How do I deal with the loss of my Yorkie? - YorkieTalk.com Forums

Courtney1607 · 06-06-2007, 03:33 PM

My yorkie at my Mom and Dad's house died early yesterday morning. She turned 7 on Saturday. She had a slight cough on Sunday, they took her to the vet Monday and they just thought it was a repiritory infection and gave her some antibiotics. She was fine Sunday night, and died sometime between 1 and 4 in the morning. She had a ruptured blood vessel in her lung, which was causing her to cough. She basically bled to death. There was no way to knwo she had it or prevent it. My parents are a complete mess as am I.

It just doesnt seem FAIR. Why would God take her from us?!?! She had so much life to live. I can't believe she is gone. I feel like someone took my hear out, stomped on it and threw it back in my body. I dont think I will ever feel normal again. How do you cope?!?!

LoveMyGirlz · 06-06-2007, 03:47 PM

Honey, the days ahead will get easier, I promise you. Just know that our babies are Gods babies, and we were chosen for them for the short while they are here with us until God takes them back. Whether that is 1 yr or 20. I'm sure you and your family gave her the best 7 years that she deserved, and no one else could have given her any better.
I had to put my baby down last Saturday and she was only 3.5 yrs old. I absolutely know your pain and depression right now. Both of these babies were robbed of a long, joyous life that should have had. And you're right, it wasn't fair.
I'm very sorry and trust me that the days will get easier and it will get easier to think of the happy times and the smiles she put on your faces while she was with you.
If you need to cry to somebody I will call you....a member here offered to call me and she did. She cried with me and was just there for me - it was nice to have someone that understood. PM if you'd like.
I'll be thinking of you and sending prayers your way....
Hugs to you,
Trina

yougetthesmiles · 06-06-2007, 04:00 PM

I'm so deeply sorry to hear about your loss.

I know your pain all to well, I know how your heart is aching with the pain.

I know how you are begging for this to be just a nightmare.

When I lost Kloey, I wrote her a letter, I wrote all my feelings down, I poured my heart out to her.

I also made a picture collage and hung it where I would see it everyday.

I talked to her like she was in the room, I strongly believe that she is still and always will be with me.

I did get a new Yorkie shortly after and it really did help fill that void I had. I have NO regrets!

Remember her for all the great memories she gave you and hold them close in your heart! Keep talking about her, we are all here for you, Yorkie Talk is your best therapy!

Hugs and prayers to you and your family.

red98vett · 06-06-2007, 04:12 PM

Bless her heart...I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't know what to tell you but Missy just said some good ideas. That's just so sad and you're right...too sudden and not fair.

that's scary to read that a simple cough was that serious...I had no idea that could happen

Sending hugs and my condolences to your family

ChestersMom · 06-06-2007, 04:48 PM

I am so sorry you've had to endure this heartache. Unfortunately, most of us have. The only good thing about that is, we know exactly how you feel and our hearts go out to you. Take good care of yourself; cry as much as you need to, then begin preparing your arms and heart for a new bundle of joy (you will be ready one day). God bless you.

Courtney1607 · 06-06-2007, 04:50 PM

Thanks girls. I am so glad this board exists, althought I thought I wouldnt have to use it for a long time. I have my own yorkie puppy (in my avatar) so its nice to come home to her, but my poor parents come home to an empty house. I cant imagine how they are feeling. I feel abd enough, I am sure their pain is much more extensive. I think we have all cried more in the last 2 days than we havein our lifetime.

Rudys Mom · 06-06-2007, 05:33 PM

Just wanted to say, I'm so sorry for you and your parents loss.

Sending you and your parents a hug from someone who has also lost a pet.

littlewhip · 06-06-2007, 05:36 PM

Iam so very sorry for your loss

my heart goes out to you & your family. sending you prayers to help heal your broken heart. i know how you feel , before i had my yorkies i had a little min pin who passed from a sudden brain tumor , we did not know he had it, only time will help but i still think of him everyday

i know in my heart he was so loved as my dodger was.

Calmom · 06-07-2007, 06:33 AM

No, sweetie, it doesn't seem fair at all when we lose these precious ones sooner than we should. I honestly do not think that God chooses and takes some early on purpose-I think that is just the way nature works-some animals have a shorter life than others. God IS there to help you in your pain though.

