Who is going to be in the delivery room with you/who was? - YorkieTalk.com Forums

ladybugg74 · 02-26-2008, 02:25 PM

When we first started trying to get pregnant I had made up my mind that when we got pregnant that it would just be me and DH in the delivery room. I wanted us to be the first to see our baby and I feel that the delivery is something for just the two of us to share. Here we are prego and due in July. My mother insists she is going to be in the delivery room because she was for her other two grandchildren and she is going to be for this one. I have been telling her for a long time that it was just me and DH. She blows me off and says whatever. She does not believe me. I invited her for my next sonogram because we find out the sex of the baby. My DH has 16 year old daughter so she is going to. I told her I would compromise and she could go to the sonogram since she would not be in he delivery room. She blew me off again and still I don't think it has sunk in that I don't want anyone else in the room. I even told her I would not call when I went into labor if she was going to continue that way and no respect what I wanted. That did not go over real well. Anyway, just wondering who is going to be in the delivery room or who was with you? Do you think I am wrong just wanting DH and I? Do you think when the time comes that I will want her in there? My sisters think I am making a big deal out of it because they did not care who was there or not.

chachi · 02-26-2008, 02:32 PM

Well I had a csection with my Daughter so it was just my husband and I but as soon as they wheeled me back My brother in law and sister n law and son were in there. When My sister in law had hers she had both mother and father in there , Motherin law and her Husband and her sister and brother in law. I cant imagine being in full labor and having that number of people in there

LoveMyGirlz · 02-26-2008, 02:38 PM

I think it is soley your decision. If you want it to be an intimate thing that only you and your husband (and daughter) share, I think that is completely an understandable choice!
My first, I had hubby, mother, mother in law and a ton of interns! LOL I delivered at Stanford hospital and agree'd to share the learning experience with them!
My second was just my hubby and mother in law. I didn't put too much thought into it and have no regrets for either one. It truely is up to only you

hha · 02-26-2008, 03:06 PM

I wanted to go in with my daughter when she had the 2nd one, but, she said NO, she said there were 2 of them when the baby was born, and there was only going to be the 2 of them when they had her..Well, I've already talked to my d-i-l to be, and asked her when her and my son have one if I can be in there, and she said yes..but, I'm sure that's not going to be for awhile yet..They probably won't get married until she finishes nursing school next year, then, I'm sure they'll wait another year or two..they want to make sure they are financially set first.

Bizzymammabee · 02-26-2008, 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by ladybugg74

When we first started trying to get pregnant I had made up my mind that when we got pregnant that it would just be me and DH in the delivery room. I wanted us to be the first to see our baby and I feel that the delivery is something for just the two of us to share. Here we are prego and due in July. My mother insists she is going to be in the delivery room because she was for her other two grandchildren and she is going to be for this one. I have been telling her for a long time that it was just me and DH. She blows me off and says whatever. She does not believe me. I invited her for my next sonogram because we find out the sex of the baby. My DH has 16 year old daughter so she is going to. I told her I would compromise and she could go to the sonogram since she would not be in he delivery room. She blew me off again and still I don't think it has sunk in that I don't want anyone else in the room. I even told her I would not call when I went into labor if she was going to continue that way and no respect what I wanted. That did not go over real well. Anyway, just wondering who is going to be in the delivery room or who was with you? Do you think I am wrong just wanting DH and I? Do you think when the time comes that I will want her in there? My sisters think I am making a big deal out of it because they did not care who was there or not.

It was just DH and me in there the three times. I wouldn't have minded my mom and MIL in there with me or maybe my sisters.

I would tell him to maybe speak to her. I can understand her wanting to be there but I can also see your wanting it to be just you and hubby. It's a very private thing being in the delivery room and being exposed. If your not that comfortable with her being in there then that is your right.

Try to get your point made without aggravating yourself too much. Sounds to me like your mil will be a bit over bearing as well when you have the baby.

