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05-30-2013, 04:04 PM | #1 |
YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: Winston Salem
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| How to help a rescue overcome fear We have a 6.5 year old rescue, her name is Sweet Betty. We got her in May, 2012. She has made so much improvement in the year that we've had her, but is still very fearful of my husband (and all other people except me.). Any suggestions on how he can win her trust? He is always very gentle and sweet with her, and tries to coax her with treats every day. |
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05-30-2013, 08:06 PM | #2 |
♥ Maximo and Teddy Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Northern Virginia
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| Welcome to Yorkie Talk. You are wonderful for adopting Sweet Betty! There might be something in her history that has made her fearful of men. She may also be afraid of losing you and her new home. We brought home our Teddy when he was 8 months old from our breeder's loving home. Although he came from a great situation and was well trained and socialized, I think he was so in love with his new home and he feared going away again. We also had the problem of people running up to us and wanting to grab him to cuddle or pet. For a small dog, this is very scary. Tell your husband to keep doing what he is doing, be patient and gentle. Never force any interaction. Have him offer treats and food and don't force her to take it from his hand. Have him put it in her food bowl or on the floor. Have him praise her for good behavior. Basically let her come to him on her terms. If she likes walks, go walking together with your husband. Any activity that she likes, try to make it so that Sweet Betty associates these positive things with your husband. Share some pictures when you can.
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05-30-2013, 08:48 PM | #3 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2013 Location: Bakersfield, California, USA
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| My Sasha is the exact same way. She'll be 3 in August, we've had her for a little over a month now, and she was also a rescue. She loves me, and she's good with my kids, but my DH she just doesn't like! She runs out of the room when he comes in, and hides and shakes and will bark at him if he gets close to me or our 5 month old. lol. My DH would pretty much ignore her in hopes it'd get better, but it didn't. So instead I had him get some treats and I put her harness and leash on her, sent them out the door and said "go for a walk!" She didn't like this very much, and there was some dragging involved, but after a little bit she did walk with him, and got rewarded for doing so. After this short session, and her having to be around him because of the 3 day memorial weekend of him not at work, he sweet talked her and she actually came up to him as he was sitting down and he got to pet her. She's still nervous around him, and will hide near me if he's around, but not as bad as she was. I'm thinking more walking sessions and treats will help. Every dog is different so idk if this would be good for your baby, but it's helped us!
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05-30-2013, 09:28 PM | #4 |
♥ Love My Tibbe! ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: D/FW, Texas
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| Here's a very unconventional suggestion if you've a real doglover for a husband and you are serious about trying everything. I'd wait to serve her dinner one night and ask hubby if he will lie down and let you make a dinner plate of him with juicy bits of chicken! Sound weird? It is but it sends a powerful message to a scared, unsure, anxious and possibly abused dog. I've done this! It works wonders. Just have him lie there, at first on his stomach and after several times, lying on his back, and let her come and have at him without his talking, moving or looking at her. His head should be turned away from her. No eye contact at all. Even if she is too scared or shy to approach at first, she will get the idea that he means delicious chicken and smells really good and he's not intimidating way up tall and looming over her as usual. It will show her he's putting himself at her disposal. To a scared, frightened dog, this means so much. If he will do it, keep repeating this and if she will approach, have him not interact with her at all - just let her associate him with the delicious chicken and her in control. After a few times of this, her having the control and him looking away, not interacting, she'll have good associations with him when he's lying down low in the supine position, she's taller and knows she can get away fast should she get scared. Plus, she'll see that he is putting himself there for her in a non-threatening manner. It puts the dog in a position of feeling superior for once. In time, he can sit up during mealtime with the chicken on his legs and all around him, and he can even hold out food with his hand but not look at her and if she will take it from him, there's real hope. But I'd start with him being her dinner plate and her in a superior position and feeling that control to garner a feeling of more confidence around the man she now fears. Further, as time goes on, as he walks by her or is near her, have him drop treats in her direction - again without looking at or approaching her or asking her to approach him when he's tall and maybe threatening. Now she will see that when he is upright and tall, he's still associated with good things and doesn't intimidate her by trying to approach her or initiate any response from her. Sends a huge message that he's not taking any control or going to hurt her. It will probably be hard if he's a real doglover, but if I were him, I'd totally wait until she approached me on her own for quite some time and made her do the reaching out before I ever responded to her in any way. It will give her a marvelous feeling of control of this relationship and in time, she should be coming up and nudging his hand, wanting his attention, tail wagging a little. A little more withholding of his attention and then slowly start to respond little at a time until he is allowed to work up to looking at her, petting and holding her. Making an insecure dog learn what it's like to have total control is so empowering to them, they usually come around quicker than if the feared person keeps pursuing them with treats and loving ways. Don't worry, once they are best buddies, he can then gently and over time, reassert his leadership position with her and she will gladly accept it. She wants that now but just fears him, likely from past bad or horrific associations. This is an unconventional technique, but it appeals to all the things she so lacks right now - plus her love of food - by putting her in control for a while and his totally ignoring her until she begins to ask for his attention. If hubby goes for it, he's a real gem of a guy and can help bring this scared girl to a place of trust!
__________________ Jeanie and Tibbe One must do the best one can. You may get some marks for a very imperfect answer: you will certainly get none for leaving the question alone. C. S. Lewis |
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