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07-17-2012, 09:09 AM | #1 |
YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: winter park,FL
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| It's been about a month now. It's been about a month since our little Buffy passed away. Everyday I wake up and it takes a second for reality to set in. I still feel like she's going to be there when I get home from work and I'm just so heartbroken. I'm having a really hard time dealing with this and I'm just wondering how long it took for other people to start feeling .. not better but, less devastated. Not only do I miss her, but I feel guilty-Like it was my fault. She depended on me to take care of her how could I have not known she was sick. Did I miss the signs? Was there something I could have done. The day she passed I didn't come home right away - I went to the grocery store AND the bank. If I had come home on time maybe she would still be with us :*( When we got home that night Buffy was laying on her side - unresponsive. We had to rush her in to the emergency Vet. ( I've already posted about this so I won't go into detail ) She passed away the next day and we were told she had Addison's Disease. I'm just so sad and angry. |
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07-17-2012, 05:22 PM | #2 |
YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Dallas, Texas
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| I know how horrible it is to go through a loss like that. We lost Tina a month ago and I have even thought I heard her howling. Dh said it was just my imagination because of taking care of her sick for so long. I was wide awake, not asleep, and I have never heard anything so real. It sounded as if it was coming from where she slept and I have heard it now 4 or 5 times. It does hurt, so bad, but I know it takes time having lost 2 others. Don't blame yourself and just try to remember the good times. I know its easier said than done. |
07-17-2012, 05:29 PM | #3 |
Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: New York
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| It just takes time. My Sammy is gone a little over a year and it still hurts. Sometimes I swear I hear his little feet walking or his tags jiggling. The other night we had bad thunderstorms and Sam would growl at the thunder and I would hold him. He wasn't afraid of the thunder, I was (still am) and holding him made me feel better! The thunder made his absence felt even more. Try to remember all the good times and it will hurt less as the time goes by. We are all here for you. Sending hugs. |
07-17-2012, 05:41 PM | #4 |
I♥PeekTinkySaph&Finny Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Baltimore, Maryland
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| It's very hard to cope with the loss of a furbaby. Dogs are good at hiding many signs of illness. Don't blame yourself... it was just her time. Only God decides when they come, and when they get to go back Home to Him. They are just 'on loan' to us for a short time, and we do the best we can. I think when He takes them back, it's because another one here on Earth needs us more. For me, getting another Yorkie was the only thing that stopped the pain in my heart, and began to fill the empty hole in my heart that my passed furbaby had left. This is just how I deal with it... otherwise I wouldn't handle it at all.... Hugs, Kathy
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07-17-2012, 06:51 PM | #5 |
Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Central Texas
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| I'm so sorry for your loss of Buffy. I know you must be devastated and numb. Time will heal your pain. Please don't second-guess yourself. You had no way of knowing she would pass away that particular day. She knew she was loved and has left you with some wonderful memories until you can meet again one day.
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07-17-2012, 07:16 PM | #6 |
♥ Love My Tibbe! ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: D/FW, Texas
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| We here know all the feelings and emptiness, loneliness and aching pain you feel. In my experience, it can take months before you lose many of the acute phases of deep grief and guilt - which most pet owners deal with in some form or fashion after a pet's death. When you have more good days than bad and the bad days are not quite so hard, you know that time is performing one of its best functions - helping you heal. When memories start to make you smile rather than cry and you stop repetitively reliving coming home from work and finding her, the E.R. vet visit and that night's horrors, you know you are going to get through this. It really does get better.
__________________ Jeanie and Tibbe One must do the best one can. You may get some marks for a very imperfect answer: you will certainly get none for leaving the question alone. C. S. Lewis |
07-20-2012, 05:35 PM | #7 |
♥Love My Snuggle Bugs♥ Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Missouri
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| I know it is hard we too had thousands of what if questions when we lost Lolita. The vet said it was her heart but you still wonder. So sorry you are going through this. Prayers for you and your family.
__________________ CharleneMama to Laddy and Kyra and Always in our hearts Lolita |
07-28-2012, 11:26 AM | #8 | |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Pittsburgh, PA, USA
Posts: 76
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I wake up every morning hoping it may still be a dream and I'm going to go downstairs and see his little face. Ace was barely three pounds but healthy. Hubby and I didn't want to crush him at night so he had his own bed. He always cuddled all day and late night though. I still have his little food dish in the kitchen filled with dog food, I can't get rid of it yet. It's so lonely and sad in the house it just feels surreal. I'm thinking about you and wish you the best... | |
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