MindieRose · 02-26-2008, 03:10 PM

For my first it was my husband and my mom. For my second it was my husband, mom, and son. For my third it was my husband, mom, 2 sons, cousin (my best friend) and her son. My 4th was a csection and my husband barely made it in there on time. My 5th was my husband and 2 oldest sons while my mom was home with my 3rd son and my daughter because I had been in labor forever and it was the middle of the night. Same thing with the 6th.
I love having my children in there with me. My oldest was so sick when I was having my 6th, but he started crying almost when I told him he might not be able to be there.
When my cousin was there for my 3rd, it was sort of accidental. She thought I had already had my son, and was coming to see us. She hadnt talked to me for a long time that day, and just figured he would have been there by now. She got there about an hour before I had him, and her and her son just ended up staying in with us. Her son and my oldest were 4 at the time. They were coloring pictures at the table in the room, when her son Kaleb looked at me. He saw that I was pushing the baby out and says "HEY GAVIN (my oldest) YOUR MOMS HAVIN' A BABY!" They were SO excited!
The next day Kaleb told his grandma, my aunt, that I pushed a baby out of my butt and it was bleeding. He thought it was awesome

It completely up to you with what you feel comfortable with. I would have very hurt feelings if my daughter didnt want me in there with her, but I would try to respect that. Tell your mom they have a nice waiting room and the cafeteria has great food and that she can be the first visitor in to see the baby after you deliver because you love her so much

KathyinCali · 02-26-2008, 03:24 PM

For me it was just my mom.

Bizzymammabee · 02-26-2008, 03:27 PM

OOPs I thought that it was your mil there...lol. Ok so it's your mom...oh boy that is gonna have some drama...lol. Either way I can still see your wanting it to be you two only.

tjdmom · 02-26-2008, 03:31 PM

I had a c-section so it was just me and my husband.... I would've loved to have my mom or mil but both are gone... on second thought... I'd like to think they were both there.

But I think you and your husband need to decide what you are comfortable with.

yorkiesmiles · 02-26-2008, 03:39 PM

I have a mom who doesn't listen too

- so maybe if you really don't want her there you will have to let the hospital staff & doctor know - they can handle her, you are going to be a little busy doing other things. Talk with your doctor about it.

That said, I would never had imagined my scenario. -- When I went into labor, it was all back labor - none of those contractions across the belly they teach you about. I was dying - they put me in a shower chair & ran water on me forever. My parents came in while I was in labor in the bed and my dad started rubbing my back for me, when the doctor said were going to have a baby soon do you want your parents to leave? At that point, I was beyond caring who was there! - my dad was rubbing my back, while my husband was helping me concentrate on breathing in front of me & well my mom, my mom was just grinning ear to ear. So both my parents were there, it was a moment I know they will never forget.

When my brother & I were born they didn't let men in the delivery room, so it was pretty special for my dad to be there. He ended up taking pictures, as he was the best camera person there besides myself

I know my mom would have loved to have been in the room with my brother & sil when their 2 were born - but it didn't happen, don't think she asked

(if it had been me again, she would have!)

J_is_my_initial · 02-26-2008, 03:43 PM

When I had Niki I had complications so not even Jimmie were there for the c section. Since I was knocked out and never even had any contractions, I would love to be there when Niki has her child. But if she does not want me to be there I will abide by her wishes.

meganium · 02-26-2008, 03:49 PM

1st child was an emergency c section. Had eclampsia. Went into convulsions, When I woke up They told me It's a boy. 2nd Horrible Horrible..Natural..My mother was there. 3rd No One. 4th My husband, I seriosly thought he was going to pass out..

OLIVIA_KARHIS · 02-26-2008, 03:59 PM

Well I was ALLL the way in Germany when I had my son..my mom was getting ready to come here THAT day... so it was just me a DH THANK GOD lol. BC My mom would have made me kick her out of the room I was waiting in. SHe wanted me to do things HER way and was REALLY MAD I didnt do it with out drugs. I was like, tuff. I am doing it MY way. SO I was SOOO glad Pedro POP in the same day she was leaving to fly here LOL

And I don't think its wrong of you in any way that you dont want your mother in the room with you. She should respect your wishes

~Yorkie~Mommy~ · 02-26-2008, 04:01 PM

Well I know when I am getting ready to delivery I want it to be just me and my DH!!

missj2007 · 02-26-2008, 04:10 PM

To me it is solely your decision and your mother should respect it. I remeber on the movie Knocked Up the guy had to tell the sister to step back and that they wanted to share the experience between the two of them. With me when I have my first child I would want only my mom,auntie, and husband in the room when it gets down to me delivering. Some people will cause you uneeded stress and you really do not need it.

