What Am I To Do With Dollie Dae?

[Baby Blessing]

Don't know what to do, Dollie Dae is so demanding of my attention. I know, I know it is my own fault I have loved and spoiled her, she hollers to be near me, I decided that she had to sleep else where last night and not in her crate at the foot of my bed any more, well last night was and all night holler with her, I eventually placed her, within her crate in the dining room and closed every door in the house but she continued to holler most of the night.

I am beginning to feel that she is one that needs to be in a home or with someone that has the time to fully devote to giving her all the one to one demanding attention that she so seemingly is expressing . She plays real well with Baby Blessing but is jelous when I give the others attention, she wants it ALL for herself. She is adorable and melts ones heart, I just don't know what to do. I posted her picture below.

I was wondering if anyone else has gone through this and what did you do to resolve the problem????? I have never gone through this before.

I definately don't want Baby Blessing nor Prairie Bea to pick up on the hollering bit

Thanks for any opinions, Patti and Jack

[laurenr]

Originally Posted by Baby Blessing

Don't know what to do, Dollie Dae is so demanding of my attention. I know, I know it is my own fault I have loved and spoiled her, she hollers to be near me, I decided that she had to sleep else where last night and not in her crate at the foot of my bed any more, well last night was and all night holler with her, I eventually placed her, within her crate in the dining room and closed every door in the house but she continued to holler most of the night.

I am beginning to feel that she is one that needs to be in a home or with someone that has the time to fully devote to giving her all the one to one demanding attention that she so seemingly is expressing . She plays real well with Baby Blessing but is jelous when I give the others attention, she wants it ALL for herself. She is adorable and melts ones heart, I just don't know what to do. I posted her picture below.

I was wondering if anyone else has gone through this and what did you do to resolve the problem????? I have never gone through this before.

I definately don't want Baby Blessing nor Prairie Bea to pick up on the hollering bit

Thanks for any opinions, Patti and Jack

Hi Patti,
Perhaps Dolly Dae is reacting to Prairie Bea's arrival. I went through the same thing with Spanky when Mango joined our family in February. Do you have to move Dolly's crate at night? Is there no way you could continue to keep her crate at the foot of your bed, if that is where she usually sleeps? How old is Dolly Dae? There is a 12 year gap between my two.

When I was trying to get Spanky used to Mango's crazy puppy behavior, I used to sit on the floor with them, my back against the sofa. That way, Spanky could climb up on me when she wanted to, while Mango zoomed and bounced around to her heart's content. I know that for quite a while, I did have to give Spanky extra attention. After a few weeks, her behavior returned to normal, as her security increased.

Hope you are feeling completely better yourself Patti, and that Jack is doing well. The visit with your daughter must have been wonderful, I am sure.
Huge hugs to all of you,
Lauren

[Yorkiekids]

I'm going through the same thing with Penny, and no matter how much attention I try to give her it's never enough. She goes crazy when I give attention to the others. It will be interesting to see what kinds of suggestions you get. Against everything I believe in I'm trying to rehome Penny where she can be the only baby, so that she'll be happy, because no matter what I do I just can't make her happy.

[Patti]

Patti I am so sorry you are having problems with her. When I got Pixie she was 13 months old and my 10 year old pom ad CAli who was 1 1/2 were very quiet, mellow dogs. Pixie was a spitfire. They all worked it out and Pixie settled down. I hoep you can work it out or I know someone on here would love to have her.

[DENISE517]

Patti. is she the one who you have to have your foot or hand on her crate or else she goes crazy. lol

wish i could be of help. Maddie will only sleep in bed with us now and no where else, or else she is ticked off and cries all night. have you thought about putting two yorkies together in the crate just to sleep at night. maybe they could keep each other company?

Maddie is too spoiled too and is a Mommy head...lol sound like Dolly. She demands my attention. lol

[chachi]

She sounds just like my Jewels and I have never been able to put her in a crate or an Xpen. She would howl like that too so we just gave in and let her sleep with us. Jewels also thinks she is the one and only. I have thought many times she would be better suited with an older person where she is the only dog. She is my baby though and I could never give her up.

[Baby Blessing]

YorkieKidsGood luck in solving your dilema too. It is not easy to have to give them up and rehome them but sometimes it becomes neccessary. Hopefully we will both resolve this issue soon.

It isn't that Dollie Dae isn't happy she just wants to be near me all the time, that isn't easy in my situation because Jack requires a lot of my care and I have so many things to do around home. Jack says when I am outside, she waits and waits for me to come back inside. Baby Blessing is so mellow and laid back she loves the attention but isn't demanding. Dollie Dae will literally tear herself out of Jack's arms to get to me, she will be nine months old the 22nd of this month and I feel by now it would be different. She don't care about her toys or anything, just Mommie=ME. Prairie Bea is quite content playing with all her toys and socks rolled up she entertains herself continuously, she really has been easy coming into our home. I just don't know what to do for Dollie Dae. Our daughter feels best to rehome her.

Lauren, Yes I made the mistake of letting her crate be at the foot of my bed and you know the lickey toe thing, well now I have gout and can't stand anything to touch my big toe and front of the foot so am hobbling on my heal. That is why I moved her crate last night cause I definately didn't want to bump my foot on her crate. Oh yes Lauren, it was so wonderful having our daughter home for the week, that was GREAT. She wants us to move to North Carolina to be closer to them. Hard to leave our area, we love it here and are antiques, as we have been here in the area so long. Pray for us on the moving decision, we just are so undecided on what to do.

