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01-28-2007, 10:53 AM | #1 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: In my house :)
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| Regrets after placing an adult? I know I'll probably get slammed for this but here goes anyway. I've been thinking for a long time now about placing Riley. We've had him for about 14 months and it would be so hard to let go but I'm just not sure we're the right home for him. Have any of you ever placed an adult and then regretted it? |
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01-28-2007, 11:02 AM | #2 |
YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Virginia
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| I doubt anyone is going to slam you. If you've considered this thoroughly and you're sure that it's in Riley's best interest, do what you know is best. Sometimes rehoming them can make the pup happier and open up a whole world of blessing for someone else. Riley may be just what someone else needs in their life.
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01-28-2007, 11:06 AM | #3 |
Owned by 3 furbabies Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Reading, Pennsylvania
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| I hope you dont get slammed. we should all be able to post on here anything and get help, advice or whatever and not be made feel bad about it.
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01-28-2007, 11:07 AM | #4 |
I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana
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| Search your heart and talk to your family and you will decide best on what to do. If it were me I know i would have regrets. I am really surprised though because you just did a thread about how gifted Riley was and your interest in making him a service dog
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01-28-2007, 11:11 AM | #5 |
My2Pearls Chelsey & Chanel YT Donator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: N
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| You know what you have to do, and i believe you will do what's right for Riley, and whatever is in he's best interest. Good luck |
01-28-2007, 11:42 AM | #6 |
Donating YT 3000 Club Member | i couldnt do it but sometimes you have to do what you have to do good luck |
01-28-2007, 11:46 AM | #7 |
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| Ladyhawk...you said exactly what I feel about possibly opening a new world for someone else. I truly believe Riley would make a lonely, at home person very happy. He loves to sit on your lap and get petted or snuggle up for a nap and he goes absolutely nuts when you come in the door...I can't help but think that might make the day for a lonely person. Chachi...Riley does appear to be gifted in some areas. I guess I thought if I could focus on that it may make the difference but I'm not sure it would because if we're not meeting his needs then it won't matter if he's a service dog or not. Riley is a great little dog...don't get me wrong here...it's just that I'm not sure we're the best home for him and that's a hard thing to admit to yourself. I've mentioned before that Riley doesn't like to play and seems afraid of Jo when he plays with toys but he has been trying lately...but that's why probably every playtime picture I've ever posted has just Jo in it. Riley doesn't like kids and we do have grandkids and neighbor kids that come over. These are just a couple things that really get him stressed but there are other things I've noticed too. I just feel that Riley would thrive in a quiet home with a single person who is home all the time. I've been on the fence about this for a long time and I just don't know what to do about it. Maybe I shouldn't have said anything. |
01-28-2007, 11:58 AM | #8 |
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| I got my Roxie when she was 18 monthes old. Small children make her nervous, she wants to cuddle on her own terms and she didn't have a clue as to how to play with a human. She's afraid of loud noices and my husband has a loud voice and sounds angry when he's playing. She took alot of patience and understanding. There were times when I thought that she would be happier in a home with a single older woman. But she loves me and is incredibly loyal to me. I changed a little, she changed a little and the husband learned to be gentler around her. It's all worked out beautifully and I'm so glad that the kennel that she came from decided to rehome her. She's the second troubled yorkie that I've taken in and it's worked but you just never know. Just make sure that if you rehome Riley that the person he goes to has a clear understanding of who he is and a desire to make the world work with him. There's a forever home for everyone, you just need to help Riley find his. Good Luck, I'll be praying for you guys.
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01-28-2007, 12:03 PM | #9 | |
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01-28-2007, 05:50 PM | #10 |
Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Mississippi
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| I haven't rehomed a yorkie, but I did rehome a pekingnese when I was in my early 20's. I was working night shift and sleeping all day, pulling all kinds of overtime because we were short nurses. I didn't have any time to spend with Beau, and I cried and cried when a friend of a friend came to pick him up. He was a gorgeous white peke. I didn't ask for any money for him, just a good home. It's really funny how things work out because a couple of years later the guy that I gave him to came to work at the company that owns my hospital. I would see him every couple of months, and I got to keep up with Beau. He had two girls, and they adored him. About a year ago, he came in my office teary eyed. Beau had died, but he had lived a good long life in a happy home. It was the best choice for me and definitely for Beau. Sometimes the best choices can be painful. Search your heart. |
01-28-2007, 06:24 PM | #11 |
YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: TX
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| I think I personally would have a hard time advertising and "selling" a pet to someone I didn't even know... ...but if I felt like an animal truly wasn't the best fit for our home and family, and that we weren't the best fit for THEM, I would feel good (sad , but good) about giving them to someone who I knew would meet their needs better. Do you KNOW of an older couple, a handicapped person, or someone else living a lonely and quiet life, who would be blessed by Riley? Our lab and one of our yorkies were both rehomed to us. Nothing against their former owners, who just lived very busy lifestyles and were never home...but I KNOW that both dogs are living far happier and richer lives now with us. They are both very needy, and needs lots of attention and love, which they get here. The most unselfish and loving thing that their previous owners ever did was recognizing that they weren't meeting their animals needs, and being willing to give them up. Good luck making a hard decision.