02-26-2008, 02:25 PM	#1
ladybugg74 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 1,054	Who is going to be in the delivery room with you/who was? When we first started trying to get pregnant I had made up my mind that when we got pregnant that it would just be me and DH in the delivery room. I wanted us to be the first to see our baby and I feel that the delivery is something for just the two of us to share. Here we are prego and due in July. My mother insists she is going to be in the delivery room because she was for her other two grandchildren and she is going to be for this one. I have been telling her for a long time that it was just me and DH. She blows me off and says whatever. She does not believe me. I invited her for my next sonogram because we find out the sex of the baby. My DH has 16 year old daughter so she is going to. I told her I would compromise and she could go to the sonogram since she would not be in he delivery room. She blew me off again and still I don't think it has sunk in that I don't want anyone else in the room. I even told her I would not call when I went into labor if she was going to continue that way and no respect what I wanted. That did not go over real well. Anyway, just wondering who is going to be in the delivery room or who was with you? Do you think I am wrong just wanting DH and I? Do you think when the time comes that I will want her in there? My sisters think I am making a big deal out of it because they did not care who was there or not. __________________ Heather - Mamma to Gracie & Hallee Last edited by ladybugg74; 02-26-2008 at 02:27 PM.

02-26-2008, 02:32 PM	#2
chachi I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 37,147	Well I had a csection with my Daughter so it was just my husband and I but as soon as they wheeled me back My brother in law and sister n law and son were in there. When My sister in law had hers she had both mother and father in there , Motherin law and her Husband and her sister and brother in law. I cant imagine being in full labor and having that number of people in there __________________ Chachi's & Jewels Mom Jewels http://www.dogster.com/?132431 Chachi http://www.dogster.com/?132427

02-26-2008, 02:38 PM	#3
LoveMyGirlz Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Bay Area, California Posts: 1,908	I think it is soley your decision. If you want it to be an intimate thing that only you and your husband (and daughter) share, I think that is completely an understandable choice! My first, I had hubby, mother, mother in law and a ton of interns! LOL I delivered at Stanford hospital and agree'd to share the learning experience with them! My second was just my hubby and mother in law. I didn't put too much thought into it and have no regrets for either one. It truely is up to only you __________________ God Bless our troops R.I.P. Sweet Lexxi Girl - you were taken too soon, we love you always Vixxen ,Truffles , Gemma Lexxi and their mommy Trina- Girls Rule!

02-26-2008, 03:10 PM	#6
MindieRose Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Michigan Posts: 1,280	For my first it was my husband and my mom. For my second it was my husband, mom, and son. For my third it was my husband, mom, 2 sons, cousin (my best friend) and her son. My 4th was a csection and my husband barely made it in there on time. My 5th was my husband and 2 oldest sons while my mom was home with my 3rd son and my daughter because I had been in labor forever and it was the middle of the night. Same thing with the 6th. I love having my children in there with me. My oldest was so sick when I was having my 6th, but he started crying almost when I told him he might not be able to be there. When my cousin was there for my 3rd, it was sort of accidental. She thought I had already had my son, and was coming to see us. She hadnt talked to me for a long time that day, and just figured he would have been there by now. She got there about an hour before I had him, and her and her son just ended up staying in with us. Her son and my oldest were 4 at the time. They were coloring pictures at the table in the room, when her son Kaleb looked at me. He saw that I was pushing the baby out and says "HEY GAVIN (my oldest) YOUR MOMS HAVIN' A BABY!" They were SO excited! The next day Kaleb told his grandma, my aunt, that I pushed a baby out of my butt and it was bleeding. He thought it was awesome It completely up to you with what you feel comfortable with. I would have very hurt feelings if my daughter didnt want me in there with her, but I would try to respect that. Tell your mom they have a nice waiting room and the cafeteria has great food and that she can be the first visitor in to see the baby after you deliver because you love her so much __________________ Proud Mommy of Gavin, Ethan, Morgan, Nia, Olivia, and Kiana and baby #7! Also Mommy to furkids: Cleo ,Lola, Lilly Appletini, and Diesel. and Sunny, Ethan's Golden therapy dog in training.

02-26-2008, 03:24 PM	#7
KathyinCali Love My Li'l Lucy Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Southern California Posts: 6,700	For me it was just my mom. __________________ Kathy and Lil' Lucy and Jammies Rest in Peace my Sweet Buster

02-26-2008, 03:06 PM	#4
hha No Longer a Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Seneca, SC Posts: 2,837	I wanted to go in with my daughter when she had the 2nd one, but, she said NO, she said there were 2 of them when the baby was born, and there was only going to be the 2 of them when they had her..Well, I've already talked to my d-i-l to be, and asked her when her and my son have one if I can be in there, and she said yes..but, I'm sure that's not going to be for awhile yet..They probably won't get married until she finishes nursing school next year, then, I'm sure they'll wait another year or two..they want to make sure they are financially set first.

