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For My Coby · 01-03-2008, 07:25 AM

When my mom was in the hospital a few years back and not doing well, I ran across a sign/poster/saying that I printed up and hung on her door. It was directed at the professional staff (medical, cleaning, dietary) and somehow reminded them that this "old woman" they saw now was a real person and had been a beautiful young strong woman at one time who had her own dreams, career, etc., etc.

I don't recall exactly how it went, but the sentiment kindly asked them to please see the woman inside this old body and treat her with the respect that was given throughout her younger life. I know that caregivers become immune and sometimes jaded in their daily jobs, and it was a very respectful reminder to them to remember why they have chosen to work where they do.

Does anyone recognize this? My mom is out of the hospital but in transitional care in a nursing home (hopefully to return home) and a good friend's mom is in the hospital in very bad unresponsive shape. I thought it would be great for both of us to hang up. But I can't remember where I found it and can't seem to search for it on line using the right search string. Thought someone else might have used it before.

Thanks if you can help!

Jody Renfroe · 01-03-2008, 07:28 AM

I received the story you're talking about awhile back from a friend via email. I'll see if I can't find it and get it to you.

Judy in Waco · 01-03-2008, 07:29 AM

That sounds wonderful. What a great idea. I haven't seen one, but you have me interested now. Let us know when you find one.

ARCHIE · 01-03-2008, 07:31 AM

I can't help you Diane but I think the idea is wonderful.
I wish I knew about such a sign a couple of months ago when my
Aunt was very sick in a nursing home (having since passed) when my other
aunt heard an aid reagard her as an old lady down the hall.
Of course my aunt went after her and told her pretty much what
seems to be in the sign your looking for. The aid then showed the
respect that should have been shown in the first place.
Good luck in your search and prayer's coming for your Mom to return
home real soon.

For My Coby · 01-03-2008, 07:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Jody Renfroe

I received the story you're talking about awhile back from a friend via email. I'll see if I can't find it and get it to you.

Oh, you are an angel - no pressure or anything

Actually, I'm just glad someone knows what I'm talking about, because that means that even if you can't find it, perhaps someone else does have it.

You know, YT is great for yorkie talk, but more and more I remember that you people are the greatest resources for all that is important to us (as well as a bit of entertainment).

For My Coby · 01-03-2008, 07:35 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ARCHIE

I can't help you Diane but I think the idea is wonderful.
I wish I knew about such a sign a couple of months ago when my
Aunt was very sick in a nursing home (having since passed) when my other
aunt heard an aid reagard her as an old lady down the hall.
Of course my aunt went after her and told her pretty much what
seems to be in the sign your looking for. The aid then showed the
respect that should have been shown in the first place.
Good luck in your search and prayer's coming for your Mom to return
home real soon.

Thanks so much. I try to remember how hard their jobs are. How doing it day after day would be so hard for all who are less than angels. Please accept my condolences on the passing of your Aunt. But I'm also glad that she is free of the nursing home now, as I'm sure you are too.

However, we find it, it'll get posted here so we can all use it.

For My Coby · 01-03-2008, 07:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Judy in Waco

That sounds wonderful. What a great idea. I haven't seen one, but you have me interested now. Let us know when you find one.

Wherever we find it, it'll get posted here as a resource for all of us to remind those hard-working (mostly) caregivers.

Rosey07 · 01-03-2008, 09:24 AM

Is this it?

When an old lady died in the geriatric ward of a small hospital near Dundee, Scotland, it was wrongly assumed that she had nothing left of any value.
But later, when the nurses were going through her meagre possessions, they found this poem.
Its quality and content so impressed the staff that copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital.

What do you see, nurses, what do you see?
What are you thinking when you're looking at me?
A crabby old woman, not very wise,
Uncertain of habit, with faraway eyes?
Who dribbles her food and makes no reply
When you say in a loud voice, "I do wish you'd try!"
Who seems not to notice the things that you do, and
Forever is losing a stocking or shoe.....
Who, resisting or not, lets you do as you will,
With bathing and feeding, the long day to fill....
Is that what you're thinking?
Is that what you see?
Then open your eyes, nurse; you're not looking at me.
I'll tell you who I am as I sit here so still,
As I do at your bidding, as I eat at your will.
I'm a small child of ten ....with a father and mother,
Brothers and sisters, who love one another.
A young girl of sixteen, with wings on her feet,
Dreaming that soon now a lover she'll meet.
A bride soon at twenty -- my heart gives a leap,
Remembering the vows that I promised to keep.
At twenty-five now, I have young of my own,
Who need me to guide and a secure happy home.
A woman of thirty, my young now grown fast,
Bound to each other with ties that should last.
At forty, my young sons have grown and are gone,
But my man's beside me to see I don't mourn.
At fifty once more, babies play round my knee,
Again we know children, my loved one and me.
Dark days are upon me, my husband is dead;
I look at the future, I shudder with dread.
For my young are all rearing young of their own,
And I think of the years and the love that I've known.
I'm now an old woman ...and nature is cruel;
'Tis jest to make old age look like a fool.
The body, it crumbles, grace and vigour depart,
There is now a stone where I once had a heart.
But inside this old carcass a young girl still dwells,
And now and again, my battered heart swells.
I remember the joys, I remember the pain,
And I'm loving and living life over again.
I think of the years ....all too few, gone too fast,
And accept the stark fact that nothing can last.
So open your eyes, people, open and see,
Not a crabby old woman; look closer ...see ME!!

