on the days I HATE it, it will help us in the future, Shane is such a hard worker, good father and husband I just wish I could take some of the work off of him, He has been up past midnight after working in hot attics all day ( he is an electrician ) working on maya's room so he can get teh baby area set up. I am doing as much as I can to help him, but he dosen't want me around the paint, etc... It will come together I am sure. I just needed to talk to ya'll I guess.

So just onsies? Do you put little short over tehm and that makes a outfit to got to say wal mart or pay bills?? I remember lovingthe gown for home when Christian was an infant.....I am not sure people still use those ot not.

Hugs,Angie

Thanks again!

Tnyorkiemom · 07-21-2008, 10:59 AM

there are lots of onesies out now that look cute all by themselves....the key thing is comfort....she needs to stay cool and comfy....when you go to walmart or somewhere like that ....a cute onesie is fine....all other people will see is from her little tummy up anyway cause those places are so drafty that most of the time you have to keep their little legs covered.....and keep socks on her widdle feet.....but please oh please dont be taking that baby anywhere unless it is an absolute nessecity for the first 6 weeks.....her little system wont be strong enough to be around strange people and the strange things they can have......enjoy getting to be stingy with her for as long as you can.....lol

Angela · 07-21-2008, 11:57 AM

Ok good.....so in late August/early September just a light cotton blanket is what i need to drape over her legs? My grandmother brought me a beautiful pink blanket, but its satin on one side a velour on the other I was thinking that needed to be for cold days. I probably won't go many places. I have to help get my Uncle to Dr. appt.s ( he has lou gerhings ) but, we put it off until October. The only other people I just have to make sure I get to their appt. is my grandfather ( heart doctor and he dosen't drive down town ) My younger sister just had back sugery, but she is trying hard to get better so she can help me by taking some of these drives for me. I had been trying to help her, poor thing I feel bad she is trying to pace herself faster......I don't want her to re injure anything. So yea, I plan on staying home as much as possible as long as the main, very important things are taken care of.

Angie

SladesMommy · 07-21-2008, 12:01 PM

If you don't have many baby clothes (and don't mind used), another great place to look is garage sales or Goodwill. I see the CUTEST barely used things for babies at my local goodwill, and they are like $1.50 apiece. Sometimes I even run across items that still have the tags on them that I guess people have been given as gifts and the baby outgrew before they got to wear them. When I find those if I like the outfit I usually buy it and put it away to use as a baby shower gift. I've even managed to get a Ralph Lauren pink baby dress and bloomers for $3 with the tags still on.

patty58 · 07-21-2008, 03:30 PM

Angie, things will come together just have faith. My daughter and her husband just found out they are pg and they can't get maternity insurance any place and Greg has tried everyplace...before they got pg. He is in business for himself so doesn't have group insurance. They are just gonna pay it out. We have resale places around here called Once Upon A Child. We have gone there for lots of the grandkids clothes. Some of the things are new and even have the tags on them. You can also get baby accessories there too. Good luck.

Angela · 07-21-2008, 11:48 PM

I have been to garage sales....so far just boy stuff and stuff that is way too big.....I have a small house, just no storage in this house is the problem. I have some things that were way cute I did put up for later, but I need to try to worry about the things she can wear right away. I am planning on going to a nice re sale shop we have here. I have a ton of clothes Maya grew out of before she ever wore a lot of them, new shoes....I may see what their policy is on consignment. Maya still needs school shoes and stuff so I have to make sure I don't just sell her stuff and get all baby things either, I hope to have a garage sale this weekend and what I have left I will see about putting it in a re sale shop.

Wow Patty that has to be hard paying for the entire bill, but babies are such a blessing and worth it. This lady at the hospital who spoke with me was acting like we wouldn't have that option, that is why I was so upset.....I didn't know how I was going to com up with our part of the bill in 28 or less days. Seems like all is worked out now though.

