So am I in deep trouble here? - YorkieTalk.com Forums

RIP_Teddy · 10-01-2007, 06:06 AM

We were sort of hoping for the new Yorkie to become "my" dog because my SO has her hands full already with her Yorkie. I wanted a cute one as well so we could both have one to lay with and play with. Hopefully we'd each have one to follow us around and walk with.

Only 2 days in, I'm really concerned. BOTH of them are constantly hounding her for attention.

I'm not the one he wants to sleep with at night...
I'm not the one he goes to lay on all cutely....
I'm not the one he follows around...
I'm not the one he comes to when he's called....

Honestly, I think the people we got them from were a lesbian couple, so maybe he's just more comfortable with females in general. But she doesn't have the time to give two Yorkies adequate attention!! If she were to try, both of them would be getting a little neglected. I have all the attention in the world to give and it seems like he just doesn't want it. It's really heartbreaking, to be honest.

Is there much of anything I can do at this point? I've never seen a dog take so strongly to one person and not the other so quickly. When I took him to have him sleep next to me last night, he huffed and wasn't happy about it. Whenever I'd leave, he'd snuggle next to her.

The end result, if it keeps up, is two Yorkies constantly battling for attention and probably not getting enough...and me on the sidelines a little upset by it.

But if he was raised around women only for his first 6 months, it may be tough to break...

keri1973 · 10-01-2007, 06:14 AM

From reading all these posts, I don't think you will ever be happy with this dog.... Might as well re-home and give the poor thing a chance... sorry if this is offensive but good grief....

RIP_Teddy · 10-01-2007, 06:17 AM

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Originally Posted by keri1973

From reading all these posts, I don't think you will ever be happy with this dog.... Might as well re-home and give the poor thing a chance... sorry if this is offensive but good grief....

You know, I posted a sad and caring message here only to get this in response?

I'm sorry for caring. I'm sorry for wanting him to have the best situation with us imaginable.

I'm sorry that I want to give him attention and love.

Txgurl06 · 10-01-2007, 06:19 AM

i think you may be trying hard but i think you should rehome too and start over

by now you should be attached to this dog in some way and it doesnt seem that you are! thats not your fault tho you cant pretend to like something. I say rehome because i think there will be someone out there to really love him and there is a dog out there that is for you! Just take your time next time and view lots of pics! even go see the baby in person!

i hope this isnt offending you!

keri1973 · 10-01-2007, 06:21 AM

How about "get over yourself" and think about the dogs feelings.... and then you might get some sympathy. You have had this dog for literally days, and you are not happy about how the dog looks, who it gets attention from......

RIP_Teddy · 10-01-2007, 06:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Txgurl06

i think you may be trying hard but i think you should rehome too and start over

by now you should be attached to this dog in some way and it doesnt seem that you are! thats not your fault tho you cant pretend to like something. I say rehome because i think there will be someone out there to really love him and there is a dog out there that is for you! Just take your time next time and view lots of pics! even go see the baby in person!

i hope this isnt offending you!

One thing is for sure, if there is a next time (and there probably will be), I will be going to visit before purchasing.

I was just stupid not to ask about his living situation before this and who he may cling to more. Usually people can answer questions like that and I neglected to do so. I'm mad at myself for that.

Txgurl06 · 10-01-2007, 06:21 AM

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Originally Posted by keri1973

How about "get over yourself" and think about the dogs feelings.... and then you might get some sympathy. You have had this dog for literally days, and you are not happy about how the dog looks, who it gets attention from......

lets be nice

Shadow · 10-01-2007, 06:29 AM

I think you and only you know in your heart if this yorkie is the right one for you. Sometimes we don't bond with every animal we bring into our home. Do whatever your heart tells ya, Good luck.

RIP_Teddy · 10-01-2007, 06:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Shadow

I think you and only you know in your heart if this yorkie is the right one for you. Sometimes we don't bond with every animal we bring into our home. Do whatever your heart tells ya, Good luck.

He's a great dog. I'll say that for sure. He does all the things to her that I wanted a dog to do to me. I'd love one that lays on my shoulder or near my head. He's pretty mellow now too. That's why it's a shame he's doing all those things, but just not to who we want him to.

Graleyne · 10-01-2007, 06:33 AM

I don't doubt at all that you care for this puppy. However I have to agree that I don't think you will ever be happy with him. From reading your other posts, and now this one, it seems you have found anything and everything to be "wrong" with him.

I think you should consider rehoming him. He deserves to be loved unconditionally in a home where he doesn't have to constantly prove himself lovable.