One thing I would like to mention is that, one blessing of this pain is that you (and apparently your parents) are capable of feeling this sadness. I know it may not seem like a blessing right now, but you don't want to be a cold hearted person either. This pain you are feeling speaks well of your kind heart and compassionate nature. Maybe, someday this experience and pain will enable you to help others thought similar pain.

I am not trying to "philosophize" this away-I KNOW how hard it is-I too have been though losing a beloved dog way too early. Your poignant metaphor of having your heart ripped out and stomped on was exactly how I felt.

But I still would rather be the kind of person who is heartbroken over the loss than one who just doesn't care-there ARE those who would shrug and say "Well, it was just a dog". I just don't want that coldness in my heart and you don't either.

Yes, you will feel "normal" again-this is something you WILL get through-you don't get "over it" but you do go beyond it. Please take some comfort in the fact that most of us who have lived over a few years have had this heartbreak and learn to live and cope with the scars, indeed we put them to use in showing more love and more kindness to those in need.

You have much to offer this world and, someday another doggie.

Blessings to you and your family

Allan · 06-07-2007, 06:45 AM

Courtney, I know all too well how you feel. About 3 1/2 weeks ago, Zack (my nearly 2 year old Yorkie) died in an terrible accident. (You can read the wholse story in my post in this section of YT.) I was (and still am) a total mess. Zackie was my best friend and always there for me. I still miss him tremendously. I never really cried before, but for the first 2 weeks, I couldn't stop crying. (I still do, but not as often.) As for coping - here are some of the things that I do: I still talk to Zackie all of the time (sometimes while looking at his picture and sometimes not); I write in a journal my thoughts and feelings (both about his life; and about how much I miss him); and I post on YT and message people here who understand.

None of this makes the pain go away; I still miss my puppy more than I ever thought possible. My apartment seems totally empty (despite my wife and her cat living her as well). Zack was such a huge part of my life and of me, and I don't think I will ever totally get over his death.

I hope things get easier for you. Here is a picture of Zackie....

-Allan

Diego · 06-07-2007, 07:40 AM

I am so sorry for your loss . You and your family are in my thoughts .

Donna Jean · 06-07-2007, 07:57 AM

My heart breaks for you and your family, nothing could be worse than the loss of your precious, precious, baby. I does sound like she had a peaceful death, and that should be a blessing for you that it was not a horrible accident, she probably just laid down and went to sleep and did not suffer.

I feel your suffering and hold you and your family close to my heart with prayers to ease your pain.

I had to have pictures of my baby out when i lost her, and i found it easier to talk about her, and share all the wonderful things she did and was to all your friends and family members. It brings joy to your heart when you remember all the good times, and love you shared with her.

We are all here for you, and if you would like to pm me any time day or night i would love to hear from you and give you all the comfort that i can. As i said before my heart breaks for your loss. I'm so sorry.

LunasMomma · 06-07-2007, 08:13 AM

I'm so sorry for your family's loss

The only thing that helps is time. I was the biggest mess when my Starr died, I did nothing but cry for weeks. Let it out. Talk about your darling angel. Then you just have to take it day by day and eventually you will be able to think about her and smile instead of cry. When the time is right, another furbaby can really help to ease the pain a bit and help fill that empty hole a little.

Hugs!

wemple2 · 06-07-2007, 08:53 AM

The feelings of loss you have are real...there's no denying that...but time will heal the wounds in your heart. And then you'll smile about your families special angel, and remember all the wonderful memories you've shared. Cry, vent, as you need to let it out...and know we are here, and totally understand your misery. My condolences to you and your parents, I am so sorry for your sudden loss. May she peacefully rest now...

tylersangel · 06-08-2007, 10:45 AM

It doesn't seem to make the pain any more or less if it is 1 year or 18 years. You come home to an empty house and the pain starts all over again. Each day will get easier. It has for me as I lost my 18 year old little girl only 2 weeks ago. I too still talk to her and dream about her. It helps! I talk to everyone about it as that helps too! Just keep posting and talking. Time heals everything!

Sorry for you loss!

