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Lalola · 05-29-2007, 06:51 AM

I am due to pick up my puppy this weekend but now I don't know if I should do it or not. The problem is that my husband is really not a dog person, however he agreed to buying the puppy just to make me happy. The problem now is that last week we got into a very bad argument and even discussed the possibility of a divorce (not related to the dog). Things are little by little getting better between us but we still have to go to marriage counseling in order to try to make our marriage work. My concern now is that since we are having so many problems and I don't even know if things will really be resolved, should I proceed with getting the puppy? I am afraid that having the puppy home will just increase the stress level in our home and he will have no patience with the dog. I really want to fix my marriage and will hate to add any extra stress to our already weak relationship.

On the other hand, I feel so guilty about not getting the puppy. I am sure that the breeder will understand my situation and the puppy will probably end up going to a better home or staying with the breeder.

Please let me know your opinion. Should I go ahead with getting the puppy or should I wait until things get better at home and get another puppy later on?

This will be my first dog - I am sure some of you have a lot of experience on being a dog owner and really understand the demands of having a dog.

Thank you for any feedback.

Hokule'a · 05-29-2007, 07:06 AM

Personally, if I were in your shoes and had never had a puppy, I would wait. Puppies take soooo much time and energy and it sounds like you need to concentrate on your marriage right now. Best of luck

francis53 · 05-29-2007, 07:08 AM

It sounds like you have really answered your own question. When you say you are afraid that a puppy will just add more stress to your situation, you know you are right. Please consider waiting to get a puppy. It doesn't seem like now is the right time for you or the puppy. I wish you the best with your marriage, you should probably concentrate on that right now.

chachi · 05-29-2007, 07:08 AM

I would wait too

Yorkieluv · 05-29-2007, 07:08 AM

That's really a tough one...Not only could a dog add stress to you and your husband, but the dog could really get stressed out. Yorkies are so delicate as puppies many times and they can get stressed very easily causing them to get very sick. I wish I had better advice for you. I just know that when I got my yorkie, he was very sick and taking care of him was very stressful. We were syringe feeding him every 2 hrs and getting him to drink water through a syringe. He had to take his meds...Potty training and all that too. I would just hate for this to happen and you and your hubby being in the middle of a stressful situation already.
Then again, your hubby might just fall in love with the puppy

My hubby didn't really want a small dog when I started looking for a yorkie, but once I started showing him pictures and everything, he was hooked! And when we got him, well his heart totally melted for our furbaby

I'm so sorry that you're in this situation. I can imagine how excited you are about your puppy! I really wish I had better advice.

CO_yorkie_momma · 05-29-2007, 07:55 AM

I agree with the other posters. The puppy will pick up the stress in the house hold and that could make it very sick. Plus, you dont want a new puppy peeing and pooping and chewing and all of the things a new puppy does. I think it would be best to wait until you know for sure things are going to get better. Good luck and I hope all works out for you. I am sure the breeder will agree and not want the puppy in that situation too.

Anna Banana · 05-29-2007, 08:06 AM

What a tough situation, I really feel for you. I am going to say not to get the puppy, because I think for your sake alone, it will be too difficult. You are putting all your time and effort into your marriage, and yorkie puppies require endless time and effort as well. I certainly believe that you could handle both, because you sound like a strong woman, but I think that for your own sanity, you should wait until your whole life is more hospitable to a yorkie.

However, this is my opinion from reading your brief post, and I can't possibly understand the complexities of the situation, so if you believe that bringing the puppy home is the right thing for you to do, by all means, do it. YorkieTalk will always be here when times are stressful and you need to vent.

RLC12345678 · 05-29-2007, 08:08 AM

IT sounds from your post like you know in your heart what you should do, but you feel guilty making the decision not to get the puppy. Puppies, especially yorkies, take so much time, effort, energy, etc. I think your marriage should come first and if things get better, then try to get a puppy.

RoxyJosMom · 05-29-2007, 08:14 AM

Same opinion, here. Puppy adds more stress to an already bad situation and that stress is directed back to the puppy. They pick up on things even people don't see. Then you have a very unhappy puppy and that's definitely not what a puppy should be. I'd wait and see how things go. If, God forbid, you should find yourself on your own, then a puppy might be just the thing you need to help you get thru the transition. But wait and see what happens. Best of luck in whatever your future brings.

Betty'sMom · 05-29-2007, 08:44 AM

Ditto to the other posts...not a good time for a puppy.

Lalola · 05-29-2007, 10:04 AM

Ladies,

Thank you all for your wonderful advice - I will email the breeder now and explain the situation to her. Thank you for all your good wishes and I pray to God that everything works out at the end.

I will continue to visit the site and certainly let you all know when I finally get my furbaby.

Blessings!

Yorkieluv · 05-29-2007, 10:10 AM

Lalola, praying that everything works out for you!! You'll get your yorkie someday, hopefully someday soon.

MaxwellHouse · 05-29-2007, 11:39 AM

Let us know how it went with the breeder. I would think a kind breeder would not try to guilt you into taking a puppy when you need to work on your home situation. Your YT friends are wishing you the best.

When the time is right, your puppy will be a blessing to you and you to your puppy.