So what if he doesn't look purebred enough for you, if his legs look a little long, his ears are a little big, his hair too short, he isn't paying enough attention to you and doing what YOU want him to do, he seems to like/love your SO more/better.

The truth is he an absolutely adorable little guy who deserves an owner who will accept him just as he is and love him to pieces.

This post was not meant to be offensive or hurtful, its just my honest opinion. I just don't feel like you are really giving him a chance. At least that's the way you come across in your posts.

Yorkiekids · 10-01-2007, 06:34 AM

My hubbys dog is the same way. He's more attached to me even though I try to keep him at bay. I think it's because I'm the one that feeds the dogs, takes them out, cleans up after them etc. Maybe you need to become more involved in those things, and just give him time, or if you're really unhappy rehome him. There's no guarantee that any dog you get will pick you as his alpha, so I think if you rehome hime you may not want to get another one, or get a different type of dog.

RIP_Teddy · 10-01-2007, 06:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Yorkiekids

My hubbys dog is the same way. He's more attached to me even though I try to keep him at bay. I think it's because I'm the one that feeds the dogs, takes them out, cleans up after them etc. Maybe you need to become more involved in those things, and just give him time, or if you're really unhappy rehome him. There's no guarantee that any dog you get will pick you as his alpha, so I think if you rehome hime you may not want to get another one, or get a different type of dog.

I don't do the cleaning up because I about vomit at that, but I do the rest though.

I even feed out of my hand as a way to TRY to bond. Ack.

pepe mint · 10-01-2007, 06:37 AM

this is amazing to me. in your original thread you were saying that you didn't really like him because he didn't look like a yorkie, he was having potty problems, etc. you made it very clear that you didn't think you could bond with him because of these things. believe it or don't...but he picked up on that. so the first few days he is with you, he gets the clear and evident vibe that you don't love him. that he is not welcomed there. now you want HIM to bond with YOU and not your SO?? he's not stupid...he knows you didn't want him. why would he feel like bonding with you...only to have to live with the faft that he could be rehomed at any minute if you dont like something he does or if he doesn't look the way you want..

like many others have said...i am not trying to offend you here...but seriously...i am sick of people being so concerned with how their dog looks and saying they can't love him/her because of it and want to find them a new home...then SUDDENLY..you don't know why the dog doesn't want to cuddle with you. i wouldn't want to cuddle either!

jp4m2 · 10-01-2007, 06:38 AM

Patience....patience...patience...this will take weeks or even months for everyone to adjust, not days...that's really unrealistic..

Don't force everything at once, let it happen at it's own pace....no two dogs are the same........reeeelax everyone....your expectations and your attitude needs to drop a notch or two for results to occur....

I must say it took about two months before everything felt natural and in sync...I would start slow, picking up briefly and putting down, always softly talking to him when ever in his presence, getting low and doing sweet talk to him, giving treats while sweet talking some more....everything is great now...

Good luck.....

RIP_Teddy · 10-01-2007, 06:38 AM

Plus, I really don't want to re-home him.

The owners before this were REALLY nice people and even though they live 3 hours away, they said they'd call to come see him if/when they were ever in town. They've already called twice to check on him. Can you imagine the reaction if I tell them that we are selling Iggy?? I mean, I made a promise to send them cute little Halloween photos with costumes on and to allow them to visit whenever.

10-01-2007, 06:06 AM	#1
RIP_Teddy BANNED! Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Minneapolis Posts: 49	So am I in deep trouble here? We were sort of hoping for the new Yorkie to become "my" dog because my SO has her hands full already with her Yorkie. I wanted a cute one as well so we could both have one to lay with and play with. Hopefully we'd each have one to follow us around and walk with. Only 2 days in, I'm really concerned. BOTH of them are constantly hounding her for attention. I'm not the one he wants to sleep with at night... I'm not the one he goes to lay on all cutely.... I'm not the one he follows around... I'm not the one he comes to when he's called.... Honestly, I think the people we got them from were a lesbian couple, so maybe he's just more comfortable with females in general. But she doesn't have the time to give two Yorkies adequate attention!! If she were to try, both of them would be getting a little neglected. I have all the attention in the world to give and it seems like he just doesn't want it. It's really heartbreaking, to be honest. Is there much of anything I can do at this point? I've never seen a dog take so strongly to one person and not the other so quickly. When I took him to have him sleep next to me last night, he huffed and wasn't happy about it. Whenever I'd leave, he'd snuggle next to her. The end result, if it keeps up, is two Yorkies constantly battling for attention and probably not getting enough...and me on the sidelines a little upset by it. But if he was raised around women only for his first 6 months, it may be tough to break...