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01-28-2007, 06:30 PM | #12 |
I Love Thor Donating Member | You're going to have to make a tough decision either way. I wish you the best. I wish I could offer some advice. I can however offer you a perspective from the other side. We got an adult dog, and he brought SO much joy to our house. We got him from a member on YT so in order to protect their privacy, I'll just say that since we've had him he has blossomed SO much. He is such a joy and he is so loved my my family. I'm sure it was really hard for his old family to give him away, but I think they chose a very compatible family, and now we are all benefitting. Good luck to you. |
01-28-2007, 06:37 PM | #13 |
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| I think if you find the right home for him it'll be a win win situation. Sometimes there just isn't the right 'bond' with a pet, it's no ones fault and there might be the right person for him out there somewhere. A lot of people can't afford a yorkie so if you rehome him, they might get a chance to own a dog they've always wanted but couldn't and spoil him rotten
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01-28-2007, 07:27 PM | #14 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Central Texas
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| It's funny you ask this - because it is precisely due to rehoming an adult dog that we came to have our Yorkies. I've told this story before - so if you've read it, sorry! We had a Jack Russell terrier - my husband had always wanted one and our Jack was adorable, smart, and FULL of ENERGY. When my husband got sick with heart failure and was in and out of the hospital every other month or so for a year - Jack just didn't have the exercise and attention that he needed and he was just wild. He would tear up things in the house when my husband was gone - the leather couch and other things. We just could not control him, because we could not give him the exercise and attention that he needed when my husband was sooo sick. We tried to find him a home with people we knew, but were unable to. We contacted the JRT rescue group and we ended up giving him to the Navy. The Navy uses JRTs for drug detection dogs on the ships. The dogs live with the handlers and are retired after a five - seven year career - where they either stay with the handler or are placed with other naval families, if staying with the handler is not possible. Was it a hard decision - you bet! Did we cry - you bet! Was it the best for our Jack - you bet! Jack always had to have something to do - that was the problem after my husband got sick. I know that Jack is so happy doing his job now. Anyway, there is a happy end to this story. One day a few months after Jack left us - we saw some JRT puppies. My husband started to cry, big ole tears just streamed down his face. That is when I knew that we had to get a dog that would fit our quiet lifestyle - now that my husband was disabled. We did lots of research and we decided on a Yorkie. Thus, Rowdy came into our life and as my husband says, "He is the light of our life". A year later we added Rexy and we are so happy to have them with us. Anyway, the point of the story is that, even though it was a painful decision, it turned out best for everyone. We look back now with very fond memories of Jack - but we are happy that he is where he is active, busy and can be doing things he loves every day. We are thrilled with our Rowdy and Rexy and couldn't be happier now - even though it was very painful at the time. When someone, who doesn't know him, asks my husband about his occupation - he says that his job is "holding dogs" Rex and Rowdy live to sit in his lap and he lives to be there for them. It is a mutual admiration society! Good luck with your decision.
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01-28-2007, 07:49 PM | #15 |
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| Thank you everyone...I appreciate the replies I've received both here and privately. I think what is adding to my dilemma is the fact that Riley is a beautiful and good boy...he has no bad habits or behaviors...other than pooping in his litter pan when I'm eating but hey, is that really a bad thing? He's not just a dog I want to get rid of or a problem I want to dump on someone else. My boyz are loved and spoiled, they're well cared for and given the best of everything. We have bonded with Riley and he with us, we love him and that is what makes even thinking about this such a hard thing to do...it hurts. I need to do some soul searching, watch how he develops and maybe try a few new things to see what might help. Maybe it's not him...maybe it's me...maybe I'm doing something wrong and maybe those long looks he gives me is his attempt at mental telepathy and I'm just not getting it! Do you think he could be reading my emotions and it's affecting his behavior at times? Gee...I hope I'm not screwing him up! |
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