05-29-2007, 06:51 AM	#1
Lalola Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2007 Location: Miami, FL Posts: 76	Please give me your advice.... I am due to pick up my puppy this weekend but now I don't know if I should do it or not. The problem is that my husband is really not a dog person, however he agreed to buying the puppy just to make me happy. The problem now is that last week we got into a very bad argument and even discussed the possibility of a divorce (not related to the dog). Things are little by little getting better between us but we still have to go to marriage counseling in order to try to make our marriage work. My concern now is that since we are having so many problems and I don't even know if things will really be resolved, should I proceed with getting the puppy? I am afraid that having the puppy home will just increase the stress level in our home and he will have no patience with the dog. I really want to fix my marriage and will hate to add any extra stress to our already weak relationship. On the other hand, I feel so guilty about not getting the puppy. I am sure that the breeder will understand my situation and the puppy will probably end up going to a better home or staying with the breeder. Please let me know your opinion. Should I go ahead with getting the puppy or should I wait until things get better at home and get another puppy later on? This will be my first dog - I am sure some of you have a lot of experience on being a dog owner and really understand the demands of having a dog. Thank you for any feedback.

05-29-2007, 07:06 AM	#2
Hokule'a Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Salt Lake City, UT Posts: 4,591	Personally, if I were in your shoes and had never had a puppy, I would wait. Puppies take soooo much time and energy and it sounds like you need to concentrate on your marriage right now. Best of luck __________________ Eva and her keikis: Hokule'a, Kalani & Pi'ilani

05-29-2007, 07:08 AM	#4
chachi I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 37,147	I would wait too __________________ Chachi's & Jewels Mom Jewels http://www.dogster.com/?132431 Chachi http://www.dogster.com/?132427

05-29-2007, 07:08 AM	#5
Yorkieluv Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: USA Posts: 7,178	That's really a tough one...Not only could a dog add stress to you and your husband, but the dog could really get stressed out. Yorkies are so delicate as puppies many times and they can get stressed very easily causing them to get very sick. I wish I had better advice for you. I just know that when I got my yorkie, he was very sick and taking care of him was very stressful. We were syringe feeding him every 2 hrs and getting him to drink water through a syringe. He had to take his meds...Potty training and all that too. I would just hate for this to happen and you and your hubby being in the middle of a stressful situation already. Then again, your hubby might just fall in love with the puppy My hubby didn't really want a small dog when I started looking for a yorkie, but once I started showing him pictures and everything, he was hooked! And when we got him, well his heart totally melted for our furbaby I'm so sorry that you're in this situation. I can imagine how excited you are about your puppy! I really wish I had better advice. __________________ Miko 's his Mommy

05-29-2007, 08:06 AM	#7
Anna Banana YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: California Posts: 3,025	What a tough situation, I really feel for you. I am going to say not to get the puppy, because I think for your sake alone, it will be too difficult. You are putting all your time and effort into your marriage, and yorkie puppies require endless time and effort as well. I certainly believe that you could handle both, because you sound like a strong woman, but I think that for your own sanity, you should wait until your whole life is more hospitable to a yorkie. However, this is my opinion from reading your brief post, and I can't possibly understand the complexities of the situation, so if you believe that bringing the puppy home is the right thing for you to do, by all means, do it. YorkieTalk will always be here when times are stressful and you need to vent. __________________ Anna and Wobie

05-29-2007, 07:08 AM	#3
francis53 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Colorado Posts: 714	It sounds like you have really answered your own question. When you say you are afraid that a puppy will just add more stress to your situation, you know you are right. Please consider waiting to get a puppy. It doesn't seem like now is the right time for you or the puppy. I wish you the best with your marriage, you should probably concentrate on that right now.

05-29-2007, 07:55 AM	#6
CO_yorkie_momma My Angels Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Colorful Colorado Posts: 2,260	I agree with the other posters. The puppy will pick up the stress in the house hold and that could make it very sick. Plus, you dont want a new puppy peeing and pooping and chewing and all of the things a new puppy does. I think it would be best to wait until you know for sure things are going to get better. Good luck and I hope all works out for you. I am sure the breeder will agree and not want the puppy in that situation too.

05-29-2007, 08:08 AM	#8
RLC12345678 I heart Hootie & Hobbs Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: USA Posts: 7,149	IT sounds from your post like you know in your heart what you should do, but you feel guilty making the decision not to get the puppy. Puppies, especially yorkies, take so much time, effort, energy, etc. I think your marriage should come first and if things get better, then try to get a puppy.

05-29-2007, 08:14 AM	#9
RoxyJosMom Love The Verminator! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: ny Posts: 4,282	Same opinion, here. Puppy adds more stress to an already bad situation and that stress is directed back to the puppy. They pick up on things even people don't see. Then you have a very unhappy puppy and that's definitely not what a puppy should be. I'd wait and see how things go. If, God forbid, you should find yourself on your own, then a puppy might be just the thing you need to help you get thru the transition. But wait and see what happens. Best of luck in whatever your future brings. __________________ Roxy loves Alphy Remi loves Millie [COLOR="Purple"]Mom to RoxyJo & Remington , Fozzy Bear & Chloe

05-29-2007, 08:44 AM	#10
Betty'sMom Donating YT Addict Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 6,234	Ditto to the other posts...not a good time for a puppy.

05-29-2007, 10:04 AM	#11
Lalola Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2007 Location: Miami, FL Posts: 76	Thank you Ladies, Thank you all for your wonderful advice - I will email the breeder now and explain the situation to her. Thank you for all your good wishes and I pray to God that everything works out at the end. I will continue to visit the site and certainly let you all know when I finally get my furbaby. Blessings!

05-29-2007, 10:10 AM	#12
Yorkieluv Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: USA Posts: 7,178	Lalola, praying that everything works out for you!! You'll get your yorkie someday, hopefully someday soon. __________________ Miko 's his Mommy

05-29-2007, 11:39 AM	#13
MaxwellHouse YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Earlysville Posts: 976	Let us know how it went with the breeder. I would think a kind breeder would not try to guilt you into taking a puppy when you need to work on your home situation. Your YT friends are wishing you the best. When the time is right, your puppy will be a blessing to you and you to your puppy.