06-06-2007, 03:33 PM	#1
Courtney1607 Yorkie Yakker Join Date: May 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 52	How do I deal with the loss of my Yorkie? My yorkie at my Mom and Dad's house died early yesterday morning. She turned 7 on Saturday. She had a slight cough on Sunday, they took her to the vet Monday and they just thought it was a repiritory infection and gave her some antibiotics. She was fine Sunday night, and died sometime between 1 and 4 in the morning. She had a ruptured blood vessel in her lung, which was causing her to cough. She basically bled to death. There was no way to knwo she had it or prevent it. My parents are a complete mess as am I. It just doesnt seem FAIR. Why would God take her from us?!?! She had so much life to live. I can't believe she is gone. I feel like someone took my hear out, stomped on it and threw it back in my body. I dont think I will ever feel normal again. How do you cope?!?!

06-06-2007, 03:47 PM	#2
LoveMyGirlz Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Bay Area, California Posts: 1,908	Honey, the days ahead will get easier, I promise you. Just know that our babies are Gods babies, and we were chosen for them for the short while they are here with us until God takes them back. Whether that is 1 yr or 20. I'm sure you and your family gave her the best 7 years that she deserved, and no one else could have given her any better. I had to put my baby down last Saturday and she was only 3.5 yrs old. I absolutely know your pain and depression right now. Both of these babies were robbed of a long, joyous life that should have had. And you're right, it wasn't fair. I'm very sorry and trust me that the days will get easier and it will get easier to think of the happy times and the smiles she put on your faces while she was with you. If you need to cry to somebody I will call you....a member here offered to call me and she did. She cried with me and was just there for me - it was nice to have someone that understood. PM if you'd like. I'll be thinking of you and sending prayers your way.... Hugs to you, Trina __________________ God Bless our troops R.I.P. Sweet Lexxi Girl - you were taken too soon, we love you always Vixxen ,Truffles , Gemma Lexxi and their mommy Trina- Girls Rule!

06-06-2007, 04:12 PM	#4
red98vett Yorkie Kisses are the Best! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Houston TX Posts: 33,590 Blog Entries: 1	Bless her heart...I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't know what to tell you but Missy just said some good ideas. That's just so sad and you're right...too sudden and not fair. that's scary to read that a simple cough was that serious...I had no idea that could happen Sending hugs and my condolences to your family __________________ Villette, Chanel & Cheri www.DesignsByVillette.net Custom Address Labels and Note Cards using YOUR Photos! Just Click HERE!

06-06-2007, 05:33 PM	#7
Rudys Mom Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Lancaster, PA Posts: 4,327	Just wanted to say, I'm so sorry for you and your parents loss. Sending you and your parents a hug from someone who has also lost a pet. __________________ Rudy, Zoey & Buster's mom (Dawn) Rest In Peace my precious Gracie girl & Lucky buddie Dogster:http://www.dogster.com/dogs/382659 & http://www.dogster.com/dogs/497315

06-06-2007, 05:36 PM	#8
littlewhip Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: wiith my furbabys Posts: 8,874	Iam so very sorry for your loss my heart goes out to you & your family. sending you prayers to help heal your broken heart. i know how you feel , before i had my yorkies i had a little min pin who passed from a sudden brain tumor , we did not know he had it, only time will help but i still think of him everyday i know in my heart he was so loved as my dodger was. __________________

06-06-2007, 04:00 PM	#3
yougetthesmiles BANNED FOR NOT MAILING PRODUCTS PURCHASED Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 9,295 Blog Entries: 3	I'm so deeply sorry to hear about your loss. I know your pain all to well, I know how your heart is aching with the pain. I know how you are begging for this to be just a nightmare. When I lost Kloey, I wrote her a letter, I wrote all my feelings down, I poured my heart out to her. I also made a picture collage and hung it where I would see it everyday. I talked to her like she was in the room, I strongly believe that she is still and always will be with me. I did get a new Yorkie shortly after and it really did help fill that void I had. I have NO regrets! Remember her for all the great memories she gave you and hold them close in your heart! Keep talking about her, we are all here for you, Yorkie Talk is your best therapy! Hugs and prayers to you and your family.

06-06-2007, 04:48 PM	#5
ChestersMom YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Bacliff, TX Posts: 947	I am so sorry you've had to endure this heartache. Unfortunately, most of us have. The only good thing about that is, we know exactly how you feel and our hearts go out to you. Take good care of yourself; cry as much as you need to, then begin preparing your arms and heart for a new bundle of joy (you will be ready one day). God bless you.