Angie

07-21-2008, 10:11 AM	#1
Angela YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Baton Rouge, LA Posts: 849	Omgoodness melt down with the Hospital! I just got a call b/c the baby DR. told me to register online at the hospital, etc... Well, they called to let me know they got the papers and I need to sign them and at first she was saying I needed to bring 750.00 for our deductable and then we would have to pay the rest our Bluecross is 80/20. I was in tears....I am already scared I won't have enough time to get everything done just for baby basics let alone have money like that. I haven't been working, I have been in school and will go back to school as soon as possible so we can have extra money in cases like this. Anyway, I don't know if any of you remember in 2005 I really thought I was preg. had all of the symptoms. I mean all of them, but I was not and in going to the doctor for that they found out I had grade 4 bad cells and did a surgery at this hospital. I didn't know I owed 1800.00 for a while I was getting letters and at the top it would say THIS IS NOT A BILL and go on to say what they charged my ins. Now, I believe and trust them that I do owe it, I had two teeneagers at home in 2005 I didn't get a lot of my mail or phone calls between them. Anyway, I am freaking out and telling her I don't have anything saved toward this that I just found out and my due date is August 12th or I would have known about the outstanding bill sooner and worked on payments toward that, etc... In the END she FINALLY says you can have your baby here, but tomorrow go apply for medicade it takes about 30 days for an answer.....I tell her again I don't have 30 days left, she says I know, but I am putting it in the computer to refer to medicade and you won't have to bring any money with you when you arrive. That is good, I may still owe but, I can work on that....main thing I wanted to know was that wouldn't keep my baby b/c I owe them.....she just laughed and said no I was welcomed thre.....at first she was being kinda mean, but was very nice later in the conversatin. Man, I haven't been on medicade since I was 15 its kinda weird going back to that office after all these years. Shane works so hard everyday and always provides for us and puts us first. I hate telling him I have to go apply for medicade, but seems like there is no other choice right now and time to figure it out. I am still trying to get diapers and bottles, crib sheets....jsut basic stuff not dream stiff like a stoller I fell in love with....lol I just know its going to sale out b/c they clearenced them to 140.00 for the whole travel system. However, I am VERY blessed. I was able to borrow a stroller in case I can't get that one in time, I was given a BEAUTIFUL cherry wood bed that coverts into 3 types, and I got A LOT of help cleaning the house and Shane finished painting Maya's room and will move her in tonight so there are SO many blessing being poured on me, this just really scared me b/c the lady was talking like I couldn't come to the hospital if I didn't have the min. of 750.00 Sorry for the long post....I am so worried about thing right now, I had to post this out Hugs, Angie

07-21-2008, 10:22 AM	#5
Tnyorkiemom Smokey's Mommy!! Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Georgetown Tn Posts: 1,914	sweet heart everything will work out....God didnt send you this sweet bundle of joy to cause you more problems.....he has a plan.....just let him do what he wants....everything else is like icing on the cake......a bed and a carseat is all you really need....and maybe a baby swing if she ends up with colic...but other than that this time of year ....diapers....and onesies....and a cute dress or 2....then just get other things one at a time.....hugs Cindy __________________ Mommy and Daddy Sugar Freckles Smokey Romeo Ally Niecy Alissia and Ariella

07-21-2008, 10:23 AM	#6
brunosmom YT Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Tupelo, OK, US Posts: 418 Blog Entries: 1	I can only imagine how stressed out you are right now. Just have faith. Im sure everything will work out for the best. Just remember the stress isn't good for you or the baby. you and your family are in my prayers!! __________________ Bruno & Baylee My big Pit Babies Simba Lefty Lolli Windsor "There are NO bad dogs....Just bad owners!!"

07-21-2008, 10:59 AM	#8
Tnyorkiemom Smokey's Mommy!! Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Georgetown Tn Posts: 1,914	there are lots of onesies out now that look cute all by themselves....the key thing is comfort....she needs to stay cool and comfy....when you go to walmart or somewhere like that ....a cute onesie is fine....all other people will see is from her little tummy up anyway cause those places are so drafty that most of the time you have to keep their little legs covered.....and keep socks on her widdle feet.....but please oh please dont be taking that baby anywhere unless it is an absolute nessecity for the first 6 weeks.....her little system wont be strong enough to be around strange people and the strange things they can have......enjoy getting to be stingy with her for as long as you can.....lol __________________ Mommy and Daddy Sugar Freckles Smokey Romeo Ally Niecy Alissia and Ariella

07-21-2008, 03:30 PM	#11
patty58 Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: texas Posts: 5,272	Angie, things will come together just have faith. My daughter and her husband just found out they are pg and they can't get maternity insurance any place and Greg has tried everyplace...before they got pg. He is in business for himself so doesn't have group insurance. They are just gonna pay it out. We have resale places around here called Once Upon A Child. We have gone there for lots of the grandkids clothes. Some of the things are new and even have the tags on them. You can also get baby accessories there too. Good luck. __________________ Decide To Make It A Good Day

07-21-2008, 10:18 AM	#2
Yorkiedaze My hairy-legged girls Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: lompoc, ca. Posts: 12,228	You and hubby need to be on the same wave length. Keep the communition open at all times with each other and work together. Have you ever considered having the baby at home with a mid-wife? I believe it would save you thousands of dollars. Maybe someone could get a list from you on everything you need for baby, and give you a big baby shower. Good luck with everything.