10-01-2007, 06:14 AM	#2
keri1973 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Florida Posts: 629	Are you for real?? From reading all these posts, I don't think you will ever be happy with this dog.... Might as well re-home and give the poor thing a chance... sorry if this is offensive but good grief.... __________________ Kayli Camden Minnie , Milo , Harley and Shooter

10-01-2007, 06:21 AM	#5
keri1973 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Florida Posts: 629	How about "get over yourself" and think about the dogs feelings.... and then you might get some sympathy. You have had this dog for literally days, and you are not happy about how the dog looks, who it gets attention from...... __________________ Kayli Camden Minnie , Milo , Harley and Shooter

10-01-2007, 06:33 AM	#10
Graleyne Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 2,563	I don't doubt at all that you care for this puppy. However I have to agree that I don't think you will ever be happy with him. From reading your other posts, and now this one, it seems you have found anything and everything to be "wrong" with him. I think you should consider rehoming him. He deserves to be loved unconditionally in a home where he doesn't have to constantly prove himself lovable. So what if he doesn't look purebred enough for you, if his legs look a little long, his ears are a little big, his hair too short, he isn't paying enough attention to you and doing what YOU want him to do, he seems to like/love your SO more/better. The truth is he an absolutely adorable little guy who deserves an owner who will accept him just as he is and love him to pieces. This post was not meant to be offensive or hurtful, its just my honest opinion. I just don't feel like you are really giving him a chance. At least that's the way you come across in your posts. __________________ Aerrica, and Norman RIP my sweet Poopanut

10-01-2007, 06:34 AM	#11
Yorkiekids Piper & Sebastian Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: florida Posts: 14,495	My hubbys dog is the same way. He's more attached to me even though I try to keep him at bay. I think it's because I'm the one that feeds the dogs, takes them out, cleans up after them etc. Maybe you need to become more involved in those things, and just give him time, or if you're really unhappy rehome him. There's no guarantee that any dog you get will pick you as his alpha, so I think if you rehome hime you may not want to get another one, or get a different type of dog. __________________ Susan, Piper ,Harley & Suiki

10-01-2007, 06:19 AM	#4
Txgurl06 RIP Skoshi! Love You Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Wichita falls,tx Posts: 3,383	i think you may be trying hard but i think you should rehome too and start over by now you should be attached to this dog in some way and it doesnt seem that you are! thats not your fault tho you cant pretend to like something. I say rehome because i think there will be someone out there to really love him and there is a dog out there that is for you! Just take your time next time and view lots of pics! even go see the baby in person! i hope this isnt offending you!

10-01-2007, 06:29 AM	#8
Shadow No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: California Posts: 5,368	I think you and only you know in your heart if this yorkie is the right one for you. Sometimes we don't bond with every animal we bring into our home. Do whatever your heart tells ya, Good luck.

10-01-2007, 06:37 AM	#13
pepe mint YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Franklin, TN Posts: 11,145	this is amazing to me. in your original thread you were saying that you didn't really like him because he didn't look like a yorkie, he was having potty problems, etc. you made it very clear that you didn't think you could bond with him because of these things. believe it or don't...but he picked up on that. so the first few days he is with you, he gets the clear and evident vibe that you don't love him. that he is not welcomed there. now you want HIM to bond with YOU and not your SO?? he's not stupid...he knows you didn't want him. why would he feel like bonding with you...only to have to live with the faft that he could be rehomed at any minute if you dont like something he does or if he doesn't look the way you want.. like many others have said...i am not trying to offend you here...but seriously...i am sick of people being so concerned with how their dog looks and saying they can't love him/her because of it and want to find them a new home...then SUDDENLY..you don't know why the dog doesn't want to cuddle with you. i wouldn't want to cuddle either! __________________ Anyone who does not know what soap tastes like has never washed a dog

10-01-2007, 06:38 AM	#14
jp4m2 Love my Boys Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: w/ my boys Posts: 5,056	Patience....patience...patience...this will take weeks or even months for everyone to adjust, not days...that's really unrealistic.. Don't force everything at once, let it happen at it's own pace....no two dogs are the same........reeeelax everyone....your expectations and your attitude needs to drop a notch or two for results to occur.... I must say it took about two months before everything felt natural and in sync...I would start slow, picking up briefly and putting down, always softly talking to him when ever in his presence, getting low and doing sweet talk to him, giving treats while sweet talking some more....everything is great now... Good luck..... __________________ B.J.mom to : Jake J.J. Jack & Joey, momma misses you..... The joy found in the companionship of a pet is a blessing not given to everyone. The two most powerful words when we’re in struggle: me too..