Need Advice! Very Hard Decision to make - YorkieTalk.com Forums

Buddah<3r · 07-05-2007, 05:13 PM

I am so stressed out and sad. I'm not sure what I should do I think only you guys will understand and help me make the right decision.

I recently got accepted to Le Cordon Bleu School in Pasadena. I am so excited and really ready and happy to make a career change into something I love; however since I have no parental or otherwise support thru this I am going to have to go to school full time and work as well to support myself. I know it is going to be tuff and I am ready for it, but I am worried about my baby Buddah.

I want to keep him. I love him and he is my baby, but I am worried that I am being selfish and will not be able to provide for him like I know I should.

My schedule is going to be as follows

MON-THURS:
Wakeup/Get ready:4:30am-5:30
School: 6am-11-am
Travel: 11:30am-1:00pm
Work: 1pm-9pm
Travel: 9pm-10pm
Homework 10:30pm-12:30

Friday:
Wakeup/Get Ready:4:30am-5:30am
School: 6am-11am
Homework: 2hrs
Rest of the day off

SAT and SUN:
Wakeup/Get ready: 6:30-7:30
Travel: 7:30am-9:00am
Work:9:00am-7:00pm
Travel: 7:00pm-8:30pm
Homework: 2hrs
( I will have 1 weekend off a month)

This is going to be my schedule for at least until January. In January I will most likely get a job closer to school, but for money reasons I cannot leave my company until year end. Even when I get a job closer to work it is only going to cut down travel time, but I will still be working many hours.

I will am going to be living with roomates or my boyfriend, but I cannot really rely on them to give buddah love and attention. He is my dog!

Do you all think it would be better for him to go to a new home? It will break my heart, but I also dont want to neglect him.

Please help, I am crying while typing this and just dont know what to do.

marcerella02 · 07-05-2007, 05:30 PM

well first off CONGRATS on getting in.. i know it is bittersweet. Is there anyone who can keep him for you for a short amount of time unti January, or until you feel comfortable taking him back?? where do you live?? i'm sure someone on here can help you out... take him for a while.. but you will know you can get him back when the time is right. I'll be praying for you. people on here do amazing things for others.

paulapoo · 07-05-2007, 05:35 PM

Wow, you've got a crazy next few months coming up. I'm not sure I could function on 4 hours of sleep! congrats on the acceptance. I agree with Marci, if you can find someone that will babysit for a few months. Maybe speak with boyfriend or roomates about stepping up in the "quality time with Buddah". Good luck, I hope it all works out for you. We have a lot of members in California - maybe something will work out.

Buddah<3r · 07-05-2007, 05:35 PM

Right now I live in Irvine. That is also where I will be working, but I will be living around the pasadena area. I dont have all the details figured out yet.

I am just worried about upseting him. He has been with me since January. We are just getting his potty training down ect. School is for 2 years. I figure if someone has him that long he wont want to come back to me. I feel so guilty, I would have never gotten him if I had known I was going to go to school It just happened. I know I made a commitment to take care of him and love him

marcerella02 · 07-05-2007, 05:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Buddah<3r

Right now I live in Irvine. That is also where I will be working, but I will be living around the pasadena area. I dont have all the details figured out yet.

I am just worried about upseting him. He has been with me since January. We are just getting his potty training down ect. School is for 2 years. I figure if someone has him that long he wont want to come back to me. I feel so guilty, I would have never gotten him if I had known I was going to go to school It just happened. I know I made a commitment to take care of him and love him

dogs are very adaptable... and whos to say you would NEVER see him??? if someone close by could take him you could aways visit.. whenever! and at least you could get him back... i dont' think... unless your bf and roomates are prepared to step it up.... keeping him at home for all that time will work. are you able to find people who would be able to come in during the day.. .for a few hours with him??? just hang in there.. i know someone will come through for you!

mizzwanned · 07-05-2007, 05:43 PM

Congratulations on getting accepted! That is where my bf wants to go but in NY. I'm sorry you're having to face this hard decision, I would speak to a friend or family member and ask them if they can watch him while you are gone. Good luck!

Buddah<3r · 07-05-2007, 05:44 PM

I know if things go well with me and my bf moving together it will be ok because he will help me and he is getting a dog so buddah will have company. I am more worried about it if I end up renting a room.

