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11-07-2013, 07:46 AM | #1 |
Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: nc
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| 2 Months later... things did seem to be getting better but lately ive had overwhelming episodes of missing my little Elvis-I just miss him so |
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11-07-2013, 08:36 AM | #2 |
Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Ohio
Posts: 7,946
| It does take time and as days, months and years go by he will always be with you in your memories however, you will be able to handle the pain better. For me I think it hurt more a month after than the day it happened. Be good to yourself.
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11-07-2013, 09:51 AM | #3 |
I♥PeekTinkySaph&Finny Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Baltimore, Maryland
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| I'm so sorry... it is very hard. Just allow yourself time to grieve. I went from crying all day, to a few times a day, then once a day, every other day, once a week, and so on. I still cry occasionally, especially when I read that others are going through the same or a similar process, and I lost my first Yorkie over 20 years ago. Our last minutes together are etched in my brain, but I do try to focus more on all the times she made me laugh and how happy we were. I still can feel the excruciating pain of my loss, like it was yesterday: my chest hurt, my heart, literally for months after her passing. The only thing that really helped me was getting another Yorkie. He kept me busy so I had less time to think and feel my pain, and he also made me laugh and smile again. I had waited for two years, but my sadness was overwhelming, and I wanted to be able to smile again and mean it. I remember too that I thought I was losing my mind. I was grieving harder for my dog than I ever had for the humans in my life that I had lost... is that normal, or even acceptable? IDK, I just know it happened with me. God gives us Yorkies to love, and He decides when it's time for them to go Home. My purpose on this Earth is to be a Yorkie Mommie, and when He takes mine, it's because there is another Yorkie, somewhere, that needs me more. I read where all these new Yorkie owners are shocked at how quickly they have become attached to their new pups, how much they love them and how attached they've become in such a short time. Yorkies are experts at this. I would like to warn them though, that as great as the love is, the grief of loss is just as powerful, just as shocking in it's abruptness when it comes on after a Yorkie passes. Grief is the price we pay for love. And the pain... it comes from the love. We love everyday, more and more. Then they leave, but the heart keeps loving, with nowhere for the love to go, so it builds up in the heart, and it hurts. Once the heart is allowed to love again, the love starts flowing out and growing, and the pain we feel begins to ease and stops eventually. Wishing you Godspeed on your journey, and sending big Hugs. Hope you can feel better soon, although I know better. Elvis still loves you... He is your Special Angel now, and will be watching over you forever. He is in a better place now, and would not want you to be feeling so sad for him.
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11-07-2013, 11:29 PM | #4 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: USA
Posts: 954
| I hear you John. Just know that you are not alone. KJC's response is a good one. Consider planting a tree or donating something in Elvis's name. It might provide you with something symbolic to honor him and redirect the pain a little. Some of it will just be time. Some of it I'll be honest will always be there a bit. But I promise, you'll remember the good times more as time goes by.
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11-09-2013, 11:38 PM | #5 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2004
Posts: 79
| I Knot please believe me I know how you feel as I lost my sweet Roxee almost 2 months ago and I cant as I wish I could tell you how to get over it all I can say is this ........... believe as I do your sweet baby is in ur heat and soul and as long as there there there not gone its hard as I know it breaks your heart in to God Bless you |
12-28-2013, 06:43 PM | #6 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Tallahassee, FL
Posts: 249
| kjc hit the nail on the head. I come here a few times a year, but always near Mogli's passing and birth dates (close dates, though separated by years). My heart still aches ... I re-read the post and transport back to hurt and remember everything. I never cried so hard as when I found out Mogli was sick. His passing is a defining moment that I know changed me. Life does go on. We continue to live and love and while your next fur baby will be different, you will have new quirks and joys to share. Sending good vibes ...
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01-12-2014, 01:07 AM | #7 |
YT Addict Join Date: May 2010 Location: Melbourne, FL USA
Posts: 292
| I hope over the past months you are feeling better They say time heals and I know it does. I recently lost my Little Lacy and one thing I know is that I find instead of thinking or having night mares about her death that now I think more of the sweet moments or laugh. And there is always that moment or two when you think of them and wish they were with you still and I am not sure that ever goes away. It is those moments that were tough but they too are mellowing out and not so overwhelming. I understand your pain, loss, and the missing of devotion, love, and companionship and hope that that void will someday be filled. I have other yorkies and they are wonderful but Little Lacy was a glow in my heart and it sounds like that is the same for you. With warm regard, Mary
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