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Old 07-05-2007, 09:36 AM   #1
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I have not posted here in a while. Champ is a year and 4 months old. I have got him through alot of his bad habits and he is potty trained. The major problem I have with him is, he doesn't like me. I have two children and a husband. He is in love with my husband. I am the one who wanted a Yorkie and this is mine and my kids dog. I treat him like gold. My husband has always ignored him. I wanted a lap dog. He will not sit on my lap, but sits on my husband's lap everytime he is sitting down. He hates to be petted, he acts like it is torture and runs away. I had a pug for 11 years before Champ, that was my dog and he loved me with all his heart. I don't know how to take this, it really hurts my feelings. I know you never know what kind of dog you are going to get. I even try to lure him around me with food, but he just wants the food and as soon as he gets it he is done with me. It's sad when your own dog doesn't like you. I have even been trying to talk my husband into letting me get another dog, because I feel like I don't have one. I know that's not the answer. Please let me know if any of you have ever went through this and if got any better?
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How long have you had Champ? I'm sure it's not that he doesn't like you My Cooper always will go to the people who ignore him. If they try to get his attention it seems to irritate him. You might try ignoring him yourself I am sure this is very frustrating for you, I can't imagine, Cooper is a real "mama's boy". My girl, Carley is a real "daddy's girl" too, but she does give me attention, just not as much as she does him. Although this weekend we had lots of thunder and she was really afraid and it was "mommy" she ran to.
Does he have special treats he does like? Maybe you should be the only one who gives him the "special" treats. Good luck!
Also, Cooper is not the most affectionate dog...he just has his "moments"...like when he first wakes up. He likes to lay beside me, but not necessarily on me. Perhaps Champ is like this...is he more affectionate with you a certain times?
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My guess is, that the problem is not about liking but about "pack order". I'm not quite sure how to explain it but maybe you are a step under your husband in the pack order and maybe a step under Champ too. There are really good books out there about that and it might help if you get familiar with those "pack rules" and then it will change Champs behaviour.

Since I'm the one that does all the "bad" stuff to Mitzi like bathing, brushing, toe nail clipping etc. I'm not on top of her list either and I made the experience that I should not do those things while we are on our cuddle and tummy rub place but take her to another place where we do all those things. Now she knows she can come on my lab when I'm on the couch and nothing "bad" will happen to her.

I wish you'll find out how to climb up in the pack order and have more fun!
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I have not posted here in a while. Champ is a year and 4 months old. I have got him through alot of his bad habits and he is potty trained. The major problem I have with him is, he doesn't like me. I have two children and a husband. He is in love with my husband. I am the one who wanted a Yorkie and this is mine and my kids dog. I treat him like gold. My husband has always ignored him. I wanted a lap dog. He will not sit on my lap, but sits on my husband's lap everytime he is sitting down. He hates to be petted, he acts like it is torture and runs away. I had a pug for 11 years before Champ, that was my dog and he loved me with all his heart. I don't know how to take this, it really hurts my feelings. I know you never know what kind of dog you are going to get. I even try to lure him around me with food, but he just wants the food and as soon as he gets it he is done with me. It's sad when your own dog doesn't like you. I have even been trying to talk my husband into letting me get another dog, because I feel like I don't have one. I know that's not the answer. Please let me know if any of you have ever went through this and if got any better?
my Ryo is like that with my son. I think its because he know i am the leader. He follows me where ever i go, but only will follow my son sometimes. IF i say"Where is Ryoko" he will come running to me like HERE I AM! When my son does the same my dog just sits and looks at him like who cares lol.
I just make sure i let my son do the big things like feeding him and training him as well so that Ryo knows that AAron and I are his leaders not just me. Aaron and I will take care of him and protect him, not just me..

Watch the animal channel too they have some good programs that show examples if what u may be going through as well as solutions
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My guess is, that the problem is not about liking but about "pack order". I'm not quite sure how to explain it but maybe you are a step under your husband in the pack order and maybe a step under Champ too. There are really good books out there about that and it might help if you get familiar with those "pack rules" and then it will change Champs behaviour.

Since I'm the one that does all the "bad" stuff to Mitzi like bathing, brushing, toe nail clipping etc. I'm not on top of her list either and I made the experience that I should not do those things while we are on our cuddle and tummy rub place but take her to another place where we do all those things. Now she knows she can come on my lab when I'm on the couch and nothing "bad" will happen to her.