Thanks for the kind words. I was scared people were going to jump all over me. I guess because I feel guilty just thinking about it.

I have thought about asking my mom to take him for some time, but I dont know if she will care for him right. when i go over there my dad always wants to let him outside with the Big dogs and they live in the country where a big bird or something could just snatch him up. he is a lot more fragile than they think

njoydaride · 07-05-2007, 05:44 PM

Wow your schedule is like a surgery intern's schedule! Have you exhausted all other possibilities? Family, friends? If not, there's a lot of California YT'ers who would probably help. I cannot speak for myself, however, I'm about 20 minutes away from Pasadena, but I'm not sure if I'll be able to handle 2 yorkies. I'm going to be a new owner myself. I really wish I could help!

marcerella02 · 07-05-2007, 05:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Buddah<3r

I know if things go well with me and my bf moving together it will be ok because he will help me and he is getting a dog so buddah will have company. I am more worried about it if I end up renting a room.

Thanks for the kind words. I was scared people were going to jump all over me. I guess because I feel guilty just thinking about it.

we woul never jump all over you.. we know you didn't get him KNOWING you were going to have this change in your life... stuff just happens... and if there is a possibiliyt of you and your bf getting a place.... work on that... a playmate for your pup would be ideal... as long as they get along

Buddah<3r · 07-05-2007, 05:49 PM

awe buddah gets a long with everyone!

Ryan is going to get an english bulldog. Lots bigger but he will be a pup and buddah will be the old man. I hope it works out living with Ryan. If it does I can work less too because Ryan will be paying the rent so I can focus more on school.

I am going to make it work. I love buddah. He is my little munkin and he makes me smile.

njoydaride · 07-05-2007, 05:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Buddah<3r

I know if things go well with me and my bf moving together it will be ok because he will help me and he is getting a dog so buddah will have company. I am more worried about it if I end up renting a room.

Thanks for the kind words. I was scared people were going to jump all over me. I guess because I feel guilty just thinking about it.

I have thought about asking my mom to take him for some time, but I dont know if she will care for him right. when i go over there my dad always wants to let him outside with the Big dogs and they live in the country where a big bird or something could just snatch him up. he is a lot more fragile than they think

If that's the case, I really really hope that you and your bf will work something out. So the bigger problem is trying to figure out how to move in with your bf. Try working on that. Let giving Buddah up be the absolute last resort.

Yorkies-Mom · 07-05-2007, 05:55 PM

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School is for 2 years. I figure if someone has him that long he wont want to come back to me.

i can really understand that and that is what i thought. if i had to do this i would make absolutely sure that the person understood - IN WRITING - that this is only for a certain period of time and that you will get your dog back. even state the visitation you want to have with him. i have seen several cases of someone on Judge Judy needing a friend to take care of a dog and then they become attached to it and do not want to give it back and she sides with them! the dog has become a part of the family and since they had no agreement what could she do? you don't want to be in that position! and make sure that it is in writing if he has to live somewhere else with someone else that any problems - re:vet bills,etc. - that you will make sure to pay them or pay the person back if they pay for it. this was another thing that popped up with this type of situation! they felt like they spent $500 on a vet bill that they now own the dog.

i know you don't want to ask your roomates or boyfriend but maybe if you sat down and talked this over with them and let them know how important this is to you they may surprise you!

good luck to you and buddah and congrat's on your acceptance.

TootiesMom · 07-05-2007, 06:02 PM

how does your boyfriend feel about him? surely he loves him too? Maybe you could get someone to come in and help you with him, a couple hours here and there... I agree, it would be hard to let someone have him for 2 years...
I hope something works out for you but you are thinking on the right track, what is best....
good luck!
d

yorkiegirl83 · 07-05-2007, 06:06 PM

I agree - if you can get someone to watch your little guy until you have a better schedule that would be great. I would have suggested daycare or a dog walker, but since money is tight that probably won't work.