07-21-2008, 10:19 AM	#3
Yorkiedaze My hairy-legged girls Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: lompoc, ca. Posts: 12,228	I meant communication. Sorry about that.

07-21-2008, 10:20 AM	#4
JeanieK Donating YT 12K Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Council Bluffs Iowa Posts: 12,552	Don't be too proud to ask for help. that's what it's there for. also, medical facilities have financial need forms that you can fill out, just in case you don't qualify for medicade. They won't turn you away and they won't keep your baby. LOL Just do what you need to do. Good Luck.

07-21-2008, 10:52 AM	#7
Angela YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Baton Rouge, LA Posts: 849	Thanks ya'll......I do believe everything will work out, it always does. It was just very scary when it sounded likr the hospitalwas an option. I LOVE my doctor and I wouldn't want to try this at home.....espically since I haven't ever looked into that type of thing. Alos, going right at 9 months before I knew I was preg. I want the baby at the hospital just to make SURE she is fine. Everything looks good on the ultra sound, but I need to make sure she has the best start I can give her, even if it's a late start on my part. Oh, I do have a swing....My friend had a little girl 5 months ago and got two swings, she brought me one yesterday......I LOVE it! I can see blessings all around me.....starting with my YT family who were here while I was trying to see what was wrong. I am just use to working also and being able to buy all the cool baby stuff for my friends or shopping all day with Maya....it's just feels strange to have to seek help I guess, but I know staying in school is the right thing....even on the days I HATE it, it will help us in the future, Shane is such a hard worker, good father and husband I just wish I could take some of the work off of him, He has been up past midnight after working in hot attics all day ( he is an electrician ) working on maya's room so he can get teh baby area set up. I am doing as much as I can to help him, but he dosen't want me around the paint, etc... It will come together I am sure. I just needed to talk to ya'll I guess. So just onsies? Do you put little short over tehm and that makes a outfit to got to say wal mart or pay bills?? I remember lovingthe gown for home when Christian was an infant.....I am not sure people still use those ot not. Hugs,Angie Thanks again!

07-21-2008, 11:57 AM	#9
Angela YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Baton Rouge, LA Posts: 849	Ok good.....so in late August/early September just a light cotton blanket is what i need to drape over her legs? My grandmother brought me a beautiful pink blanket, but its satin on one side a velour on the other I was thinking that needed to be for cold days. I probably won't go many places. I have to help get my Uncle to Dr. appt.s ( he has lou gerhings ) but, we put it off until October. The only other people I just have to make sure I get to their appt. is my grandfather ( heart doctor and he dosen't drive down town ) My younger sister just had back sugery, but she is trying hard to get better so she can help me by taking some of these drives for me. I had been trying to help her, poor thing I feel bad she is trying to pace herself faster......I don't want her to re injure anything. So yea, I plan on staying home as much as possible as long as the main, very important things are taken care of. Angie

07-21-2008, 12:01 PM	#10
SladesMommy Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: ATX Posts: 4,513	If you don't have many baby clothes (and don't mind used), another great place to look is garage sales or Goodwill. I see the CUTEST barely used things for babies at my local goodwill, and they are like $1.50 apiece. Sometimes I even run across items that still have the tags on them that I guess people have been given as gifts and the baby outgrew before they got to wear them. When I find those if I like the outfit I usually buy it and put it away to use as a baby shower gift. I've even managed to get a Ralph Lauren pink baby dress and bloomers for $3 with the tags still on.

07-21-2008, 11:48 PM	#12
Angela YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Baton Rouge, LA Posts: 849	I have been to garage sales....so far just boy stuff and stuff that is way too big.....I have a small house, just no storage in this house is the problem. I have some things that were way cute I did put up for later, but I need to try to worry about the things she can wear right away. I am planning on going to a nice re sale shop we have here. I have a ton of clothes Maya grew out of before she ever wore a lot of them, new shoes....I may see what their policy is on consignment. Maya still needs school shoes and stuff so I have to make sure I don't just sell her stuff and get all baby things either, I hope to have a garage sale this weekend and what I have left I will see about putting it in a re sale shop. Wow Patty that has to be hard paying for the entire bill, but babies are such a blessing and worth it. This lady at the hospital who spoke with me was acting like we wouldn't have that option, that is why I was so upset.....I didn't know how I was going to com up with our part of the bill in 28 or less days. Seems like all is worked out now though. Angie