06-06-2007, 04:50 PM	#6
Courtney1607 Yorkie Yakker Join Date: May 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 52	Thanks girls. I am so glad this board exists, althought I thought I wouldnt have to use it for a long time. I have my own yorkie puppy (in my avatar) so its nice to come home to her, but my poor parents come home to an empty house. I cant imagine how they are feeling. I feel abd enough, I am sure their pain is much more extensive. I think we have all cried more in the last 2 days than we havein our lifetime.

06-07-2007, 06:33 AM	#9
Calmom Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Indiana Posts: 34	No, sweetie, it doesn't seem fair at all when we lose these precious ones sooner than we should. I honestly do not think that God chooses and takes some early on purpose-I think that is just the way nature works-some animals have a shorter life than others. God IS there to help you in your pain though. One thing I would like to mention is that, one blessing of this pain is that you (and apparently your parents) are capable of feeling this sadness. I know it may not seem like a blessing right now, but you don't want to be a cold hearted person either. This pain you are feeling speaks well of your kind heart and compassionate nature. Maybe, someday this experience and pain will enable you to help others thought similar pain. I am not trying to "philosophize" this away-I KNOW how hard it is-I too have been though losing a beloved dog way too early. Your poignant metaphor of having your heart ripped out and stomped on was exactly how I felt. But I still would rather be the kind of person who is heartbroken over the loss than one who just doesn't care-there ARE those who would shrug and say "Well, it was just a dog". I just don't want that coldness in my heart and you don't either. Yes, you will feel "normal" again-this is something you WILL get through-you don't get "over it" but you do go beyond it. Please take some comfort in the fact that most of us who have lived over a few years have had this heartbreak and learn to live and cope with the scars, indeed we put them to use in showing more love and more kindness to those in need. You have much to offer this world and, someday another doggie. Blessings to you and your family

06-07-2007, 07:40 AM	#11
Diego Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Canada Posts: 3,617	I am so sorry for your loss . You and your family are in my thoughts .

06-07-2007, 07:57 AM	#12
Donna Jean YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Colorado Posts: 616	My heart breaks for you and your family, nothing could be worse than the loss of your precious, precious, baby. I does sound like she had a peaceful death, and that should be a blessing for you that it was not a horrible accident, she probably just laid down and went to sleep and did not suffer. I feel your suffering and hold you and your family close to my heart with prayers to ease your pain. I had to have pictures of my baby out when i lost her, and i found it easier to talk about her, and share all the wonderful things she did and was to all your friends and family members. It brings joy to your heart when you remember all the good times, and love you shared with her. We are all here for you, and if you would like to pm me any time day or night i would love to hear from you and give you all the comfort that i can. As i said before my heart breaks for your loss. I'm so sorry.

06-07-2007, 08:13 AM	#13
LunasMomma Izzy's Momma Too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Stuart, Florida Posts: 8,799	I'm so sorry for your family's loss The only thing that helps is time. I was the biggest mess when my Starr died, I did nothing but cry for weeks. Let it out. Talk about your darling angel. Then you just have to take it day by day and eventually you will be able to think about her and smile instead of cry. When the time is right, another furbaby can really help to ease the pain a bit and help fill that empty hole a little. Hugs! __________________ Tracy, Mom to Izzy and Luna

06-07-2007, 08:53 AM	#14
wemple2 Wee Winston Wiggles Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Kewanee, Illinois Posts: 9,666	The feelings of loss you have are real...there's no denying that...but time will heal the wounds in your heart. And then you'll smile about your families special angel, and remember all the wonderful memories you've shared. Cry, vent, as you need to let it out...and know we are here, and totally understand your misery. My condolences to you and your parents, I am so sorry for your sudden loss. May she peacefully rest now... __________________ As Ever, Kathy Intruducing Bentley Winston and Spencer: RIP My Sweet Angels

06-08-2007, 10:45 AM	#15
tylersangel YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Minnesota Posts: 7	It doesn't seem to make the pain any more or less if it is 1 year or 18 years. You come home to an empty house and the pain starts all over again. Each day will get easier. It has for me as I lost my 18 year old little girl only 2 weeks ago. I too still talk to her and dream about her. It helps! I talk to everyone about it as that helps too! Just keep posting and talking. Time heals everything! Sorry for you loss!