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10-15-2010, 10:59 PM | #1 |
YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Rialto CA
Posts: 3,243
| It's been 4 days,,,, and it seems to get harder each day. I'm trying to hold on to those good memories, but it makes me so bitter and upset that he was taken away from me way to early. This emptiness is too much to bare. When it comes to my grandson and Gus I am oh so overly protective. I lose sight of either one of them and right way I'm yelling for them. 8 out of 10 times Gus was right behind me following me wagging his little nub. I want more then anything to find that excited, tail waggin, precious little guy behind me and it's killing me that I wont. Here is a cute one taken last year of both my little boys on one of our many walks.
__________________ Monica, Proud mom of Gus who is forever missed! And new mom to Leiloni Gus's Dogster page |
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10-15-2010, 11:11 PM | #2 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Illinois
Posts: 2,268
| I'm so sorry. I know the pain you are feeling. I would like to say that it does get better though sometimes it just doesn't seem like it will. Just give yourself time to grieve. Our little furbabies just capture our hearts in the blink of an eye and losing one is so heart breaking. Know that there are so many people here that have been where you are right now and totally understand. I wish there was something I could do to ease the pain. You can send me a PM anytime if you just need someone to talk to. Please take care and please let me know if there is anything I can do.
__________________ Jan, Mommy to Abby |
10-16-2010, 04:37 AM | #3 |
YT 1000 Club Member | I am so sorry. I do know it is hard but you have to hold onto the memories. Give yourself time to grieve and one day maybe you will be able to get another bundle of joy. Your time with Gus is something that can't be taken away but do know he was a happy little boy that owes everything to you for making his life wonderful! |
10-16-2010, 05:26 AM | #4 |
YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Hibbing Minnesota
Posts: 1,106
| I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your little one. It is so hard to deal with it ; I lost my dear Keally this past January. The world felt like it was caving in on me but those memories of the good times helped me. I was making a quilt and Keally was there; she loved cuddily quilts. I was going to throw it away but I did make myself go ahead and finish it with a label on it: In Memory Of Keally. Let yourself grieve and time does heal each and everyone of us in a different way. Take care of. |
10-16-2010, 10:54 AM | #5 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker | That photo is too precious for words. I'm so sad for you, because I know how you feel. I still catch myself expecting Bungee to be waiting on the porch sometimes. But it does get a little easier every day. |
10-16-2010, 04:30 PM | #6 |
Crazy about Kacee! Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Kansas
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| Monica, I know it's hard and it isn't going to be any better for quite a long time. That photo is precious beyond words.
__________________ Karen Kacee Muffin 1991-2005 Rest in Peace My Little Angel |
10-17-2010, 01:41 PM | #7 |
YT Addict Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: West Palm Beach, Fl, USA
Posts: 292
| I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my Bear in February at only 11 and I was so heartbroken, still am. It is one of the most shocking losses, but with time and the aid of laughter and memories, the pain lessens. He looks like he was a very happy boy with his hair flying free in that picture. My deepest condolences.
__________________ Lauren & Kasha There is no psychiatrist in the world like a puppy licking your face. -- Ben Williams |
10-17-2010, 02:11 PM | #8 |
Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: FL
Posts: 7,651
| What a precious picture of your two "boys." That little push car was custom made for them. I can tell you all enjoyed your walks. I am so sorry for the pain you are going through. There is no way to erase it but time will let more of the good memories take over some of the heartache. I lost my sweet Sadie last year. It took me a while, but I now have a new girl. I am so thankful I made the decision to add her to our family. We were missing a little girl and I feel like she is a tribute to Sadie as well as a joy in her own right. You can never replace a pet loved as much as we do ours, but sometimes a new puppy can make their own place in the family and help ease some of the grief. Only you will know when and if that time comes for you. Sometimes a photo project to honor the memories of your lost one can be cathartic. I also sent pictures to Lazy Daisy (Dainty Dawgs) and she made me a miniture sculpture likeness of my girl Sadie. I also got one of Ben and a newborn to represent their puppies. I cried and cried when it came in, but it was a happy cry. It looked exactly like her! A tiny treasure to represent my Sadie! I don't know if these things would help you, but I felt like I had to "do" something or I would burst. I will always miss my Sadie girl but feel like I can focus more on the positive memories now.
