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05-24-2008, 07:00 AM | #1 |
Peeka Boo I See You! Donating Member | ~~~I Am So Upset I Could Scream!!!!~~~~ I don't know what to do anymore i am at my wits ends. I have 2 sons Trieden (8) and Kaleb (3). Well Trieden has been acting out latley and i'm so frustrated. I caught him last week with a lighter outside lighting sticks on fire. I came unglued on him he knows better. Not only was he doing it but he was teaching Kaleb to do it as well Well i wake up today from a phone call from my mom saying the boys are downstairs calling her on the phone. So i get up and they had been on the phone dialing her #. Well Trieden then proceeds to tell me that Kaleb Had gone out the front door to the car to get some gum OMG . Trieden has become such a decitful boy and he lies all the time. I know Trieden also went outside to the car and was using my keys He loves to tease Kaleb, i mean he is down right evil to him he gets kicks off tormenting Kaleb What do i do someone please help me with this. I am so frustrated i just don't know what to do Trieden Knows better then to be doing this stuff, but i am deathly afraid Kaleb is going to start this and be worse and something may happen. What should i do with him i am down to the last straw here.
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05-24-2008, 07:02 AM | #2 |
YT Addict | What do you do to them when you catch them doing something wrong? Also, why are they out of your sight so much? I don't believe I would be sleeping while an 8 yo and a 3 yo were up running around. Sounds like they need some closer supervision and some rules and consequences for when they break them. They shouldn't go outside alone at all. They are too young. Children of any age will do whatever you let them get away with. You have to watch them. If you don't want to go outside with them, then they can't go either. They need to be in there rooms and stay until you wake up. Give them things that they can and are allowed to do such as turn on the tv and wait for you to get up and or come wake you up when they get up. It's not that they are bad, they just need to have better rules. Last edited by sheilajom; 05-24-2008 at 07:07 AM. |
05-24-2008, 07:04 AM | #3 |
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| I'm sorry your going through this I honestly don't have any advice on how to correct their behavior, but if they are going outside, like to your car and you don't want them to I would suggest putting chainlocks on the doors, up high out of their reach. We had to do this when my sister was little because she learned how to unlock the doors, then would open them and let the dogs outside to run loose It definitly stopped her from opening the doors! And if their not supposed to be using the phone, could you maybe get a code that you have to use to dial out? I hope the skinkid mommies on here have some advice on how to get their behavior to stop though!
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05-24-2008, 07:05 AM | #4 | |
Peeka Boo I See You! Donating Member | Quote:
But Latley have have been putting them in time out and grounding them. Right now Trieden is grounded to his room with no T.V and no Toys
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05-24-2008, 07:07 AM | #5 | |
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05-24-2008, 07:08 AM | #6 |
YT Addict | I was editing my message after you read it, pls read the rest. |
05-24-2008, 07:09 AM | #7 |
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| Amber I am so sorry you are going though this. Have you talked to your DR? They may want you all to go to counciling. to help get though this. I hope it gets better (((((((((((HUGS)))))))))) |
05-24-2008, 07:10 AM | #8 |
YT Addict | You just need to be clear about what things are acceptible for them to do, not about what they shouldn't do. Again, why are they up when you are not, why are they outside alone? These are not things they should be doing. You have to watch them at all times. Last edited by sheilajom; 05-24-2008 at 07:12 AM. |
05-24-2008, 07:13 AM | #9 | |
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Ok so I lied in my first post, I guess I did have some ideas, LOL. I hope something works though!
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05-24-2008, 07:13 AM | #10 | |
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05-24-2008, 07:14 AM | #11 | |
Peeka Boo I See You! Donating Member | Quote:
Addressing the last half... I do not leave them alone i am with them constantly. As for how they get into these things this is how it happens. My husband Works nights so he sleeps during the day which leaves me with them by myself. So if i have to go to the bathroom or if i get a phone call i have to take this is when these things happen. As far as sleeping It was 7:30 am when i got the phone call from my mom they get up and sneak downstairs they know that they are not allowed to be up roaming if i am a sleep that they need to come and wake me up because i can't trust them. They have supervision it's just i am human and i have to pee lol. But yes it's when they have 5 min to do something they do. This was never the case Trieden was always really good never did any of this till this last year so it's frustrating
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05-24-2008, 07:18 AM | #12 |
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| well.... I am dealing with similar things at our house...maybe not to the degree you are....plus I am OLDER yikes..... What I think may be good is separating their activities....I know my 8 yr old will pick up the bad habits of my 11 yr old just to act big like his brother....see if you can give the 3 yr old some extra attention that is age appropriate.....he needs to be a toddler..... Now for the 8 yr old....he knows consequences....so give him the rules and stick to them.. also give him something to occupy his time and that he can be proud of.....or a job where he can earn a reward....put it on a poster on the wall...make a big deal of it.....I found that my 8 yr old is actually more level headed than my 11 yr old....and so I have to treat them entirely different..... It is so easy to raise the kids the same, but it is not fair for either one to have the same expectations......a little one on one time with each one would probably help you develop a plan for the summer too.... Good luck shirley another thought....the poster on the wall in their bedroom with steps for morning rules will be fun! Do different for each one....and make them check off or see what they need to do when.....if you are creative.....that would be even better.... Last edited by Saleswman; 05-24-2008 at 07:21 AM. |
05-24-2008, 07:18 AM | #13 | |
Peeka Boo I See You! Donating Member | Quote:
I am not an unattentive mother,and i do have rules and boundries and they know them. we even have house rules on a poster board hanging on the door.
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05-24-2008, 07:21 AM | #14 | |
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05-24-2008, 07:30 AM | #15 | |
Peeka Boo I See You! Donating Member | Quote:
We do a lot of things i take them to the park we go to my friends house she has 3 kids that they play with. We have a huge back yard with a swing set and bikes etc. it's not like they have nothing to do honestly. This is why i am frustrated because i try to keep them active i color with them we play games everything. But it seems the older Trieden gets the worse he is getting. I mean when i was a kid my mom would bust me in the mouth for lying or talking back but ou can't do that now days without CPS on ur butt. I don't know why he is doing this to be honest. I have tried talking to him about why he lies and is not minding but he just says IDK. UGGGHHHH
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