Rosey07 · 01-03-2008, 09:32 AM

Wow here is this same poem with pictures it is very heart wrenching!!

journey826 · 01-03-2008, 09:36 AM

Good to hear your mom is fine.But I am sending warm wishes and prayers to your friends mom for a speedy recovery.

If thats not it its still very nice.Although I am not a caregiver to strangers I do care for my family and sometimes you do become worn down with all the things to do and not enough thank yous.I really like it and thanks I am proud to say I am a member of YT!!

I am very sentimental and I make no apologies for it

labrown · 01-03-2008, 09:41 AM

When my grandfather was in a nursing home, my mother made these two posters and put them up by his bed so people could get to know him. It caught on and more families started putting up things about their loved ones in the home. I'm gonna cry right now just thinking about it, but it was a great thing that they did for him because he was such an awesome man and we wanted everyone to know it.

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Yorkiekids · 01-03-2008, 09:43 AM

Rosey07 that was really moving.

Rosey07 · 01-03-2008, 09:56 AM

Yes it is very moving...I use to work in a Nursing Home back in the 70's it was my first job. I could not believe there were people there that only came to vist a few times a year...I guess that cared cause at least they did come.

Rosey07 · 01-03-2008, 09:57 AM

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Originally Posted by labrown

When my grandfather was in a nursing home, my mother made these two posters and put them up by his bed so people could get to know him. It caught on and more families started putting up things about their loved ones in the home. I'm gonna cry right now just thinking about it, but it was a great thing that they did for him because he was such an awesome man and we wanted everyone to know it.

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Wow what a great idea!!

BamaFan121s · 01-03-2008, 10:06 AM

I can't help you finding the sign you are looking for, but I completely sympathize with the meaning it holds that you have described. My family recently had to deal with this situation...a loved one being treated like an 'object' instead of a person, so the message really hits home.

As someone who has worked in the medical profession, I have to say, that is a very hard job to have. On one level, you have to be able to shut out any emotion for the patients--you cannot let yourself become attached to them, but at the same time, you have to leave enough of your heart open that you can provide the care they need and deserve and treat them like the people they are and not just a 'job.' It is SUCH a fine line and so hard to find a healthy balance there.

01-03-2008, 07:25 AM	#1
For My Coby Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Illinois Posts: 4,139	Does anyone recognize this "sign" for a hospital room? When my mom was in the hospital a few years back and not doing well, I ran across a sign/poster/saying that I printed up and hung on her door. It was directed at the professional staff (medical, cleaning, dietary) and somehow reminded them that this "old woman" they saw now was a real person and had been a beautiful young strong woman at one time who had her own dreams, career, etc., etc. I don't recall exactly how it went, but the sentiment kindly asked them to please see the woman inside this old body and treat her with the respect that was given throughout her younger life. I know that caregivers become immune and sometimes jaded in their daily jobs, and it was a very respectful reminder to them to remember why they have chosen to work where they do. Does anyone recognize this? My mom is out of the hospital but in transitional care in a nursing home (hopefully to return home) and a good friend's mom is in the hospital in very bad unresponsive shape. I thought it would be great for both of us to hang up. But I can't remember where I found it and can't seem to search for it on line using the right search string. Thought someone else might have used it before. Thanks if you can help! __________________ Diane, and my boys ..... Coby and Reggie !! Striving to be a YTPP - a YT Positive Poster! In Memory of My Beautiful Mother 7/22/28-8/27/08

01-03-2008, 07:29 AM	#3
Judy in Waco Gizzy & Kandi spoil me Donating Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Waco, Texas Posts: 8,477	That sounds wonderful. What a great idea. I haven't seen one, but you have me interested now. Let us know when you find one. __________________ The fullness of our heart is expressed in our eyes, in our touch, in what we write, in what we say, in the way we walk, the way we receive, the way we need. -Mother Teresa ( RIP Gizmo 3/9/07-8/18/12)

01-03-2008, 09:36 AM	#10
journey826 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: yorkie town Posts: 876	Good to hear your mom is fine.But I am sending warm wishes and prayers to your friends mom for a speedy recovery. If thats not it its still very nice.Although I am not a caregiver to strangers I do care for my family and sometimes you do become worn down with all the things to do and not enough thank yous.I really like it and thanks I am proud to say I am a member of YT!! I am very sentimental and I make no apologies for it __________________ YURI and SARAH Sassy,Rocki,and Ginger NEWBIE'"S