__________________ FlDebra and her ABCs Annie, Ben, Candy Promoting Healthy Breeding to the AKC Yorkshire Terrier Standard |
10-17-2010, 04:24 PM | #9 | |
YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Rialto CA
Posts: 3,243
| Thank you so much for all you suggestions. I do try and think of all the fantastic memories we all have shared and it just hurts so bad. And that hurt turns into anger. We almost lost Gus when he was a year old. He was attacked by a German shepherd. But that tiny 3 pounder recovered even though the vets were saying that is wasn't likely he would last the night. But last the night he did indeed! I understand accidents can happen but this wasn't an accident. God must have had a special plan to take him away like he did. But all I can think is how cruel and unfair it was of him to do so! I am trying to hold it together but it is so hard. There are constent reminders all over this house that I don't pick up or get rid of. Just the other day I got mad at my daughter for cleaning his comb of a few hairs that were left on it from his last brushing. Then I started crying because I didn't think of cutting a strand of his hair to put in his photo album. I am awaiting the call so I can go pick up his aches but I'm dreading it at the same time. I am hoping it will make it a little easier in knowing he will always be here with me, but after spending a day like this where we used to cuddle and be lazy together, I don't know if I will be alble to take it knowing he is here but I wont be able to pet him, hold him, play with him, brush him or even see him. Quote:
__________________ Monica, Proud mom of Gus who is forever missed! And new mom to Leiloni Gus's Dogster page | |
10-17-2010, 06:29 PM | #10 |
YT Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Hugo, MN USA
Posts: 325
| loss of your baby boy I know how you feel losing your little boy. I lost my Abby just 2 years ago this week. She was 11 years and I'd had her since she was 8 weeks. She was our baby girl and went everywhere with us. She got sick and with-in 2 days she was in total kidney failure. The night before we had to put her down I held her the whole time. She would look at me and I could read her eyes and heart telling me "mommy, it's time for me to go home." I held her at the vet and wrapped her in a blanket I had made her. We also had her creamated and the day I got the ashes was as hard as the day I lost her. I was like you, sad beyond belief and angry at her loss. I follow Psychic Sylvia Browne and got her book "All dogs go to Heaven" It's a wonderful book and gave me a lot of comfort to know where Abby was and that she never really left me at all. I have seen Abby about 4 times out of the corner of my eye. I also have felt her plop down beside me on the bed just like she use to. When Abby passed, a large part of my heart went with her. I had a dream in which Abby came to me and told me that it was time for me to get another puppy. She knew that we loved her and always will but she wants another puppy to be as loved as she was. We got our little Belle a couple weeks later and she has totally become part of our hearts. She is like Abby in some ways and yet has her own silly things she does. I don't see Abby anymore, I know she's there and I know that when it's time for me to go "home", Abby will be the first one there to jump into my arms, never to be apart again. Please believe that you will be with your beloved little boy again. When it's time, let another little one have some of that love and in return accept the unconditional love he will offer. |
10-18-2010, 06:14 AM | #11 |
YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: illinois
Posts: 902
| i know exactly how you feel, please believe me. its been 50 days since i lost my little baby nika and it hasn't gotten any easier for me either. not a day has gone by without crying for her and missing her and wishing i could hold her one more time! its the hardest thing i've ever had to go through. i didnt even cry this much when i lost my grandma! i wake up in the night looking for her in bed and everywhere i go. she was my best friend and most loyal dog i've ever been lucky enough to have. my heart is breaking for you. i'll say some prayers you make it through this difficult time and am sending you a hug. i do feel that someday we will be together again for eternity! love never dies rest in peace sweet little gus and my beautiful nika!
__________________ My Princess Zowi 1/21/01 My Precious Pixie 5/28/10 My Little Angel Nika 4/16/04-8/29/10 |
10-19-2010, 09:33 AM | #12 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Largo, FL
Posts: 1,294
| i'm so sorry, i can say the pain will lessen as time does heal. The 31st will be 3 yr since i last held my Julz. It has been, by far the most heartwrenching ordeal to experience. I think of her every day and miss her so much.
__________________ Dudley Doo and Dexter too!!! RIP (12/93-10/08) MY LIL JULZ!!! |
10-19-2010, 10:32 PM | #13 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: North Carolina
Posts: 207
| I am so sorry that you have lost your baby. I know the pain you must be feeling seems unbearable. I know that most words will not offer you any type of comfort, but please accept my deepest sympathy in your time of great loss. Furbabies do become our family, and losing one is just as difficult. I know it seems like a very far and long time away, but I pray things will get easier with time. Your baby is in a far better place now and I hope you can find comfort in that. I am so sorry for your loss. |
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