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03-10-2008, 06:38 PM | #1 |
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| Dare I need to hear a 'thank you' ? I am grateful for everything my husbands parents have helped us with.. I am grateful for my husband. There are times; however that I feel like chopped liver. We live with his parents and as a 'thank you' I do the grocery shopping once a week. I am a full time student and do my own cleaning up in the up stairs bonus room we stay in. My point is that it feels like I never do enough or that I never do anything right. Every single time I get the groceries and hand my father-in-law the receipt he says "whoa! that's a lot of money" or "wow, I guess we need all this food" or they now don't get their cleaning I do and I have to start the dishwasher and unload it... am I the only person that lives here?! Don't get me started on my husband. They have always had "maids" to do all their cleaning and I just refuse to have someone else clean up the two rooms and one bathroom we have, it's just not necessary, so my hubs "needs direction" he can not see that the trash is full, or that we need to vacuum or that the toilet needs to be scrubbed, so I do it and the laundry and the grooming and dog walking and plan for his appointments and never hear a thank you!!!!! I found myself scrubbing the tub tonight and just crying. I am so mad and hurt and just ugh!!!!!! I told my M-I-L that i couldn't go buy groceries tomorrow because I have another midterm on Wednesday and so she was nice about it and did it, but I had to hear a "woe is me" story on how she is so busy and Mondays are her only easy day... when my F-I-L came home he opened the fridge and said "good job hun" ughhhhh. It could be worse, I guess I should just count my blessings, but I feel horrible and I am done with telling my husband I need his help or if he can be a bit more considerate. anyone got any encouragement lying around or understand me?
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03-10-2008, 06:46 PM | #2 |
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| Hang in there honey, it won't be forever!!!! We had to live with my parents for about 3 months and it was the longest 3 months of my life!!! I'm 60 years old and still can't do anything right in my mother's eyes and whatever I do, it's never enough. Just stay strong and know it will end someday.
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03-10-2008, 06:51 PM | #3 |
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| Bless your heart- I could never EVER live with my inlaws. Patty is wiser than I and she said it best- this too shall end. Make sure you and your hubby stick together through it because y'all need each other. When it gets to be too much, you just come right back and vent to us. Hugs!
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03-10-2008, 06:52 PM | #4 |
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| Thanks, it's been 3 years and I'm about to explode. I can't even begin to explain my other frustrations. I wish I had know the extremity of my husband's mama's boy tendencies. < sigh> thank you!!!
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03-10-2008, 06:55 PM | #5 |
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| yes it could be worse. I wont even start about my mil. I ll just say we have no spoke to her in almost 3 years..And it has been a good 3 years. I had to cut that noose off my neck. She wasnt going to run me,
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03-10-2008, 06:57 PM | #6 |
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| [F]I know where your coming from. I too lived with my in-laws for a time and let me just say it will get easier. When you get your own home things do change. Although I will tell you that I am still training my husband that the trash is full ect. We have been together for over 10 years now and we are approaching out thirties. So time does make things easier if for nothing else but training more so than dogs. My two yorkies have trained easier than my kids or husband together and their not done yet. Just hang in there things do get easier. Tomorrow will be a better day as I was always told. Tracy.[/FONT] |
03-10-2008, 06:59 PM | #7 |
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| I sit here in absolute awe of you. There is NO WAY, NO HOW I could ever ever ever live with my MIL. Hopefully ya'll will be able to get out soon! Until then feel free to vent, scream, and all that good stuff here. Sending you hugs!
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03-10-2008, 07:05 PM | #8 |
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| Awww I'm sorry to hear that things are so tough for you right now. I can't imagine going back to living at my moms, much less someone else's moms! Is there anyway that you could sit down and tell your inlaws how you are feeling? I know sometimes its scary but I always say that people aren't psychic and they won't know how you are feeling unless you tell them. Either way I'm sending hugs and prayers that things get better for you and Jamie sends lots of puppy kisses.
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03-10-2008, 07:09 PM | #9 | |
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03-10-2008, 07:18 PM | #10 | |
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Three yrs is a long time, can you see the light at the end of the tunnel? So often things seem the darkest when we are on the verge of a breakthrough. When we hurt and ache so bad, we are actually growing, preparing for where God is taking us next. Hugs to you and prayers for things to improve very soon.
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03-10-2008, 07:25 PM | #12 | |
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03-10-2008, 07:38 PM | #13 |
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| Hugs to you....Get your Degree, get a great job and then you both can move out!
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03-13-2008, 11:13 AM | #14 |
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| When we were first married my husband suggested moving in with my mom to save for a house. I asked him which he'd rather save money or his marriage. So I admire you for sticking it out with your in laws. It WILL all be worth it when you are finished school and can move out. Is your husband a student too? It will get better when school is over and you move on. And don't give up on training him! Like kids, they think if they wear you down you'll just do it yourself because it's easier. But if you stick with it and don't do his chores for him he'll get it eventually. I know it's hard when the garbage can is overflowing but he needs to learn that it's his job and if he doesn't do it it won't get done. (That's from hubby101...mine is pretty well trained, lol, but we've been married 20 years)
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03-13-2008, 11:22 AM | #15 |
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| Maybe it's time to look for a place of your own? It's difficult to live with others. Even sometimes, my husband! |
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