I also agree to get the details of the "babysitting" in writing so that you're legally entitled to get your pup back

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And congrats on the acceptance!

littlewhip · 07-05-2007, 06:17 PM

Wow this must be so hard for you, I dont have any answers, but you have my prayers and support that things will work out for the best, sorry you have to make such a hard decsion

07-05-2007, 05:30 PM	#2
marcerella02 Loved by Layla Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 11,257	well first off CONGRATS on getting in.. i know it is bittersweet. Is there anyone who can keep him for you for a short amount of time unti January, or until you feel comfortable taking him back?? where do you live?? i'm sure someone on here can help you out... take him for a while.. but you will know you can get him back when the time is right. I'll be praying for you. people on here do amazing things for others. __________________ http://misscanam.blogspot.com/ Layla 's Simon

07-05-2007, 05:35 PM	#3
paulapoo Blessed by Otis & Ollie Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Plainfield, Indiana Posts: 2,884	Wow, you've got a crazy next few months coming up. I'm not sure I could function on 4 hours of sleep! congrats on the acceptance. I agree with Marci, if you can find someone that will babysit for a few months. Maybe speak with boyfriend or roomates about stepping up in the "quality time with Buddah". Good luck, I hope it all works out for you. We have a lot of members in California - maybe something will work out. __________________ ~Paula~ proud mommy of ~Otis (yorkie) & Oliver (shih-poo)

07-05-2007, 05:43 PM	#6
mizzwanned Donating YT 11K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: new york Posts: 14,007 Blog Entries: 2	Congratulations on getting accepted! That is where my bf wants to go but in NY. I'm sorry you're having to face this hard decision, I would speak to a friend or family member and ask them if they can watch him while you are gone. Good luck! __________________ Primrose, Teddy..RIP, Livie..RIP, And can never forget my duo Sophie and London, Run in Peace <3

07-05-2007, 05:44 PM	#7
Buddah<3r Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Tustin Posts: 226	I know if things go well with me and my bf moving together it will be ok because he will help me and he is getting a dog so buddah will have company. I am more worried about it if I end up renting a room. Thanks for the kind words. I was scared people were going to jump all over me. I guess because I feel guilty just thinking about it. I have thought about asking my mom to take him for some time, but I dont know if she will care for him right. when i go over there my dad always wants to let him outside with the Big dogs and they live in the country where a big bird or something could just snatch him up. he is a lot more fragile than they think Last edited by Buddah<3r; 07-05-2007 at 05:46 PM.

07-05-2007, 05:44 PM	#8
njoydaride Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 516	Wow your schedule is like a surgery intern's schedule! Have you exhausted all other possibilities? Family, friends? If not, there's a lot of California YT'ers who would probably help. I cannot speak for myself, however, I'm about 20 minutes away from Pasadena, but I'm not sure if I'll be able to handle 2 yorkies. I'm going to be a new owner myself. I really wish I could help!

07-05-2007, 05:49 PM	#10
Buddah<3r Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Tustin Posts: 226	awe buddah gets a long with everyone! Ryan is going to get an english bulldog. Lots bigger but he will be a pup and buddah will be the old man. I hope it works out living with Ryan. If it does I can work less too because Ryan will be paying the rent so I can focus more on school. I am going to make it work. I love buddah. He is my little munkin and he makes me smile.

07-05-2007, 06:02 PM	#13
TootiesMom and Hopeys Mom Too Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Louisiana Posts: 4,109	how does your boyfriend feel about him? surely he loves him too? Maybe you could get someone to come in and help you with him, a couple hours here and there... I agree, it would be hard to let someone have him for 2 years... I hope something works out for you but you are thinking on the right track, what is best.... good luck! d __________________ Donna's little herd.... Tooties Dogster http://www.dogster.com/?271687 Hopeys Dogster http://www.dogster.com/?448723 and Tinker, TBone(RIP) Laci .. OH, and Me-Kitty(RIP)

07-05-2007, 06:06 PM	#14
yorkiegirl83 Love My Furbabies! Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: somewhere Posts: 4,427	I agree - if you can get someone to watch your little guy until you have a better schedule that would be great. I would have suggested daycare or a dog walker, but since money is tight that probably won't work. I also agree to get the details of the "babysitting" in writing so that you're legally entitled to get your pup back . And congrats on the acceptance!

07-05-2007, 06:17 PM	#15
littlewhip Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: wiith my furbabys Posts: 8,874	Wow this must be so hard for you, I dont have any answers, but you have my prayers and support that things will work out for the best, sorry you have to make such a hard decsion __________________