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Old 02-18-2008, 04:36 PM   #1
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OK guys I have to vent, I am so upset. So my ex-boyfriend just had Tervuren Puppies and he tells me to go to his website to look at them. Well I am reading his website and it says "and I am expecting my first child in July, I am having a boy". Well I have heard nothing about this and we still talk all the time so I call him and sure enough he is having a kid. But here is the kicker, he is having a kid with his best friends SISTER-IN-LAW. That is right this girl is married to his best friends brother. And then he goes on to tell me that he is still in love with me and so on and so forth......

While we were dating I always had issues with her because you could totally tell that they liked each other, and I was always a bit worried about her but he would always reassure me that even if we were not dating he could not do that do his best friend and it is just the point of who it is. My heart is totally broken. I know we were not going out anymore but after you are with someone for almost 5 years hearing he is having a kid with someone that is still married breaks my heart.

OH yeah and then he went on to say it was my fault because he knew I had recently started dating again and was doing it to get back at me....WTF.

I guess I have no reason to be upset but I am just in shock I guess.

OK thanks for listening to me. Someone please tell me I am not crazy that it is bothering me.
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Old 02-18-2008, 04:43 PM   #2
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wow I am so sorry hunni!!! It must be tough.. especially to hear him say he still loves you?! can he really say that after doing that?!
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Old 02-18-2008, 04:45 PM   #3
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Yeah I said don't be saying stuff like that. I mean I moved on and started dating again but I am no where near living with someone or being ready to have kids with someone. I was just kind of shocked and needed to let it out.
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Old 02-18-2008, 05:07 PM   #4
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No offense, but If he's blaming you then he's not a nice guy, it's his fault alone, and he's just using that as an excuse to try to make you feel guilty for his mistakes.
That's my opinion though, and I'm sorry you have to go through with that
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Old 02-18-2008, 05:09 PM   #5
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ugh...men are jerks!!!
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Sorry, sweetie, that you are in pain. I've had to watch my 22 yr. old daughter go through painful breakups and it nearly broke my heart. For awhile it seemed as if her choices in men were jerks. Then she dated this guy who showed her how a woman needs to be treated. Even though they have since broken up she now makes much betters choice because she realizes how she should be treated. It's a long road to travel but, it is SO worth it. Please keep you chin up and make choices that are best for YOU. Your true-love is somewhere waiting for you. As for you ex putting blame on you---that is the worst! He needs to take responsibility for his own actions.
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Old 02-18-2008, 05:59 PM   #7
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Thank you guys so much.

I know I can do so much better, it is just that initial sting when you find something like this out.

As for him taking responsibility that will probably never ever happen, he is not real good with that. In his eyes he has done nothing wrong and does not think anything with the situation is wrong. I told him just thinking that way is wrong. Oh well.
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kay ... soo ... im only 13, so i might not have had the best experience for this type of problem, but ill definately give it a shot

soo ... this guy is helping to bring a baby into this world with a married woman, just to seek vengance against you just because you've moved on?! if he still loved you, i doubt he would go and have a baby with another lady. he doesnt sound too nice at all.

sorry your heartbroken honey =[

feel better soon

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ugh...men are jerks!!!
I have to agree with you on this. There are so many men out there that are jerks, makes me glad that my hubby is a non-jerk.

AND only HE is responsible for his dumb actions, not you.
Forget this idiot!
Will his name be on the baby's birth certificate?
Now isn't that nice? The baby will be in a family with a different last name?

Is this a soap opera or what? totally ridiculous.
I say cut off communication with him. You will be doing yourself a favor.
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Old 02-18-2008, 07:20 PM   #10
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Whew! You were very lucky to dodge that bullet! Good riddance to him!

Aren't you glad you discovered his shortcomings now, instead of *gasp* finding out after you got married?!?!

I'm really sorry
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if this girl is still married, how does your ex know this is his kid?? She may be having to have dna testing done..
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Yeah I said don't be saying stuff like that. I mean I moved on and started dating again but I am no where near living with someone or being ready to have kids with someone. I was just kind of shocked and needed to let it out.
Girlie, you are so lucky you moved on and are dating again.. a guy who can do this... well I will not say what I would like to.. he is not worthy of your worrying.. and I know this is not easy.. but believe me, years down the road.. You are going to thank your lucky stars you are not in his life..
And when he tells you he loves you.. you need to tell him he is not good enough for you anymore as he has no morals.

I was there once years ago...(not with a married man) while I went in to have my daughter.. I was told her had a date and had to go .. I raised her on my own for over 8 years.. it was tough I tell you and would not wish that on my worst enemy..

Just ask a few of the older people.. they I am sure will agree with me.. and as hard as it sounds.. and I sure do not mean to.. but time does heal all wounds..

Let him go and yes it is not easy.
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I had to kiss a lot of frogs before I found the man of my dreams. Just look at this as one more frog out of the way!

Joking aside - I would rather be in physical pain than the pain of a broken heart. I thought I would never be happy again. You'll find happiness and wonder why you wasted tears on this jerk. Lots of prayer and puppy kisses will get you through!
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You guys are so right. Even later tonight when I think about it he is just plain and simple SCUM. I mean the jerk didn't even have the decency to tell me himself he had me find it on a website. I told him tonight to just think of it as he never knew, told him that I didn't want to see or him from him ever again. I told him he was a horrible horrible person that I do not need in my life ever again!
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How dare him blame you that he got someone else pregnant!
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