01-03-2008, 09:41 AM	#11
labrown T&T-DYNOMITE! Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 2,111	When my grandfather was in a nursing home, my mother made these two posters and put them up by his bed so people could get to know him. It caught on and more families started putting up things about their loved ones in the home. I'm gonna cry right now just thinking about it, but it was a great thing that they did for him because he was such an awesome man and we wanted everyone to know it. PIC_0021.JPG __________________ TBone Tina & Lauren

01-03-2008, 09:43 AM	#12
Yorkiekids Piper & Sebastian Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: florida Posts: 14,495	Rosey07 that was really moving. __________________ Susan, Piper ,Harley & Suiki

01-03-2008, 07:28 AM	#2
Jody Renfroe No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Florida Posts: 1,375	I received the story you're talking about awhile back from a friend via email. I'll see if I can't find it and get it to you.

01-03-2008, 07:31 AM	#4
ARCHIE No Longer A Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: NEW YORK Posts: 16,218	I can't help you Diane but I think the idea is wonderful. I wish I knew about such a sign a couple of months ago when my Aunt was very sick in a nursing home (having since passed) when my other aunt heard an aid reagard her as an old lady down the hall. Of course my aunt went after her and told her pretty much what seems to be in the sign your looking for. The aid then showed the respect that should have been shown in the first place. Good luck in your search and prayer's coming for your Mom to return home real soon.

01-03-2008, 09:24 AM	#8
Rosey07 No Longer a Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: way down South Posts: 860	Is this it? When an old lady died in the geriatric ward of a small hospital near Dundee, Scotland, it was wrongly assumed that she had nothing left of any value. But later, when the nurses were going through her meagre possessions, they found this poem. Its quality and content so impressed the staff that copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital. What do you see, nurses, what do you see? What are you thinking when you're looking at me? A crabby old woman, not very wise, Uncertain of habit, with faraway eyes? Who dribbles her food and makes no reply When you say in a loud voice, "I do wish you'd try!" Who seems not to notice the things that you do, and Forever is losing a stocking or shoe..... Who, resisting or not, lets you do as you will, With bathing and feeding, the long day to fill.... Is that what you're thinking? Is that what you see? Then open your eyes, nurse; you're not looking at me. I'll tell you who I am as I sit here so still, As I do at your bidding, as I eat at your will. I'm a small child of ten ....with a father and mother, Brothers and sisters, who love one another. A young girl of sixteen, with wings on her feet, Dreaming that soon now a lover she'll meet. A bride soon at twenty -- my heart gives a leap, Remembering the vows that I promised to keep. At twenty-five now, I have young of my own, Who need me to guide and a secure happy home. A woman of thirty, my young now grown fast, Bound to each other with ties that should last. At forty, my young sons have grown and are gone, But my man's beside me to see I don't mourn. At fifty once more, babies play round my knee, Again we know children, my loved one and me. Dark days are upon me, my husband is dead; I look at the future, I shudder with dread. For my young are all rearing young of their own, And I think of the years and the love that I've known. I'm now an old woman ...and nature is cruel; 'Tis jest to make old age look like a fool. The body, it crumbles, grace and vigour depart, There is now a stone where I once had a heart. But inside this old carcass a young girl still dwells, And now and again, my battered heart swells. I remember the joys, I remember the pain, And I'm loving and living life over again. I think of the years ....all too few, gone too fast, And accept the stark fact that nothing can last. So open your eyes, people, open and see, Not a crabby old woman; look closer ...see ME!!

01-03-2008, 09:32 AM	#9
Rosey07 No Longer a Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: way down South Posts: 860	Wow here is this same poem with pictures it is very heart wrenching!!

01-03-2008, 09:56 AM	#13
Rosey07 No Longer a Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: way down South Posts: 860	Yes it is very moving...I use to work in a Nursing Home back in the 70's it was my first job. I could not believe there were people there that only came to vist a few times a year...I guess that cared cause at least they did come.

01-03-2008, 10:06 AM	#15
BamaFan121s Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Alabama Posts: 11,432	I can't help you finding the sign you are looking for, but I completely sympathize with the meaning it holds that you have described. My family recently had to deal with this situation...a loved one being treated like an 'object' instead of a person, so the message really hits home. As someone who has worked in the medical profession, I have to say, that is a very hard job to have. On one level, you have to be able to shut out any emotion for the patients--you cannot let yourself become attached to them, but at the same time, you have to leave enough of your heart open that you can provide the care they need and deserve and treat them like the people they are and not just a 'job.' It is SUCH a fine line and so hard to find a healthy balance there.