02-26-2008, 03:27 PM	#8
Bizzymammabee Luvs Lulu Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Queens, NY Posts: 6,931 Blog Entries: 1	OOPs I thought that it was your mil there...lol. Ok so it's your mom...oh boy that is gonna have some drama...lol. Either way I can still see your wanting it to be you two only. __________________ Lulu will always be in my heart

02-26-2008, 03:31 PM	#9
tjdmom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: upstate ny Posts: 5,847	I had a c-section so it was just me and my husband.... I would've loved to have my mom or mil but both are gone... on second thought... I'd like to think they were both there. But I think you and your husband need to decide what you are comfortable with.

02-26-2008, 03:39 PM	#10
yorkiesmiles Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Iowa Posts: 9,493	I have a mom who doesn't listen too - so maybe if you really don't want her there you will have to let the hospital staff & doctor know - they can handle her, you are going to be a little busy doing other things. Talk with your doctor about it. That said, I would never had imagined my scenario. -- When I went into labor, it was all back labor - none of those contractions across the belly they teach you about. I was dying - they put me in a shower chair & ran water on me forever. My parents came in while I was in labor in the bed and my dad started rubbing my back for me, when the doctor said were going to have a baby soon do you want your parents to leave? At that point, I was beyond caring who was there! - my dad was rubbing my back, while my husband was helping me concentrate on breathing in front of me & well my mom, my mom was just grinning ear to ear. So both my parents were there, it was a moment I know they will never forget. When my brother & I were born they didn't let men in the delivery room, so it was pretty special for my dad to be there. He ended up taking pictures, as he was the best camera person there besides myself I know my mom would have loved to have been in the room with my brother & sil when their 2 were born - but it didn't happen, don't think she asked (if it had been me again, she would have!) __________________ yorkiesmiles Loved by Bubba & Roxy *Holy, holy, is the Lord God Almighty, who was, and is, and is to come*

02-26-2008, 03:43 PM	#11
J_is_my_initial YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Knoxville,Tennessee Posts: 3,073	When I had Niki I had complications so not even Jimmie were there for the c section. Since I was knocked out and never even had any contractions, I would love to be there when Niki has her child. But if she does not want me to be there I will abide by her wishes. __________________ PAWPRINTS AND DOG HAIR ENHANCE MY PERSONAL STYLE.

02-26-2008, 03:49 PM	#12
meganium Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: md Posts: 163	1st child was an emergency c section. Had eclampsia. Went into convulsions, When I woke up They told me It's a boy. 2nd Horrible Horrible..Natural..My mother was there. 3rd No One. 4th My husband, I seriosly thought he was going to pass out.. __________________ Bella Marie , Baby ,Leeland Cypress , JayJay, Pumpkin and Spooky, Sprinkles actually a parakeet not a chicken, Noodle

02-26-2008, 03:59 PM	#13
OLIVIA_KARHIS Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: GERMANY Posts: 1,544	Well I was ALLL the way in Germany when I had my son..my mom was getting ready to come here THAT day... so it was just me a DH THANK GOD lol. BC My mom would have made me kick her out of the room I was waiting in. SHe wanted me to do things HER way and was REALLY MAD I didnt do it with out drugs. I was like, tuff. I am doing it MY way. SO I was SOOO glad Pedro POP in the same day she was leaving to fly here LOL And I don't think its wrong of you in any way that you dont want your mother in the room with you. She should respect your wishes __________________ Bunny &Bella Supporting The Troops

02-26-2008, 04:01 PM	#14
~Yorkie~Mommy~ Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Louisiana Posts: 3,933	Well I know when I am getting ready to delivery I want it to be just me and my DH!! __________________ ~Christina~ Our human baby girl is HERE!! Luvin' My Prince Bailey Bailey's Dogster Page Bailey 's Gracie

02-26-2008, 04:10 PM	#15
missj2007 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Florida Posts: 698 Blog Entries: 11	To me it is solely your decision and your mother should respect it. I remeber on the movie Knocked Up the guy had to tell the sister to step back and that they wanted to share the experience between the two of them. With me when I have my first child I would want only my mom,auntie, and husband in the room when it gets down to me delivering. Some people will cause you uneeded stress and you really do not need it. __________________ I have lost my bestfriend, Poppy my angel,my protector March 29,2008-June 14,2009.