Denise, yes she loves her crate from the very beginning and wants to sleep in it, but her ritual has been disrupted ( ya know the lickey toe thing through the door on her crate ) again my fault. Because of my big toe with this gout, I have had to move her and she don't like that, she wants to be right where she was. All it takes is one time for these fur babies and that is it, they just want their wants and nothing else will do

Thanks everyone for you posts, interesting to see I am not the only one in this situation.

Patti

[knfurkids]

I am sorry that you are going through this. I am pretty new to YT. I just wanted let you know that I think Dolly Dae is just adorable. I do hope that you are able to get through this. Best of luck to you I hope that everything works for you and Dolly Dae. Take Care!!

[Sawyers mommy]

It must be really hard for you. It sounds like she has a few security issues and sees you as her only safe zone. Maybe if your husband took over some of the care jobs with her, she would realize he is there for her too. It just sounds like a little more than just being spoiled. I hope you can work this out; but if not, I am sure you will find her a good home on here.

[mistyinca]

Originally Posted by Baby Blessing

Don't know what to do, Dollie Dae is so demanding of my attention. I know, I know it is my own fault I have loved and spoiled her, she hollers to be near me, I decided that she had to sleep else where last night and not in her crate at the foot of my bed any more, well last night was and all night holler with her, I eventually placed her, within her crate in the dining room and closed every door in the house but she continued to holler most of the night.

I am beginning to feel that she is one that needs to be in a home or with someone that has the time to fully devote to giving her all the one to one demanding attention that she so seemingly is expressing . She plays real well with Baby Blessing but is jelous when I give the others attention, she wants it ALL for herself. She is adorable and melts ones heart, I just don't know what to do. I posted her picture below.

I was wondering if anyone else has gone through this and what did you do to resolve the problem????? I have never gone through this before.

I definately don't want Baby Blessing nor Prairie Bea to pick up on the hollering bit

Thanks for any opinions, Patti and Jack

I think what you need to do is go back to establishing YOU (not her) as alpha in the house. At night, put her in her crate in another room, and DO NOT go to her when she cries. Each time you go to her, you're teaching her, "cry, and I'll come get you." Is it any wonder that she tries that. After about 3 nights or so of you sticking firm to it and not going to her in the night, it should settle down. Read this: Nothing in Life is Free. It will help you establish yourself as the alpha in the house, and you'll start to get better cooperation from her.

Now, you said she acts Jealous of the other dogs. What does she do?

[YorkieShadow]

Im sorry to hear you are going through this. Im not any help because I have spoiled all my baby's so much that they demand my attention 24/7. They play alot but its with me. I have to sit on the floor and play with them. when I go potty they come with me. no matter what or where I go they are there.they sleep in the folds of my body. Minnie is on my lap when im sittiing and she knows thats her spot she will whine if my Grandbabys are on my lap and she will pace not knowing what shes gonna do, they have her mommy's lap.. yeah its that bad. I was sick the other night and got up during the night over and over. and so did Mickey he will not leave my side and he is truely my shadow.and yes its my fault they are like this. some times it makes me smile, to know they love me this much, but then theres times I think what would they do if I was not here for them tomorrow, what have I done.
It hurts my heart to read these kind of threads, it truely does. To hear that someone is thinking of rehoming a pet. Please dont rehome her. If she loves you that much it will break her heart to rehome her. we some times make these babys what they are . If you have made time and room for another baby. please dont turn this one away. I may be wrong and have no right to say this to you or anyone else, and I hope I dont upset you or anyone in any way. because I really with all my heart dont want to hurt or sadden you. but please dont turn that little girl away.

[Raja's Mom]

I would personally go the "tough love" route before I sent off a baby to another home... Nahla is just a puppy & tried using the screaming bit when she had to go into her ex-pen. Sometimes you just have to put your foot down and show them how it's going to be. If you give in once they will know from that point on all they have to do is cry til you give in again.

Buuut I know sometimes it goes deeper than that. Some dogs can experience severe separation anxiety and get themselves all worked up over it... I don't know much about it but I have heard of people using mood stabilizers, like doggie paxil or something. If it's really a problem maybe consult your vet before re-homing.

[Shadow]

patti,you Have Alot On Your Plate And She Sounds Demanding.sometimes We Have To Think Of Ourselves First.
Sometimes Rehoming In The Best Solution.
My Two Take Alot Of My Energy,i Feel Like I Have Two Small Children,i Have To Let Sissy Out Side Atleast 20 Times A Day. She Loves Being Outside But I Dont Want Her Out Alone. So It Takes Up Alot Of My Time And Truly Stresses Me Out.i Can't Get Much Done.
Ihope Your Foot Heals Soon.
Did You Get The Diapers Today?
Hugs,debi

[Baby Blessing]

Originally Posted by YorkieShadow[SIZE="2"

we some times make these babys what they are . If you have made time and room for another baby. please dont turn this one away. I may be wrong and have no right to say this to you or anyone else, and I hope I dont upset you or anyone in any way. because I really with all my heart dont want to hurt or sadden you. but please dont turn that little girl away.[/SIZE]

YorkieShadow,
Oh my goodness you know you could never ever say anything to upset me, nor anyone else, we definately are going to try to work this out, this was my purpose in posting this thread.

I appreciate each and everyone's comment and suggestion.

I take full responsability for how spoiled she is and it is my fault, I really am attatched to her too. Prayerfully things will be better. I have put her to bed for the night and hopefully she will feel settled and not start hollering later.

She plays real well with Baby Blessing and they get along great. Believe me one don't get any more attention around here than the other, I would never do favorites. Jack gives them each equal time and he is like myself so hopefully this will all work out.

I think she is just going to have to learn to share her Mommie = ME I sure hope she does as I really don't want to rehome her. Will keep everyone updated on how things go.

Thanks Misty, I will definately go there and read that.

Patti and Jack