I wish you'll find out how to climb up in the pack order and have more fun!
yeah that is what i am talking about when I say Ryo think i am the leader and Aaron, my son, is beneath me.
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My guess is, that the problem is not about liking but about "pack order". I'm not quite sure how to explain it but maybe you are a step under your husband in the pack order and maybe a step under Champ too. There are really good books out there about that and it might help if you get familiar with those "pack rules" and then it will change Champs behaviour.

Since I'm the one that does all the "bad" stuff to Mitzi like bathing, brushing, toe nail clipping etc. I'm not on top of her list either and I made the experience that I should not do those things while we are on our cuddle and tummy rub place but take her to another place where we do all those things. Now she knows she can come on my lab when I'm on the couch and nothing "bad" will happen to her.

I wish you'll find out how to climb up in the pack order and have more fun!
Totally agree. I had this issue with our German Shepherds. It was disconcerting, but it did get better with suggestions on the pack order. Best of Luck.
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I feel so bad for you but the information given above is excellent.
Living alone with just Buddy I don't have that problem however he
did try to be alpha in more ways than I like to remember. We worked
it out over time. They are stubburn dogs and try very hard to have their way.
Perhaps if you aren't already, take over feeding him.
Eat first with the family then only you feed him. Make him sit while you put the food down then release him. Let him rely on you for his needs and see if he comes around.
Good luck, I hope it works and you can get closer to your pet.
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I'm sorry, what came to my mind, maybe he's taking you for granted a little bit? Those guys are very smart and realize things very fast. What I'm trying to say, is that sometimes I walk after Pepper trying to coax him into coming and giving me a Yorkie kiss or let me hug him. He seems so bored with my affection he just runs away , yet goes and jumps on hubby's lap. Well, I do know I go overboard sometimes and he needs some break from Mommy's Love lol. I'd try to be giving him some special treats that other family members don't, make sure he appreciates you with nice things like long walks and fun time. Make him sit or do a trick before earning a treat or even while feeding. I hope things will get better.
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Do you spend "quality" time (don't laugh ) with him such as taking him for walks, car rides, and getting on the floor to play with him every day? Just a suggestion.
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Thank you all for your suggestions. I do get down on the floor everyday and play toys with him. I could take him on a few more walks.
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I spoiled Prada rotten!! (well not rotten, but you know what I mean). Anyway, she is a daddy's girl. Wouldn't have a thing to do with me. After a while I couldn't take it anymore. It really hurt. So, we (I) made the decision to get another yorkie. It worked out well for everyone. Prada is daddy's girl and Dolce is mine. Dolce won't even go near him (unless he's dropped food on his shirt).
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Give it time.. he'll come around

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Growing up, every dog we ever had belonged to my mom. Our first Yorkie really was. He and I had a love/hate relationship through most of his 11.5 years. Sometimes, he was downright MEAN to me. And I tried SO hard ...

Ozzie, on the other hand, is ALL mine. He does love my mom though. And the minute I leave, he becomes HER dog. And every morning, as soon as I open my door, he goes straight to her room to make sure she is there. It's the funniest thing. I really do think they, more than most dogs, single out a person as theirs. I'm not sure there's anything you can really do about it.

I think it's been hard for her to be second banana but I think Ozzie loves having a back-up. And if I scold him for something, guess where he runs?

What's funny is that she will often tell me, "He is such an angel until YOU come home."

Toby the Cat showed up as a baby last year and he is all HERS! Biggest mama's boy I ever met!
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Our male is my hubby's dog. When he is home, Harley will not listen or come when I call him, but his father says anything, pant pant, Harley hangs on every word. The girls come to me when they need to go out or want food or water, and sit by me on the sofa and cuddle. So I will guess that your dog has bonded more with your husband more than you, just like Harley has with Jack.
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I've always felt that way about my Bridget. We got her just after we got married, because I wanted a dog. She is so Tom's dog. For the past 3 years, I've been wanting another dog since I felt left out a good portion of the time. He's the 'fun' parent who gives her handfuls of treats and plays rough with her. I trained her, I take her to the vet, I bathe and groom her, clip her nails etc.

So 2 months ago, he caved and I got my Bella. Same deal, I train her, I take care of her, take her to the vet, bath and groom and clip her nails. But she is so my dog. Bella follows me everywhere, comes to me and gets all excited when I come home. She runs away from Tom most of the time and does spend some time with him but not like she does with me.
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